The Dickens Process – What Are Your Beliefs Costing You?

A lot, says I! Honest, when I first moved here, I met wonderful people.  An array of wonderful people, then when one incident (in terms of not being let into a bar because I was black, and hearing rude remarks, and seeing how my Irish and American colleagues were treated far better at work and society than me) led to many others….I decided to believe that all Thai people were openly racist towards people of color.

I want you to ask yourself these questions…
What has each belief cost you in the past, and what has it cost people you’ve loved in the past? What have you lost because of this belief? See it, hear it, feel it.

What is each costing you and people you care about in the present? See it, hear it, feel it.

What will each cost you and people you care about 1, 3, 5, and 10 years from now? See it, hear it, feel it.”

Here’s an example from an audio text from a persistent smoker….

“If they are coughing like crazy right now [from lung cancer], how do they keep smoking? They say to themselves, ‘Well, I smoked for years and it was never a problem.’ Or they say, ‘It will get better in the future. After all, George Burns lived until 102 smoking cigars.’ They find the exception to the rule because no one knows what the future is. We can make it up, we can convince ourselves it’s going to be okay. Or we can remember a past time in which it was okay. That’s how people get out of it.”

We continue to do the same things that we know are killing us, from past thoughts and actions, incidents, to physical things such as smoking.  We always find a way to convince ourselves that it’s going to “be all right,” don’t we?

It’s kind of like when we feel pain in one time zone—meaning past, present, or future—we just switch to another time zone rather than change, because change brings so much uncertainty and so much instability and so much fear to people.

There was a time that Tony Robbins held a seminar called Unleash The Power and did an emotional flood exercise which I practically do every morning in terms of thinking of some of the best times I felt loved, in joy, and in tune as a child.  With Oprah Winfrey in attendance, among so many others, you can see tears streaming down the faces of the attendees because we literally forget about all the great that has happened in our lives. Video: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smhzRqHkpZs)

“Perhaps it’s time for you to take a temporary break from pursuing goals to find the knots in the garden hose that, once removed, will make everything else better and easier? It’s incredible what can happen when you stop driving with the emergency brake on.”

Excerpt From: Timothy Ferriss & Arnold Schwarzenegger. “Tools of Titans.”

 

 

Three Tips From A Google Pioneer – Chade-Meng

Award winning author, nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize, and led the creation of a groundbreaking mindfulness-based emotional intelligence course for employees called Search Inside Yourself (which had a waitlist of at least six months).

He asks everyone, “how could you sustain your meditation practice that it becomes so sustaining? Here’s a few suggestions.”

  1. Have A Buddy

Yes, this goes for just about anything.  That accountability partner that holds you accountable for things you commit to.  You’re more predisposed to being successful than to not having a buddy.  Look at a gym routine, for instance.  The best workout I’ve had since 2009 just happened a few weeks ago when one of my students, who’s a brilliant pianist, wanted to rock out a gym session with me.

1 hour later, tons of intervals later, battle ropes, non-stop burpees, squats, among so many other exercises – my body was completely shell-shocked to the point I stumbled out of the gym.

“We suggest finding a “mindfulness buddy” and committing to a 15-minute conversation every week, covering at least these two topics:

a. How am I doing with my commitment to my practice?
b. What has arisen in my life that relates to my practice?

We also suggest ending the conversation with the question, “How did this conversation go?”

We instituted this in our mindfulness-based emotional intelligence program (Search Inside Yourself) and found it very effective.” – Chade Meng

2. Do Less

This always goes back to the micro wins rather than macro.  I’m not saying go running 30 minutes before it feels like a chore.  I’m saying walk/run for ten minutes.  Also, put some good tunes in your ear; better yet, a podcast that’s inspiring.  However long the podcast is, you walk for that time and practice gratitude and affirmations….which is another thing you can listen to.

3. Take One Breath A Day

“There are two reasons why one breath is important. The first is momentum. If you commit to one breath a day, you can easily fulfill this commitment and preserve the momentum of your practice. Later, when you feel ready for more, you can pick it back up easily. You can say you don’t have 10 minutes today to meditate, but you cannot say you have no time for one breath, so making it a daily practice is extremely doable.

The second reason is having the intention to meditate is itself a meditation. This practice encourages you to arise an intention to do something kind and beneficial for yourself daily, and over time, that self-directed kindness becomes a valuable mental habit. When self-directed kindness is strong, mindfulness becomes easier.”

Excerpt From: Timothy Ferriss & Arnold Schwarzenegger. “Tools of Titans.”

These three simple rules from Chade Meng could help you with your meditation, and just getting started on big projects at work, working out, even committing to making your lunch in the morning.

