Sensitivity Breeds Perpetuity

I normally walk over a bridge to go home everyday — a pedestrian bridge.  When I get to the top of this particular bridge, normally there’s someone there sitting on the pavement — holding their hands to their face with a cup in front of them: “I need money.”  On some days, there’s an older lady there with what it seems to be a daughter/granddaughter.  These are the things that really upset me because those children don’t deserve to be included in the chaos.

Homeless.

A word and one of the most controversial topics.  I believe there are different degrees of homelessness.  We can’t compare homeless Americans to homeless Africans or Indians for the sake of governments.  In America, homeless people can get shelter every evening, meals, clothing and other things; in Africa, it’s a free-for-all.  Every man for themselves.

There was an interesting topic on a recent Ted video that sparked a debate (or what I thought was one) from a “therapist” (whatever that means).  A woman told me, “how about some sensitivity?”

Ok, I’m sensitive.

Now what?

Because of a collective and conjunction of bad choices, you’ve landed yourself on the streets.  I will jump in the defence of foster children, which is an incredibly detestable story.  However, everyone has different stories.  I’m not talking about homelessness in the likes of Somalia, India, Bangladesh and other places…..I’m talking about America.  Owning up and taking 100% responsibility for being in your position is the first thing you need to do.  This man on a Ted video said, “we should build homes for all homeless people.”  But, if you put a homeless person into a gorgeous home with a homeless mindset, the individual will still perpetuate a homeless lifestyle because he too, still has the homeless mindset.

In order to change the way someone is….you have to first change the mind.  The paradigm.  The habits.  I remember Charles Barkley made fun of Michael Jordan on an interview one-time — calling him “cheap.”  Michael Jordan didn’t give money to a homeless person.  Oprah Winfrey went on to comment, “well, I do agree because to a certain degree…you’re literally prolonging the hell with the individual.  If you give them money, they will believe that they don’t have to do anything.”

For example, I tried giving a homeless person food on a pedestrian bridge in Thailand — he denied it.  Yes, he denied food. The most quintessential gesture amongst homeless people here in Thailand.  Later, someone dropped some coins in the cup and he thanked them.

What does that tell you? Yes, the arguments such as “only some people deny this.  What about people in this country, and that country.  You’re not very sympathetic.  You’re not compassionate.”  Welcome to the University of Hard Knocks.  You’re homeless and you want other people to give you…..money.  Not food? “Only some people.”  I’ve heard that excuse already.  What if I go to a homeless person and give them….let’s say a book? Will he keep it?  Nope.  Although the book has everything he needs to get out of his rut — he denies that, too.

Napoleon Hill once took a man downstairs in his shop, unveiled a mirror after swiping away at the blanket that was covering it, pointed in the mirror and said, “that’s the only man that can help you.”

If I’m sensitive about the homelessness phenomenon in America, it won’t change the mind of homeless people.  One of my friend’s uncles said, “Arsenio, don’t make fun of homeless people.  They are quitters.”  Giving them homes will do what for them?  Changing their mind, however, can change their reality and the way they perceive it to be.  Clothe them, bathe them, do as you wish….but until the mind is changed, you’re perpetuating a global problem.

 

Napoleon Hill’s Failure – Identifying Your Turning Points — Part 1 of 2

While I do not mean to convey the impression that I believe all of our acts to be controlled by causes beyond our power to direct, yet I strongly urge you to study and correctly interpret those causes which mark the most vital turning-points of your life; the points at which your efforts are diverted – from the old into new channels – in spite of all that you can do.  At least refrain from accepting any defeat as failure until you shall have had time to analyze the final result. – Napoleon Hill

This is one of the funnest things to do in analyzing where you were and where you want to go.  Remember Steve Jobs said, “you can never connect the dots looking forward, only backwards.”  This is imperative and here’s what I came about with my turning points…I’m going to separate this into two podcasts and two blogs so not saturate everyone with so much information.

First Turning-Point: Bad Money In Chanthaburi.

My first job I got only 600$ USD a month, which is about 18,000 baht.  This salary, for any native English speaker, is downright criminal.  I wasn’t at the top of my game, but I was fresh in the world of teaching.  After being ridiculously threatened, berated, constantly scrutinized and talk badly to, receiving despicable looks from the parents because I was color, piss-poor working conditions and a bunch of empty promises – I had to make a massive financial decision.  My savings was plummeting and I was going to go 60 days without pay from October-November.  What did I do? I had to do what was in the best interest of me versus what other people wanted.

Second Turning Point: 10$ To My Name – Made An Oath

After trekking down to the south of Thailand to continue my teaching, I was hit with a financial disaster.  Having agreed to a 1000$ USD amount per month (which puts me in the top 50% of Native-English teachers in Thailand) I didn’t get paid for the month of October.  In saying that, November was going to be a very difficult; if not, the most difficult financial month of my life.  After borrowing money from my department head to last me for the month, I made an oath to myself: “I will never be this broke again.”  Having only 10$ to my name was one of the scariest moments of my entire teaching career here in Thailand.  10$! I had to do two-week visa runs because I didn’t have a visa or work permit; no family willing to transfer me money; no friends around to help me out; NOTHING! After finally getting a lump sum of money, I rejoiced and I never looked back.

Third & Fourth Turning Points Are In The Podcast Down Below.

Ask yourself the question, “have I overcome financial hardships? And when I did, did I improve on my life?”

 

Chia Seeds + Flak Seeds = Constipation Freedom!

Some of the best kept secrets in terms of food being the most powerful drug are kept so deep within a barracks it seems!  After having a good number of conversations the last 24 hours with nurses and doctors, I came across a brilliant video about superfoods (after teaching about brain foods) and realized the healthy benefits of Chia and Flak seeds.

Chia Seed Benefits

  • Skin ageing
  • Digestive Health
  • Heart health
  • Help treat diabetes
  • Boosts energy and metabolism.

 

Flak Seed Benefits

  • Lower cholesterol
  • Weight loss
  • Menopausal symptoms (especially for women here in Thailand)
  • Omega-3 Fatty
  • Gluten-free
  • Combats cancer

The beauty about Chia seeds are that they’re tasteless; therefore, if you throw a cup of it into a smoothie in the morning, or even blend it into a dressing, you’re good!  Flak can also reduce sugar cravings, which is probably one of the biggest things I have.  It has soluble and insoluble fiber which can help support colon detoxification.

After all the blogs I’ve written about Herbalife shake recipes, it’s time for all of you to get on both a remarkable way to combat constipation and try the smoothies once and for all.