100% Ownership

Personal responsibility.

Done.

If you focus on that…just that…you will amass endless amounts of success.  Why? Because it’s one of the most basic, fundamentally sound concepts on the planet.

How much ownership do you take in relationships? Think about it.  Those who are reading this right now.  Yes, you! Do you take 50/50? 51/49? 80/20?  What?

The answer: 100/0.

The finger-pointing, the blaming, the victimization shows that individuals just cannot take responsibility for what’s happening.  In the current state of affairs, it continues to happen all over the world.

From a personal standpoint, it was I who constantly finger-pointed at Thai women, saying that they only like anglo men and that they’re extremely racist towards anyone of color.  Well, two years after brainwashing myself with the opinions of other human beings, I’m now involved with who? A Thai woman.

See, past experiences dictate the present and the future.  Because of what happened in the past and being denied countless jobs for being an African American, I took that with me to heart and I created it as my life.  Sure, it certainly exists, but oxygen also exists.  What am I trying to say……I could be grateful for the wonderful things we have at out disposal instead of nagging about an uneducated being telling me that I wasn’t good enough because the color of my skin.

Own up to everything that’s in your life and make a change.

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Choice

Everyone has a choice.  In the beginning, we all come into this world naked, scare, and ignorant to everything.  We have no color, no nationality, no nothing – just a name.

When it comes to our choices, they can be our best friend or worst enemy.  Sit back and think about it.  Everything in our life exists and is the way it is because of our choices. The choices we make are the roots of all our results.

My mother, unfortunately, has made a choice to live in the same neighborhood where gunshots are heard on a nightly basis.  Could she leave? Yes.  Why doesn’t she? Because she’s comfortable living uncomfortably.

African Americans in low-socio economic states in the likes of Gary, Indiana, to Flint, Michigan…..they make a choice everyday to go left, or do what’s right.  Everyone has it.

“For instance, have you ever been going about your business, enjoying your life, when all of sudden you made a stupid choice or series of small choices that ultimately sabotaged your hard work and momentum, all for no apparent reason? You didn’t intend to sabotage yourself, but by not thinking about your decisions—weighing the risks and potential outcomes—you found yourself facing unintended consequences. Nobody intends to become obese, go through bankruptcy, or get a divorce, but often (if not always) those consequences are the result of a series of small, poor choices.” – Darren Hardy

I recall having siblings and even friends coming home saying, “I ate a sandwich for lunch” – only to find them eat frozen food, packed with sodium and trans fat.  That small, mindless, thoughtless decision they made literally sabotage that “one good meal” they had previously.  A lot of people around the world don’t have intentions on becoming fat.  They don’t wake up one day and say to themselves, “fat is the new thing! I’m going to become obese so my organs can work double/triple and hammer my gut flora.”  Of course not.  However, unconsciously they make a series of poor A$$ decisions that lead them to the demise of…..them.

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My Herbalife Story

I did this story in a podcast a long time ago, but I’ll have to write this bad boy out and post the podcast at the bottom because this, at its height, was one of the biggest business ventures that made it’s way into my life.

However, I didn’t realize it and just went at it from a healthy standpoint rather than looking to expand and grow.  So it goes something like this….

In October of 2012, I was sitting at a table in a hot gym staring at a man who looked like Bruce Leroy out of the 1985 film ‘The Last Dragon.”  Over to my right was a booth with banners with writing super imposed in big lettering “Nutrition LV.”  Of course at the time I was looking for a better source of protein and post-workout snacks, but luckily I festered up the courage towards the end(which I lacked five years ago), went over and spoke to one of the nicest women in the world.  She saw that I was dragging and asked me, “um, would you like some water? I have some orange flavored water with B vitamins.”  I took it, and the rest was history.  After coming to my senses almost instantaneously, I asked the woman, “do you have protein bars?”  She invited me over to her office.

It took me about 6 months to visit, but when I finally got there and had a tea beverage and a ridiculously delicious protein shake in the other hand – BOOM! I signed up, which was a fee of 70$ shortly later – just so I can buy my Herbalife at anytime at a discounted price.  Within the first couple of months, I increased my overall discounted rate to 35% – just before heading to Thailand. Since being here, I’ve been focusing so much more on different things, so I haven’t been doing Herbalife full-time per se.  However, it’s still something I buy on a monthly basis and have it shipped from multiple countries – because I LOVE IT.

