A doorbell rang in the early morning hours while Dale Carnegie was sleeping. This volunteer urged him to get vaccinated against Smallpox.
Yes, this is when the Smallpox epidemic made it’s way to America. 8 people had it at the time and 2 died. However, nurses and doctors were working feverishly to get everyone vaccinated in New York City.
However, no one rang is doorbell about the emotional sickness of worry? An illness that, during the same time period, had caused ten thousand times more damage than smallpox.
No one ever warned him about what nervous breakdowns can do?
How about obesity? A pandemic (what I consider to to be), that has killed more people than just about any other disease in America. More than 300,000 to be exact….now there maybe some illnesses out there that have a higher number, but you get the point I’m trying to make, right?
Dr. O. F. Gober – a medical executive of the Sante Fe Hospital Association said years ago, “seventy percent of all patients who come to physicians could cure themselves if they only got rid of their fears and worries. Don’t think for a moment that I mean that their ill are imaginary. Their ills are as real as a throbbing toothache and sometimes a hundred times more serious. I refer to such illnesses as nervous indigestion, some stomach ulcers, heart disturbances, insomnia, some headaches, and some types of paralysis. ”
Dr. W. C. Alvarez has said, “ulcers frequently flare up or subside according to the hills and valleys of emotional stress.”
There was a study done years ago where 15,000 patients were being treated for stomach disorders at the Mayo Clinic. Four out of five had no physical basis whatever for their stomach illnesses. Fear, worry, hate, supreme selfishness, and the inability to adjust themselves to the world of reality – these were largely the causes of their stomach illnesses.
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All human beings worry to some degree. That worry could be about fear of ill health, loss of love, financial situation, loss of a job, loss of everything in general. Would you like a quick, sure-fire recipe for handling worry situations?
Let me talk about Willis H. Carrier’s formula, which so many people have used for over a hundred years now. He was a brilliant engineer who launched the air condition industry (so this was almost a century ago) and he came across a huge project where he had to install a glass-cleaning device. Well, push came to shove – he failed at the installation.
“I was stunned by my failure. It was almost as if someone struck me a blow on the head. My stomach, my insides began to twist and turn. For a while I was so worried I couldn’t sleep.
Finally, common sense reminded me that worry wasn’t getting me anywhere; so I figured out a way to handle my problem without worrying. It worked superbly. I have been using this same anti-worry technique for more than thirty years.
Step 1. Analyze the situation fearlessly and honestly. Figure out what’s the worst that could possibly happen as a result of the failure or situation.
“No one was going to jail me or shoot me. That was certain. True, there was also a chance that I would lose my position; and there was also a chance that my employers would have to remove the machinery and lose the twenty thousand dollars we had invest.
Step II. After figuring out the worst that could possibly happen, accept it if necessary.
“I said to myself: This failure will be a blow to my record, and it might possibly mean the loss of my job; but if it does, I can always get another position. Conditions could be much worse; and as far as my employers are concerned – well, they realize that we are experimenting with a new method of cleaning gas, and if this experience costs them twenty thousand dollars, they can stand it. They can charge it up to research, for it is an experiment.
Step III. From that time on, devote your time and energy to improving upon the worst which you have to accept mentally.
In the end, he went from losing twenty thousand to making fifteen thousand because he made several tests by improving on the worst.
I probably would never have been able to do this if I had kept on worrying, because one of the worst features about worrying is that it destroys your ability to concentrate.
Since living here in Thailand, teachers have said: I’m black, too loud, too funny, not strict enough, too much charisma, gets all the work, brown noses, shouldn’t be a teacher, can’t write, bad at presenting. In addition to that, students have said: we want a white teacher, we want a handsome teacher, you’re too funny, we want to go page-by-page, we want that 150 year old traditional style teaching whereas a teacher writes a bunch of shenanigans on the board and we copy it.
Is this part of leadership? Well, just know in every field of human endeavour, you’re going to get that white light of publicity. When you start doing good and start making a name for yourself, the envy will be there waiting for you. The reward of the publicity and recognition; the punishment, fierce denial and detraction. It could become a target for the envious few or envious many. When you do something mediocre, they’ll leave you alone. When you achieve a masterpiece, it will set a million tongues a-wagging.
You’re never going to get the “seal of genius” stamp in what you do. I’ve had people who said my writing was appalling; conversely, my college professors would give me straight A’s on my papers. The one who said I couldn’t write to save my life never majored in English….get the drift? There are parasites and bacteria out there that are trying to find a way to harvest anywhere on your body…and I’m not speaking literally. The comments and negative opinions of others are just that….parasites and bacteria.
The Penalty of Leadership is monstrous. The moment I created a curriculum that enabled others to get a lot more work, there wasn’t a ‘thank you’ anywhere in the vicinity. The pessimism grew even larger because the fact and matter is that my image is being created in a way that will alter the trajectory of colored people worldwide. If you’re not ready to strap on your helmet and barrel through the cynicism, criticism, haughty and antagonists, I suggest you stick to the 9-5 job.
