I was conversing with one of my students just this past weekend and she said she was afraid of rejection. This is something that both everyone who’s reading this….and I….have to deal with. It’s a natural part of life. When I was younger and in high school, I was scared to ask anyone for a favor. In addition to that, the most daunting task was asking someone on a date. I remember there was a girl who I asked, “do you have a date for prom?” She quickly replied and said, “I have an agreement. Sorry.” She thought I was asking her…LOL! However, she showed up to prom dateless and I was like, “who’s the funny one NOW!”
You’re going to get rejected. You’re not going to get picked for the varsity basketball team, picked to become manager, supervisor position. There are times that you will have to do the “dirty work” while everyone else has the easier work, but just remember that rejecting rejection could activate the law of increasing returns.
Jack Canfield once said, “you get rejected when your manuscript is rejected, your proposal is turned down, your new product idea is passed over, your fund-raising request is ignored, your design concept is not accepted, your application for membership is denied, or your offer of marriage is not accepted.”
Steve Jobs got fired from the job he created; Hugh Jackman couldn’t keep a 7-11 job; film executives told Harrison Ford that he didn’t have what it took to be a star; J.K. Rowling got rejected over and over and even got fired from her at the London Office of Amnesty International; Steven Spielberg was rejected from USC (University of Southern California); Oprah Winfrey was fired from her TV job in Baltimore after being called “unfit for tv.”
The most famous people in their respective fields got turned down. What you have to learn here is rejection is a myth.
Just imagine this, you ask a girl out to dinner and she says no, you didn’t have anyone to eat dinner with before you asked her, and you don’t have anyone to eat with after you asked her. The situation goes unchanged, am I right?
Learn to say “next” when someone says “no” to you. Colonel Harland Sanders of KFC left home with his pressure cooker and his special recipe for cooking Southern friend chicken….and guess what, the man received 1,009 rejections before he found someone to believe in his dream. 18,875 KFC outlets later in over 100 countries, look at what he established.
Learn to keep pushing through and not give up because after 81 no’s, you could end up getting 9 straight yeses. I was rejected by over 55 schools here in Thailand one morning. One responded, and that one that responded would’ve been one of the worst schools I would have ever taught at up until that point, so I trusted my instinct and kept searching elsewhere until finally I found some place worth staying at. That October 2014 was the most difficult month of my life, but if I had given up, I wouldn’t be enjoying where I am with my life in present day.
Don’t. Give. Up.