In addition, don’t forget to practice joy loving-kindness, which is a technique that is used just by walking down the street, looking at someone and thinking to yourself “I wish for this person to be happy, and I wish for that person to be happy.”  That’s it.  You’ll be happier than the previous 10 seconds.  Try it!

 

 

Napoleon Hill – Mind Chemistry & Economic Power

Through the blending of two or more minds, in a spirit of PERFECT HARMONY, the principle of mind chemistry may be made to develop sufficient power to enable the individuals whose minds have been thus blended to perform seemingly superhuman feats.” – Napoleon Hill

He wrote this 89 years ago.  What does this pertain to? Lets look at it from a sports aspect.

Michael Jordan and Scottie Pippen, who are two NBA legends, established just this.  If you want to throw in Dennis Rodman, you could, just because he knew exactly where everyone’s shot was going so he positioned himself to rebound the ball much easier.  This is why he is the best rebounder of all-time.

When Scottie joined Jordan and achieved unbelievable heights, there was no stopping them.  Charles Barkley, Patrick Ewing, Karl Malone, John Stockton, Olajuwon, and so many other top-50 players had no chance, which is incredible.

A lot of people would deem Michael Jordan as a superhuman….but it was working with Scottie in perfect harmony that ultimately propelled him to his first ever finals where he took out even Magic Johnson.  These 1-2 punches were two minds working in perfect harmony together.

Power, in unlimited quantities, may be enjoyed by any group of men, or men and women, who possess the wisdom with which they blend their own personalities and their own immediate individual interests to work in perfect spirit.

The moment two minds begin to take divergent roads of interest the individual units of each mind separate, and the third element, known as a “mastermind,” which grew out of the friendly or harmonious alliance, will disintegrate.  Look at Kobe Bryant and Shaquille O’Neal, for example.

How about the three men who are known for their great achievements in their respective fields of economic, business and professional endeavor back in the early 1900’s: Henry Ford, Thomas A. Edison & Harvey S. Firestone.

A very interesting segment on Mr. Ford’s new automobile in process was one of perfection.  In 1927, it is said that he received advance orders, with cash payments, for more than 375,000 cars.  600$ per car that would amount to 225 million dollars which he received before a single car was delivered.  Such is the power of confidence in Ford’s Ability.

Mr. Edison, the man who brought together the point of a needle and a piece of revolving wax, in such a way that the vibration of the human voice may be recorded and reproduced through the modern talking machine.

Mr. Firestone was, and continues to be the moving spirit in the great Firestone Tire industry, respectively.  These three men would go away into the woods once a year for a period of rest, meditation and recuperation.  These three men blended their minds together and created a mastermind group that took America by storm.  It’s kind of like connecting electric batteries to a single transmission wire, ultimately stepping up the power flowing over that line.

That’s who you want around you.  It’s time to figure out that mastermind group.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11245890

Tim Ferris: 80/20 & Freedom From Futility

Vilfredo Pareto deserves all of the buzz and this isn’t an Oscar joke, either. 😉

He’s famous for the “law of distribution” which is now known as “Pareto’s Law and it basically states this….his mathematical formula was used to demonstrate a grossly uneven but predictable distribution of wealth in society—80% of the wealth and income was produced and possessed by 20% of the population—also applied outside of economics.

If we go to what’s happening on the planet now, 90%+ of the money that’s being earned is owned by 2% of the world’s population (Bob Proctor Circa 2006).  Do you think that’s an accident? That’s no accident.

Well, let’s jut say Tim Ferris was working those hefty 15 hour days – seven days on – no days off.  At the dawn of the day, he was making phone calls to the UK.  When the clock struck 9am, he was making phone calls domestically all over the country before making phone calls from 5pm-12am to Japan and New Zealand.  Just a helpless man with no way out.

Before we get into what happened, here’s a summarised version of Pareto’s Law.

80% of the consequences flow from 20% of the causes.
80% of the results come from 20% of the effort and time.
80% of company profits come from 20% of the products and customers.
80% of all stock market gains are realized by 20% of the investors and 20% of an individual portfolio.

Tim decided to give Pareto’s Law a run for his money, and he succeeded tremendously.

Let’s try putting it this way.  Let’s say you’re a telemarketer making 100 phone calls a day and sending follow up emails along with those phone calls.  I guess that’s what accounts to 15 hours workloads; conversely, you decide to chase only the leads that you were making money from.

Tim evaluated everything, even in terms of advertising, and realized that only 5 of the 100 was actually generating money for him.  For the other 95? He cut loose.  Why?  There wasn’t any revenue that he was chasing.

This goes for my life, too, on a much more personal level.