No Shoving

What a lot of you must remember is don’t always be rescue 911.  People, especially in American society, don’t want any help.  The moment you mention anything to them comes a defence mechanism and they say, “SCAM” in the matter of seconds without knowing anything.  On the other hand, I saw that my brother had had back surgery the year before, my sisters and mother were at the very minimal overweight….so I tried helping them, only to be completely shunned by them.  Take everyone you’re trying to help off your shoulder first; then go through the door, become what it is you want to become successful at before going back to say, “uhhhhh, yeah.  Here I am? Do you think I’m still lying?”  At that point, you don’t even have to do it.

Range of Products That Help

I’m very picky with what I consume after workouts.  These days, I workout at a gym in the heart of Bangkok called “The Lab” and the workouts are fierce and relentless.  Having a typical Thai dish won’t suffice.  Having a grounded up salad for carbs and protein (based on if its focused more on fat burning than weightlifting), would, but there’s not much in the neighborhood….so an already made Herbalife shake paves the way for me.  It’s not only the shakes, but the probiotics (those who suffer from constipation – this is your god); to the best defense that has echinacea formulated in it; to the ridiculous Herbalife 24 line……pure love!

I say with utter gratitude that I’m so unbelievably thankful that one afternoon shifted the way I see healthy eating for the rest of my life.

I will still eat my hamburgers, though.

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The Masks of Society, Identifying Yours & The Journey

1.The Stoic Mask: Because every man must be invulnerable and tough, emotions are carefully managed and suppressed. There can be no crying, no pain, no feeling. A wall is put up between him and the world to protect him, to pretend he doesn’t feel the things he does, because weakness is an invitation to scrutiny and judgment and rejection.

2.The Athlete Mask: One of the clearest ways a man can distinguish himself is on the field or on the court. He is like a modern-day gladiator whose weapon isn’t death, but domination. Sports are how men prove themselves, and a good athlete is a good man—period. This means spending hours in the gym to get in shape. It means fighting through injuries and pain and fear to win at all costs. And of course, if for some reason a man isn’t good at sports, he had better compensate for that by loving them and knowing everything he can about them.

3.The Material Mask: There is no clearer sign of a man’s worth than the amount of money in his bank account. Not only do men work incredibly hard—and sometimes do questionable things — to make as much money as possible, it’s all for naught if other people don’t know how much money he has. In this way, his cars, his watches, his houses, and his social media feeds become a representation of who he is. A man’s net worth becomes his self-worth.

4.The Sexual Mask: A man is defined by his sexual conquests—his worth determined not only by his bank account but by the number of women he’s slept with. Relationships? Those are for lesser men—for quitters and settlers. A real man loves them and then leaves them—but he’s so good in bed, they’re left fully satisfied, of course.
5.The Aggressive Mask: Men are aggressive. It’s their nature. They’re violent and tough, and they never back down. When they see something they want, they take it. Men hate; men have enemies. Of course they have a temper; of course they break things; and of course they get into fights. They’re the hunters, not the gatherers. It’s what men do. A man who thinks otherwise is not a man and is responsible for the weakening of the world.

6.The Joker Mask: A man has a sense of humor and a wit that can repel even the most withering critique or the most nagging doubt. Talk about his problems? Okay, Dr. Phil, maybe later. Cynicism and sarcasm and a sense of superiority, these are the intellectual weapons that a man uses to defend against every attempt to soften him or connect with him. If you want a man to let you in, expect a knock-knock joke, not an open door.”
7.The Invincible Mask: A man does not feel fear. A man takes risks. Whether that’s betting his life savings on a company or cliff diving or smoking and drinking in incredible quantities, a man doesn’t have time to think about consequences, he’s too busy doing. Other people (i.e., women and betas) have “problems.” But men? Men have it all under control. They’ve “got this” and they’ll be fine.

8.The Know-It-All Mask: A man is not only physically dominant but intellectually dominant too. If you don’t understand why that is, a man is happy to explain it to you—along with all the other subjects he’s an expert in. He went to a top school, he watches the news, and he knows all the answers. He certainly doesn’t need your—or anyone’s—help. He knows it all.
9.The Alpha Mask: At the most basic level, men believe that there are only two types of men: alphas and betas, winners and losers. No man can stand to be the latter—so a man must dominate, one up, and win everything. A man can’t ever defer. As a man, he must be in control, and he can’t ever do anything a beta (or a woman) would do.

