To be effective, your affirmations should be constructed using the following nine guidelines:
- Start with the words I am. The words I am are the two most powerful words in the language. The subconscious takes any sentence that starts with I am and interprets it as a command – a directive to make it happen.
- Use the present tense. Describe what you want as though you already have it, as thought it is already accomplished.
Wrong: I’m going to go to Mongolia.
Right: I’m enjoying these frigid temperatures in Mongolia right now.
3. State it in the positive. Afford that you want, now what you don’t want. State your affirmations in the positive. The unconscious does not hear the words no, or not. This means that the statement “Don’t slam the door is heard as “Slam the door.” The phrase “I am no longer afraid of flying” evokes an image of being afraid of flying, while the phrase “I am enjoying the thrill of flying” evokes an image of enjoyment.
4. Keep it brief. Think of your affirmation as an advertising jingle. Act as if each word costs $1,000. It needs to be short enough and memorable enough to be easily remembered.
5. Make it specific. Vague affirmations produce vague results. Remember what I said on my podcast about the woman who said, “I want a lot of money.” Well, a lot of money can be a quarter. The universe needs specificity to deliver the specified results.
Wrong: I am driving my new red sports car.
Right: I am driving my new red Porsche 911.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. This is the present continuous that I teach so much about. The continuous form indicates that it’s happening now. Stay away from future conditionals such as I want, I will, if only, I would.
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion of feeling word. Include the emotional state you would be feeling if you had already achieved it. I’m talking the adverbs: calmly, peacefully, delighted ,enthusiastically lovingly.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others. Make them describe your behaviour, not the behavior of others.
Wrong: I am watching Johnny clean up his room.
Right: I am effectively communicating my needs and desires to Johnny.