MERRY CHRISTMAS to ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE AROUND THE WORLD!
Yes, did it in caps because it’s a big deal.
Guys and gals, Christmas is celebrated in some cultures as a religious holiday, but I celebrate it as a day to live, love, and laugh. I don’t go to church, nor do I have a religion. My religion is universal (like the universe) unity. I try to spread as much love into the atmosphere as possible…..so for those of you with different customs, cultures, creed and other things, don’t let people say to you, “you can’t celebrate Christmas because it’s a Christian holiday.” No, it’s a holiday at the end of the year whereas you can look back and enjoy how much you’ve progressed.
This year has been a year of change, progression, obstacles, and unbelievable rewards. If I talk about countries I’ve traveled to, it’s been the biggest success in my life. Personal development has definitely been the best EVER. Career, although with the current blockage going on for the next couple of weeks, has been on the rise. How so? Because life doesn’t revolve just around a primary job. My podcast, YouTube, speaking, writing, etc., has gone up significantly. Better yet, let me just break down each one by category.
Career – 9.5
I think the majority of this came at around May when I began to rebel against the primary “job.” I felt that the job had gone stagnant. It was the same thing happening over and over. Same bs wage while the upper folks make hundreds of thousands/millions of baht….so then I got a phone call. That “thing” was accepted, that lead to two projects, that’s leading to two massive projects in back-to-back months (February). Just get this – everyone. If I hadn’t accept that job on the weekend, I wouldn’t have gotten all these opportunities to begin with. That moment they told me they had someone of power….I hurried to say, “ok.” I accepted it, and I had to battle with this lose-ended, primary job (pretty much finished) to keep it. That lead to three massive projects throughout the year that lead me to million baht earners.
Enough with that. Podcast? I think over 100 countries listened to me worldwide. YouTube? So many countries tune into my videos around the world. Book? Twitter? Instagram? Interviewing people all over America? CHECKS ALL AROUND!
Hobbies & Fun – 8.5
It wasn’t even the Tough Mudder, Spartan Race (2x), and going to Maldives that made this an 8.5, but it was more of the decision that I made just a few weeks ago, cancelling a morning class to be around entrepreneurs and great people. I’ve been neglecting “fun” in my diet for so long. I would work 9 hours on Saturday and Sunday, but ultimately make the same wage for the last four years? I mean I had no idea I can work two hours in Bangkok and make the same wage in 2 there compared to 9 in the outskirts. So, now that my time is free(ing) up, and now that I’m preparing for my new life, I’m definitely going to incorporate “fun” into my life next year on a routine basis. Now, does that mean going out? Nope. I hate going out unless it’s a business meeting and socializing to make connections. I’m talking about meeting likeminded people and having time to myself and for my my projects. No more 8-11 hour days on garbage wages. It’s time for 2-4 hour days and have the rest of the day to do big things. Nonetheless, It’s beginning to happen!
Wealth – 9.5
Look, I was able to to go back to America, travel to Sedona, layovers in Korea, Singapore and Japan, Maldives, Malaysia, do two Spartan races while staying at the Sheraton for the first time in my life. These are massive accomplishments; and with all of with being stated, I still have the most saved up at the end of the year at any point in my life.
Yes, Crypto currency is what I’m going to start looking into to top off the year (so I have extra money on the side), but the wealth will come when I start looking. Well, that has come and gone. Why? I realized that I can get paid 450% more per hour working in Bangkok then my current job. I want to make more money in less time. If I can work two-hours a day, amassing a total of a nine-hour work day at my present job, it’s time to go!
Big ideas, projects, jobs, and places to grow is coming up!
Personal Development – 9.5
Dale Carnegie’s ‘How To Stop Worrying & Start Living’ helped the HELL out of me this year. I’m going to tell you why. If I think about the current job situation going on – the company having a ‘secret santa’ without me, although they employ some of the most malicious teachers….what’s the worse that can happen? They fire me, and then my work permit automatically cancels and I can begin the new life at the beginning of the year. That worse case scenario is a golden case scenario.