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

  1. This has to be one of the strongest misrepresentations of the African American community.  Turn on your TV in America and see a man berating the airways by Lavar Wall, preaching that he’s a man because of whatever reason.  People, especially men, who cry, are not men….period.  I’d have to say a good 70% of American men have this “Stoic” mask on, but luckily I’m not one of them who suffers from it.
  2. On part of the other book I’m doing by Darren Hardy, his father was definitely a representation of the “Athlete Mask.”  Football coach among so many other things taught Darren to be “tough,” but that toughness also equated to amazing habits and unshakable discipline that manifested millions upon millions of dollars.   However, if you look at the “jocks” of high school – you need to have a letterman jacket, a car, and a ton of girls to be considered the “cool guy” of the school.  I still remember a handful of those boneheads that walked around school with their chest out – and all of them are working 10$ hour jobs at the age of 30.  Damn.
  3. INSTAGRAMMERS! How many of you have scene those men, “motivational” (although fake) posts of guys in ultimate, luxurious suits strutting those high end watches in front of Ferraris? Yeah, these are the fakes.  These are the men who seriously believe their bank accounts and being successful only means the dollar signs.  90% of American men MUST suffer from this, because it almost seems like every Instagram post I see has a link that says, “click the link to make six figures.”
  4. This is more of the Generation Z tribe.  I remember also being in school and hearing African Americans (just trying to make a point about a specific group) that would spew sexual rhetoric towards their friends: “did you f*** her yet? Ahhh n*gga you a b****!”  Yeah, welcome to my junior and senior year of high school in North Las Vegas.
  5. Men who club. PERIOD! I believe clubs are grounds for the worst people, including women.  How often do you hear of the “big fight after a night club closed” news?  Go online and type “fight at the club” and hundreds of videos will pop up.  These are men trying to claim their territory, most notable men such as singers Chris Brown and the singer from Canada (completely forgot his name) who got into a massive scrum inside of a nightclub.  Short-tempered thuggery is what I call it, but this also happens at football games in Europe (Serbia) where hooligans throw chairs and all kinds of objects at each other…..for…..nothing.
  6. Yes, and no.  There is a colleague I have that just uses endless amounts of jokes and doesn’t take anything serious. That’s not necessarily a mask, though. There have been a few people that tread this line before, but nothing very blatant.
  7. MY BROTHER! My goodness.  This made me laugh out loud.  Drinking, smoking, etc…he also has the know-it-all-mask.  Try telling him anything and he wants to argue to the point a fight breaks out.  If the sea looks black, please agree….or else.
  8. Shaquille O’Neal, Kobe Bryant, along with so many other athletes who try showing that they’re “macho” blur out this “Alpha male” bs.  There’s no such thing as Alpha.  If there is, it’s a man who’s beyond insecure to show his true side.  My best friend, who lives in New York, tried being an Alpha male….but there were times I saw his weak side (that he doesn’t want to show).

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Napoleon Hill – Concentration Continued + The 3 R’s

We have seen what an important part environment and habit play in connection with the subject of concentration.  Let’s now get into the three R’s as stated in Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success.

  1. Retention: The receiving of a sense impression through one or more of the five senses, and the recording of this impression, in orderly fashion, in the mind.  This process may be likened to the recording of a picture on the sensitised plate of a camera or soda.
  2. Recall: The reviving or recalling into the conscious mind of those sense impressions which have been recorded in the sub-conscious mind.  This process may be compared to the act of going through a card index and pulling out a card on which information had been previously recorded.
  3. Recognition: The ability to recognize a sense impression when it it called into the conscious mind, and to identify it as being a duplicate of the original impression, and to associate it with the original source from which it came when it was first recorded.  This process enables us to distinguish between “memory” and “imagination.”

Now lets look at the principles and see how we can apply these….

First: when you wish to be sure of your ability to recall a sense impression, such as a name, date or place, be sure to make the impression vivid by concentrating your attention upon it to the finest detail.  An effective way to do this is to repeat, several times, that which you wish to remember. Just as a photographer must give an “exposure” proper time to record itself on the sensitised plate of the camera, so must we give the sub-conscious mind time to record properly and clearly any sense impression that we wish to be able to recall with readiness.

Second: Associate that which you wish to remember with some other object, name, place, or date with which you are quite familiar, and which you can easily recall when you wish, as, for example, the name of your home town, your close friend, the date of your birth, etc, for your mind will then file away the sense impression that you wish to be able to recall, with the one that you can easily recall, so that when bringing forth one into the conscious mind it brings, also, the other one with it.

