There was a time last year where I had a wonderful friend who lied to me about her being from Thailand (she was in fact from Myanmar), and in that lie were promises of starting a wonderful, healthy-food catering business that would deliver clean food all around Bangkok.
In this plan, I wrote so many action steps down on a monster poster board and then I suddenly started seeing her slipping. She was hiding something and I didn’t know what it was because she did a great job covering it up. I started seeing signs from even Thai people who would speak English to her instead of Thai BECAUSE they thought she wasn’t Thai. None of these things started clicking until one morning I received a phone call from her asking me for $6 dollars because she didn’t have money.
If you don’t have $6 dollars to your name, there’s a much bigger problem then not actually having $6 dollars. By that time I scrapped the plane and in the ensuing weeks the big question came, “can I borrow a large sum of money to pay off old debt.”
I knew that there was too much problem and not enough action…but I didn’t face what wasn’t working in the beginning until I let it fester to the big question.
If you are going to become more successful, you have to get out of the denial like I was in, and I’m sure you’ve been in throughout your life in certain situations.
Do you defend or ignore how toxic your work environment is? After reading this particular principle, I made a podcast (which I will still post down below for anyone who’s interested in listening) which a blackmailer went sniffing through some of my dirty laundry, found it, and began implicating and inferring that I was talking about specific individuals in my work place, although I was just stating facts about different age groups I’ve came across here in Thailand.
How about marriage? Do you make excuses for how bad it is?
Are you in denial about your lack of energy, your excess weight, your ill-health, or your level of physical fitness? Are you failing to acknowledge how bad sales are at work? How bad one coworker is with finishing tasks on time? The loud music that’s being played late at night that keeps you up 50% of your sleep time?
You have to begin facing these circumstances squarely, heed the warning signs, and take action, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it might be.
Don’t Ignore The Yellow Signs
Your child comes home late from school again. Strange notices start showing up in your mailbox. You hear noises coming from across the hall and no one is there (ok, that might be a bit over the top, but it happens). A friend, neighbor, classmate or anyone makes a very odd comment. We just simply ignore them.
Why? Because to face what’s not working in your life usually means you’re going to have to do something uncomfortable.