There are some things I’ve already covered throughout my podcasts that I’ve read in this book, but I’ll just share them briefly with you before going into changing your “perspective.”
Finding or having someone in your expanded associations who’s committed to personal growth is extremely important. Remember I talked about Henry Ford, Harvey Firestone and Thomas Edison going to a cabin up in the mountains, forming their mastermind group, right?
Example, I will be doing a bi-weekly podcast with a cryptocurrency investor/trainer/health guru who at the time (last Thursday) gave me so much information in terms of life. Not only that, it was the frequency that I was on and us putting together our thoughts that propelled me to landing three job interviews this week. It’s amazing beyond belief seeing what has happened since having someone in my “close” circle who’s committed and as positive as I am. Remember, subtract one loser friend and put a better one in.
Invest In Mentorship
This is something I would do as a last resort. Example, I’m a mentor already. I have a friend (and maybe more *wink wink*) who I was giving a lot of valuable information to about my life and relating things that can enable her to cultivate a positive mindset. Did I charge? Absolutely not. There’s a mentor everywhere you look who’s willing to take you under their wings for free; not to mention there’s YouTube and daily videos of some of the greatest motivational, inspirational and transformation coaches out there that are readily available.
You have the story of Jim Carey going up on Mulholland Drive every evening, visualizing is perfect life and having money. You have the great AAAAAAAAAAA who would take a taxi to a very wealthy side of town on a routine basis. Tom Bilyeu, who’s the founder and CEO of quest nutrition, took a troubled African American child to a different side of Los Angeles to show him “hey, this stuff does exist.”
I just don’t understand the generality or willingness to “not move” in terms of people who live in poverty-infested neighborhoods. Now maybe it’s different in Africa, Indonesia, India, Bangladesh and whatnot, but America, given the vast opinion of being the “greatest country on the planet,” has tons of towns/cities that are drowned in violence.
Example, my mother has lived in the same horrendous neighborhood the past two-decades and has no sights on leaving, yet in terms of her life, she’s been doing the same things and has been around the same people for that same amount of time. Is that a coincidence?
Another example would be where I lived when I first moved into the area known as “Rangsit,” Thailand. My first apartment complex had quite a few prostitutes and people who were in my business 24/7. The Thai mindset here is I would bring over students and Thais would label them as hookers. Why? Because I’m a foreigner. I got into a massive argument that stemmed from people constantly being in my business and I blew up. Then, I realized one morning “why the hell am I living in this slummy ass neighborhood?” I got up and left. I then found myself in an apartment, which was in the middle of a parking lot, arguing with security because of the surrounding slums playing loud music. What did I do? I left.
Found another condominium, which I stayed for 22 months and was a massive upgrade from the previous ones. However, being around slum mindsets (people who hold their purses tight when I walk by them; people who cover their noses; or people who turn their heads immediately after looking at me)….it took a toll on my mind.
I picked up and left….although my present job was still there. Now, my I’ve free’d up those attention units because now I see people who smile all the time, hold the door open for me, want to chat, and office workers who don’t give me dirty looks.
“The dream in your heart may be bigger than the environment in which you find yourself. Sometimes you have to get out of that environment to see that dream fulfilled. It’s like planting an oak sapling in a pot. Once it becomes rootbound, its growth is limited. It needs a great space to become a mighty oak. So do you.
When I talk about your environment, I’m not just referring to where you live. I’m referring to whatever surrounds you. Creating a positive environment to support your success means clearing out all the clutter in your life. Not just the physical clutter that makes it hard for you to work productively and efficiently (although that’s important too!), but also the psychic clutter of whatever around you isn’t working, whatever’s broken, whatever makes you cringe. Each and every incomplete thing in your life exerts a draining force on you, sucking the energy of accomplishment and success out of you as surely as a vampire stealing your blood. Every incomplete promise, commitment, and agreement saps your strength because it blocks your momentum and inhibits your ability to move forward. Incomplete tasks keep calling you back to the past to take care of them. So think about what you can complete today. Additionally, when you’re creating an environment to support your goals, remember that you get in life what you tolerate. This is true in every area of your life—particularly within your relationships with family, friends, and colleagues. What you have decided to tolerate is also reflected in the situations and circumstances of your life right now. Put another way, you will get in life what you accept and expect you are worthy of.
If you tolerate disrespect, you will be disrespected. If you tolerate people being late and making you wait, people will show up late for you. If you tolerate being underpaid and overworked, that will continue for you. If you tolerate your body being overweight, tired, and perpetually sick, it will be.”
Excerpt From: Darren Hardy. “The Compound Effect.” iBooks.