Third: Repeat that which you wish to remember, a number of times, at the same time concentrating your mind upon it, just as you would fix your mind on a certain hour at which you wished to arise in the morning, which, as you know, insures your awakening at the precise hour.  The common failing of not being able to remember the names of other people, which most of us have, is due entirely to the fact that we do not properly record the name in the first place.

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https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/napoleon-hill-the-memory-game

Podcast Through The Years

Man, I looked back on some photos over the past 1.5 years in my phone, and I couldn’t help but notice an amazing trend.  After the first six months of my podcast, I had only accumulated just under 1800 plays.  A year and a few months later, I’ve amassed a whopping 24k plays + downloads from so many different countries around the world.  Here are some photos and a podcast on my journey.

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MOST RECENT

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The trials and tribulations I had to endure on the way were insane.  At my job, during the month of July (when my plays sparked dramatically), the majority of the teachers were listening to my podcast to infer and implicate who I MAY have been talking about.  I got a lot of s*** for it, threatened, warned, and the teachers began to hate my guts (can’t handle the truth).  Teachers would walk by stepping on my shoe without apologizing, chatter on so many different levels about who I am and how come I have so much work – all this culminated into the biggest success EVER in the history of my life.  How? I never gave up!

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Spartan Race: Melbourne, Australia – Hurricane Heat – Signed Up!

Yes, indeed! I’ll be making landfall back in my ‘second home’ of a country called Australia this upcoming February to kick-off the 2018 Spartan festivities – beginning with a Hurricane Heat.

What the hell is a Hurricane Heat?

Something tells me that this is going to be the competition of a lifetime.  No “gorilla” hills like Melbourne’s Tough Mudder back in 2015.  No desert terrain from last April’s Half Tough Mudder, and no “gateway to heaven” signs like the one’s imposed on Bali’s course.

This is going to be a log carrying, sandbag dragging, tire pushing hell.  I love the fact that I continue to test my body and push it beyond it’s limits.  I guess this is just the sheer beauty of working out; and if you got an unbelievable sickening work ethic topped with discipline, why not?  You have one life.

Ultra Beast, 12HH, agoge and death race are probably out of the question.  I’m not climbing 100 meter high ice blocks and running on frigid ice.  I won’t be going up and down the Great Wall of China anytime soon…..but an Ultra Beast could possibly be in the discussion come 2019.  However, let’s just get back to the agoge.

“Arsenio, did you say the “Great Wall of China?”

I can’t imagine operating 60 hours without any sleep like this.  Some of the participants weren’t even given medals, and that’s got to hurt the most.  I think these types of races are for people that are looking to relinquish any demons from the past.  Tough Mudder was the first one that got me into the game.  Tough Mudder propelled me past a very ugly first two years in Thailand.  The next races that followed Tough Mudder, to Spartan, to me doing unbelievable classes that push my body to the limit every Monday and Thursday…..this is what life is all about.

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Darren Hardy: Everyone Has Experienced The Compound Effect

“The phenomenal power of the Compound Effect is that simple. The difference between people who employ the Compound Effect for their benefit compared to their peers who allow the same effect to work against them is almost inconceivable. It looks miraculous! Like magic or quantum leaps. After thirty-one months (or thirty-one years), the person who uses the positive nature of the Compound Effect appears to be an “overnight success.” In reality, his or her profound success was the result of small, smart choices, completed consistently over time.”

Let me break this down in incremental sub-stories.

When I was on break from college, my brother and I got into a massive argument over money.  He said, “why are you having mom pay for your phone bill? You should pay for it instead!”  From that point going forward, I became a very aggressive saver.  This is the intent of very successful people – be able to live on a little amount every month and invest/save everything away for a beautiful day.

This lead to a booking of a trip to Australia in May of 2009.  If those events hadn’t taken place in the past, I would’ve never gone to Australia to begin with.  Those small, smart choices of saving money made all the difference in the world and still continues to do so. How? Well, Malaysia, Maldives, America, Indonesia in one year says it all.  Saving had a large impact on my travels.

Another excellent example is my podcast.  Do I have millions of downloads? No.  Do I have hundreds of thousands, tens of thousands, or even thousands of downloads? Well, thousands of downloads and plays over an almost 2-year span.  A lot of people would say, “that’s not good,” but those small steps will leave a very lasting effect on everyone.  Some people think everything works instantaneously, like my blogs.  I’ve written more than 150 blogs but not that many views, likes or followers compared to others who write about politics and attract dozens of negative comments.  My intent is not about the macro, but those micro-wins will deliver macro success.