If you look at these ridiculous social media apps such as tinder and scout, some days (two years ago) I would waste an entire morning trying to have conversation with local women who end up ranting about how bad “black people were” or blocking me.  OOPS! Can I get that time back?

Suddenly, I asked myself, “what’s accounting for more than 80% of my unhappiness? Oh, engagement with foolish human beings within these borders.” When I identified the problem, I literally not only regained my happiness, but the negative thoughts, too.

Since then, I haven’t even thought about people within these borders (which amassed to so much of my bickering time) and now I’m fiercely productive in everything I’m doing, including my personal projects such as writing a book, making a website, and my podcast.

Figure out what your unhappiness is.  Figure out the problem that’s costing you so much valuable time and pleasant conversations with other people.  Once you do, it’s like killing two birds with one stone….and it feels DAMN GOOD! (I’m not a bird killer).

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11186594

 

Tim Ferris: The End of Time Management

“In the strictest sense, you shouldn’t be trying to do more in each day, trying to fill every second with a work fidget of some type. It took me a long time to figure this out. I used to be very fond of the results-by-volume approach.”

Excerpt From: Timothy Ferriss. “The 4-Hour Workweek, Expanded and Updated.”

My colleague would sometimes tell me to “stop complaining” and “start working on all the entrepreneurial projects you have” instead of filling in the empty time slots with ‘now’ money.

That’s a profound way of putting it.  Why do not only myself, but most of the people in the world think that the harder we work, the more money we make?

Bob Proctor gave a story about him cleaning offices with a mop all over New York and Montreal.  He said one day he woke up on the pavement, people over him, sirens lights reflecting the nearby buildings and people asking him if “he was ok.”

He said, “what happened?”

“You passed out.”

It took a near-death experience to wake him up.  NDE experience to make him realize that working harder isn’t going to earn him a lot of money.

“Being busy is most often used as a guise for avoiding the few critically important but uncomfortable actions. The options are almost limitless for creating “busyness”

“In fact, if you want to move up the ladder in most of corporate America, and assuming they don’t really check what you are doing (let’s be honest), just run around the office holding a cell phone to your head and carrying papers. Now, that is one busy employee! Give them a raise.”

Even if you tell your boss that you can triple your production and work less hours, you’ll still be handed a pink simple.  In corporate America, you’re just a number.  You’re not even part of the fabric.  You’re replaceable.

Well, it’s time to become irreplaceable.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11146159

 

Bali, Indonesia + Tough Mudder + Singapore Airlines = Trip of a Lifetime!

I was on a treadmill with one of my colleagues thinking about the Bali bombings and trying to conjure up an excuse NOT TO GO to Bali.  Given the events that took place a decade and a half ago –  a person, such as myself, would be terrified of heading to a resort island because of extremist groups.

“What? Are you seriously afraid of something that hasn’t happened in 15 years? Are you just making excuses? Stop it.  You sound ridiculous. Just go!” he said.

The next couple of weeks of pondering lead to me finally booking a ticket of course on Singapore Airlines (the fear of flying disintegrates when you fly with 5 star airlines).

I’m going to Bali!

The Lead Up

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Booking a hotel at the famous Baiyoke Sky in Bangkok was essential in terms of traveling to the airport  in the morning.  Is the area around the hotel legitimate? Not necessarily.  A bit dodgy once you step downstairs to be honest, but it was quiet and good enough for traveling instead of hauling from the outer suburbs while trying to beat the traffic.  Not worth it.

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Bangkok Airport, which is still technically new to the area, has it’s own nice perks.  Over the last four years, massive renovations have taken place to whereas you can charge your phone at stand-alone-kiosks! Yeah, Americans….I know.  Delta Airlines provides passengers at Sky Harbour International Airport in Arizona this for free, but Thailand is a completely different place.  When I saw some of the flight attendants and airport personnel setting up shop for the flight from Bangkok to Singapore, I bursted into excitement before the gorgeous Singapore Airlines A320 (smaller version) came roaring into the gate.  Ahhhh…alas! Here’s the beginning of my crazed trip!

Changi International Airport – Singapore

I was extremely critical of Changi the last time around because at the wee hours of the morning, there isn’t anything open.  Given the fact that skytrax and other award giving websites deemed this to be the #1 airline in the world, I expect there to be currency exchange counters open and at least trains running through the terminals. NOPE!

However, during the day…it’s wonderful.  I still believe that the signage is just too much at times.  Too overwhelming and very hard to figure out what to do.  For those traveling to Changi, be sure to figure out exactly what you’re going to do upon arrival or you’ll just be running in circles.

