In my personal opinion, what you wear means everything on-stage. I was referred a Tedx video by one of my colleagues, and although he did crack a few jokes, I couldn’t take his appearance. He was wearing about 5 different colors, spoke extremely fast, and had one of the most awkward stances I’ve seen on stage. You just can’t look ridiculous.
On the other hand, there was this video.
Now, this attire is completely understandable because the speaker is apparently still in prison, yet he delivered a speech that resonates so much in the African American community.
Nonetheless, TEDx said there are a few questions worth asking like “who am I speaking to? How’s the audience? Is it on the resort island of Bali or is it in London? That makes a HUGE difference.
Will you be filmed? If so, avoid wearing white or jet black.
Will you be using an over-the-ear microphone? Avoid earrings that bang into the attachment – ultimately making loud, clanking noises. Have a clean shave (for men)!
If you’re using accessories, avoid using flashy bracelets that would give off a reflection to those around you and in front of you.
What will the stage look like? Consider wearing something off-colour that sets you apart from the background. If there’s a red background, choose a color that doesn’t blend in. The audience loves bold, vibrant colors.
For men’s fashion, be sure your clothes are neatly pressed. I BEG YOU! If you don’t care about the way your clothes are, I can tell just how disorganized your mind is. I’ve worked with men before who look downright disgraceful; in addition, those specific individuals have the most personal problems. True story.
Am I saying wear a suit? Probably not…..if you’re giving a Tedx on an island, but I would definitely consider a vest + slacks combo. I feel that’s the most comfortable outfit and you can even dress it up or down. Is a tie essential? In my opinion, no – unless it’s a formal outing. Again, these little things are very important on top of knowing what type of audience you’re speaking to.
Ray Lewis knew that he would be doing a Tedx at Stanford University; therefore, he wore a gorgeous suit and tie because the majority of the crowd was Gen B. If you’re going to wear a shirt and baggy jeans in front of Gen B, not only will you lose all respect, but they’re going to label you very fast before even saying your first line.
On Friday the 16th, a business associate and I will be doing an interview in terms of fashion and how it equals success….so stay tuned for that! Hopefully this helps those out there.
“If your imagination is the mirror of your soul, then you have a perfect right to stand before that mirror and see yourself as you wish to be. You have the right to see reflected in that magic mirror the mansion you intend to own, the factory you intend to manage, the bank of which you intend to be president, the station in life you intend to occupy. Your imagination belongs to you! Use it! The more you use it the more efficiently it will serve you.” – Napoleon Hill
A man of imagination went to a city long ago to make money out of real estate. He got an option on a couple of hills that were unsuitable for real estate due to the steepness of them. He also had another option on the ground that was unsuitable for use because of the back-water that covered it daily. So, in the end, he secured both of the options for super cheap because the literal mind thought both didn’t have any substantial value.
However, with a few tons of explosives, he turned those steep hills into loose dirt. With the aid of some tractors and road scrapers, he used the ground for beautiful building lots. Also, with the help of cattle and livestock, he dumped the surplus of dirt on the low ground and raised it above the water level, thereby turning it into beautiful building lots.
He made a substantial fortune, for what?
For removing some dirt from where it was not needed to where it was needed! For mixing some useless dirt with imagination.
Another story would be a man purchasing land on top of a hill. This man was dirt cheap and the owner of the land was selling it for little-to-nothing, just because the imagination with the man selling it wasn’t there. So, this man, who barely had any money to his name, purchased that piece of land and built a log cabin that became very profitable because the view of both sides of the mountain. Later, it turned into a half dozen. Then, he built a minimart and a few other things to accompany it. That man amassed a FORTUNE over just pennies by using his imagination.
If you properly use your imagination it will help you convert your failures and mistakes into assets of priceless value; it will lead you to discovery of a truth known only to those who use their imagination; namely, that the greatest reverses and misfortunes of life often open the door to golden opportunities.
