Wheel of Life – July: Crossroads Have Been Met

This exercise in Glenn Harold’s book titled ‘The Answer’ is an excellent way to evaluate and figure out what areas of life you’re neglecting; on top of figuring out a correct balance.

I do this monthly to figure out where I’m at, and for the first time in about 7 years, I’ve realized that living here in Thailand is not enough for me anymore.  Here are my categories.

Family & Friends – 6.5: This is actually the highest it’s been in more than a half decade, given the fact that my mother broke communication with me for the first time in a year on a fb comment post (lol).  I feel my best friends are family: Phoenix, New York, Melbourne, and up and coming friends in Bishkek and Perth; I’m very content with what’s happening in my life in this category.

Career – 7.5: Although the change in my life is happening: podcast, website, and the public speaking realm of things are always solid.  People from Norway, Colombia, USA, Aruba, Malaysia and so many other countries are proud listeners….especially my wonderful Indians.  This is getting better now that I’ve done away with procrastination.

Romantic Relationships – 0: Until I leave Thailand, this will always be zero. LOL

Fun & Hobbies – 6: Yes, I just had a wonderful time in Kuala Lumpur, but I feel this area can be much improved if I become more content with my life.

Personal Development – 8.5: This is always high, especially because personal development is part of my lifestyle.

Physical Environment – 3.5: For the last three weeks I’ve been doing some soul-searching.  I’ve been trying to figure out what’s this feeling I’m having…or have been having.  Then, I applied for jobs around Asia…..following the moment was an overwhelming feeling of peace.  I said, “damnit, the time has arrived.” It’s time for me to move forward in opportunities.

Health – 6: I’ve been eating terribly, but after buying a good amount of Herbalife, I’m now back on track.

Wealth – 9.75: This is the highest it’s ever been in my life and I’m absolutely beside myself in the best possible way because my savings is piling up.  What was it piling up for? Maybe for me to be ready when the call comes.

Listen to my podcast to know how to do this in-depth!

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12412677

An Easy Way To Become A Good Conversationalist

Have you ever sat down with somebody and allowed them to talk for hours and hours? Ok, maybe not hours, but up to an hour at best.  They would probably label you as an active listener.  They would probably say that you’re one of the best conversationalists they have ever come across.  But did you speak?

Maybe a bit.  Maybe not at all.

However, listening with intent and genuine interest wins people.

A story one of my Australian sidekicks gave me resonated with me and probably with everyone else whom I will tell.  At the time, back in the early 1990’s, she was applying for jobs in Tokyo, Japan.  Without a degree, it’s virtually impossible to land a job….and heading into a particular interview, she knew she would have to win the potential employer before he asked her about her credentials.

In saying that, when the day came, she sat down in his office and realized that he had pictures on the wall, which all pertained to one another.  Visualize these pictures at motels.  She immediately got an idea and said, “so, you want to own your own motel?”  He retorted, “absolutely.  How did you know?” For the next hour, this man talked about himself and only himself….because people are more interested in themselves when another listener is around.  Because of her solid follow-up question technique, he hired her on the spot without even asking about the obvious – the credentials.

Some of my executive auditing students recently asked me intriguing and compelling questions that had me talking about myself and my life; and at that time in the morning, I went from feeling sleepy, to fully alert.  Granted….these particular students are at a low-level in terms of spoken English, but how are they able to ask such in-depth follow-up questions about topics?  That’s my goal as a life teacher.  Get yourself thinking about other individuals and have that genuine interest in their life.

So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other people will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12398939

 

If You Don’t Do This, You’re Headed For Trouble

I’m a person who has a tendency of forgetting names.  There, I said it! We’ve all fell victims to this type of crime, and quite frankly you can lose a lot of respect, especially in the business world.

What is it that Jim Kwik knows and does to establish himself as one of the best memorization beings on the planet?

Sometimes it’s difficult to remember names, particularly if it’s hard to pronounce.  For example, Korean, Japanese and Chinese names are relatively easy for me.  However, there are German names and French names that are always difficult.  Instead of learning how to say an individuals name, we give them a nickname.

Most notably, comedian Kevin Hart called Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson – DJ.  Another example would be my name.  I’m named after a comedian back in the 1980’s and people would call me ‘A,’ which I believe is pretty pathetic.

I’ll mention Jim Kwik again, who I have come in contact with on instagram.  His video about 3 years ago changed the way I view names; in addition, it gave me additional techniques to use so I can better myself.

