Bali, Indonesia + Tough Mudder + Singapore Airlines = Trip of a Lifetime!

I was on a treadmill with one of my colleagues thinking about the Bali bombings and trying to conjure up an excuse NOT TO GO to Bali.  Given the events that took place a decade and a half ago –  a person, such as myself, would be terrified of heading to a resort island because of extremist groups.

“What? Are you seriously afraid of something that hasn’t happened in 15 years? Are you just making excuses? Stop it.  You sound ridiculous. Just go!” he said.

The next couple of weeks of pondering lead to me finally booking a ticket of course on Singapore Airlines (the fear of flying disintegrates when you fly with 5 star airlines).

I’m going to Bali!

The Lead Up

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Booking a hotel at the famous Baiyoke Sky in Bangkok was essential in terms of traveling to the airport  in the morning.  Is the area around the hotel legitimate? Not necessarily.  A bit dodgy once you step downstairs to be honest, but it was quiet and good enough for traveling instead of hauling from the outer suburbs while trying to beat the traffic.  Not worth it.

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Bangkok Airport, which is still technically new to the area, has it’s own nice perks.  Over the last four years, massive renovations have taken place to whereas you can charge your phone at stand-alone-kiosks! Yeah, Americans….I know.  Delta Airlines provides passengers at Sky Harbour International Airport in Arizona this for free, but Thailand is a completely different place.  When I saw some of the flight attendants and airport personnel setting up shop for the flight from Bangkok to Singapore, I bursted into excitement before the gorgeous Singapore Airlines A320 (smaller version) came roaring into the gate.  Ahhhh…alas! Here’s the beginning of my crazed trip!

Changi International Airport – Singapore

I was extremely critical of Changi the last time around because at the wee hours of the morning, there isn’t anything open.  Given the fact that skytrax and other award giving websites deemed this to be the #1 airline in the world, I expect there to be currency exchange counters open and at least trains running through the terminals. NOPE!

However, during the day…it’s wonderful.  I still believe that the signage is just too much at times.  Too overwhelming and very hard to figure out what to do.  For those traveling to Changi, be sure to figure out exactly what you’re going to do upon arrival or you’ll just be running in circles.

Bali, Indonesia

Gorgeously amazing flight attendants with caramel skin (Balinese I’m guessing) doing a last run of assisting passengers before the descent.  Unfortunately, it was nearing 9pm at night, which takes away the gorgeous daytime view of the island, Mt. bromo, and a few other places. I recall seeing some lights in the distance outside my window, but the terrifying part about it was the glare coming from the ocean. We were literally 100m from the water with no airport in sight.  FINALLY (which seemed like forever) the landing came and I took a huge breather.  Wow, as an African American, being from the neighborhood I’m from…..I’ve arrived to Indonesia, which is my first time arrival and 11th country. CHECK!

From immigration officers telling Chinese people to go away, from them not even checking my bags or suspecting anything suspicious of me.  Thank you, Bali.  First time here and there isn’t any racial profile going on.  Once I walk outside the terminal, my hotel (Sintesa Jimbaran) and private driver greeted me.  He took my luggage, went to the car, and then spoke about Bali in FLUENT ENGLISH about the language on the island, people, religion, and just about everything else.  The most important part of the trip…..why? I felt there was a connection.  He was talking from the soul, unlike most Thai taxi drivers who sound overly friendly and make the wrong left turn to make more money on the meter.  This gentleman spoke with genuinty and such truthfulness that’s even indescribable.  When this happened, I then knew that these were going to be some amazing people.

Sintesa Jimbaran Hotel

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This hotel was the definition of sheer beauty.  I arrived and was greeted by smiles; men who were wearing these large, gown like robes and accommodating everything about me.  They already knew who I was and greeted me by name, too.  After getting to the hotel around 10:00pm, the concierge opened my door and I walked into an ice cold room (just the way I like it) and saw just how massive it was.  Spa in the tub? Rain shower? Enormous bed and jazz music playing?

I sat down.  I cried.  “Arsenio, I’m so proud of you.  What you’ve done these last several years overcoming immense obstacles in Thailand – look where you are now.  Look around! If you would’ve asked yourself back in the summer of 2012, hearing your family complain about not having 10$…..do you think you would be here four years later.”  I held my hands up to my face and let out a “YESSSSSSS! I’m so happy and grateful for everything I’ve achieved!”

Is this happiness?

The Morning After – and I’m not talking about remorse, either.