You will never know what is your capacity for achievement until you learn how to mix your efforts with imagination. The products of your hands, minus imagination, will yield you but a small return, but those selfsame hands, when properly guided by imagination, can be made to earn you all the material wealth you can use.
“The mind doesn’t know anything about age, your subconscious mind knows nothing about time and space. And so, I am hanging around young people all the time and I operate like they do. I don’t think of myself as being old.” – Bob Proctor
That’s how powerful the mind is. I want you think way back when people had to take ships from one continent to another. The Berlin Olympics was a prime example of how far the athlete had to go physically to obtain rewards. Now, or just in the last couple of decades, the Concorde was developed, which was an aircraft that can get from New York to London in three hours. The mind created that. You can go so far to say, “oh, well academics created that.” Well, we created academics. What was before schooling?
Let’s think about conditioning the mind. If you say, “I’m getting fatter, shorter, older, uglier.” You feel all of those feelings that relate to those comparative adjectives, right? Feeling of depression, stress, sadness – you name it.
Conversely, if you say the opposite and think the opposite by reaffirming positive thoughts, you will believe it. You will believe anything you feed your subconscious mind.
I told myself that I was “black” my entire life because society labeled me that way. Coming over here to Thailand, where labelling is taken to the extreme, I started to feel 10x worse here than I did in America until I did away with the societal perception.
I can go back to when I first watched the secret in 2007 and tell you that I started to believe that I can control my life. Yes, I can control what was going on outside of me. When the experimental stages were ongoing, I realized that I can save money, go on trips, see beautiful countries and stop using my childhood blueprint of “not having enough” as an excuse.
A lot of people would say, “what about the poor people in Africa? Bangladesh? Parts of Southeast Asia? What about those paces.” Well, when you’re born into poverty, you don’t know what life is outside of it. You’re born into the “not-enoughedness.” You don’t have the resources (not educationally speaking, either), to escape that lifestyle because you don’t know anything beyond those barriers.”
Look at the Southside of Chicago, for instance. This is a place of desolation and hooliganism, killing each other nightly. Where at? AMERICA! African American children not knowing the difference between right and wrong. Why? Their minds were conditioned at the very beginning when they were born into those impoverished neighborhoods. Mom & dad were out participating in the worst of activities while they were getting bullied at school until that one day….someone came to rescue. Someone who is/was gang affiliated. There’s no other reality. The outlook is as drab as it gets….but how come Serena & Venus Williams were born in the heart of Compton whereas they had to jump on the Tennis courts, ducking bullets that were being shot by rival gangs?
It’s all about conditioning the mind.
Start by making a list of all the times you can remember in your life that have made you feel the most truly alive and joyful.
This is a shortlist of mine. It’s time to make yours and evaluate it. Ask yourself what each of these experiences had in common. Make a note of it. There’s a common element in it that brings you joy, and the thing that brings you joy is your life purpose!
Now, consider the following questions, and write down your answers.
What are my natural gifts?
What are my skills and talents?
What do I love to do?
When do I feel the most alive?
What am I passionate about?
What brings me the greatest joy in life?
When do I feel best about myself?
What are my personal strengths and characteristics
What have others always said that I am really good at?
How do I most enjoy interacting with other people?
What would I change in the world if i could?
MY LIFE PURPOSE:
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A doorbell rang in the early morning hours while Dale Carnegie was sleeping. This volunteer urged him to get vaccinated against Smallpox.
Yes, this is when the Smallpox epidemic made it’s way to America. 8 people had it at the time and 2 died. However, nurses and doctors were working feverishly to get everyone vaccinated in New York City.
However, no one rang is doorbell about the emotional sickness of worry? An illness that, during the same time period, had caused ten thousand times more damage than smallpox.
No one ever warned him about what nervous breakdowns can do?
How about obesity? A pandemic (what I consider to to be), that has killed more people than just about any other disease in America. More than 300,000 to be exact….now there maybe some illnesses out there that have a higher number, but you get the point I’m trying to make, right?