Bali, Indonesia

Gorgeously amazing flight attendants with caramel skin (Balinese I’m guessing) doing a last run of assisting passengers before the descent.  Unfortunately, it was nearing 9pm at night, which takes away the gorgeous daytime view of the island, Mt. bromo, and a few other places. I recall seeing some lights in the distance outside my window, but the terrifying part about it was the glare coming from the ocean. We were literally 100m from the water with no airport in sight.  FINALLY (which seemed like forever) the landing came and I took a huge breather.  Wow, as an African American, being from the neighborhood I’m from…..I’ve arrived to Indonesia, which is my first time arrival and 11th country. CHECK!

From immigration officers telling Chinese people to go away, from them not even checking my bags or suspecting anything suspicious of me.  Thank you, Bali.  First time here and there isn’t any racial profile going on.  Once I walk outside the terminal, my hotel (Sintesa Jimbaran) and private driver greeted me.  He took my luggage, went to the car, and then spoke about Bali in FLUENT ENGLISH about the language on the island, people, religion, and just about everything else.  The most important part of the trip…..why? I felt there was a connection.  He was talking from the soul, unlike most Thai taxi drivers who sound overly friendly and make the wrong left turn to make more money on the meter.  This gentleman spoke with genuinty and such truthfulness that’s even indescribable.  When this happened, I then knew that these were going to be some amazing people.

Sintesa Jimbaran Hotel

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This hotel was the definition of sheer beauty.  I arrived and was greeted by smiles; men who were wearing these large, gown like robes and accommodating everything about me.  They already knew who I was and greeted me by name, too.  After getting to the hotel around 10:00pm, the concierge opened my door and I walked into an ice cold room (just the way I like it) and saw just how massive it was.  Spa in the tub? Rain shower? Enormous bed and jazz music playing?

I sat down.  I cried.  “Arsenio, I’m so proud of you.  What you’ve done these last several years overcoming immense obstacles in Thailand – look where you are now.  Look around! If you would’ve asked yourself back in the summer of 2012, hearing your family complain about not having 10$…..do you think you would be here four years later.”  I held my hands up to my face and let out a “YESSSSSSS! I’m so happy and grateful for everything I’ve achieved!”

Is this happiness?

The Morning After – and I’m not talking about remorse, either.

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Sunrise, greenery, cloud formations, wonderful breakfast, 5 star concierge greeting me and talking to me as if I’m part of their family, running beachside, impeccable breakfast.  Should I say more?  I recall staring with a large grin at my face at the water coming onto the beach.  The sounds of the waves crashing.  Surfers from Spain laughing while trying to catch some low-tide waves, wife sitting in awe with her chin to the sky – breathing deeply.

My goodness.

This is what happiness is.

Night Safari

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Since living in Thailand and reading up on famous authors, I’ve grown to love animals much more than before, and cherish everything about these gentle giants.  Having a tiger, sniffing away on top of a caged truck, was pretty terrifying to say the absolute least.  The brown cows that have horns whereas if you cut their horns off, they would bleed to death.  The infamously famous komodos that lay as if they’re dead in pure darkness and a stand-alone elephant (very ominous) just waving his trunk in pure darkness. HA! Damn, I love animals!

Met one of the most lovely Australian families EVER during the trip.  The little boy, who was five, felt like a son.  He asked me so many questions and I felt as if I was his teacher.  The daughter was like, “omg my name is shanequa and I want to go to New York!” A 12 year old utterly infatuated with America and parents telling me, “hey, you’re young! Don’t worry about getting married right now!” HAHA! What an incredible night safari.  Oh, and temple run? The game that took the world by storm a little over 5 years ago? Yeah…I found out where that tradition comes from. RIGHT HERE! The girls…..phew, lets just leave it at that.  I proposed. THERE! I SAID IT!

Tough Mudder – The Monster From Hell

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And the reason I came to Bali to begin with.  To push myself not only mentally and psychologically, but physically.  The hellish course (what it was suppose to be) turned into one of the funnest events I’ve ever done in my life.  The variety of cultures from the Singaporeans who flew in from Singapore, to some of the people in the picture above who work for a newspaper in Jakarta, Indonesia, to some of the finest women I’ve seen in my life from other parts of Indonesia.  Oh, man….WHAT A DAY!

Yeah….Bali was another mental barrier that was crushed.  The mental barrier thinking I was going to get blown to pieces because of events that took place at the dawn of the new century.  See, these things that we see on TV can drive us to insanity.  I met some of the most wonderfully wonderful muslims on top of that, too.  The banjo playing band at the airport whom was singing, “la bamba” almost brought me to tears because their symphonic rhythm while playing in such a harmonious way…..these people were….happy.  Very happy.  I felt something on this island that I’ve never felt anywhere else on this planet, including Hawaii.