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Sunrise, greenery, cloud formations, wonderful breakfast, 5 star concierge greeting me and talking to me as if I’m part of their family, running beachside, impeccable breakfast.  Should I say more?  I recall staring with a large grin at my face at the water coming onto the beach.  The sounds of the waves crashing.  Surfers from Spain laughing while trying to catch some low-tide waves, wife sitting in awe with her chin to the sky – breathing deeply.

My goodness.

This is what happiness is.

Night Safari

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Since living in Thailand and reading up on famous authors, I’ve grown to love animals much more than before, and cherish everything about these gentle giants.  Having a tiger, sniffing away on top of a caged truck, was pretty terrifying to say the absolute least.  The brown cows that have horns whereas if you cut their horns off, they would bleed to death.  The infamously famous komodos that lay as if they’re dead in pure darkness and a stand-alone elephant (very ominous) just waving his trunk in pure darkness. HA! Damn, I love animals!

Met one of the most lovely Australian families EVER during the trip.  The little boy, who was five, felt like a son.  He asked me so many questions and I felt as if I was his teacher.  The daughter was like, “omg my name is shanequa and I want to go to New York!” A 12 year old utterly infatuated with America and parents telling me, “hey, you’re young! Don’t worry about getting married right now!” HAHA! What an incredible night safari.  Oh, and temple run? The game that took the world by storm a little over 5 years ago? Yeah…I found out where that tradition comes from. RIGHT HERE! The girls…..phew, lets just leave it at that.  I proposed. THERE! I SAID IT!

Tough Mudder – The Monster From Hell

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And the reason I came to Bali to begin with.  To push myself not only mentally and psychologically, but physically.  The hellish course (what it was suppose to be) turned into one of the funnest events I’ve ever done in my life.  The variety of cultures from the Singaporeans who flew in from Singapore, to some of the people in the picture above who work for a newspaper in Jakarta, Indonesia, to some of the finest women I’ve seen in my life from other parts of Indonesia.  Oh, man….WHAT A DAY!

Yeah….Bali was another mental barrier that was crushed.  The mental barrier thinking I was going to get blown to pieces because of events that took place at the dawn of the new century.  See, these things that we see on TV can drive us to insanity.  I met some of the most wonderfully wonderful muslims on top of that, too.  The banjo playing band at the airport whom was singing, “la bamba” almost brought me to tears because their symphonic rhythm while playing in such a harmonious way…..these people were….happy.  Very happy.  I felt something on this island that I’ve never felt anywhere else on this planet, including Hawaii.

I felt serenity.

I felt bliss.

And getting aboard an absolutely gorgeous A777-300ER, I set off back to Singapore-Bangkok with a completely different mindset about my Balinese.

Thank you so much.

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Mount Bromo says HI!

Bali Podcasts 

Arrival –  https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9519588

Day 2 – excursion https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9529788

Day 3 – Tough Mudder https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9538900

Day 4 – Tough Mudder Conquered 

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9541901

The end of Bali – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9545169

Napoleon Hill – The Law of Success – Revamped Lessons

I’m bringing to everyone the book that seemingly began to change my life at the beginning of 2016.

Having already read the secret, my life still wasn’t changing.  The change ultimately happened after a completely failed trip to Singapore for New Years Eve in 2015 (last time I will ever travel with friends), and the lightbulb went off in my head, “what is it that’s trying to emerge in my life right now?”

Something guided me to one of the biggest book stores in Bangkok at Siam Paragon and there it was: Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success sitting on a shelf, untouched, and still wrapped.

I bought the book  which ultimately lead to my first ever podcasts which aren’t available on YouTube, so I decided to make blogs, remake the podcasts, and launch this.

If you’re looking for a starting point in your life, here it is.  I’m going to go lesson by less, including podcasts alongside each one, about the fifteen Laws of Success.  Here they are as followed…

