Preston Smiles fits “fun-time” into his clients’ schedules.
It’s simply when an alarm goes off, that particular individual drops everything he or she is doing and they dance their tail off. I know, odd as hell, but the incorporation of that, or any other behavior, forms a discipline.
Remember I talked to you about Romanic Relationships and how spontaneity would go a long way in any relationship? Look at it this way…
Darren Hardy, at 6pm, has something called “date night” with his wife. So when the time arrives, the alarms go off on his spouse and his phone, they drop everything, and they commit to being with each other from sundown — all the way to sunup. This is from Friday night to Sunday morning, too. Not just one day.
He also used an idea from Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ book, which he asks his wife, “how would you rate the relationship for this past week?” Of course the wife would give him a number, and he would then ask, “how can I get better?” The wife will then come up with a list of things that will help him become better.
No one is perfect. Just remember that. It would be so overwhelming hearing nagging (which it shouldn’t be – but totally can be) all the time. For example, when I was recently dating a girl, she wouldn’t ask me something like this; nor would I ask her the question. Instead, on a two-hour trip back from Kanchanaburi to Bangkok, she was complaining her head off because I didn’t ask her if she wanted anything from 7-11, and because I didn’t carry all four pieces of luggage.
This should be a feeling of validation for both parties.
“Every month, Georgia and I also schedule something unique and memorable. Jim Rohn taught me that life is simply a collection of experiences; our goal should be to increase the frequency and the intensity of the good experiences. Once a month we try to do something that creates an experience that has some memorable intensity. It could be driving up to the mountains, going on an adventurous hike, driving up to Los Angeles to try a new fancy restaurant, going sailing in the bay—whatever. Something out of the ordinary that has a heightened experience and creates an indelible memory.”
“Once a quarter we plan a two- to three-day getaway. I like to do a quarterly review of all my goals and life patterns, and this is a great time to do a deeper check-in on how things are going in our relationship. Then we have our special travel vacation, plus our holiday traditions and our New Year’s hike and goal-setting ritual. You can see that once all this is scheduled, you no longer have to think about what you need to be doing. Everything happens naturally. We’ve created a rhythm that gives us momentum.” – Darren Hardy
Weekly Rhythm Registration In Podcast + PDF