I had a wonderful insight from one of my favorite colleagues last night. 30 floors in the sky we were talking about an array of things, but at the very end, we started talking about the core-genius. He mentioned Jim Kwik, who’s a podcaster, keynote speaker and mind guru. He asked me, “Arsenio, if I heard Jim Kwik talking and complaining about his job, people, racism and Thailand….would I be attracted to him? No.”
When my colleague said this, it struck a nerve. Yes, my podcast has been on the rise with the most successful day being just yesterday, but is it for all the wrong reasons?
I’ve been doing too much “focusing on the circle of concern” as of late.
The amount of Reactive Language I’ve been spewing out has been on the rise. The terms such as, “there’s nothing I can do – they want only white men, this teacher did this, they said something bad about me, they gossiped about me, I can’t, I must, if only I was…..” This has driven me to the state of mind I tried escaping all these years.
Instead of using the Reactive Language, I need to get back into the Proactive side of the equation: “let’s look at our alternatives, I can choose a different approach, I control my own feelings, I can create an effective essay, I will choose an appropriate response, I choose, I prefer, I will.”
In my podcasts, I’ve been including too much of the “circle of concern,” and the worst part about this is they are winning. Those who want to see me complain are laughing and pointing at me like, “yeah, useless little soul. We knew we can conquer you.”
It goes back to the days of slavery when slaves would react a particular way so the slave masters can do the unthinkable to them.
No, I’m not comparing my life to slaves, but it’s time to get back into the driving seat.
A situation occurred last night whereas my colleague and I were drinking on top of the roof of my condo. People, often giving us dirty looks, were looking at us and seeing what we were doing. Shortly after, two security guards approached us, took pictures, and told us not to drink.
Now, for them to know that we were drinking….one of the “Thais” had to tell them, which then puts me back into that historical side again saying, “I bet if they were two anglos, they would’ve never said anything.”
Fact and matter is I called it into existence with how my paradigm is at the moment. That historical side is coming back and that’s the very side I’ve tried slaying for so many years.
So, enough is enough. With my blogs, podcasts and everything I’m engaged in, I’m back on track. No more referencing those people because they no longer exist.
“Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about. The nature of their energy is positive, enlarging, and magnifying, causing their Circle of Influence to increase.
Reactive people, on the other hand, focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern. They focus on the weakness of other people, the problems in the environment, and circumstances over which they have no control. Their focus results in blaming and accusing attitudes, reactive language, and increased feelings of victimization. – Stephen Covey
Sound familiar? Yeah. That’s it. Media this, old-anglo foreigner with purchased wife this, Thai people this, etc.
The line has been drawn. I was backtracking for a moment, but now I’ve come back to my senses and the inspiring figure is back!