  1. A Definite Chief Aim will teach you how to save wasted effort which the majority of people expend in trying to find their life-work.  This lesson will show you how to do away forever with aimlessness and fix your heart and hand upon some definite, well conceived purpose as a life-work.
  2. Self-Confidence will help you master the six basic fears with which every person is cursed – the fear of Poverty, the fear of Ill Health, the fear of Old Age, the fear of Criticism, the fear of Loss of Love of Someone and the fear of Death.  It will teach you the difference between egotism and real self-confidence which is based upon definite, usable knowledge.
  3. The Habit of Saving will teach you how to distribute your income systematically so that a definite percentage of it will steadily accumulate, thus forming one of the greatest known sources of personal power.  No one may succeed in life without saving money.  There is no exception to this rule, and no one may escape it.
  4. Initiative and Leadership will show you how to become a leader instead of a follower in your chosen field of endeavour.  It will develop in you the instinct for leadership which will cause you gradually to gravitate to the top in all undertakings in which you participate.
  5. Imagination will stimulate your mind so that you will conceive new ideas and develop new plans which will help you in attaining the object of your Definite Chief Aim.  This lesson will teach you how to “build new houses out of old stones,” so to speak.  It will show you how to create new ideas out of old, well know concepts, and how to put old ideas to new uses.  This one lesson, alone, is the equivalent of a ver practical course in salesmanship, and it is sure to prove a veritable gold mind of knowledge to the person who is in earnest.
  6. Enthusiasm will enable you to “saturate” all with whom you come in contact with interest in you and in your ideas.  Enthusiasm is the foundation of a Pleasing Personality and you must have such a personality in order to influence others to co-operate with you.
  7. Self-Control is the “balance wheel” with which you control your enthusiasm and direct it where you wish it to carry you.  This lesson will teach you, in a most practical manner, to become “the master of your fate, the Captain of your Soul.”
  8. The Habit of Doing More Than Paid For is one of the most important lessons in the Law of Success course.  It will teach you how to make advantage of the Law of Increasing Returns, which will eventually insure you a return in money far out of proportion to the service you render.  No one may become a real leader in any walk of life without practicing the habit of doing more work and better work than that for which he/she is paid.
  9. Pleasing Personality is the “fulcrum” on which you must place the “crow-bar” of your efforts, and when so placed, with intelligence, it will enable you to remove mountains of obstacles.  This one lesson, alone, has made scores of Master Salesmen.  It has developed leaders over night.  It will teach you how to transform your personality so that you may adapt yourself to any environment, or to any other personality, in such a manner that you may easily dominate.
  10. Accurate Thought is one of the important foundation stones of all enduring success.  This lesson teaches you how to separate “facts” from mere “information.”  It teaches you how to organise known facts into two classes: the “important” and the “unimportant.”  It reaches you how to determine what is an “important” fact.  It teaches you how to build definite working plans, in the pursuit of any calling, out of FACTS.
  11. Concentration teaches you how to focus your attention upon one subject at a time until you have worked out practical loans for mastering that subject.  It will teach you how to ally yourself with others in such a manner that you may have the use of their entire knowledge to back you up in your own plans and purposes.  It will give you a practical working knowledge of the forces around you, and show you how to harness and use there forces in furthering your own interests.
  12. Co-Operation will teach you the value of team-work in all you do.  In this lesson, you will be taught how to apply the law of the “mastermind” described in this Introduction and in Lesson One of this course.  This lesson will show you how to co-ordinate your own efforts with those of others, in such a manner that friction, jealousy, strife, envy, and cupidity will be eliminated.  You will learn how to make use of all that other people have learned about the work in which you are engaged.
  13. Profiting by FAILURE will teach you how to make stepping stones out of all of your past and future mistakes and failures.  It will teach you the difference between “failure” and “temporary defeat,” a difference which is very great and very important.  It will teach you how to profit by your own failures and by the failures of other people.
  14. Tolerance will teach you how to avoid the disastrous effects of racial and religious prejudices which mean defeat for millions of people who permit themselves to become entangled in foolish argument over these subjects, thereby poisoning their now minds and closing the door to reason and investigation.  This lesson is the twin sister of one on Accurate Thoughts, for the reason that no one may become an Accurate Thinker without practicing tolerance.  Intolerance closes the book of Knowledge and writes the cover, “Finis! I have learned it all!” Intolerance makes enemies of those who should be friends.  It destroys opportunity and fills the mind with doubt, mistrust, and prejudice.
  15. Practicing The Golden Rule will teach you how to make use of this great Universal Law of human conduct in such a manner that you may easily get harmonious co-operation from any individual or group of individuals.  Lack of understanding of the law upon which the Golden Rule philosophy is based is one of the major causes of failure of millions of people who remain in misery, poverty and want all their lives. This lesson has nothing whatsoever to do with religion in any form, nor with sectarianism, nor have any of the other lessons of this course on the Law of Success.