I felt serenity.

I felt bliss.

And getting aboard an absolutely gorgeous A777-300ER, I set off back to Singapore-Bangkok with a completely different mindset about my Balinese.

Thank you so much.

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Mount Bromo says HI!

Bali Podcasts 

Arrival –  https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9519588

Day 2 – excursion https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9529788

Day 3 – Tough Mudder https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9538900

Day 4 – Tough Mudder Conquered 

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9541901

The end of Bali – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9545169

Napoleon Hill – The Law of Success – Revamped Lessons

I’m bringing to everyone the book that seemingly began to change my life at the beginning of 2016.

Having already read the secret, my life still wasn’t changing.  The change ultimately happened after a completely failed trip to Singapore for New Years Eve in 2015 (last time I will ever travel with friends), and the lightbulb went off in my head, “what is it that’s trying to emerge in my life right now?”

Something guided me to one of the biggest book stores in Bangkok at Siam Paragon and there it was: Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success sitting on a shelf, untouched, and still wrapped.

I bought the book  which ultimately lead to my first ever podcasts which aren’t available on YouTube, so I decided to make blogs, remake the podcasts, and launch this.

If you’re looking for a starting point in your life, here it is.  I’m going to go lesson by less, including podcasts alongside each one, about the fifteen Laws of Success.  Here they are as followed…

  1. A Definite Chief Aim will teach you how to save wasted effort which the majority of people expend in trying to find their life-work.  This lesson will show you how to do away forever with aimlessness and fix your heart and hand upon some definite, well conceived purpose as a life-work.
  2. Self-Confidence will help you master the six basic fears with which every person is cursed – the fear of Poverty, the fear of Ill Health, the fear of Old Age, the fear of Criticism, the fear of Loss of Love of Someone and the fear of Death.  It will teach you the difference between egotism and real self-confidence which is based upon definite, usable knowledge.
  3. The Habit of Saving will teach you how to distribute your income systematically so that a definite percentage of it will steadily accumulate, thus forming one of the greatest known sources of personal power.  No one may succeed in life without saving money.  There is no exception to this rule, and no one may escape it.
  4. Initiative and Leadership will show you how to become a leader instead of a follower in your chosen field of endeavour.  It will develop in you the instinct for leadership which will cause you gradually to gravitate to the top in all undertakings in which you participate.
  5. Imagination will stimulate your mind so that you will conceive new ideas and develop new plans which will help you in attaining the object of your Definite Chief Aim.  This lesson will teach you how to “build new houses out of old stones,” so to speak.  It will show you how to create new ideas out of old, well know concepts, and how to put old ideas to new uses.  This one lesson, alone, is the equivalent of a ver practical course in salesmanship, and it is sure to prove a veritable gold mind of knowledge to the person who is in earnest.
  6. Enthusiasm will enable you to “saturate” all with whom you come in contact with interest in you and in your ideas.  Enthusiasm is the foundation of a Pleasing Personality and you must have such a personality in order to influence others to co-operate with you.
  7. Self-Control is the “balance wheel” with which you control your enthusiasm and direct it where you wish it to carry you.  This lesson will teach you, in a most practical manner, to become “the master of your fate, the Captain of your Soul.”
  8. The Habit of Doing More Than Paid For is one of the most important lessons in the Law of Success course.  It will teach you how to make advantage of the Law of Increasing Returns, which will eventually insure you a return in money far out of proportion to the service you render.  No one may become a real leader in any walk of life without practicing the habit of doing more work and better work than that for which he/she is paid.
  9. Pleasing Personality is the “fulcrum” on which you must place the “crow-bar” of your efforts, and when so placed, with intelligence, it will enable you to remove mountains of obstacles.  This one lesson, alone, has made scores of Master Salesmen.  It has developed leaders over night.  It will teach you how to transform your personality so that you may adapt yourself to any environment, or to any other personality, in such a manner that you may easily dominate.
  10. Accurate Thought is one of the important foundation stones of all enduring success.  This lesson teaches you how to separate “facts” from mere “information.”  It teaches you how to organise known facts into two classes: the “important” and the “unimportant.”  It reaches you how to determine what is an “important” fact.  It teaches you how to build definite working plans, in the pursuit of any calling, out of FACTS.
  11. Concentration teaches you how to focus your attention upon one subject at a time until you have worked out practical loans for mastering that subject.  It will teach you how to ally yourself with others in such a manner that you may have the use of their entire knowledge to back you up in your own plans and purposes.  It will give you a practical working knowledge of the forces around you, and show you how to harness and use there forces in furthering your own interests.
  12. Co-Operation will teach you the value of team-work in all you do.  In this lesson, you will be taught how to apply the law of the “mastermind” described in this Introduction and in Lesson One of this course.  This lesson will show you how to co-ordinate your own efforts with those of others, in such a manner that friction, jealousy, strife, envy, and cupidity will be eliminated.  You will learn how to make use of all that other people have learned about the work in which you are engaged.
  13. Profiting by FAILURE will teach you how to make stepping stones out of all of your past and future mistakes and failures.  It will teach you the difference between “failure” and “temporary defeat,” a difference which is very great and very important.  It will teach you how to profit by your own failures and by the failures of other people.
  14. Tolerance will teach you how to avoid the disastrous effects of racial and religious prejudices which mean defeat for millions of people who permit themselves to become entangled in foolish argument over these subjects, thereby poisoning their now minds and closing the door to reason and investigation.  This lesson is the twin sister of one on Accurate Thoughts, for the reason that no one may become an Accurate Thinker without practicing tolerance.  Intolerance closes the book of Knowledge and writes the cover, “Finis! I have learned it all!” Intolerance makes enemies of those who should be friends.  It destroys opportunity and fills the mind with doubt, mistrust, and prejudice.
  15. Practicing The Golden Rule will teach you how to make use of this great Universal Law of human conduct in such a manner that you may easily get harmonious co-operation from any individual or group of individuals.  Lack of understanding of the law upon which the Golden Rule philosophy is based is one of the major causes of failure of millions of people who remain in misery, poverty and want all their lives. This lesson has nothing whatsoever to do with religion in any form, nor with sectarianism, nor have any of the other lessons of this course on the Law of Success.

