I wish I still had the message from the last time I had an insane threat from a Thai girl who worked for Thai Airways. She said something like, “I’ll get you black-listed from my country and get dangerous people to kick your face in.” The most eye-opening and jaw-dropping part of it was I was just taking a survey and asked her to do the survey. Could you believe that? Since then, I never joined that website again because quite frankly, that’s pretty terrifying. Never have I gotten a threat like that before in my life. Yes, I got robbed in broad daylight outside my high school back in 2003 — a moment my brother called “foolish” — but nothing from a GIRL…..!
Why am I telling you this story? This created one of the most negative perceptions ever of Thai women and I told myself to stay the hell away from them for the next three months. I was scared, as one should and would be in this situation.
Cobwebs, which has a dark shroud over one’s thinking, is probably clogging your view and perception on what reality….IS. Before the personal development realm of things, I was just one of those people who would complain, complain, and complain about everything and everyone who did me bad.
“Sometimes we have undesirable habits and we want to correct them. And there are times when we are strongly tempted to do wrong. Then, like an insect caught in a spider’s web, we struggle to get free. Our conscious will is in conflict with our imagination and the will of our subconscious mind. The more we struggle, the more we become entrapped.”
Struggle and entrapped. Most of you are probably trapped. Let me put it this way, what do you think of black/muslim people? Honestly, you reading this (not muslim or black), whatever came into your mind at that specific moment, if negative, means you’re suffering from intolerance — one of the most critical pillars of success for one to attain.
One thing you will always have inherent control over is your mental attitude. My new colleague, who’s a wonderful Filipino woman, is like my personal affirmation. She tells me “PMA, PMA, PMA,” in times of turmoil (visa fiasco). Why does she say this? Because if I see it over and over, just like anything else in the world, it would be imbedded into my subconscious mind.
In terms of thinking accurately, which I talked about in Napoleon Hill’s last book, you must use reason.
“One of the cobwebs of our thinking is to assume that we act from reason alone when in reality every conscious act is the result of doing what we want to do. We make decisions. There is a tendency, when reasoning, to draw conclusions favorable to the strong inner urges of our subconscious mind. And this tendency exists in everyone—even the great thinkers and philosophers.”
Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks.
The Story of Socrates
“Then there was Socrates, the great Athenian philosopher who lived from 470 B.C. to 399 B.C. He has gone down in history as one of the outstanding thinkers of all time. Wise as Socrates was, there were cobwebs in his thinking, too.
As a young man Socrates fell in love with Xanthippe. She was very beautiful. He wasn’t good looking, but he was persuasive. Persuasive individuals seem to have the ability to get what they want. Socrates was successful in persuading Xanthippe to marry him.
Are you seeing only the mote in the other fellow’s eye? After the honeymoon was over, things didn’t go along so well at his house. His wife began to see his faults. And he saw hers. He was motivated by egoism. He was selfish. She was always nagging him. Socrates reportedly said, “My aim in life is to get on well with people. I chose Xanthippe because I knew if I could get on well with her, I could get along with anyone.
That is what he said. But his actions disproved his words. It is questionable that he tried to get on well with more than a few. When you always try to prove to persons whom you meet that they are wrong, you repel rather than attract as Socrates did.
Yet he said that he endured Xanthippe’s nagging for his own personal self-discipline. But he would have developed real self-discipline had he tried to understand his wife and to influence her through the same considerate attentions and expressions of love that he used in persuading her to marry him. He didn’t see the beam in his own eye, but he saw the mote in Xanthippe’s eye.
Of course, Xanthippe wasn’t blameless either. Socrates and she were just like many husbands and wives living today. After their marriage they neglect to continue to communicate their true feelings of affection, understanding, and love to each other. They neglect to continue to employ the same pleasing personalities and mental attitudes that made their courtship such a happy experience. Negligence is a cobweb, too.”