When you have mastered these Fifteen Laws and made them your own, as you may do within a period of from fifteen to thirty weeks, you will be ready to develop sufficient personal power to insure the attainment of your Definite Chief Aim.

With all of these being said, and how this has drastically changed the outcome over a one year period, join me on this journey.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11122199

The Main Reason Why People Don’t Travel

If you look at your bank account right now, and you don’t have the funds to buy a flight + hotel + plane ticket, you wouldn’t think twice about traveling, right?

This is probably the main reason why people just don’t travel.

Let me put this more into perspective…..I’m going back to America for the first time in April.  So, at the beginning of January, did I have ALL THE MONEY NEEDED for the travel in April? Probably not, but anticipating salaries and savings was one of the first things I did.  At the beginning of January, I bought a Singapore Airlines Ticket (BKK-SIN-TOKYO-LAX) and the RT was included; ticket was cheaper than all USA Airlines (such as as United, Delta, and American) at just under 900$ USD.

Now, did I buy the plane ticket from LAX-PHX? No.  I waited.  I knew I was getting paid again in February; however, I bought the RT ticket a few weeks later just to clear all flights.

If I had to stay in a hotel (which I will because I have a 9 hour layover in Singapore), I can book the hotel in February instead of January, right? You don’t have to book everything at one time, people.  Book slowly leading up to the travel.

You’re going to have to set aside a budget.  I talk about this a lot in my podcast how I save 66% of my salary by wire transferring to my American bank account.

Living here in Thailand, no more than 30000 baht (equivalent to 1000$ USD without the crazy currencies happening) is needed.  This also restricts me from going out (I don’t like spending money on nightlife here in Thailand).  Therefore, I save between 1000-2000$ USD minimum from my priority job A MONTH.

Now a lot of my American friends and colleagues understand why living in Thailand is wonderful.  If you’re able to save that much per month and take rampant trips throughout the year, would you? Rather than spending 1000-1500$ a bills and only having a fraction of your money left?

This year, I have a monster trip (probably the biggest trip of the year) heading back to America in April.  I have a small, three day trip for a competition in Singapore in May.  I have Hawaii/Fiji in July, Malaysia/Bali in September or October and Melbourne, Australia  for Christmas & New Years Eve.  Now, do I have enough money for hotels, flights and spending money for all of the trips right now? Obviously not (although next year will be a massive change), but I book little-by-little over time.  I know when I come back from America, I can buy my Singapore Airlines ticket and two-night hotel for Singapore instantly.  I know my Hawaiian/Fijian plan ticket will be booked in May, and the smaller trips leading up to the end of the year can be booked on the go.

See, not too bad, right? Book slowly overtime.  Having the full money now may be impossible for a lot of people out there, but if you book little-by-little over the course of three months, you can hit off the travels!

2006 – From Being Stuck Atop 1,000m Plus Mountain, To A Rescue Helicopter Flying In To Save Us. (Long read)

Oh, yes, it was a cold and sunny December 22nd, 2006 morning – this was the day that a rescue helicopter had to fly steeply to the main summit of Sunrise Mountain in Las Vegas, Nevada to collect my two friends and I in which was one of the funniest and most terrifying moments of my life.

This hike – this hike turned rescued mission featured the most daunting task of my life.

 

  1. The belief that we could actually scale the top of the mountain.
  2. The mountainous gorges that were hidden within the mountain.
  3. The lonesome Mexican lady that was our disguised blessing before we went up any further.

At the end of the day, there was a crowd of 20 people at the base of the mountain saying, “what the hell happened up there?” I, in disbelief, smiled creepily and retorted, “well, we were fighting time and had to get down the mountain as soon as possible, but we didn’t have any equipment or anything.”  Nonetheless, when I got back home, I was bombarded by some of the angriest family members one could ever imagine, hurling expletives at me in sheer frustration about getting stuck.  Oh, why did I call my mom from the top of the mountain.  Damnit!

Lights were turning on, footsteps were echoing around the house, and chatter was breaking out.  I look at the neon light clock and it was 6:30 am, the time that we all said we were going to wake up.  There wasn’t nervousness whatsoever setting in, but the thought of going to one of the highest peaks in west coast United States did rescind within me.  However, we were excited.  Perfectly prepared breakfast, lunch, and even what we were wearing.  We did have a harness, climbing shoes, ropes, or any survival pack equipment because we thought were would be back down before nightfall at 5pm….

