There was a time back in 2007 when I went to Panguitch Lake, Utah – one of the most beautiful and serene places in the south of Utah at an elevation of 13,000 feet. That day, I maxed out in catching trouts (maximum five big fish per person), and it was my first time fishing, too. The amazing thing about it is was we were actually eating a variety of things in our small, wooden boat. Can you imagine if I put some strawberries, crackers, or other types of human food on the end of my fishing rod – trying to bait the fish into eating it? It wouldn’t work, would it? Same goes with life. Why don’t we do that with the friends we want in our life?
There was a British Prime Minister by the name of Lloyd George who managed to stay on as a leader after the other wartime leaders. When he was asked how he was able to do it, he simple stated this….
Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want.
So the only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.
Remember that tomorrow when you are trying to get somebody to do something. If, for example, you don’t want your children to smoke, don’t preach at them, and don’t talk about what you want; but show them that cigarettes may keep them from making the basketball team or winning the hundred-yard dash.
Look at it from a child’s perspective to really get some clarity.
When a child is simply that….a child, it could weep, shout, throw a tantrum among so many other things until it gets what it wants. When you’re a parent, you have to fulfill the child’s request, because if you don’t, the severity of the situation will intensify.
However, when the child grows older; and life slaps him upside the head, he realizes that he can no longer get what he wants because parents begin to say, “you’re selfish. Shut up! Sit down! You’re making me mad! Stop thinking about only you.”
Is this how humanity is suppose to work? Do parents say these things because the child needs to grasp their head around the fact that it’s not always about what they want?
Every letter we get in the mail, especially in terms of bills, is about what the other person or company wants. From past due, to requests. It’s always about what they want but nothing about what we want.
It’s time to learn how to start handling people based on their wants, not YOU.
Podcast 1: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12291334
Podcast 2: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12294066