Dr. O. F. Gober – a medical executive of the Sante Fe Hospital Association said years ago, “seventy percent of all patients who come to physicians could cure themselves if they only got rid of their fears and worries. Don’t think for a moment that I mean that their ill are imaginary. Their ills are as real as a throbbing toothache and sometimes a hundred times more serious. I refer to such illnesses as nervous indigestion, some stomach ulcers, heart disturbances, insomnia, some headaches, and some types of paralysis. ”
Dr. W. C. Alvarez has said, “ulcers frequently flare up or subside according to the hills and valleys of emotional stress.”
There was a study done years ago where 15,000 patients were being treated for stomach disorders at the Mayo Clinic. Four out of five had no physical basis whatever for their stomach illnesses. Fear, worry, hate, supreme selfishness, and the inability to adjust themselves to the world of reality – these were largely the causes of their stomach illnesses.
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All human beings worry to some degree. That worry could be about fear of ill health, loss of love, financial situation, loss of a job, loss of everything in general. Would you like a quick, sure-fire recipe for handling worry situations?
Let me talk about Willis H. Carrier’s formula, which so many people have used for over a hundred years now. He was a brilliant engineer who launched the air condition industry (so this was almost a century ago) and he came across a huge project where he had to install a glass-cleaning device. Well, push came to shove – he failed at the installation.
“I was stunned by my failure. It was almost as if someone struck me a blow on the head. My stomach, my insides began to twist and turn. For a while I was so worried I couldn’t sleep.
Finally, common sense reminded me that worry wasn’t getting me anywhere; so I figured out a way to handle my problem without worrying. It worked superbly. I have been using this same anti-worry technique for more than thirty years.
Step 1. Analyze the situation fearlessly and honestly. Figure out what’s the worst that could possibly happen as a result of the failure or situation.
“No one was going to jail me or shoot me. That was certain. True, there was also a chance that I would lose my position; and there was also a chance that my employers would have to remove the machinery and lose the twenty thousand dollars we had invest.
Step II. After figuring out the worst that could possibly happen, accept it if necessary.
“I said to myself: This failure will be a blow to my record, and it might possibly mean the loss of my job; but if it does, I can always get another position. Conditions could be much worse; and as far as my employers are concerned – well, they realize that we are experimenting with a new method of cleaning gas, and if this experience costs them twenty thousand dollars, they can stand it. They can charge it up to research, for it is an experiment.
Step III. From that time on, devote your time and energy to improving upon the worst which you have to accept mentally.
In the end, he went from losing twenty thousand to making fifteen thousand because he made several tests by improving on the worst.
I probably would never have been able to do this if I had kept on worrying, because one of the worst features about worrying is that it destroys your ability to concentrate.
Since living here in Thailand, teachers have said: I’m black, too loud, too funny, not strict enough, too much charisma, gets all the work, brown noses, shouldn’t be a teacher, can’t write, bad at presenting. In addition to that, students have said: we want a white teacher, we want a handsome teacher, you’re too funny, we want to go page-by-page, we want that 150 year old traditional style teaching whereas a teacher writes a bunch of shenanigans on the board and we copy it.
Is this part of leadership? Well, just know in every field of human endeavour, you’re going to get that white light of publicity. When you start doing good and start making a name for yourself, the envy will be there waiting for you. The reward of the publicity and recognition; the punishment, fierce denial and detraction. It could become a target for the envious few or envious many. When you do something mediocre, they’ll leave you alone. When you achieve a masterpiece, it will set a million tongues a-wagging.
You’re never going to get the “seal of genius” stamp in what you do. I’ve had people who said my writing was appalling; conversely, my college professors would give me straight A’s on my papers. The one who said I couldn’t write to save my life never majored in English….get the drift? There are parasites and bacteria out there that are trying to find a way to harvest anywhere on your body…and I’m not speaking literally. The comments and negative opinions of others are just that….parasites and bacteria.