And, so, the journey began.  We walked down the street and made a turn onto a street that lead up to the dirty base of the mountain where there weren’t any people around for about a 2-mile radius.  There weren’t any proper trails, either, so we needed to just navigate our way through an ugly cluster of bushes and cacti to get to the base.

For about forty-five minutes, we still couldn’t believe that we were yet to break the ascent to the top of the mountain; until one of us finally turned around and realized we were pretty high up already.  “WOW! LOOK AT THAT!” The excitement reverberated within our group until we saw a figure hidden away in the mountain. “What the fuck is that?” My friend said…

“It’s a person!”  After watching movies such as Hills Have Eyes and Jason, us African Americans aren’t accustomed to seeing another individual on a mountain with no city, nor person, in sight for miles.  As we approached, my best friend, Andre, was in front of the pack because he felt like he had to be the big man.  We approached this individual pretty fast and realize it was a woman.  My friend said, “hola!” The lady smiled (her being Mexican) before the conversations commenced between him and her.

 

She was in her lonesome just going up to the mid-section of the mountain, as she does daily, apparently.  She was aghast when she found out about us going to the top.  My friend said, “hey, she said don’t go to the top.” She began heading down, terrified at us.  The further away she walked, the more I second guessed going up further.  When we got to about the 60% mark, that’s when the climb began.  Unstable rocks, gorgeous, no ropes, things falling down, us having to push each other up and maneuver around the not-so-safe areas we were climbing.  Then, when we were almost at the peak, which didn’t take too fast to get to, that’s when I realized our will was on the line.  I immediately knew then that we couldn’t go down in the same direction.  If we did, we could die.  Period.  So, we were climbing one under another in the last push…..and when we finally got to the top, it was magnificent.

As a backstory, me and my housemates back at Central Arizona College in Coolidge, Arizona would climb a mountain just in the back of our dormitories routinely throughout the month.  This is what established my journey-filled fever within me.

The view was beyond spectacular.  The air was thin….the 360 view and even the ferocious back drop on the back side of the mountain facing Utah was jaw-dropping and nerve-racking at the same time.  I then knew, something wasn’t right.  “Andre, how are we gonna get down? We can die going down that way.”  Andre started looking while his girlfriend calmly opened saran wrap with a sandwich enclosed.  “Ummmm, your sense of urgency just isn’t here.  What the fuck? What the fuck is going on out here?”  Andre, with his hand on his chin, retorted, “I’m thinking.”  I threw my hands in the air incredulously and said, “Andre, that’s ridiculous. This is ridiculous.”

The angry conversations ensued, but just prior to reaching the summit, we saw a helicopter come and drop off a gentleman at the top where’s there’s a huge power-box.  “Well, worst case scenario is we can call a helicopter to save us!” Laughter filled the air….

….and then thoughts of that particular moment came back. “Andre, I gotta call 911 man. There’s no way of getting down.” He looked at me, stomped his feet and said, “whatever.  Fuck it. Call them. That’s on you.”  My breathing was shallow and I said, “mother fucker we gonna die up here if we don’t!”  Meanwhile, his girlfriend was still eating her doritos with no sense of urgency.

Phone rings……woman answers….”911 – state your emergency”

“Yes, hello. There are three of us and we are stuck on the south tower of sunrise mountain.”

“I’m sorry?” the woman replied.

“We are stuck on the south side of the peak on sunrise mountain which has the big electrical box.  My friends and I don’t have any climbing gear and anyway of getting down because there are massive, vertical drops everywhere.”

The conversation continued until she said, “Ok, we’re sending a rescue helicopter up to get you but please, don’t stand on the indicated “H” on the top of the mountain.”

5 minutes later, the helicopter made its way up.

Rusty, old, red-faced metropolitan officer with a sarcastic grin on his face, shades and a wobbly walk made his way on over to us in a very angry way.

“What the hell is going on?” He said.

I explained the situation before he showed us the trail to the next mountain.  OOPS!

“But we don’t have time. It’s 4:15 and we don’t have flashlights.”

I can’t remember much of the conversation, but he wasn’t thrilled at all about us.  He said, “normally this flight would cost a thousand dollars, but you’re lucky because taxpayers will pay for it.”

Sorry mom!

He took the sandwich eating freak of a girlfriend down first.

I was second.  WOW! This is a helicopter!?

“If you don’t hang onto this railing, you’re going to fallout and die.”

I gripped the rail with my life before landing safely and seeing the crowd of people.