Physical Environment – 9.0
Because I was able to take the risk of be ostricized at my present workplace, I was rewarded with three massive projects, two unique students, and the teaching of millionaires. This is what made my physical environment skyrocket. The things that happened the way they did were suppose to happen. Because they did, I decided to move to a very gorgeous area of Bangkok. If I can just sit here and close my eyes, envisioning how it would be spending Christmas at my old condo, I would be depressed. Same neighborhood, same people, same lifestyle. Enough was enough…and now I just went running down these gorgeous streets where everyone was smiling. It’s out there, people. You just have to search for it.
Health – 8.5
Tough Mudder in Phoenix, Spartan Super in Malaysia, Spartan Sprint in Chon Buri, Thailand. My body has transformed, I workout at the best gym ever and I’m around a supporting cast of people, and now that I’m living in my new place, I cook more often because I have an AMAZING kitchen.
Family & Friends – 4
This category took a massive hit. From a best friend completely disappearing on me after cancelling my trip, to two individuals who I thought were developing friends vanishing. What to do in the new year? In the podcast.
Romantic Relationships – X
Although I did have a couple of opportunities this year to make something happened, it ultimately failed on me. Funny stories in the podcast down below!
Chris Lee, a brilliant transformational coach, said this in Lewis Howes podcast: “Every boy in America learns by the time they’re in junior high school to associate masculinity with issues of sexual conquest. What’s it mean to be a man? It means you can bring some young girl alongside of yourself and then use her. Use her to either gratify some kind of physical need, or use her to validate some kind of masculine insecurity. That certainly does not make you a man—it makes you a user of other human beings.”
I won’t point at any cultures and not make this religious, but there are certain religions that women are treated as just objects. They can’t do half the things men can do. Boys rights, at the ages of 13-15, are much higher than those of women. That’s the terrifying aspect of I guess “sexism,” but at the same time, Chris Lee is basically saying that when it comes to adolescence, everything begins to change.
I even recall this kid named Jonathan talking about the female reproductive organ in a song he was rapping — in the sixth grade! He was talking about how much he loved it. He was 12! I didn’t even know what it was, to be honest!
Lewis Howes, hilariously, talked about in his book that he had an uncontrollable erection. My sweet craving days have been with me for a long time, but like sweets, Lewis Howes had erections. He would have to walk around the school with his shirt untucked because he was afraid of people seeing it. I thought it was hilarious, but at the same time, we’ve all been through that stage. Were there times in high school that I had a staring problem — followed by an arousal problem? Of course!
However, I didn’t have a father figure in my life after 1999. In the dawn of the millennium, I remember seeing my brother watch a movie that had a sex scene in it. Because I was so naive, I asked myself “what is he doing to her?” LOL!
I remember seeing magazines scattered in the park, opening them, and seeing the female reproductive organ before saying to myself, “that’s interesting!” Another “LOL!”
The first time I ever made out was sophomore year of high school. I had no idea what was happening, but it went on for a long time. That escalated over a month and it came to me and the same girl being in the middle of the school, at night, and her saying, “LET ME SEE IT!” I was embarrassed. NO WAY!
My mom, like most mothers, never sat me down and said, “ok, Arsenio. This is this…if you do this without this, you’re in trouble.” Hahaha. It just never happened.
This is the same story that revolves around Neil Strauss.
“So what happens is you go through puberty at age 13, and then for the next 8 years in my case, there’s this thing that can make you a man, but you don’t own it or possess it. Someone else either has to give it to you or share it with you, and the longer you don’t get it, the less of a man you feel like. I remember my friend, who was like my only friend in school, we called ourselves the “v-club” because we were both virgins. The whole experience created this incredible gulf between me and women, and me and manhood, and it built up this huge desire.”
Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.
Psychologist from two prominent universities in America published an article 10 years ago….
“In the article, the authors recognized that college-age men, especially in fraternities, who failed to meet the stereotypical definitions of masculinity (men kind of like Neil) were more likely to turn to more negative forms of male socialization in order to play catch-up in the male world. That meant binge drinking, fighting, and casual sex with lots of partners.
The problem with this—besides the obvious risk of disease or enraged exes—is if you don’t get past this phase, you end up just feeling empty. Or worse, you get stuck in the cycle.”
Fraternities, with all respect, are the worst. Sorry. I’ve seen it first hand (not being in one, but being at parties where they hosted), and it’s all about who can have sex. I mean let’s even look at it from a clubbing aspect. Why do women and men go to the club? Honestly, I really want you to think about it. To drink copious amounts of alcohol while enduring in blaring music? Come on.
I had one friend say a while back, “I go there to dance with my friends.” Ummm….you would go to a club late at night to dance with friends instead of sleeping?
Possible — if insanity is involved.
Every woman Neil saw he fantasized of jumping in bed with them; if it was in an airplane, or even at the park. It controlled him so much that he had to check-in to a rehab center for sexual habits. The sexual mask had completely taken over his life.
“What I thought was freedom really wasn’t freedom. The freedom was in the commitments. But if you think about it, “Okay I’m gonna be single or unattached, or I’m just gonna be able to do whatever I want,” it’s like a bird that’s not able to land; it gets exhausting. And going through the processes, by which I was actually able to kind of get rid of my baggage and be intimate in a relationship and not feel trapped, just opened up everything.”
Around Sukhumvit Soi 4 there are a number of stands selling bootlegged electronics, clothes, and even sexual toys. On these dilapidated sidewalks are hundreds of sex tourists stalking out their prey. Sadly enough, their prey are just next to these stands – small bars with music and about three girls wearing very little and shaking their boobs, lunging out trying to grab their potential customers’ hands.
There are alleys, side-streets, bars, clubs, and everything else that applies that fulfils the needs of these men who have come from all parts of the world to deep-dive into a sexual trance.
Welcome to my world.
Is all of Thailand like this? No. There are gorgeous, poshy areas just up the road; and there are some excellent business districts where working class Thais live. However, from where I work now, to the individual I ran into just a couple weeks ago talking about: “hey, I had sex with this girl and that girl — oh, wait, my girlfriend is calling me.” This is what drives most foreign men to insanity — the constant need of sexual fulfillment.
Lewis Howes talked about a man named Neil Strauss in his book. This is an individual who created a book in terms of becoming a “pick-up artist.” He was, and probably continues to be that master. He found himself in the middle of a “free-for-all” sex party in the heart of Paris. A woman approached him and said, “I just want ________ in me.”
Neil went on to quote with Lewis Howes: This is the kind of woman I fantasized about as a teenager: an indiscriminate one. And more than anything I’ve experienced so far, this seems like free sex—because there’s no spiritual baggage, drug baggage, or even much relationship baggage around it. In fact, there’s no baggage or encumbrances whatsoever, just randomly intersecting body parts.”
That was the beginning of his downfall. What he thought was going to be a utopia in the states after coming back – turned into a nightmare with three jealous ex’s.
“When Neil began writing The Game, he was, by his own admission, a sexual amateur. Worse than that, he was what he calls an AFC (average frustrated chump). The story is his introduction to the secret society of “pickup artists”—men who make finding and sleeping with lots of women their primary purpose in life, like a game. Strauss told his editor that he wanted to write about this community because it was interesting. In reality, he was tired of being alone and feeling like a loser. At one sad point in his life, Neil had even considered finding a mail-order bride. He tells the story of having been on the road with the band Mötley Crüe for a book he was writing and not even getting a kiss from a single girl. By almost every definition of what it means to be a “man” in America, Neil felt like a failure and was less than guys who were having lots of sex.”
Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.
And this is what I see everyday of my life here in Thailand. Is it the ultra-successful group I’m engaged in at my gym? No, but I used to be a part of a relationships where one of my colleagues would invent lies about him sleeping with dozens of women per week while having a wife – or was it?
It’s like what I see now. Several months ago I saw an anglo-foreigner holding hands with a 20 year old university student while all Thais watched, aghast. Just two months ago I saw what a appeared to be a 70-year-old homeless man, his 45-year-old son, and a 15-year-old girl in a restaurant. I was flabbergasted at the fact that Thais thought it was normal, but what I was witnessing was two older men touching a girl and scooting even closer to her in the horseshoe-type sitting area.
This is what makes me furious. From the men that come here to buy/marry a wife, to one’s who come here to engage in pedaphilia….because they’re “anglo,” it’s still considered “ok.”
And, then, when Arsenio Buck applies for jobs online, they quickly ask for a photo to see the complexion of my skin, resulting in a quick decision not to hire me because I’m colored.
Going back to Neil Strauss’ Story. Men think sleeping with a number of women at the same time is considered to be “cool.” Neil Strauss slept with scores of women, as most 25-30-year-old anglo men would do here in Thailand, and became the number one pick-up guy in the world.
Is that a nice title to have?
Lewis Howes says, “you might think that you want that, but you’re wrong.”
Still one of my favorite podcast interviews I’ve done. Since I’ve hit the milestone of podcasts interviews (the Big 5), I’m now reposting this one (not sure if I even did a blog on it), which was an unbelievable pleasure.
Teemaree, being an author and now taking her acting very seriously, was just a human being emanating with so much love and wisdom. Her book titled love for you now is on amazon and talks about affirmations. Affirmations that we sometimes don’t know we have, but we do.
Remember, affirmations can be good or bad, and we normally re-affirm to ourselves negative self-talk over and over everyday and we don’t even realize it.
One of those re-affirming affirmations for me was, “Thai women hate black men and Thai women are racist.” For the first two years, and even seeping into 2016, I destroyed my image completely. However, before I came here, I met a dozen friends online (here in Thailand) and befriended some pretty awesome people in the first few months. After the events had taken place the way they did in southeast Thailand, I decided to go to an even more racially plagued province (not knowing it was), and the idea of being “black” in the most “anti-black” country on the planet succumbed me for the next two years.
Now? Was that all true? Absolutely not…but because of the amount of passion I put being those negative affirmations, it become true. Here’s the interview with Teemaree!
It’s been a couple days since my last blog, and my goodness, I’ve never felt so out of place and out-of-touch with my fellow readers from all over the world! It’s time to get back into the compound effect.
All right, let’s map out the goals that you’ve decided upon. Just remember that the only thing that stands between you and your goal is your behavior.
Example, the universe loves ACTION!
If I had put off moving into my new condominium, the dream job, which fell into my lap just yesterday, would’ve never happened! I knew I needed to act and it was all predicated on my behavior. That morning I emailed four different condominiums probably decided this entire process. My mind and everything is already set in Bangkok. If I didn’t start by taking the first necessary step, the opportunity would’ve never come.
What do you need to start doing to change your trajectory so that it’s headed in the most beneficial direction? In other words, what habits and behaviors do you need to subtract from and add to your life?
Your life comes down to this formula:
Choice + Behavior + Habit + Compounded = Goals
decision + action + repeated action + time
Which behaviors are blocking your life right now?
How many hours of T.V. do you watch everyday? Seriously, I can bet good money you don’t know. Do you sit in front of the television and watch 2-3 hours of sports (minimal) per weekend when you can be planning out your entire next week and even meals?
How many cans of soda do you drink a day? How many ridiculous YouTube videos do you watch that’s nonessential to the work you’re in? How about drama? Human beings LOVE drama and gossip. Americans love the reality TV and Thailand/Korea love drama. Become aware of how you’re behaving is the most important part of this process. That’s step #1.