Ahhhh….I stood before a class, the same class I haven’t seen in four years, with the biggest smile on my face. The energy that was beaming out of me was utter elation. The smiles on their faces seeing me speaking like a completely transformed being compared to what I was just two years prior.
More than 700 days of not seeing them, how was I able to change my language, the way I speak, and my life in general? Well, the beginning of 2016 was the difference maker when I picked up a Napoleon Hill book and realized everything about myself was wrong and toxic. Just this past week, as I’m still learning, I dumped one of the worst habits which revolves around labelling myself as a “black man” while playing the victimization role. I’ve never felt this great before in my life after waking up the hero and believing in myself. The negative language and the pity parties are gone. The people who seemingly cry about everything…..gone. Everything has changed and I’m utterly grateful for it.
Let that phrase sink in it bit. We have been conditioned and categorized our entire lives like a damn canned food item at our local food market. Labels – such as disabled, black, white, muslim, buddhist, liberal, conservative….all of which has divided this world completely over the last…150 years? Maybe?
Let’s say you came out the womb today, what would you be? What name would you have? Everything has been given to us from our baby years, to our adult years.
In Thailand, I’m just a “black man.” Therefore, the stereotypes that come with “black men” are: pimp, drug-dealer, thief, convict, hooligan, among so many other names. However, if I was white, I would be deemed as a holy being that is rich and lovely.
I love what Muhammad Ali said during an interview four decades ago back in England.
“Momma, how come Jesus is white? Blonde hair and blue eyes? Angels are white? How come everyone in the last supper is white?”
“Momma, when we die, we will go to heaven, right?”
Mother answers, “naturally we will.”
Muhammad Ali, “well are there any black angels up there?”
“Oh, I know. The white angels are up in heaven, too. So, the black angels are in the kitchen preparing the milk and honey.”
-Tarzan was the king of the jungle in Africa – he was white.
-Miss America was always white.
-The angel fruitcake was the white cake and the devil fruitcake was the chocolate cake.
-The president lives in the white house.
-Snow White was white.
On The Other Hand
-The ugly duckling was a black duck.
-The black cat was bad luck.
-If I’m going to threaten you I’m going to blackmail you.
At the end of the conversation, he told his story about winning an olympic gold medal and went back home standing tall – hoping to get something to eat in a restaurant in Louisville, Kentucky where things weren’t integrated back then. He sat down, ordered….and the woman said, “we don’t serve negroes.”
He replied, “well I don’t eat them either! Go back there and fix me my food!”
He was thrown out…but the point I’m trying to make is this has been imbedded in our subconscious minds since the picture was invented. How come every love story revolves around a white character? Honestly, sit down and think about it. The Jetsons, the Flintstones, the Rugrats, Doug Funny, Salute Your Shorts, Are You Afraid of The Dark, Nickelodeon was an extremely white network. However, the only somewhat “black” cartoon I saw while I was young was Bebe’s Kids. A bunch of bad a$$ African Americans.
I wish I was making this up, but unfortunately….it’s true.
This labelling has to be abolished in humanity wants to move forward. Is it going to be overnight – NO! It’s going to take an individual sticking up for other individuals. If you see someone being mistreated anywhere for their gender, creed, color, it’s up to you to butt in and do what’s right. When these things start to happen, the influences that are left behind on passerbys will stick with them forever.
One person at a time.
Do the right thing.
Finally! After literally ten days of promising, I’ve posted this blog for you and you can see how amazing it is to save money and how it can grow. Can you do this with a low-risk mutual in a compounding environment? Possibly. That’s why I tell everyone who views my blog to get in touch with your financial advisers (free to speak to them) or consultants to ask questions!
There are those who are short-sighted and fond of pointing to the fact that no one can actually become financially dependent by saving a few dollars a week. However, this creates habit, which is what I’ve been talking about for quite some time already – and will ultimately lead to you taking advantage of endless opportunities that could present themselves in the future.
Most people have the habit of gambling, drinking, excessive entertaining, and just throwing money away. Imagine this for a quick second….just imagine you received a check from someone. What’s the first thing that comes to mind? HOW TO SPEND IT! This is what most people in the world experience. We think more of how we are going to spend what we received rather than saving it.
The idea of saving, and the self-control and self-sacrifice which must accompany it, is always accompanied by thoughts of unpleasant nature, but oh, how it does thrill one to think of SPENDING. – Napoleon Hill
The habit now saving must become a regular, well grounded, systematic habit. It requires more force of character than most people have developed. In doing this, the other needed habits which lead to success: especially Self-control, Self-confidence, courage, poise and freedom from fear.
Copy the following formula and place it conspicuously in your room where you will see it as you retire at night and as you arise in the morning.