Yeah, it was a terrifying experience, but one of the most memorable experience one could ever imagine because if it wasn’t for that, I wouldn’t be half the man I am today. Why?

The leap of faith.

Traveling Abroad? Not Sure Where To Start? Here It Is!

From taking low-budget airlines to extend a budget, to saving up inch by inch for your first ever travel to Hawaii.  It’s much easier than you think.

Back in 2009, I had just under 2000$ USD in my bank account and I told myself that I was LONG overdue for a trip.  I wasn’t thinking of a domestic trip, either.  I wanted an international one; and already having a friend stationed in Australia, I realized it was now or never.

How was I able to save up for this? Well, without evening having to read Napoleon Hill’s ‘Habit of Saving,’ I was just a saver in general.  Since I got my first job back in 2007, I saved the majority of my salary.

If we look at it this way, take the west coast folks of the United States, for instance, who makes up excuses up about having never gone to Hawaii.  Plane tickets to Hawaii are between 400-600 USD.  If you could save 50-100$ USD a month and cut back on the bar nights, shopping escapades, and fancy dinners, you could easily achieve this goal.

After that, it’s all about hotels, whereas you could find the cheapest at booking.com before visiting the hotels main website to check for cheaper offers.  Expect to pay at least 100$ for  a hotel (in Hawaii) at less you’re one to stay in a hostel with 10 other people (not my cup of tea).

If you’re a big time shopper, you’re going to have to set aside a spending stipend.  If you’re just a casual traveler looking for a decent time while doing some tours, 100$ a day (maybe a bit higher in places like England, Aussie and Japan) would suffice.

See, having already read the options above, you’re now glued into the fact that traveling, even just to that gorgeous island in the pacific, is possible.

Checking flights on travelocity.com to get a good idea of what flights go to countries is perfect.  Booking.com for hotels and some of the hotels don’t even require payment at the time of booking.  You could book when you stay, which saves you even more money at the time of booking.

Asian Travelers

Air Asia, which is a low-budget Malaysian Airlines, has the most insane flight deals anyone could ever imagine.  I’m talking if you go on airasia.com right now. and looks for flights 6 months in advance, they would be priced at a staggering 10-20$ USD.  You could go from buying a 100-200$ flight from Thailand-Tokyo, to buying another flight for cheaper to head back further south to Singapore.  If you’re flying domestically in a place like Thailand, some flights could bottom out at 5$ USD LITERALLY for a  one-way ticket.

European Travelers

With the infamously famous Ryan Air and trains connecting practically every country within Europe, no excuses.  I know Europeans do a good amount of traveling, so this is intended for you.  However, if you want to travel to different places, especially in Australasia, you have options in terms of airline tickets.

Australians

With gorgeous Bali nearby (and having gone there just last October), I understand why the vast majority of you all books flights to that utterly blissful island.  On the other hand, having the French Polynesian which consists of Vanuatu, American Samoa, Fiji, Tuvalu and the Cooks just 3 hours flight away is just an enticing.  Oh, yeah, again….check a variety of websites and see what flights are accommodating.

FYI – I’m not a touristy , sightseeing type of traveler – I like to dive into the midst with the locals and breathe the same air as they do (hypothetically speaking).  If you guys want to hear an audio of everything I just mentioned, my podcast is down below!

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11060089

My Favorite Energy Booster – Herbalife’s Green Tea Concentrate

The afternoon crashes on Saturday and Sunday during heavy teaching workloads could be catastrophic, particularly if a student finds me completely disengaged.

These were the times 3 years ago when I consumed copious amounts of fatty-filled KFC chicken during my short breaks instead of eating a salad + avocado for good fat.

So, when I first fathomed the fact that Herbalife had a Bangkok branch, I knew I needed to buy some Herbal Tea, regardless of the flavor.

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Aside from looking at all the ingredients and it having no non-gm ingredients, this is my ultimate booster.  This has helped me tremendously.

For instance, I went running a hefty 5 miles two mornings ago before traveling to Bangkok to meet some colleagues, my eyes were completely dried out and I was struggling with energy.  Thankfully I packed a bottle of raspberry-green tea of this and one small teaspoon later, the amount of energy it gave me was incredible.

Most people have mid-afternoon crashes.  Why? When your is in the catabolic stage and you consume carbohydrates whereas you can burn them off, you get groggy, tired, and simply put – sleepy.  Instead, eating almonds, avocado and even probiotics could help you fight off the crashes.

