Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | Habit #2 | Begin with The End in Mind

We’re back with Habit #2 with the self-scoring habits. It’s been a while, but over the next few days, I want you guys to score yourself, down below, on a scale 1-6….where you are.

  1. I know what I want to accomplish in my life.
  2. I organize and prepare in a way that reduces having to work in a crisis mode.
  3. I begin each week with a clear plan of what I desire to accomplish.

So, I know exactly what I want to accomplish in life, but I did know the “how to.” I know I’ve said before that “the how to” is none of your business, but figuring out achievable steps is unbelievably important.

So, organizing and preparing in a way that reduces having to work in crisis mode I scored very low on because my creativity had gone up with Bangkok shut down at the dawn of the New Year. Getting the message “sorry, all tutorial centers are shut down,” was not good AT ALL. But then I doubled-down on what I could do to put myself in a position to win. However, if I started my day with that same urgency without needing a shutdown to motivate me, everything would’ve changed.

And the last one, beginning with a clear plan each week, is not what I have either. However, I do have monthly targets in terms of goal-setting and targets that could be achieved.

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Inspirational Monday | Listening to Negative Thoughts

Negative emotions do not necessarily require a conscious effort for it to be experienced or communicated.  They are merely a symptom of unresolved stress. 

Example, when I moved here to Thailand in 2013, moments that stress that happened to me as a child resurfaced when I began to experience racism here, and then it amplified for YEARS and become my personality.  I was a victim of my thoughts. 

And to be honest, your emotions are not always related to conscious thought and effort. Some of you think you can just switch off negative thoughts, but the subconscious IS THE EQUATION. It’s behind the steering wheel….and this is when things become complicated because although you want to change, your subconscious mind is saying, “no no! Get in the trunk of the car! I control you!”

So, what positive action can you take today to ease old negative thoughts that no longer serve you?

I had to go DEEEEEEP within my subconscious mind and blow everything up in terms of limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns before giving myself unconditional love — the kind of unconditional love I have for my mother. Changing the 2016 image of myself looking defeated on a train to a chiseled specimen (no bs….and it worked!). Now, the “I’m not good enough for Thai women” has completely dispersed, and society has reacted in the exact same way. 

It could be undone, but you have to make the decision today. 

Give your negative thoughts a voice today. What is the deep, underlying message of it?

I had to go all the way back to kindergarten when I was made fun of in my class. I saw the event, subconsciously. I felt the feelings. I put myself in the event. But then the older version of me when up to the 6-year-old version of myself….hugged him, and gave him the power to FEEL again. To REGAIN that confidence. When I did that, that’s when my paradigm shifted.

You have to do the work.

The End of The Most Purposeful Relationship EVER!

This is going to be a long story, so brace yourself.

At the beginning of the lockdown, a friendship was born. Having already met this transformation coach last year through a mutual friend, she took me on a journey of renewal by doing a transformation program, life coaching, and healing sessions. 

This changed everything about who I am in the best possible way, and most importantly, it gave my inner child a voice again. 

This voice allowed me to have those tough/difficult conversations. 

When July had rolled around, I sensed the egoism coming from this individual because now she was doing work for a famous monk by the name of Jay Shetty. Working in his company, she began to cancel appointments, use condescending tones while speaking to me and about others, and really had a “I don’t give a f*** attitude.” 

There were a number of times I just wanted to get away from this individual, but of course Instagram is the main culprit in laying things to rest. 

I have a lot of people who follow/unfollow me, and after checking who unfollowed me this morning, it was her!

Sometimes we clutch onto things that should no longer be. Sometimes we’re scared of these moments actually happening because we don’t value our own dignity and self-worth. You know the purpose had been fulfilled with that particular someone coming into your life to take you to the next level, but you want to keep pursuing a friendship. The problem is, when egoism comes into play, you can either confront it, or just let things be. 

I labeled this my “purposeful” relationship because after everything had been handled in early August, the energy had shifted and took a turn. There was no more empathy and rather ambiguous exchanges. 

Gratitude, is what’s pouring from my heart because I’m grateful to have had such a purposeful relationship that opened the doors for me to bet on me. You should do the same. Stop pursuing things that have ended months/years ago and be an observer to what’s trying to emerge! 

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review – 2020 | Personal Development & Meta-questions

Personal Development score of 2020 is here, but it’s a little different from the 2017, 18, and 19 blog. I made this as actionable as possible for all of you who are looking for NLP style questions to navigate you into the unknown. The place that once you figure out the problem and identify it, then you can begin the process. This is the promise!

