My mother, who took four children in all by herself, did a magnificent job at parenting.
My mother, who hasn’t spoken or communicated with me via voice in 5 years, doesn’t really care about me.
Can you see the difference?
We often times point out the negatives of our past, but it’s really time to start looking at the positives.
I’m going to give you some techniques on how to achieve, but first, this is how you can rewire your brain.
So, I was taken in by a job and was given work for 3.5 years. I had the opportunity to work at about 4 different companies, worked at one of the biggest companies in Thailand, worked at a university (tracing back my roots to this country and close that part of my life off) and saw one of my students’ parents (who speaks excellent English now). I had the opportunity to teach some brilliant students from one of the best universities in Thailand. I had projects because a lady believed in my ability and I realized my ability while living there, pushing myself to greater heights by resigning and moving onto the biggest projects of my life.
See, that’s called acknowledging your positive past.
Sure, I could’ve pointed out all the negative, but all of the negatives were character building moments that set me up for this monumental moment right now.
in 2003, there was a bone-head taunting the marching band of Rancho High School. I sat behind these two thug-spewing neanderthals as they berated the band and threw things at us. I said, “enough” as I was looking at my friend Carlos. I removed my hat, walked over to the stairs and made my way up before losing it. There were a cluster of adjectives coming out of my mouth.
My brother, who had gotten injured playing basketball, was in a cast. He then said, “ughhh you ain’t gon be talking to my brotha like dat!” He stood up and people started running over — instigators — is what I call them.
At that very moment, it was a family moment. It was an older brother protecting his younger brother against the wrestling team of Rancho High School. How about that?!
Nakhon Si Thammarat, I’m going to be grateful for this place. I went to this province in the south of Thailand in hopes to find my alchemy. I failed, but I met some wonderful people along the way. So many of my students from a particular school loved me because I was so charismatic. I went to a wedding and this lady asked me, “hey, you’re always in a good mood, come fishing with me.” I was approached my two sisters who spoke fluent English. They recently lived in my Native Las Vegas and worked at a hotel that I would routinely pass by when going to work. They had also lived in Hawaii, a place I visited just 6 months prior. The women at the gym loved me. Both had a boyfriend/husband, respectively, but you can see it in their eyes (LOL!).
Guys, I’ve just gone over the simplest way to acknowledge your positive past, and here are some additional ways.
If you’re 21, break it down in three increments (birth – 7; 8 – 14; 15 – 21).
Whatever age you are, divide it by three.
just before you go to bed, stand in front of a mirror and appreciate yourself for what you accomplished during the day. Start with a few seconds of looking directly into your eyes.
Any achievements – business, financial, educational, personal, physical, emotional.
Disciplines: exercise, reading, meditation
Temptations you never gave into: Ex: my eating gummy bears habit.
When you start doing this exercise, you’ll realize that all that junk, negative internal self-talk will totally vanish.
Make key deposits into your relationships, friendships, parents everyday. Fill those bank accounts with positivity and rewards. If you succeed at something, whatever you craved as a child, take yourself (and even your children) with you to get that craving.