I, just like everyone else, have the same problems just like any other human being on this planet. There are times that I get sucked into a state of mind that I can’t escape for several hours. A feeling of discontent; probably stemming from a mishap, miscommunication, and depreciation of another human being. Yes, someone who I thought was awesome turned into a needy, materialistic princess. This past Tuesday was Day 1. I knew that it wasn’t going to work, so I distanced myself immediately and she vanished. However, that void needs to be filled. Because the void isn’t filled yet, there was a feeling of emptiness throughout the day that put me into a melancholic state of mind.
So, what did I do?
Step 1: Look Back At The Wheel of Life
So, because the Romantic Relationship aspect of my wheel plummeted significantly, this explains why I’m experiencing such feelings. Someone just walked right out of my life. Understandable. The feelings I had going on explained my current state of mind. Anytime a category falls very fast, very quickly, you’re going to experience ‘negative’ feelings. Not talking to her anymore means that void is open. The void is open and it has to be filled.
I went on to ask myself ‘what areas of my life am I neglecting currently? Friends and Hobbies.
Sure, I went on a trip to Kanchanaburi recently, but then it was overshadowed by constant nagging and resulted in a fallout. I need to also look back and ask myself, “what am I doing on a routine basis that brings me joy?” Sure, running and working out, but I’m talking about in the friendship realm. My best friend, who I’ve known for the longest, is a goner. Someone who I spent a great amount of time talking to on a routine basis is now gone. A couple others’ communications are decreasing significantly….so what should I do? MAKE NEW FRIENDS!
There’s an app I use on a routine basis that landed me three purposeful relationships as of late; most notably, a teacher in Costa Rica that gave me an email that changed my life (later podcast). These people can come and go, though. In retrospect, history has shown that I can create some lifelong relationships with some individuals. I decided to sign up for some activities with the gym I go to. There’s a massive park activity happening on the 16th of December where a lot of people will compete in a competition. This is where I can meet likeminded people who are on the same wavelengths as me. BOOM! I never used to do this because of work obligations, but now it’s time to become selfish and put “me” first.
This will fulfill the void soon and I’ll be able to meet people.
Practice What I Preached: Keep Myself Busy
Depression, which I don’t have, happens because you’re focusing too much on yourself rather than other people. On days I have a lot of free-time, I schedule blogs, podcasts, videos, do writing, research, set up ads and other things. I keep myself as busy as possible and this works because I take my mind off things I cannot control (circle of concern) and focus primarily on things I can control (circle of influence).
Anytime you’re in the gutter, look at the eight categories: personal development, physical environment, romantic relationships, fun & hobbies, family and friends, career, wealth, health. When you do this, you can identify the problem and solve it rather than letting it seep into your next workday, week, month, or even year.