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International Guest Speaker | Benjamin of Norway | Self-renewal Journey

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! We got ourselves an amazing podcast/video today and it was all brought to you by the UNIVERSE. Benjamin had recently connected with me through Instagram and so I realized that he had such a voice, a journey, and things that I’ve been through, too. Born in Colombia but lived in Norway his entire life, it’s time for a personal development podcast on my ESL podcast, unlike anything you’ve ever heard before!

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | P/PC Balance

Here’s another great assessment for you to do to figure out if you have balance. Again, is work-life balance a myth? NOPE! It’s entirely up to you to be able to put your schedule together, to clear time out for loved ones, etc.

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Arsenio’s Business English Podcast | Season 6 | Sales | Features & Benefits

“Features tell but benefits sell. You’ve got to know the benefits of your product if you want to close.”

In today’s podcast, I discuss how Apple discusses all the features but without benefits, leading to me not buying any of their products in the last half-decade. 

I always beckon the question: “how will your product make my life easier?”

If you can’t answer that, I don’t buy.

So, in regards to my online teaching business, people have seen results just by listening to a 15-minute podcast. They actually get the benefits for free, and this is why my podcast sells itself because of the amazing content I give.

If you’re in sales, have a product, or service, these are things you MUST address.  Tune in!

Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | The Emotional Bank Account

Let’s get into scoring ourselves on a scale of 1-6 to see where we rank in these following areas. 

  • I show kindness and consideration to others
  • I keep promises and honor commitments
  • I do not speak negatively about others when they are present. 

Look at your life. In what ways do you show kindness and consideration to others? I’m very quick to think on my feet. It’s all a toss-up. I know that deep down inside, I’m a gorgeous soul, but when it comes to helping women in this country, it’s hit or miss.

In the morning, I helped a woman by getting off the treadmill, walking over to hers and turned it on for her (she didn’t know how to turn it on). She said thank you, and that was an amazing moment because the inner voice within me was like, “oh, look at you!” I quickly silenced him by saying “shut the f*** up.”

However, in the evening, you have a tendency of having hi-so (women who think they’re s*** don’t stink) walk in the lobby area and this lady knew i was behind her when we were both entering the lobby area of my condo. However, she opened the door only for her without giving me any leeway. So, not to get back at her, but I quickly went to the elevator and noticed that there was one at the bottom. Sure, I could’ve been the bigger person and keep the elevator door open for her, just because she was just about 4 meters back, but FUCK YOU.

So, it’s a toss-up.

The other two bullet points are in the podcast down below!

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review | Physical Environment

We’re kicking off the Wheel of Life blogs with Physical Environment! For those of you who have been listening to my podcast, thank you so much! Plays are becoming more consistent. Nonetheless, we’re reviewing the entire year this year, starting from Physical Environment and giving you a crazy amount of content towards Christmas in regards to career and personal development. In saying that, let’s look at the keys to my Physical Environment this year.

  • COVID Crisis and a four-month shutdown
  • Working from home
  • Quitting 3 workplaces because of them destroying my value system
  • Living in a place for money but absolutely hated everything from the workplace, environment, home, etc.

But now that we’re here towards the end of the year, I can honestly say that everything has changed. Because my awareness and putting me first, out of all things (and not putting money first), I’ve been able to take back my joy and I’m absolutely thrilled in all areas of my physical environment.

So, there were bumps and bruises throughout the year. Working for asshole companies that never put me first and subjugated me to racial discrimination, and terminating a 4-years-too-long relationship with a bunch of cunts who disrespected my integrity and lied to me for years.

However, now? I know whatever takes away my unhappiness, I will leave that environment. It’s not worth it. Having disagreements is all part of it, no problem. But if I’m dealing with people who persistently disrespects me, such as getting new students who complain about me, then I will drop those bitches like a bad habit.

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{Patreon Special} Arsenio’s Business English Podcast | Season 6: Episode 10 | Workplace Scenario B: How to Get New Employees Started {Podcast}

Welcome to another Patreon special! This specific podcast is now available on my Early Access Podcast and my Business English Podcast badge. The write-up questionnaire and buddy task will come later on tonight, so please stay tuned for that!

Here’s a 4-step process to getting new people started in the workplace. Because people have a tendency of shoulder-shrugging people’s first day at work, this could be extremely problematic for most people in the world because studies have shown that the first day of work will show how long an employee actually stays at that specific job. So, if you have a very lousy welcoming, more than likely you won’t stay there long. I’m a great testament to that, too. The worst the first day is, the quicker I quit. This is in three countries around the world, too. So, it’s time to figure out how organization can help potential employees’ future and development.

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