Beware of These Three Traps: Neglect

Trap 3: Beware Neglect

It’s easy to neglect the important people and things in our lives when we get overcommitted or overreach. Perhaps that’s why this is one of the most important chapters in the book. Read it twice. Trust me. No one wants to wake up and realize they took their eye off what matters.

Performance Prompts

  1. An area where I am neglecting someone or something important in my life is . . .

Being true to my commitments, would be mine. But how about you? Someone you consistently put off who you love?

  1. An area where that neglect will cause me regret later on is . . .
  1. An area where I can return my focus, reallocating my attention to things that matter, is…
  2. Some areas in my life where I feel overcommitted right now are . . .
  3. The things I need to learn to say no to more often are . . .
  4. An opportunity I really want to chase right now that I could schedule to revisit in few
    months is . . .
  5. The main things moving the needle toward my success that I should be focused on right
    now, despite all the other exciting interests and opportunities I could chase, are . . .
  6. The way I’ll remind myself not to take on too much is . . .

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Beware of These Three Traps: Dissatisfaction

Trap 2: Beware Dissatisfaction
Do not listen to those who say, “Never be satisfied.” Satisfaction is something you should feel as you strive, not one day when all is perfect. Being satisfied, then, doesn’t mean “settling.” It simply means accepting and taking pleasure in what is. It’s allowing yourself to feel contentment whether or not a thing is complete or “perfect.” You have to reach yourself to feel fulfilled and enjoy the journey now.

These prompts will help.

  • The areas of my life I’ve felt consistently dissatisfied with include . . .

Think about personal development, health, wealth, career, fun & hobbies, family and friends, etc.

  • Some good things that have also happened in those areas include . . .

Look at the good side of these areas and ask yourself what has been learned. Again, if you’re dealing with year-long dissatisfaction on the job, it’s because it’s no longer providing meaning to you.

  • Something I can say to myself the next time I feel dissatisfied, to get me to notice the good things and continue moving forward, is . .

  • Someone who probably sees me dissatisfied more than I want them to is . . .

  • If I were going to inspire that person to believe you can enjoy life as you work hard and
    succeed, I would have to change these behaviors . . .

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TOEFL iTP | Written Expression | Mini-test #1 Breakdown

BOOM! We got a big one today. For the first time, I’m introducing the written expression part of TOEFL iTP! This is a big shout out to a wonderful fan of mine….so here’s is the massive breakdown of each individual question with answers.  If you guys are interested in each question’s formula and additional work, videos, exclusive podcasts, know that there is a membership (TOEFL iTP Badge) available! Inquire!

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Beware of These Three Traps: #1 Superiority

High performers face a unique set of character traps because they are, by definition, outperforming so many around them. When you are succeeding beyond others, it’s easy to get a big head. You can begin to think you’re special, separate from, better than, or more important than other people. Of course, you probably would never say to yourself, “One day, I want to start feeling that I’m better than other people.” So consider these prompts closely.

Performance Prompts

  • A recent situation where I found myself being overly critical or dismissive of others was…

Think of any situation in your life that you felt like you were looking down on someone based on what class you think you’re in versus theirs. This could be you looking down on a street cleaner, maintenance, bus driver, etc.

  • The thoughts I had about myself in that situation and the others involved were . . .

Did you have thoughts of “well, I make this much money and you make a fraction, therefore I can treat you poorly.” This is the Thai mindset, and it could be very disheartening for a lot of people out there. I make sure I always give grace to security and the cleaners at my condo (except one lady because she’s a total crazy.)

  • Had I reimagined the situation from a more humble and appreciative view, I would
    probably have realized that . . .

Go back and apologize. Be different in your next interaction with people you believe you’re more superior too.

  • The best way I can remind myself that everyone is dealing with difficulties in life and that we’re all more alike than we are different is . . .

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Arsenio’s Business English Podcast | Season 6 | Sales | Planning

Planning is absolutely ESSENTIAL in the world of life. Whether you’re planning daily goals, weekly, monthly, quarterly….it’s all part of the process. A workout enthusiast once said “failing to plan is planning to fail.” So, when we talk about sales in general, what are some of the targets that you set yourself at the beginning of the year? Or perhaps, monthly targets? Do you “up the ante,” so to speak? Do you increase it every month? How about personal development? Planning activities with your family members? Planning for “me” time? All of these questions need to be answered before execution because if you don’t have anything on your schedule, to begin with, you’ve already failed.

Blog source: In Company 3.0 Elementary

Additional write up is available on my Business English badge. The podcast release is both on early access and the business English podcast.

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IELTS | Writing task II | Opinion Essay | Hypothesizing

Welcome back to another IELTS Writing Task video, and today I’m going to be focusing, again, on opinion essays. Because I have a student on my Patreon who I’m coaching, I decided to do something that pertains to who’s on my membership. So, let’s go over different types of linking devices and an opinion essay that scored an overall 7.0 band.

