I talked about this in a podcast a long time ago, but I want to speak how I use this particular technique in a real-life situation.
Long ago, there was a man that lost two children under the age of find. Him being in a vice/guillotine that seemed to get tighter and tighter, he found himself in a decision whereas he was going to either turn down his boy, who hadn’t died and needed his support, or play with him and create something out of some toys.
So, he decided to play with him. He didn’t want to be bothered at the time because he was emotionally distraught, as one would be. However, in those three hours that he played with his boy, there was a sudden mental relaxation that came over him. How? He crowded his mind by being busy.
So over the past couple days, you guys probably didn’t know, but I’ve been a rut of worry. If you’ve ever seen a person with rolled-over shoulders, walking with their head down…that’d be me. I’ve been very disconcert over the past few weeks because of not knowing my future in finding new work. Last night I hit a new low in teaching one of my students. I remember looking at the worst-case-scenario “opportunity” go away right before my eyes. I then said, “oh, man! No friends; no family; no options…..Arsenio, what’s next?” I kept scanning job boards and none of them were showing anything, although I was applying for virtually all of them out of pure desperation. So, I decided to apply for this particular job and I was a bit amazed at the response time – 5 minutes. That’s right, I applied with a student sitting in front of me and almost in an instant, the response came back — in voice form. I answered, remained composed (even though I wanted to jump out of my skin), was told a story (the opening up of a human being to another human being) and landed an interview, which will prove to be a monumental success.
In an instant, that worry was gone. Not because of a call, but also because the comments of one of the parents. He said, “there are plenty of jobs in Bangkok. Just be patient.”
I was more worried about my personal wants than giving. This is why so much of humanity fail.
In the following morning (this morning), I was listening to Tony Robbins say, “if you’re unhappy with your workplace, change it. If you say there aren’t any jobs out there, that’s bull.”
This is something I always tell myself because of victimization. I know damn well there are jobs out there, but the fact is I keep telling myself there aren’t because of everything that has happened in my life here.
With an interview looming large and opportunities and views coming in from all cylinders, I must keep myself busy. Sometimes and especially at home, I get caught up in my own thoughts about “money.” On the other hand, I just checked my bank account for the first time in forever and realized, “omg, wtfffffff am I even worried about?”
But the future is uncertain for everyone. Everything can be taken away at the blink of an eye.
Your job today is to keep yourself busy. Not with survival busyness, but constantly creating and deploying patience. You will prevail.