And, of course, my last story is Herbalife.  I’ve been doing it for four years and people ask me, “are you making money from it yet?”  No.  I’m doing it for my health.  If I was more aggressive, I could’ve been able to accumulate quite a bit by now, but that’s never my intent; nor is it my intent to shove endless amounts of blogs and messages down my friends throats, urging them to try it.  Again, if someone comes to me with healthy questions, I deliver.

All in all, it’s all about consistency. I will continue producing content for my YouTube and Podcast; continue writing; herbalife; and so many other things….because over a period of time, it’s going to make all the difference in the world.

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Wheel of Life: A Change Is Needed!

Another monthly wheel of life update!  For those of you tuning into my blog for the first time, this is an excellent way of evaluating your life and figuring out what areas of your life need work and which areas you’ve been neglecting.  You have to be brutally honest with yourself about this process.  When you face the truth, you’re more prone to making proactive decisions towards making your life better.  If you give yourself high marks in the very beginning, I can tell that you’re not being honest with yourself.

Here are my scores for the month….

Family & Friends – 8

Romantic Relationships – 3?

Career – 7

Personal Development – 9

Health – 6

Fun & Hobbies – 7

Physical Environment – 7

Wealth – 8

Eight categories need grading on a scale 1-10.

Here’s my podcast down below for more of an explanation.

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Napoleon Hill: Lesson 11 – Concentration

Let us first device the word concentration:

“Concentration is the act of focusing the mind upon a given desire until ways and means for its realization have worked out and successfully put into operation.”

There are two important laws that coordinate with the act of concentrating the mind on an objective: auto-suggestion and the law of habit.

What is habit? I’ve preached this so many times and you guys have to really understand what it is to have it work to your advantage.  For example, just two days ago I fell completely out of sync with my purpose in life, feeling absolutely miserable.  However, there was a post that ignited that fire within me just yesterday and this morning, at 6:20am, I’ve accomplished more in the past hour than most people have done in a day – out of habit!

Habit can grow out of the environment – doing the same thing you do over and over and over again.  If you look at people who are poor, people who are rich; people who are in line with goals and people who aren’t….it’s all predicated on habit.  Repetition – out of thinking the same thoughts and doing the same things over and over.  It kind of resembles a cement block that has hardened in the mood.

“Except on rare occasions when the mind rises above environment, the human mind draws the material out of which thought is created, from the surrounding environment, and habit crystallizes this though into a permanent fixture and stores it away in the subconscious mind where it becomes a vital part of our personality which silently influences our actions, forms our prejudices and our biases, and controls out opinions.” – Dale Carnegie

So frankly put, environment very large supplies the food and materials out of which we create thought.

You want to know how to can create good habits right now? How to use all of what I’m telling you to your advantage? Well, I’ll be jotting down an excerpt from Napoleon Hill’s book and also will include a PDF at the bottom of the page so you can read this over twice a day.  Be sure to print it and hang it anywhere in your home….a place where you’re going to see it and read it everyday.

First: At the beginning of the formation of a new habit put force and enthusiasm into expression.  Feel what you think.  Remember that you are taking the first steps toward making the new mental path; that it is much harder at first than it will be afterwards.  Make the path as clear and as deep as you can, at the beginning, so that you can readily see it the next time you wish to follow it.

Second: Keep your attention firmly concentrated on the new path-building, and keep your mind away from the old paths, lest you incline toward them.  Forget all about the old paths, and concern y ourself with the new ones that you are building to order.

Third: Travel over your newly made paths as often as possible.  Make opportunities for doing iso, without waiting for them to arise through luck or chance.  The oftener you go over the new paths the sooner will the become well worn and easily traveled.  Create plans for passing over these new habit-paths, at the very start.

Fourth: Resist the temptation to travel over the older, easier paths that you have been using in the past.  Every time you resist the temptation, the strong do you become, and the easier will it be for you to do so the next time.  But overtime you yield to the temptation, the easier does it become to yield again, and the more difficult it becomes to resist the next time.  You will have a fight on at the start, and this is the critical time.  Prove your determination, persistency and will-power now at the very beginning.

Fifth: Be sure that you have mapped out the right path, as your definite chief aim, and then go ahead without fear and without allowing yourself to doubt. “Place your hand upon the plow, and look not backward.” Select your goal, then make good, deep, wide mental paths leading straight to it.

PDF of The Rules Above (printable): Rules of Concentration

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