As a teacher, we could definitely be extremely hard on our students. In America, most teachers would berate the students who don’t do well on the test instead of giving criticism and not being hated for it. For example, 26 out of 30 students do well and the 4 others – not so well. Who gets the attention; let alone, attention that won’t serve them in the future? We’re told to categorize these students because they have “special needs” compared to the other students. In Thailand, there are programs called “gifted” where the students are more “intelligent” than others. However, the others are labeled as “normal” and they end up believing that suggestion. A travesty at it’s very worst.
I’ve worked with teachers who have made students leave the classroom, crying, because they didn’t answer him correctly. Get this, the student paid more than 400$ in tuition to learn English and now she’s gone. Do they reprimand the teacher? Absolutely not.
However, teachers who prepare their lessons out of this world for their students get demonized.
I might’ve gone on a tirade, but just trying to make a point. Teachers need to learn that constant ridicule and criticism is not going to help the student.
Tell your child, your spouse, or your employee that he or she is stupid or dumb at a certain thing, has no gift for it, and is doing it all wrong, and you have destroyed almost every incentive to try to improve. But use the opposite technique—be liberal with your encouragement, make the thing seem easy to do, let the other person know that you have faith in his ability to do it, that he has an undeveloped flair for it—and he will practice until the dawn comes in the window in order to excel – such as what I’ve been doing.
Later, one particular individual did make up for his complete mishap by showing me what I did and not giving any criticism. It was basically looking myself in my own mirror and saying, “ahhh, ok, Arsenio. Tough luck. It happens, but this doesn’t measure one bit of success.”