Okay, now it’s your turn. Get out your little notebook and write out your top three goals. Now make a list of the bad habits that might be sabotaging your progress in each area. Write down every one.
Habits and behaviors never lie. If there’s a discrepancy between what you say and what you do, I’m going to believe what you do every time. If you tell me you want to be healthy, but you’ve got Doritos dust on your fingers, I’m believing the Doritos. If you say self-improvement is a priority, but you spend more time with your Xbox than at the library, I’m believing the Xbox. If you say you’re a dedicated professional, but you show up late and unprepared, your behavior rats you out every time. You say your family is your top priority, but if they don’t appear on your busy calendar, they aren’t, really. Look at the list of bad habits you just made. That’s the truth about who you are. Now you get to decide whether that’s okay, or if you want to change.
Next, add to that list all the habits you need to adopt that, practiced and compounded over time, will result in you gloriously achieving your goals.
Making this list isn’t about wasting energy by getting judgmental and regretful. It’s about taking a clear-headed look at what you want to improve. I’m not going to leave you there, however. Let’s uproot those sabotaging bad habits and plant new, positive, and healthy ones in their place.”
When Chris sat down in a meeting room at the end of ‘Pursuit of Happiness,’ it was a completely different vibe from the first interview. He didn’t have leftover paint in his hair and he certainly didn’t smell like a dog (after getting arrested due to parking tickets).
He stayed in a hotel with his son the night before, bought a new tie, and went to work on the add he was going to be either relived or brought on full-time as a broker.
After a representative called him into the CEO’s office, he looked completely aghast and disturbed, thinking it was was his last day. He got up and fumbled some things around his desk before walking to the “council” table, eagerly.
He mentioned that he bought a new tie and the CEO said, “ahhh, that’s very nice of you. But wear that tie tomorrow Chris, ok? Because tomorrow will be your first day as a broker here. Would you like that, Chris?”
Being the superb actor Will Smith is, he began to tear up. He shook everyone’s hand, received a ‘heavy’ (long story) five dollars from that particular CEO, went outside and clapped his hands together, crying.
Chris had arrived.
Is it my turn now? I feel like this Wednesday is one of those days. At interviews, I’m a jaw-dropper. I always tell everyone that getting in the door is the most difficult part in Thailand because of my skin color. When they see anything remotely colored, they drop me.
Well, I was rewarded an interview after a couple email exchanges, and now I’m approaching the game-changing life. It’s not about the money (although it’s double); it’s not about getting back at my present job; it’s about the transgressions I’ve endured here and me coming out victoriously.
My ‘pursuit of happiness’ moment has arrived.
I saw that not only my blog, but my podcast got an insane amount of plays on my last one about confidence, so I decided to do one about mindset – and honestly this really hits a soft spot in me after the events of two days ago.
Here I am at a park in the middle of Bangkok, overseeing some of the more gorgeous skyscrapers and seeing people take their health to the next level. The people begin to pour in for the little get-together/competition we were having on Saturday morning. Winter WonderLab, in courtesy of The Lab BKK (a gym), was in full-effect. While I was there, I met a vast array of people from Canada, France, Germany, New Zealand and other places. The greatest part about it all was here’s a K-1 fighter who’s into cryptocurrencies on my left, to my right is an ultra-marathon runner and CEO of the company, bankers in front of me, personal trainers scattered everywhere and entrepreneurs (just about all of them). Just four years ago, up until this year (working at the place I do), I was surrounded by complainers, losers, people who have come across defeat as being “permanent.” One thing that will help you along this journey is putting a “winner” in your life and subtracting a “loser.”
Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern: Start Reading!
Honestly, the book that disrupted my mind completely was Napoleon Hill’s ‘Law of Success.’ Yes, I can also agree that reading The Alchemist was wonderful, but it didn’t change my mind. Napoleon Hill caused the disruption, then Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ made me presume responsibility for all my actions and outcomes in my life. Then, it was the beginning.
