I’ve been preaching, speaking about, and dissecting this book for over two months already (Dale Carnegie’s How To Stop Worry And Start Living), and I’m thrilled at how much my life has changed. There are a range of techniques that you can put to use in your life and here are 7 rules of doing so.
Rule #1: Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope, for “our life is what our thoughts make it.”
Your dominating thought will create your reality. This is what has happened with my entire family. If they’re constantly complaining about not having enough, those more “not enough” feelings will begin pouring in.
Rule #2: Let’s never try to get even with out enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Do what General Eisenhower did: let’s never waste a minute thinking about people we don’t like.
This is extremely important. After the mass disruption in my life just a year ago at work (employee trying to get me fired), I recently heard today that another branch employed him. Those feelings of resent began to comeback, but who’s ultimately winning? He would jump up in utter joy if he knew I still talked about him in a derogatory way. As Michael Bernard Beckwith said recently in his last Agape video, “forgive. Forgive. Forgive! Don’t be one of those people who wait for karma to take a toll.” Since that occurrence, my life has been UNBELIEVABLY AMAZING and it continues to transform on a daily basis. So, I’ll ask myself again, who’s winning?
Rule #3: Remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude — but to give for the joy of giving.
I’m one of those people who expect a ‘thank you’ at the door if I hold it open. In a country, such as Thailand, I never get a ‘thank you,’ therefore I never do anything for society. And what does that ultimately do? It paints a picture of myself and an image that’s hard for me to look in the mirror each day….because that’s not me. Regardless if they do or don’t acknowledge it…I need to do it for the sake of Arsenio Buck.
Rule #4: Count your blessings — not your troubles!
There was an article recently on Nikkei Asia, and I think it’s best if I just show you the photo.
Now, what’s the first thing you notice? When I teach my IELTS students, I always ask them, “what’s the key feature or biggest abnormality in the graph?”
See, as human beings we have a tendency of focusing on that one negative. Some would go so far to say, “well, that’s a big negative!” Honestly, it depends how you phrase it. Press Freedom? Most restrictive? How most safe instead? How any different types of media around the world spew hateful rhetoric about every country, culture, religion and other things? That “151” should be a “1.” Look at the amazing travel, tourism, happiness….oh, and America is one of the top 10 most depressed countries on the planet. Just wanted to emphasize that.
Rule #5: Let’s not imitate others. Let’s find ourselves and be ourselves, for “envy is ignorance” and “imitation is suicide.”
Don’t envy, celebrate! I love celebrating achievements of people who I hardly know, to people who I’m close to. I feel that I’m in their shoes!
Rule #6: When fate hands us a lemon, let’s try to make lemonade.
I’ve had wagons full of lemons get dropped off at my doorstep some mornings. I then made one of the best lemonade stands in the world. Get the metaphor?
Rule #7: Let’s forget our own unhappiness — by trying to create a little happiness for others. “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.
Depression. Yes, try doing something for someone else. The podcast for these rules and even the depression podcast is down below!