Technique: use linking phrases like “if” and “unless” in your answers in order to hypothesize about effects.

Additional words: if, providing, provided, as long as and unless can all be used to hypothesize.

Example: A nation should nurture the talents of its people. It will then reap many benefits.

If a nation nurtures the talents of its people, it will reap many benefits.

a. Without being encouraged by parents and teachers, aspiring musicians will not develop.

Unless ______________________________________________.

b. Science may one day stop the aging process in humans, but will this benefit mankind?

If _________________________________________________.

c. If there is no effort made to keep traditional farming methods alive, they will disappear.

Unless ______________________________________________.

d. If innovation is encouraged, many new jobs will be created.

As long as ____________________________________________.

Complete the following sentences using your own ideas.

a. Provided parents have an interest in music, _______________.

b. If government support for arts projects is not available, ____________.

c. Unless entrance to museums and art galleries is free,_______________.

d. Providing young scientists are given the right opportunities,______________

Task: The money spent on space research has brought enormous benefits to mankind, but it could be more usefully applied. To what extent do you agree or disagree?

The question of whether money could be usefully applied to tackle the crisis around the world rather than spent in on space research is a very controversial issue and it is now a matter of considerable public concern. There are, therefore, people on both sides of the argument who have feelings either for or against.

Many people believe that money should be spent to solve food crisis in Africa and South Asia. Droughts, for example, left Africa with famine. Every 30 seconds an African child dies of hunger and about 45% of children in South Asia suffer from malnutrition. Similarly, the global issue is the conflict of AIDS in Africa. Although, there are numerous factors in the spread of HIV/AIDS, it is largely recognized as a disease of poverty. Medicines, for instance, are very expensive and the government in poor countries can not afford to treat the disease, therefore millions are dying, while in rich countries people are living longer.

Having said that, however, some people oppose the former argument. They claim that space research has brought enormous benefits to mankind. Recently, NASA has launched satellites for weather and climate, which will give the scientists a unique view of earth’s atmosphere, helping them to improve their abilities to forecast weather and predict climate change.

From what has been discussed above we may draw the conclusion that both points of view have their merits. Although, human life has priority in our societies, advanced research should be carried out to find another source of energy, water on other planet, and to understand the planets and its’ effect on earth for the benefit of all.

Early Access Podcast – Arsenio’s Business English Podcast | Season 6 | Sales | Meeting Sales Targets & Planning a Meeting

As an online entrepreneur/trainer, it’s vastly important to forecast and look for new opportunities. Now that I have two markets where I’ve attracted hot-prospect customers (students/clients who are very adamant about getting a high-score on their test), those are new areas of opportunities.

If anyone is in sales, it’s also important to forecast and look for referrals for new opportunities, which I discuss along with another ‘played audio’ within this particular podcast.

This particular podcast will debut to the public in a month’s time, so if you want access to it today, join my Patreon!

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Sharing Your Ambitions Performance Prompts

Practice 2: Share Your Truth & Ambitions


The main motivation of humankind is to be free, to express our true selves and pursue our dreams without restriction—to experience what may be called personal freedom. Follow this impulse by consistently sharing your true thoughts, feelings, needs, and dreams
with other people. Do not play small to placate others. Live your truth. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. Something I really want to do that I haven’t shared with enough people is . . .
  • Traveling, starting that business, taking that leap of faith, committing to that passion. Put it out there….
  1. If I were going to be more “me” in my everyday life, I would start to . . .
  • Since living in Thailand, I realized that regardless of what I do, I will always be just “black” or “bad” through the eyes of Thais — not only Thais but Asians on the continent of Asia in general. So, that enabled me to establish me and live ME everyday.
  1. When I put myself out there and someone makes fun of me, I’m just going to . . .
  • Critical. YouTube is troll city. Are you ready for people to judge you? What criticism will you accept? Will you respond to no-face trolls out there? This is why I turned off ALL COMMENTS on my YouTube because it shows I don’t give a fuck about anyone’s opinion. I’ve turned off likes, too. If they truly admire my work, they would click the description and follow me elsewhere. I’m very lucky to also be in a realm where Americans in general would NEVER follow me, so I eliminate about 10% of the trolls in the world.
  1. A major dream I’m going to start telling people about and asking for some help with is . .
  • Be careful with WHO you share your dream with though.

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Honor Thy Struggle – Performance Prompts

Practice 1: Honor the Struggle


When you have the opportunity to learn and serve, you don’t complain about the effort involved. View struggle as a necessary, important, and positive part of your journey so that you can and true peace and personal power. Don’t bemoan the inevitable hardships of self-improvement and chasing your dreams; have reverence for challenge. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. A struggle I’ve been facing in my life is . . .
  2. The way I could change my view of this struggle is . . .
  3. If something great could come from this struggle, it would be . . .
  4. The way I choose to greet life’s inevitable hardships from today forward is . . .

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