“I don’t want you thinking of the rhythms you can do for this week, month, or even the next ninety days; I want you to think about what you can do for the rest of your life. The Compound Effect—the positive results you want to experience in your life—will be the result of smart choices (and actions) repeated consistently over time. You win when you take the right steps day in and day out. But you set yourself up for failure by doing too much too soon.”
This is in regards to the last blog/podcast. When you’re in marriage, you’re going to have to do things way outside the box. Do things that you would have never done before. Surprise him/her. Buy those plane tickets to a utopia. If you don’t do these things, relationships become stagnant. The two individuals begin dying rather than growing together.
Story of Richard In The Podcast
The Power of Consistency
I looked back on my blogs from last year, and I noticed that were was a stray of days that I didn’t do a blog. My numbers suffered; viewers disengaged; and the Big Mo was gone. Not only that, but when you fall out of that consistency “frequency,” it’s even harder to get back in as you’ve heard in Richard’s story.
People, at the beginning of the year, hire a personal trainer to bust their ass, and they ultimately fall into that same bad habit.
Another example would be students here in Thailand. I’ve seen students who have an insane amount of discipline, and I’ve seen others who study English for the sake of learning the language. That’s the wrong way to do it.
For example, let’s say I had a student by the name of Note. Note was very good at conversation and I asked him, “how did you learn conversation?” He said, “I repeated everything I heard in movies and I talk to myself in the mirror.”
About 99% of the human population wouldn’t do that because they’re scared of what “others” might think of them.
Example number 2 — Kim Kim. Kim Kim, at the age of 15, spoke better than most Asians all across Asia. Her accent is sound and she has very few grammatical errors while speaking. How did she learn? Just like my companion 11-years-ago by the name of Ezra Goings did — surround yourself with the language.
“I love English. English is life. I breathe it. I love it so much. I hate Thai.”
That’s what she said. She hates her own language. She actually even speaks to children and others in the community in English, which is funny because she says “excuse me” with a stern voice. What are the reactions? Looks of awe.
I hope you understand what point I’m trying to make here. Through consistency, riding the Big Mo, and unrelenting determination can come some of the greatest lessons and learning experiences in life. It’s not always about taking a massive jump and pushing down on the pump as quick as possible. Look at rowers — you know — the people who pedal like hell in lakes while sitting in canoes. Could you imagine if they went as fast as possible at the beginning of the race? They would die down.
Other examples could be like the “beauty pill,” which is sold here in Thailand. Women, of all walks of life, take this pill (which is extremely dangerous) so they can lose weight. They don’t want to put in the work in the gym…they just want to “become” slim. Discipline is the lesson.