Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 65 – Developing Speaking – Afraid of Being Judged

Ahh, yes! The Fear of Judgement! In my podcast, I explain just this…but for those of you who want the writing, here it is!

It’s extremely important to understand that people who judge have insecurities within themselves. All too often we make decisions based on what strangers would like to see of us. Example, I’m sitting in a shopping center right now and I see people walking the same way, speaking to each other in the same tone, and not making weird movements that would make them “abnormal.” These people are “adapters: people who have adapted to society and fit within the lines of “normality”. Well, in order for you to become successful, you have to do loud, audacious things. People thought Jack Ma was out of his mind. People thought Bill Gates was ridiculous and even Steve Jobs. People, of older generations, still tell me to go back to school. These are the cynics of life. You’re not going to be able to go outside the norm and after your goals with this deadweight dragging you back and not allowing you to go after your uniqueness.


In 2015, I began investing into a wardrobe. I wanted to look the part. I wanted to be accepted in this society because the racial discrimination continued to bear down on me. So, the YouTube channels like RMRS was a huge influence to me and I took notes on how to wear particular things. I started out with a blazer, then worked my way up to a suit, more shirts, more suits, and continue going on and on. Sure, I was complimented maybe 2 times in 3 years, but because I live in Asia, it doesn’t matter what I wear — I was going to be judged based on my skin tone — no matter what the circumstances were or are. So, when I realized it, I turned it into a superpower and used it to a significant advantage.

As a NON-NES speaker, you will be judged. Your accent, pronunciation, everything. British teachers corrected me on how to speak Thai and they were saying it wrong the entire time. I couldn’t do it anymore and told them to “STFU.” So many people have said so many other things on a regular basis, including correcting my Thai. Do I care? Does that make me shy? Does that make me not want to speak Thai anymore? No way, because I know these individuals are looking to establish a sense of superiority over me by correcting me so they can feel better about themselves. I consider this to be a disorder, so make sure, everyone, never to be turned off by the ignorance of other individuals.


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