Technique Number 1: Repetition

Yes.  When you reach out and shake someone’s hand for the first time, repeat their name after they say it.  Before you leave the common area, say their name again…..not only will this boost your confidence, but the faith in the other person because then they will say, “wow, he remembered my name.”

Technique Number 2: Word of Association

Emotional reactions to meeting someone triggers something within the brain/mind whereas you’re more predisposed to remembering the name.  You can remember a beautiful woman’s name, or a handsome man’s name….but you can’t remember anyone’s name where there isn’t an attraction, right?  If you think of the name Carol….how about Christmas Carols? Picture a Christmas tree overtime you see “Carol.”

How about Tom “The Bomb”….every time you see this individual, you remember the good ol,’ classic game Superbomber Man for SNES.

Here’s a video of Jim Kwik and Lewis Loews to further develop your ability along with my podcast.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12393376

Free writing & Free Speaking Topics: Part II (For ESL Students) *Downloadable PDF*

Freewriting & Freespeaking – Part II

The downloadable link above is another array of miscellaneous topics to get your mind flowing with things you’ve probably never thought of.

I’ve written on the last blog that this is especially crucial for countries which don’t ask these type of questions.  Lots of students around the world have problems with conversing and even writing because no one in their lives have ever asked them questions such as the ones on the PDF.

Well, now that I know how to put documents onto my wordpress blogs, it’s time to start getting better in your writing and speaking – even if it’s not in preparation for systematic tests.

Do This & You’ll Be Welcomed Anywhere – Part II

A show of interest, as with every other principle of human relations, must be sincere. It must pay off not only for the person showing the interest, but for the person receiving the attention. It is a two-way street—both parties benefit.

In the beginning of March of 2013, I was planning a trip to Sedona, Arizona with one of my best friends.  Now, leading up to the trip was a series of conversations that could’ve posed a threat on our potential trip – given the fact that an apparent storm was heading our way.

Push came to shove….the day of the flight, I was at the airport and the woman asked me, “would you like to leave now? We have an available slot.”  Because my friend was coming in from a different county, I didn’t want to camp out at Sky Harbour International Airport for an extra two hours – so I declined.

MISTAKE!

At McCarran International Airport in Las Vegas, there’s a terminal that has glass floor-to-ceiling windows 360 degrees.  When the storm came, about 1.5 hours later, everyone looked in awe and I started hyperventilating.  Just before that, my friend called me shouting saying, “ice cubes are falling from the sky, Arsenio!”  I was terrified.  There was a hailstorm in Phoenix and a rain storm in Las Vegas.  While I was sitting there, I saw a group of people joking with green, glittery hats and a green suit.  I realized it was St. Patricks Day (or at least around the day) and these people were going back home after one of those “vegas” trips.

We finally boarded the plane and I was getting even more scared because of the anticipated turbulence.  Oh, did I mention I mention the window seat? FML!

Then, an African American woman sat down next to me and with a country accent said, “how you doing today?”  That worry began to dissipate and she saw that I was under distress.  She calmed me down, allowed me to talk for an hour, and anytime I brought up the turbulence, she literally shot it down.

Her words were, “hey, you’re going to get to Phoenix and go to Sedona, Arizona.  You’re going to have a wonderful time!”

We ended up making it and it was one of the best trips of my life.

She had a genuine, heart-felt interest in me because she cared.  That was one of the most remarkable moments of my life.

If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind:

 

Free-writing & Free-speaking Topics For ESL Students (Downloadable PDF)

Freewriting Topics

FINALLY! Thanks to my man on instagram, I’ve been shown the way to upload PDF’s on blogs for my students, which means there’s a lot of content that’s coming soon for all my South-Eastern Asia seaboard students.

In Asia, ideas aren’t developed as compared to the western world.  Let me give you an example – noise pollution is just as bad as visual pollution.  To what extent do you agree?

In Thailand, my students wouldn’t have an idea, although the visual and noise pollution is some of the worst in Asia.

Well, with the link above, you can download the PDF, print it, and do some free writing every morning to develop not only your writing, but your speaking, too.

This is wonderful for a lot of students who are trying to achieve high marks in their IELTS Writing Task 2’s.

Nonetheless, if you guys have any comments or recommendations, please feel free to shoot them my way.  I’ll be more than happy to answer any and stay informed by following my blog when more content is available!

A Simple Way To Make A First Good Impression

Walking up to everyone, smiling before shaking their hand.  You will be remembered, why? The emotional reaction behind it.

Lily Singh, who’s a prominent Indian-American youtuber, mentioned Jimmy Kimmel in a chapter of her new book titled, “shake what your momma gave you.”