First: You must master the habit of procrastination and eliminate it from your make=up. This habit of putting off until tomorrow that which you should have done last week or last year or a score of years ago is gnawing at the very vitals of your being, and you can accomplish nothing until you throw it off.
The method through which you eliminate procrastination is based upon a well known and scientifically tested principle of psychology which has been referred to in the two preceding lessons of this course as Auto-Suggestion.
Having chosen a definite chief aim as my life-work I now understand it to be my duty to transform this purpose into reality.
Therefore, I will form the habit of taking some definite action each day that will carry me one step nearer the attainment of my definite chief aim.
I know that procrastination is a deadly enemy of all who would become leaders in any undertaking, and I will eliminate this habit from my make-up by:
a. Doing some one definite thing each day, that ought to be done, without anyone telling me to do it.
b. Looking around until I find at least one thing that I can do each day, that i have not been in the habit of doing, and that will be of value to others, without expectation of pay.
c. Telling at least one other person, each day, of the value of practicing this habit of doing something that ought to be done without being told to do it.
I can see that the muscles of the body become strong in proportion to the extent to which they are used, therefore I understand that the habit of initiative also becomes fixed in proportion to the extent that it is practiced.
I realized that the place to begin developing the habit of initiative is in the small, common-place things connected with my daily work, therefore I will go at my work each day as if I were doing it solely for the purpose of developing this necessary habit of initiative.
I understand that by practicing this habit of taking the initiative in connection with my daily work I will be not only developing that habit, but i will also be attraction the attention of those who will place greater value on my services as a result of this practice.
It’s that one thing that will help you in the morning and fuel that burning desire (or lack thereof). Creating a routine in the morning is difficult, but after trying a variety of things in 2016, I have a morning routine as follows.
On the days that I’m off, I fall completely out of my routine (bad habit that I’m still trying to destroy) if I don’t write anything on my to-do list.
So, in addition to what I’ve said above, here’s a video (Tony Robbins – I’m Not Your Guru) that has an excellent morning routine that a lot of people can adopt. Recounting the three things you’re most grateful for, going back to your earliest childhood memory, and feeling everything about those moments of pure joy. It starts at 1:43:00 and finishes at about 1:49:00-1:50. You need to view this video from a desktop/notebook.
Bomb Those Distractions
On one of the most important days of my professional life, I woke up at 3am and couldn’t go back to sleep because I glanced at my phone. This is one of the problems I have with leaving my phone inside my bedroom. GET IT OUT!
Also, you should NOT tune into the news for the first 1 hour of the day because I can tell you right now that it will leave a very lasting impression on you compared to looking at it later in the morning. You will see yourself bitching much faster and sending that bitchy information to other people who bitch so you can bitch together and have a bitch breakfast and bitch morning. Get the drift?
Social Networking – I’m Not talking about FB, Twitter and Co
I never….EVER….EVER….EVER have a problem with the main social networking sites out there controlling my habits. I will admit one malicious habit is social chat apps, which in actuality drops my defences because the amount of racist that’s dished out at me. Yet, I still get on them? Foolish.
However, I bombed them all AGAIN just two days ago and the productivity not only went up 200%, but I also regained control of my happiness. I love to ask myself “what’s 80% of my unhappiness right now?” There’s one particular individual who I will never talk to again for as long as I live, and there are the social chatting apps such as horrendous Tinder, Skout, Badoo, etc. In my personal opinion, I think this is probably the worst of them all because it’s not only time-consuming, but the headaches you get involved with where again….you go out and bitch about these men seeking women as objects to your friends and that 1 hour later you’re talking about why there aren’t any good men in the world. STEER CLEAR!
Those are my distractors. I’ve recently taken them out….and now I have control.
What are yours?
Through the years (especially the last four years), I’ve seen myself grow into a maginificent being. Today marks my 29th birthday, and I must say I’m so unbelievably grateful for the last year. More ups than downs, but I consider downs to be ups, too. The learning process along the way and the endless, life-long learning I’ve committed myself to is going to push me to some of the greatest heights in my life.
The last 365 days have been life-transforming with trips to Bali, Kuala Lumpur, Los Angeles, and Phoenix. Along the way I was met with laughs, smiles, best friends, competitions galore, hi-fives with strangers and pure joy.
The last 365 days has been the most exhilarating of my life. The self-development department and the constant insipiration I give to the thousands of listeners across the world is another massive achievement in its own. Podcast in iTunes, website, and the development of my book has been a dragging process, but now the payoff is here.
From where I was 4 years ago when I had to battle through the constant colorism and racism, to be being on top of a mountain in grassy fields (metaphorically speaking) is not only what I needed, but what everyone needs in their life. Through all the dark clouds, haze, mist and fog in life is freedom. On the other side of fear – is freedom. Pushing yourself physically, mentally and emotionally is all part of the process in unfolding the best versions of ourselves, and I encourage you to do it, too.
Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11865068