When you have mastered these Fifteen Laws and made them your own, as you may do within a period of from fifteen to thirty weeks, you will be ready to develop sufficient personal power to insure the attainment of your Definite Chief Aim.

With all of these being said, and how this has drastically changed the outcome over a one year period, join me on this journey.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11122199

The Main Reason Why People Don’t Travel

If you look at your bank account right now, and you don’t have the funds to buy a flight + hotel + plane ticket, you wouldn’t think twice about traveling, right?

This is probably the main reason why people just don’t travel.

Let me put this more into perspective…..I’m going back to America for the first time in April.  So, at the beginning of January, did I have ALL THE MONEY NEEDED for the travel in April? Probably not, but anticipating salaries and savings was one of the first things I did.  At the beginning of January, I bought a Singapore Airlines Ticket (BKK-SIN-TOKYO-LAX) and the RT was included; ticket was cheaper than all USA Airlines (such as as United, Delta, and American) at just under 900$ USD.

Now, did I buy the plane ticket from LAX-PHX? No.  I waited.  I knew I was getting paid again in February; however, I bought the RT ticket a few weeks later just to clear all flights.

If I had to stay in a hotel (which I will because I have a 9 hour layover in Singapore), I can book the hotel in February instead of January, right? You don’t have to book everything at one time, people.  Book slowly leading up to the travel.

You’re going to have to set aside a budget.  I talk about this a lot in my podcast how I save 66% of my salary by wire transferring to my American bank account.

Living here in Thailand, no more than 30000 baht (equivalent to 1000$ USD without the crazy currencies happening) is needed.  This also restricts me from going out (I don’t like spending money on nightlife here in Thailand).  Therefore, I save between 1000-2000$ USD minimum from my priority job A MONTH.

Now a lot of my American friends and colleagues understand why living in Thailand is wonderful.  If you’re able to save that much per month and take rampant trips throughout the year, would you? Rather than spending 1000-1500$ a bills and only having a fraction of your money left?

This year, I have a monster trip (probably the biggest trip of the year) heading back to America in April.  I have a small, three day trip for a competition in Singapore in May.  I have Hawaii/Fiji in July, Malaysia/Bali in September or October and Melbourne, Australia  for Christmas & New Years Eve.  Now, do I have enough money for hotels, flights and spending money for all of the trips right now? Obviously not (although next year will be a massive change), but I book little-by-little over time.  I know when I come back from America, I can buy my Singapore Airlines ticket and two-night hotel for Singapore instantly.  I know my Hawaiian/Fijian plan ticket will be booked in May, and the smaller trips leading up to the end of the year can be booked on the go.

See, not too bad, right? Book slowly overtime.  Having the full money now may be impossible for a lot of people out there, but if you book little-by-little over the course of three months, you can hit off the travels!