Jimmy began laughing in confusion as to why he was in that specific chapter, given the fact that his hips are definitely a big lie (lol).  Lily retorted by saying he has a tremendous character.  One day, both of them walked into a room somewhere in Hollywood and although everyone had already known who Jimmy Kimmel was, he still walked up to every single person in that room and shook their hand.  That’s a man with class.

Have you ever had a terrible day and then you saw yourself staring at a baby who was in pure joy? This baby ends up establishing a connection with you and either they will stare at you ominously (like in Thailand LOL), or they will smile at you.

There was a day I was walking out of my favorite restaurant (Wine Connection) and this child literally ran right up to me and hugged my leg with a big smile.  I poked his stomach and he nudged at me.  I walked a meter before seeing his parents smiling at me — BOOM! My day was made!  Children have the personality of a dog essentially……huh? Arsenio, what the hell are you talking about?

Think about it…..what other things do you see on the planet that makes you smile instantaneously? Babies and dogs….why? They have nothing to complain or worry about.

Professor James V. McConnell, a psychologist at the University of Michigan, expressed his feelings about a smile. “People who smile,” he said, “tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There’s far more information in a smile than a frown. That’s why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment.

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then what? Two things. First, force yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy. Here is the way the psychologist and philosopher William James put it:”

“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12362134

Do This And You’ll Be Welcomed Anywhere

Some of you wonder why are you even reading some of my blog posts on how to win friends and listening to my podcasts on developing the confidence to win people? Why not just study the greatest man-winner of them all.  The thing that runs up to your leg, tail-wagging, licking you, jumping all over you.  Why not just study dogs?  This is the showing of affection, and you won’t have to sell him real-estate, buy him dinner, or marry him, either.

When I was younger, the first dog I had ever owned was a I-Dont-know-What-Breed called Muscles.  Muscles was the protector.  The warrior that protected us from all evils.  In plain English – the biggest and even sweetest dog you can ever imagine.  Later, snoop dog (yes, just like the rapper), which was a husky,  was inducted into the family.   And the last one was poncho….a ratchet and audacious chihuahua that wreaked havoc on just about everyone.  Anytime we went home, this trio would greet us with copious amounts of saliva.

Dogs are genuinely interested in their caregivers.  On the other hand, we try to win everyone’s interest by doing outlandish things.

The New York Telephone Company made a detailed study years ago about the most frequently used word.  Can you guess what it was? The personal pronoun “I,” which was used 3900 times in 500 calls.  When you see a group picture, whose picture do you look for first?

If we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us, we will never have many true, sincere friends. Friends, real friends, are not made that way.

It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from these individuals that most failures come about.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12332584

Herbalife Healthy Meal Shake #4 – Neapolitan

We’re back! Another wonderful recipe, which I had the idea come about this morning, is in the books.

When I was a child, every time my mother would by neapolitan ice cream, I would literally just eat the strawberry and vanilla portions of it.  I was never a big fan of chocolate ice cream or chocolate milk until I grew older.

I was hesitant to buy the Herbalife Formula Healthy Meal 4 years ago here in Bangkok because again…I’ve never been a fan of chocolate outside of candy and cake.

However, this trio of flavors tastes exactly like the ice cream, but BETTER!

One scoop of each into a blender with some cubes of ice + milk is probably making you want to try it yourself.

Of course, for those of you who has never tried herbalife before, I would recommend only vanilla (since it’s the basis).  On the other hand, you can start adding in other flavors and bananas or whatnot (I would recommend almonds) to give it that added punch.

  • One scoop of each Formula 1
  • Milk (2%)
  • Ice cubes

This is excellent for a morning shake.

Vacation: Malaysia Airlines, Sheraton Hotel, Spartan Race & Amazing People All Around!

What a trip!

I can’t emphasize enough that doing my podcast recently on self-control helped me out tremendously upon flying here to KL.

2.5 Hour Delay!

Honestly, there was absolutely nothing I can do about it.  Who knows what the story was (although someone said something about a plane being in a hanger somewhere at KLIA1 at Kuala Lumpur International Airport).  2.5 hours camping out at the gate after security – was brutal….but I was able to finish a good amount of blogs and communicate with folks.

image1.JPG

More Delays!

