The sad truth about how we look back on our past is that we all have a lot more victories than failures. In present day, we count all our negatives rather than the blessings. That’s a given. However; if we refer back to the past, we count all the negatives, too.
Yes, my mother and father split up after endless arguing between 95-98. Yes, I had two step mothers both whom were wonderful. Yes, I switched school four times over a one calendar year period and I never had the opportunity to acclimate. However, at the age of 11 when my mother took full custody of me, I can seriously count my major successes. This is a good exercise to begin with to start acknowledging your positive past.
BEGIN WITH NINE MAJOR SUCCESSES
Here’s a good way to begin an inventory on all of your major successes. Start by dividing your life into three equal time periods.
For example, I’m 28, so I’m looking at 3 increments of 9 (although massive success has came in the past year. HA!). If you’re 40 years old, you’re looking at “Birth to 13” and so on.
Here’s a list below of my major successes.
First Third: Birth to 9
- Learned how to ride a bike.
- Learned how to play basketball, football, and soccer.
- Was a Math magician in my 4th grade Math class whereas my teacher (Mr. Parven) said, “multiples of 4” to me and I went on an incredible rant – 4, 8, 12, 16, 20….amazing stares from my classmates followed and then I understood that I was gifted. (Not many people in the world know this story – consider yourself lucky).
Second Third: Age 10 to 19
- Got first place in a track & field meet and went to three consecutive Sunrise Regional Track & Field Championships in the Southern of Nevada.
- Graduated from High School.
- Went to college.
Final Third: Age 20 to 28
- Traveled to Australia (and lived there for a year), Taiwan, South Korea, Japan, Hawaii, New Zealand, Laos, Malaysia, Singapore, and Vietnam.
- Became a teacher in Thailand.
- Now have a worldwide viewed podcast, my own website, working for massive corporations, soon to be Tedx speaker, motivating the masses.
Create A Victory Log
How about this, another way to stack those poker chips even higher is to keep a written record of your daily successes. It could be doing your morning meditation, making your grateful 10 list, following up on phone calls and so forth. By recalling and writing down your successes each day, you log them into your long-term memory, which enhances your self-esteem and builds your confidence.
If a lot of your victories are on the internet – for example, if you’re an athlete, artist, author, or businessperson – you can make a digital scrapbook on Pinterest.
The End of The Day Mirror Exercise
Here’s an example os what my exercise might sound like:
Arsenio, I want to appreciate you for the following things today: First, I was to appreciate you for waking up on time and knocking out that to-do list with grace. Then, you meditated for twenty minutes before dropping your clothes off at the wash. You created a couple of podcasts and inspiring instagram posts before going to work and preparing for the next two days.
One of the best things you accomplished was finally you created a website. You have your own website now! WOW! Who would’ve ever though, ey? You’ve done some maintenance and connected with people who can help you start ironing out the gorgeous platform that will have tons of traffic.
Oh, you got home, prepared your gym bag for the next day, meal-prepped for the next day, and now you’re looking up flight details for upcoming trips. Today was an absolute MARVELLOUS day, Arsenio. Now, go get some sleep!
And one more thing, Arsenio – I love you!
Yes, you might feel awkward, silly, might want to cry, or generally uncomfortable. There are all natural and normal reactions. We aren’t trained to acknowledge ourselves. In fact, we are mostly trained to do the opposite. Doing this can extinguish that negative internal self-talk
So, try it! Go on!