2006 – From Being Stuck Atop 1,000m Plus Mountain, To A Rescue Helicopter Flying In To Save Us. (Long read)

Oh, yes, it was a cold and sunny December 22nd, 2006 morning – this was the day that a rescue helicopter had to fly steeply to the main summit of Sunrise Mountain in Las Vegas, Nevada to collect my two friends and I in which was one of the funniest and most terrifying moments of my life.

This hike – this hike turned rescued mission featured the most daunting task of my life.

 

  1. The belief that we could actually scale the top of the mountain.
  2. The mountainous gorges that were hidden within the mountain.
  3. The lonesome Mexican lady that was our disguised blessing before we went up any further.

At the end of the day, there was a crowd of 20 people at the base of the mountain saying, “what the hell happened up there?” I, in disbelief, smiled creepily and retorted, “well, we were fighting time and had to get down the mountain as soon as possible, but we didn’t have any equipment or anything.”  Nonetheless, when I got back home, I was bombarded by some of the angriest family members one could ever imagine, hurling expletives at me in sheer frustration about getting stuck.  Oh, why did I call my mom from the top of the mountain.  Damnit!

Lights were turning on, footsteps were echoing around the house, and chatter was breaking out.  I look at the neon light clock and it was 6:30 am, the time that we all said we were going to wake up.  There wasn’t nervousness whatsoever setting in, but the thought of going to one of the highest peaks in west coast United States did rescind within me.  However, we were excited.  Perfectly prepared breakfast, lunch, and even what we were wearing.  We did have a harness, climbing shoes, ropes, or any survival pack equipment because we thought were would be back down before nightfall at 5pm….

And, so, the journey began.  We walked down the street and made a turn onto a street that lead up to the dirty base of the mountain where there weren’t any people around for about a 2-mile radius.  There weren’t any proper trails, either, so we needed to just navigate our way through an ugly cluster of bushes and cacti to get to the base.

For about forty-five minutes, we still couldn’t believe that we were yet to break the ascent to the top of the mountain; until one of us finally turned around and realized we were pretty high up already.  “WOW! LOOK AT THAT!” The excitement reverberated within our group until we saw a figure hidden away in the mountain. “What the fuck is that?” My friend said…

“It’s a person!”  After watching movies such as Hills Have Eyes and Jason, us African Americans aren’t accustomed to seeing another individual on a mountain with no city, nor person, in sight for miles.  As we approached, my best friend, Andre, was in front of the pack because he felt like he had to be the big man.  We approached this individual pretty fast and realize it was a woman.  My friend said, “hola!” The lady smiled (her being Mexican) before the conversations commenced between him and her.

 

She was in her lonesome just going up to the mid-section of the mountain, as she does daily, apparently.  She was aghast when she found out about us going to the top.  My friend said, “hey, she said don’t go to the top.” She began heading down, terrified at us.  The further away she walked, the more I second guessed going up further.  When we got to about the 60% mark, that’s when the climb began.  Unstable rocks, gorgeous, no ropes, things falling down, us having to push each other up and maneuver around the not-so-safe areas we were climbing.  Then, when we were almost at the peak, which didn’t take too fast to get to, that’s when I realized our will was on the line.  I immediately knew then that we couldn’t go down in the same direction.  If we did, we could die.  Period.  So, we were climbing one under another in the last push…..and when we finally got to the top, it was magnificent.

As a backstory, me and my housemates back at Central Arizona College in Coolidge, Arizona would climb a mountain just in the back of our dormitories routinely throughout the month.  This is what established my journey-filled fever within me.

The view was beyond spectacular.  The air was thin….the 360 view and even the ferocious back drop on the back side of the mountain facing Utah was jaw-dropping and nerve-racking at the same time.  I then knew, something wasn’t right.  “Andre, how are we gonna get down? We can die going down that way.”  Andre started looking while his girlfriend calmly opened saran wrap with a sandwich enclosed.  “Ummmm, your sense of urgency just isn’t here.  What the fuck? What the fuck is going on out here?”  Andre, with his hand on his chin, retorted, “I’m thinking.”  I threw my hands in the air incredulously and said, “Andre, that’s ridiculous. This is ridiculous.”

The angry conversations ensued, but just prior to reaching the summit, we saw a helicopter come and drop off a gentleman at the top where’s there’s a huge power-box.  “Well, worst case scenario is we can call a helicopter to save us!” Laughter filled the air….

….and then thoughts of that particular moment came back. “Andre, I gotta call 911 man. There’s no way of getting down.” He looked at me, stomped his feet and said, “whatever.  Fuck it. Call them. That’s on you.”  My breathing was shallow and I said, “mother fucker we gonna die up here if we don’t!”  Meanwhile, his girlfriend was still eating her doritos with no sense of urgency.

