Some of you wonder why are you even reading some of my blog posts on how to win friends and listening to my podcasts on developing the confidence to win people? Why not just study the greatest man-winner of them all. The thing that runs up to your leg, tail-wagging, licking you, jumping all over you. Why not just study dogs? This is the showing of affection, and you won’t have to sell him real-estate, buy him dinner, or marry him, either.
When I was younger, the first dog I had ever owned was a I-Dont-know-What-Breed called Muscles. Muscles was the protector. The warrior that protected us from all evils. In plain English – the biggest and even sweetest dog you can ever imagine. Later, snoop dog (yes, just like the rapper), which was a husky, was inducted into the family. And the last one was poncho….a ratchet and audacious chihuahua that wreaked havoc on just about everyone. Anytime we went home, this trio would greet us with copious amounts of saliva.
Dogs are genuinely interested in their caregivers. On the other hand, we try to win everyone’s interest by doing outlandish things.
The New York Telephone Company made a detailed study years ago about the most frequently used word. Can you guess what it was? The personal pronoun “I,” which was used 3900 times in 500 calls. When you see a group picture, whose picture do you look for first?
If we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us, we will never have many true, sincere friends. Friends, real friends, are not made that way.
It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from these individuals that most failures come about.