Imagine the moments before a fight. One of the biggest fights that I’ve ever watched had to be Tito Trinidad vs. Ricardo Mayorga. This was big on so many levels because it was the Puerto Ricans versus the Nicaraguans. At one point in one of the rounds, Ricardo Mayorga began taunting Trinidad and there was an uproar in the house, people literally screaming at the television. At the specific moment I couldn’t hear a word that was being said by my friend and he was standing six inches from me.
Fast-forwarding to a fight when Miguel Cotto got pummelled by Antonio Margarito. I remember seeing the state of Miguel’s face and wondered, “how does he look that bad?” Later, Margarito’s trainer was seen by Shane Mosley’s camp — putting plaster into the gloves of Antonio. If you guys don’t know the horrific story of Billy Collins, this is exactly what probably took place during the Miguel Cotto fight. Plaster, after being consumed and inundated with sweat, begins to harden. Miguel said during the fight, “he got stronger as the rounds went on.” There’s no real evidence, but we all know the truth.
That was from 2004, to 2008, and then after seeing interviews by boxing greats such as Evander Holyfield, Riddick Bowe, Thomas Hearns….I couldn’t understand a word that was being said from their mouths. Why? They lost more than 50% of their speaking capabilities because the constant blows to the head.
So after seeing everything take place the way it did over decades of being a boxing fan, I no longer supported the sport. Human beings literally raging in the stands, shouting, cheering on an assault between two men or two women.
Welcome to the aggressive mask.
Andy Cona, who’s a British cage fighter, said this…
“The first fight I ever had was like a release. Like, “I’m allowed to hit this lad, and it’s making me feel better.” See, I don’t have a family. Me and my brother were put into [foster] homes. He was everything—he was my mom, my dad, my brother, and my sister. He was everyone, and then he killed himself. I’ve never, ever told anyone that. I don’t like to show people weakness. I’m broken inside, I know I am.”
Lewis Howes went on to say, “but still, there’s something scary about taking years of childhood issues and pain and channeling them outward at a total stranger for money and fame. As Andy’s story reveals, for the most part, the pain you inflict on others never reduces the pain you are trying to escape from within yourself.”
If you look at the majority of athletes, especially in America, they’re all inner-city kids. Mike Tyson had a horrendous childhood and be brought along a lot of those problems outside the ring, becoming a very polarizing character in the 1990’s.
Thai prison systems, which are very controversial, has inmates practice Muay Thai and fight – fighters outside the prison yard.
What is it with aggressiveness and pouring on all your childhood pain, mistakes, and suffering onto another individual rather than honing into 100%? Sure, no one asked to be molested. I didn’t deserve to be dropped at a doorstep myself in 1999…however, it happened. Did I make that my story to why I’m such a “f*** up?” No.
Ray Lewis, who had upbringings beyond comprehension, is the greatest linebacker to ever play the position in the NFL. Fierce, ferocious, tenacity, inspirational, hungry, and just a demon on the field……he was able to unleash his childhood tribulations into wrestling first (in high school), then onto the football field. His mother was abused for a long time by her bf….and Ray Lewis asked, “mom, you have two black eyes! Let’s go!”
She said, “no. He’s our only means of financial stability. We can’t leave.”
Ray Lewis used a deck of cards to relieve himself of so much pain by doing pushups. 1-10; jacks, queens and kings are ten; ace 11; and jokers were I think 11-21. I’m not sure what the exact number is, but I’m sure he did over 300 pushups.
At 41, he said this in Lewis Howes podcast interview.
“There are certain moments in a child’s life that a father should never miss because when you replace [that influence], most of the time you replace it with things that get you in trouble. I replaced it with dominance over another individual. I had hate for my father, and that hate turned into fuel. I don’t encourage anybody to live the way I lived.” – Ray Lewis
It’s like young men don’t have an outlet to their anxiety, anger or other things. I saw the students, when I was a student, sit in class and stay quiet while they were getting bullied by other aggressive kids. Then the shooting massacre in Colorado happened in 1999. I was listening to Gary Vee yesterday and he was saying that poor parenting results in bullies and children being bullied. Why do children have this aggressiveness that generates into an Alpha Mask. Stories of Ariece, P’Allen, and Marcos (childhood classmates) will be in my podcast down below! Time to welcome in this introduction!