Phone rings……woman answers….”911 – state your emergency”

“Yes, hello. There are three of us and we are stuck on the south tower of sunrise mountain.”

“I’m sorry?” the woman replied.

“We are stuck on the south side of the peak on sunrise mountain which has the big electrical box.  My friends and I don’t have any climbing gear and anyway of getting down because there are massive, vertical drops everywhere.”

The conversation continued until she said, “Ok, we’re sending a rescue helicopter up to get you but please, don’t stand on the indicated “H” on the top of the mountain.”

5 minutes later, the helicopter made its way up.

Rusty, old, red-faced metropolitan officer with a sarcastic grin on his face, shades and a wobbly walk made his way on over to us in a very angry way.

“What the hell is going on?” He said.

I explained the situation before he showed us the trail to the next mountain.  OOPS!

“But we don’t have time. It’s 4:15 and we don’t have flashlights.”

I can’t remember much of the conversation, but he wasn’t thrilled at all about us.  He said, “normally this flight would cost a thousand dollars, but you’re lucky because taxpayers will pay for it.”

Sorry mom!

He took the sandwich eating freak of a girlfriend down first.

I was second.  WOW! This is a helicopter!?

“If you don’t hang onto this railing, you’re going to fallout and die.”

I gripped the rail with my life before landing safely and seeing the crowd of people.

Yeah, it was a terrifying experience, but one of the most memorable experience one could ever imagine because if it wasn’t for that, I wouldn’t be half the man I am today. Why?

The leap of faith.

Traveling Abroad? Not Sure Where To Start? Here It Is!

From taking low-budget airlines to extend a budget, to saving up inch by inch for your first ever travel to Hawaii.  It’s much easier than you think.

Back in 2009, I had just under 2000$ USD in my bank account and I told myself that I was LONG overdue for a trip.  I wasn’t thinking of a domestic trip, either.  I wanted an international one; and already having a friend stationed in Australia, I realized it was now or never.

How was I able to save up for this? Well, without evening having to read Napoleon Hill’s ‘Habit of Saving,’ I was just a saver in general.  Since I got my first job back in 2007, I saved the majority of my salary.

If we look at it this way, take the west coast folks of the United States, for instance, who makes up excuses up about having never gone to Hawaii.  Plane tickets to Hawaii are between 400-600 USD.  If you could save 50-100$ USD a month and cut back on the bar nights, shopping escapades, and fancy dinners, you could easily achieve this goal.

After that, it’s all about hotels, whereas you could find the cheapest at booking.com before visiting the hotels main website to check for cheaper offers.  Expect to pay at least 100$ for  a hotel (in Hawaii) at less you’re one to stay in a hostel with 10 other people (not my cup of tea).

If you’re a big time shopper, you’re going to have to set aside a spending stipend.  If you’re just a casual traveler looking for a decent time while doing some tours, 100$ a day (maybe a bit higher in places like England, Aussie and Japan) would suffice.

See, having already read the options above, you’re now glued into the fact that traveling, even just to that gorgeous island in the pacific, is possible.

Checking flights on travelocity.com to get a good idea of what flights go to countries is perfect.  Booking.com for hotels and some of the hotels don’t even require payment at the time of booking.  You could book when you stay, which saves you even more money at the time of booking.

Asian Travelers

Air Asia, which is a low-budget Malaysian Airlines, has the most insane flight deals anyone could ever imagine.  I’m talking if you go on airasia.com right now. and looks for flights 6 months in advance, they would be priced at a staggering 10-20$ USD.  You could go from buying a 100-200$ flight from Thailand-Tokyo, to buying another flight for cheaper to head back further south to Singapore.  If you’re flying domestically in a place like Thailand, some flights could bottom out at 5$ USD LITERALLY for a  one-way ticket.

European Travelers

With the infamously famous Ryan Air and trains connecting practically every country within Europe, no excuses.  I know Europeans do a good amount of traveling, so this is intended for you.  However, if you want to travel to different places, especially in Australasia, you have options in terms of airline tickets.

Australians

With gorgeous Bali nearby (and having gone there just last October), I understand why the vast majority of you all books flights to that utterly blissful island.  On the other hand, having the French Polynesian which consists of Vanuatu, American Samoa, Fiji, Tuvalu and the Cooks just 3 hours flight away is just an enticing.  Oh, yeah, again….check a variety of websites and see what flights are accommodating.

FYI – I’m not a touristy , sightseeing type of traveler – I like to dive into the midst with the locals and breathe the same air as they do (hypothetically speaking).  If you guys want to hear an audio of everything I just mentioned, my podcast is down below!

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11060089