The Penalty of Leadership is monstrous. The moment I created a curriculum that enabled others to get a lot more work, there wasn’t a ‘thank you’ anywhere in the vicinity. The pessimism grew even larger because the fact and matter is that my image is being created in a way that will alter the trajectory of colored people worldwide. If you’re not ready to strap on your helmet and barrel through the cynicism, criticism, haughty and antagonists, I suggest you stick to the 9-5 job.
Ahhhh….I stood before a class, the same class I haven’t seen in four years, with the biggest smile on my face. The energy that was beaming out of me was utter elation. The smiles on their faces seeing me speaking like a completely transformed being compared to what I was just two years prior.
More than 700 days of not seeing them, how was I able to change my language, the way I speak, and my life in general? Well, the beginning of 2016 was the difference maker when I picked up a Napoleon Hill book and realized everything about myself was wrong and toxic. Just this past week, as I’m still learning, I dumped one of the worst habits which revolves around labelling myself as a “black man” while playing the victimization role. I’ve never felt this great before in my life after waking up the hero and believing in myself. The negative language and the pity parties are gone. The people who seemingly cry about everything…..gone. Everything has changed and I’m utterly grateful for it.
Let that phrase sink in it bit. We have been conditioned and categorized our entire lives like a damn canned food item at our local food market. Labels – such as disabled, black, white, muslim, buddhist, liberal, conservative….all of which has divided this world completely over the last…150 years? Maybe?
Let’s say you came out the womb today, what would you be? What name would you have? Everything has been given to us from our baby years, to our adult years.
In Thailand, I’m just a “black man.” Therefore, the stereotypes that come with “black men” are: pimp, drug-dealer, thief, convict, hooligan, among so many other names. However, if I was white, I would be deemed as a holy being that is rich and lovely.
I love what Muhammad Ali said during an interview four decades ago back in England.
“Momma, how come Jesus is white? Blonde hair and blue eyes? Angels are white? How come everyone in the last supper is white?”
“Momma, when we die, we will go to heaven, right?”
Mother answers, “naturally we will.”
Muhammad Ali, “well are there any black angels up there?”
“Oh, I know. The white angels are up in heaven, too. So, the black angels are in the kitchen preparing the milk and honey.”
-Tarzan was the king of the jungle in Africa – he was white.
-Miss America was always white.
-The angel fruitcake was the white cake and the devil fruitcake was the chocolate cake.
-The president lives in the white house.
-Snow White was white.
On The Other Hand
-The ugly duckling was a black duck.
-The black cat was bad luck.
-If I’m going to threaten you I’m going to blackmail you.
At the end of the conversation, he told his story about winning an olympic gold medal and went back home standing tall – hoping to get something to eat in a restaurant in Louisville, Kentucky where things weren’t integrated back then. He sat down, ordered….and the woman said, “we don’t serve negroes.”
He replied, “well I don’t eat them either! Go back there and fix me my food!”
He was thrown out…but the point I’m trying to make is this has been imbedded in our subconscious minds since the picture was invented. How come every love story revolves around a white character? Honestly, sit down and think about it. The Jetsons, the Flintstones, the Rugrats, Doug Funny, Salute Your Shorts, Are You Afraid of The Dark, Nickelodeon was an extremely white network. However, the only somewhat “black” cartoon I saw while I was young was Bebe’s Kids. A bunch of bad a$$ African Americans.
I wish I was making this up, but unfortunately….it’s true.
This labelling has to be abolished in humanity wants to move forward. Is it going to be overnight – NO! It’s going to take an individual sticking up for other individuals. If you see someone being mistreated anywhere for their gender, creed, color, it’s up to you to butt in and do what’s right. When these things start to happen, the influences that are left behind on passerbys will stick with them forever.
One person at a time.
Do the right thing.