Podcasts, such as Gary Vee, The Arsenio Buck Show (wink wink*), Lewis Howes and others are excellent. Honestly, Gary Vee is the best one because I get something out of it all the time. It’s not a podcast about men talking about their everyday life, but more of tools I can apply immediately to my life. YouTube cannot be taken advantage of. You cannot use YouTube to watch things that will bring bad feelings to you. Use it also to be inspired. Once you start your day off with an inspirational video/podcast, read 10-30 minutes, and start removing the toxic relationships from your life – the change will began.
When Lewis Howes sat down with Tony Robbins on a few instance, I still remember the story Tony told. I know this story from the back of my mind, and shockingly enough, Sir John Templeton (who I gave a bad rap on his Tedx for because his on-stage presence and attire – lol!) told him about the essence of giving.
What’s that story?
“I said, ‘Hi,’ I think he said his name was Ronny, and I said, ‘Ronny, you’re a class act. I saw you open the door for your lady, I saw you hold out the chair for your lady.’ He goes, ‘She’s my mom.’ I said, ‘That’s even more classy.’”
Tony commended him for taking his mom out to lunch. The kid looked at him with a serious face the way young kids do who haven’t learned how to joke around yet, and he said, “I’m not really taking her to lunch. I’m just 11 and I don’t have a job.”
Without even thinking about it, Tony gave the kid all the money in his pocket—basically all he had left in the world—so he could take his mother out to lunch. Then he walked out of the restaurant and went on with his life.
Think about that: Tony had no money, no way to pay his rent, and he was going to have to consider going hungry for his next several meals. Yet he was euphoric. He told me he basically flew home, he felt so proud of himself.
The next day, he checked his mail and found a letter from a guy he’d been hounding about a business transaction for months, who hadn’t returned his calls. In the letter was a check for $1,000 plus interest, and an apology.
Tony began to cry. How could something like that happen? Were the two events related? He told me he decided that they were:
“I don’t know if it’s true, but I decided that day that this happened because I did the right thing. Because I didn’t have a plan, it wasn’t a strategy, I always felt this little soul beside me, I knew what was right, and I did it. I didn’t do it because I thought I could or I couldn’t, I didn’t even think about it, and that’s the day I became a wealthy man, because I still didn’t have any money, but scarcity left my body. I’ve had plenty of ups and downs since that time, but I never went back to that fearful mindset of, “Oh my God, how’s it going to happen?” – Tony Robbins
Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.
Lewis Howes went on to say that what Tony was describing at that present time was the Material Mask being ripped off. It was no longer about him, his indecision, scarcity and being broke on so many levels because of wanting the luxury of things.
When Lewis Howes did the interview in Tony’s private jet, Tony didn’t talk so much about the figures, but more about what his accomplishments and especially feeding people all over the planet. There was a time that a neighbor gave his family a full thanksgiving dinner – which was too much to bear for his father, whom later walked out on Tony and his mother. Can you imagine that? Since then, Tony went on a venture to feed as many people around the planet as he can.
Do you hear about those humanitarian rewards with Tai?
What Can You Do Right Now?
“What we need to realize is that we are valuable, regardless of what we have. We need to recognize that, while living behind the Material Mask, there will never be such a thing as “enough” when it comes to a sufficient sense of self-worth as a man.” – Lewis Howes
Here is what you can do to practice gratitude on a daily basis. I do many of these myself, and you can start them right now:
1.When you wake up, take out your journal and write down three things for which you’re grateful.
2.Before you go to sleep, ask the last person you talk to three things they are most grateful for from the day, and in reply tell them what you are grateful for from the day too.
3.My voicemail message asks people to share what they are most grateful for when they leave a message. Feel free to copy the idea.