Once we arrived, it seemed as if the biggest cruiseline in the world docked at the airport and unloaded all their passengers to clear customs and immigration.  45 minutes in the line with people from I-Dont-Know-What-Country looking at me and making comments about me in their language.  YAWN! At the same time, I was nervous about someone taking my luggage, given the fact it had been sitting there 45 minutes.  Nonetheless, I had to be one of the very first of my flight to get through the extensive lines before rushing to the conveyor belt – only to find that my luggage WAS STILL THERE! *Hands to the sky*

Sheraton Hotel = True 5 Star Hotel

IMG_7291.JPG

IMG_7310.JPG

The check-in, service, elevators, unbelievable breakfast buffet, stunning food, state-of-the-art facilities, wonderful steam room, comfortable bed, desk in the room, tub, shower, meticulous room service, shoe shine service…..not sure if I should keep going? Sheraton was exceptional.  I have to say that checking in and having them hold a crazy deposit on your debit/credit before charging you a full amount after is extremely excessive.  There has to be another way around it.

Uber and the MegaMall

This was my first time ever taking an Uber, and man, what a success! He picked me up right at the train station and took me to my destination in a hurry.  The second Uber was even better because he was very attentive and interested in my life, just as the reception at the Spa/Massage on the 5th floor was (minus the pushy-trying-to-sell-you-stuff method). Uber is the next wave of getting around, and it’s much safer, especially in a country like Thailand because taxi drivers have the worst rep of them all.

Mid-Valley MegaMall had tons of shops; however, I had to take a train and walk for 25 minutes to get there.  Oh, I should’ve taken an Uber. LOL.

The Spartan Super – the good, the bad, the ugly, the ‘COMMON, MAN!’

image1.JPG

image2.JPG

image3.JPG

image4.JPGimage5.JPG

The Good

Met the most wonderful muslim who had the hazel(est) of eyes that I have ever seen.  OMG! She was awesome….later, met a a cluster of Malaysians from all types of backgrounds who were just incredibly personable and charismatic.  Also, met a South African who I had a wonderful pleasure of talking to at KL Sentral before going in different directions (and who also did the race).  Ahhh…just wonderful.  Nexus International School is WONDERFUL! Perhaps a new place for employment in the future? The students there were splendid in both the English Language and in regards to their personalities.  Doors are wide open for a relocation!

The Bad

Stood outside for 1.5 hours to get into the venue.  That was a complete discombobulation on Spartan Malaysia’s side, given the fact they held registration in a very confined area.  YIKES! Starting heats were backlogged up to an hour.

The Ugly

The comradery and cooperation I’ve seen at other Tough Mudder events worldwide just wasn’t there.  It was difficult getting through the race when you had only yourself and others just minding their own business.

The ‘Common, man!”

Water, water, water! By the time the afternoon rolled around, the water supply was diminishing like crazy.  This apparently was a problem the last time the event was held in the same location.  Yes, I understand it’s a lot, but you have months to prepare a good amount of water that needed to be used for all spartans post-race.

Oh, can I mention the cooperation again? Come on, man! Honestly, indigenous Malaysians didn’t have a problem, but I do have to state the obvious whereas Chinese Malaysians, Chinese Singaporeans, or mainland Chinese (the most obvious) people just stay within their own circles.  Like NO ONE matters but only them.  I just don’t understand the “Chinese” culture, but perhaps someone can help me understand….because I’m at a loss of words with that.  However, I know the Spartan Spring that’s approaching in Thailand is going to be comical beyond belief.  These people will trample each other. LOL!!

Achieved!

Focusing on the grand of achievements, what a difficult race! Carrying a bucket of rocks 600meters and sandbags over your shoulders before trekking into a gorge was unbelievably strenuous – and I thought it was a bit over-the-top.  Hey, I get it, it’s a competition, but being a competitive event and borderline insanity should have a very fine line in between. In summary, this was the most brutal event I’ve ever endured in my lifetime. It was only 13km! I know what parts of my body I should work on going forward when the absolute BEAST comes up on October 8th.  I’m still contemplating doing it, though.  If I do, I’m going to allow myself two days rest and leave on a Tuesday rather than a Monday.  Carrying luggage after having a vicious deep-tissue massage AFTER the most difficult race in my life is a NO F*** NO!

And now, as I write this blog at the airport, I’m deeply saddened for leaving KL.  That same feeling I had when I left wondrous Bali – heading back to doomsday.  It’s hard, but opportunities are still there in Thailand.  When opportunities run dry, I’m heading for the hills – the luscious green hills of Malaysia.

Follow me…..

FB: The Arsenio Buck Show

Twitter: Arsenio Buck Show

Instagram: The Arsenio Buck Show

And if you’re interested in listening rather than reading, http://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12301589

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12311173

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12314079