It was a coaching session like no other; in fact it was with a significant language barrier in between the both of us.
I first received a message from one of the girls that works at a place I’m part-timing at. She said she wanted to talk to me about something serious, so I immediately thought something went bad — AGAIN — at work in regards to a student.
However, that wasn’t the case. Previously i had coached one of my colleagues to snap out of her depression, and it worked. So, the second staff member approached me and it was time to be the coach.
I made her do the “Wheel of Life” podcast and she became aware of what was going on in her life. On a scale 1-10, and rating 8 categories, her highest mark was seven, which didn’t make any sense. So her outer feelings and what is going on in her life is very apparent. Here’s what she had.
Health – 5 – low blood pressure, dizzy, tired quickly
Wealth – 3 – no car, home, business, can’t take care of mother,
Career – 1 – absent-minded, indecision
Personal Development – 0 – cannot create happiness
Physical Environment – 3 – high competition, selfishness
Fun & Hobbies – 0 – no time or money
Family & Friends 7 – friends are there but not all
Physical Environment – 4
Romantic Relationships – 4 – lots of negative feelings towards love (6 entries)
So, here is what she wrote down (via google translate), and as you scan see, it focuses primarily on what she doesn’t have. There’s conditioning happening here, which is not unusual, but she’s holding onto a lot of past things that aren’t suitable anymore.
Health revolves around her personal development. Tired quickly, gets dizzy, etc….there could be a massive deficiency on so many levels in terms of vitamins, nutrients, minerals — but remember — it’s not what you see on the surface. It’s much deeper than that.
Wealth is a fixed mindset. She focuses on things she doesn’t have that I don’t have. I don’t have a car or own a home, either. It all depends on preferences, and because she believes success relates to materialistic things, she thinks she’s a failure for not having these things.
Physical Environment, in a place where competition is very high and ignorance amongst her colleagues, of course she’s going to hate it. Little money? Of course! But why do you continue doing something that gives you no ROI? Is she happy doing the job? No way.
What to do?
What are her beliefs? What negative beliefs does she have on the subjects above? She needs to write them down and then write down something outrageously opposite from her belief. This is when it begins to change. You have to get rid of all the “have nots and don’t haves” and turn them into positive, reassuring statements because the subconscious doesn’t know what’s right from wrong. It just takes in everything you feel, and in her case, she feels like complete s***.
Put one good food into her diet a day. There are plenty of mood-boosting foods out there in the world.
Career is a toss-up. I can’t ask her what she does, but she definitely needs to do the “how to find your life purpose” questionnaire to get somewhat guidance.
Hate your job? Time to change it. Hate something else? Drop it. I’m a super advocate for taking out negativity. My workplace has become an unbearable environment to be in over the last couple of weeks because of petty stuff. What have I done? Start looking for new work. That’s the basis. Is it long-term where you’re working? Ok, you need to pay the bills….keep doing that, but never take ignorant bosses berating you over your sanity. If that happens, goodbye. Trust me, you will find something when you stop a herd of negativity from coming into your life.