4.Start meetings with your team or business partners with a moment that allows everyone to share what they are grateful for.
5.Acknowledge people daily with a few words that express what you’re grateful for about them.”
Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.
“Whatever success you’re after, keep in mind that someone has already had it, hated it, and deluded themselves into thinking that just a little more would solve their problems.” – Ryan Holiday
Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.
It makes you think a lot about materialistic things in general, doesn’t it? I’m completely fine making a solid 3k-5k a month. All I really care about is traveling, making a difference, and once I start making over that amount, I’ll develop a non-profit organization and build schools in impoverished countries. That’s my life assignment.
Some people’s life assignment revolves around getting a Bugati. Look at Christian Guzman, for instance. Back around August of 2016 before my breakthrough, I would watch his videos to try to get a burst of inspiration. Instead, it was about houses, money, and cars. A lot of followers, again in the comment section, would hurl rhetoric at him in terms of lavishing himself in luxury. The point I’m trying to make is during the video, I felt his energy. And in saying that, his energy was so off. He had such a feeling of discontent with the entire process. He did not seem happy whatsoever. Same thing goes with another YouTuber (fitness) named Chris Jones. I feel that he’s another person who doesn’t seemed entirely fulfilled, although he has a gorgeous house, significant other, and car. This is what scares me.
“I think one of the big reasons why men, specifically, chase money and fame is because they were turned away earlier from those feelings of acceptance and attachment, and they found some security in this myth that being rich, that having Tai’s house, will finally make them feel like men.” – Lewis Howes
Luckily, I’ve never been one of those men. However, I feel like a particular clothing store, which I would get my clothes tailored from, was pushing me to the bring of having a Material Mask. It being an Indian based store in BKK, they’re very pushy. They would constantly push me to buy and invest more after picking up some. Thankfully, the last time I went there (back in April), the manager ripped me off completely and told me to pick up 300$ worth of clothing (which would be only one suit and a pair of slacks – compared to five shirts, three slacks and a blazer just a year before) by the following week. I left and said, “is this it? Is the trust broken?” And if I had gone back to pick up everything, I think not only would I have lost all my dignity, but the mask would be officially on. I messaged another employee expressing discontent; and later on that evening, I went on to block all numbers and never went back since.
Did I need an extra 3-7 suits? Hell no. I have about 5-7 suits already; plus a couple of blazers, vests, and an assortment of ties and slacks. However, people will push you to do things you don’t want to do. If you’re not accepting, they become more adamant.
Don’t get me wrong, wearing perfectly tailored clothes gives me such a “swag” that no one else in Bangkok has. However, it doesn’t give me true fulfillment, and that’s what Teacher Edward told me just a couple years prior.
“Listen, you can have all the clothes you want, Arsenio. If you don’t know what you’re going to say, all of that won’t mean a damn thing.”
And the last Tai Lopez story is….
“There’s two ways you can consume, as a person making money,” he said to me. “There’s conspicuous consumption and inconspicuous. And conspicuous is what makes you unhappy. So I don’t have any nice watches, okay? And some of my friends are like, ‘You should have a Rolex because if you are successful, you need to show that.’ Well, I don’t really care about watches, never did. So if I bought a watch for myself, it would be what’s called conspicuous, me trying to show off.”
Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.
Wait, but kicking off a video with you getting out of a Lambo or standing in front of a mansion isn’t showing off?
Look, we’re going to do different things with out money. Entrepreneurs like Gary Vee says reinvest, which is the smartest thing to do. Other people go to high-end stores and saturate themselves with high quality “materialistic” things. Other people travel. However, if you think that’s going to let you into the “cool group” you’re sadly mistaken.
Does anyone know the movie called “richie rich?” Ahhh, as a child, this movie was amazing. A little boy who was unbelievably rich tried to fit in with the neighborhood kids by playing baseball. They shoved him away constantly because he wasn’t “them.” Money is not a code, it’s an enabler.