Myself, however, will enjoy a nice glass of this because as good as it tastes, it just never gets old.

That’s my Herbalife product spotlight.  Find something, a plan of some sort, and stick with it.  Have something handy in case you’re dealing with the mid-afternoon fatigue and blahhhh.

Tim Ferris: 3 Ways (plus a podcast of the other 5) To Dealing With Haters

I was called into an office one afternoon and was told that I had been inferring & implicating other individuals in my podcast (apparently inflammatory comments about ones’ intentions within Thailand) and I was told to stop doing my podcast and to delete all of my episodes.

Yeah.  Right.

We’ve all dealt with criticism in the work place, at home, on the streets, and even in my neighborhood back in Las Vegas which everyone was predominantly African American.  Yes, I’m African American, and other African Americans hated me because I had a job.  They said I was an ‘uncle tom.’

With a couple examples above, I came across a section in Tim Ferris’ book that I just HAD TO COVER!

Some simple steps of dealing with the so-called “haters” who show love in a very precarious way.

#1 – It doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it, but how many do get it.

There was an instance I had that I became discouraged because I got about 6 podcast plays a day.  One of my loyal listeners, a girl from Denpensar in Bali, asked me….”why haven’t you made any podcasts lately?” I said, “well, no one is listening.”

She replied angrily saying, “ummm, regardless of how many plays you do or don’t have, what about your listeners who are waiting for your voice in what could be a time of crisis in their lives?”

Wow.  I never realized that.

“These people become your strongest marketing force, and the rest takes care of itself. The millions or billions who don’t get it don’t matter. Focus on the few who do.” – Tim Ferris

Don’t become discouraged because of what you’re doing isn’t a top hit; instead, focus on those loyal people who are tuned into you instead.

#2 – 10% of people will find a way to take anything personally. Expect it and treat it as math.

You mentally have to prepare yourself.  For every 1000 followers, 100 of them will be “assholes” as Tim Ferris said.  Treat it as math.  On top of that, know that 1% will be absolutely off their head and demean you anyways they can.

A good story of this is a YouTube (once well known) Vince G.  This was a sad story of someone who joined forces with another sensation, and him ultimately parting ways with this particular individual.  What ensued was him making a channel and every time he posted a video, not only did he get a 5:1 dislike to like ratio, but inflammatory comments such as, “I hope you die.”

This lead him to dropping off the face of the planet for months and luckily he did some soul searching and joined forces as an editor with someone else.

A more recent story is Tim Ferris himself wrote an article in terms of cutting weight before a UFC weigh in or whatever, and every last comment on his page was, “I respected you, but not after this.”  Some of the “apparent” loyal followers had fallen off due to something that considered the norm in prized fighting.  These types of things can steer ultra-successful people away from their goals because people not liking a simple article.

This is that group of people.

#3 When it doubt – starve it with oxygen. 

Here are three ways to deal with online criticism….

  • Starve it of oxygen (ignore it)—90%
  • Pour gasoline on it (promote it)—8%
  • Engage with trolls after too much wine (and really regret it)—2%

 

 

About three years ago, there was a racist comment (as most times) on a sports forum and I responded to this particular troll in a way I shouldn’t have.  My profile was out there to the world whereas I received 15 messages from people spewing hateful rhetoric to my “other” inbox and me getting banned for 16 hours from Facebook.  However, the origin (original poster’s) comment had no defamation or hate speech, according to Facebook.

There was a particular individual who wasn’t happy.  A father (apparently) of two somewhere Florida who literally stalked me for the ensuing 18 months, trying to figure out where I work and emailed a variety of people with a snapshot of what I said.

This is called pouring gasoline on something in the wrongest of ways.  Luckily, this particular individual finally stopped and vanished, but the lesson was learnt – stay the “hell” away from idle gossiping pages, especially sports forums where my friend calls it “troll city.” HA!

With that being said, people, there’s five other steps and this blog post is already too long (oops), so if you guys want to hear me speak about this in its entirety, my podcast down below is just shy of 30 minutes but goes into more detail of the others.  So, if you guys are intrigued, tune in!  If not, stay tuned for my 2am (Bangkok, Thailand time) blog post on what else?! NUTRITION! It’s been too long!

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11038919

 

 

Change Your Words – Change Your Life: From A Teacher’s Perspective

I was sitting in a dormitory one night before a party with one of my friends back in college in Arizona.  She then realized that I used a lot of repeated words…..”ummm, you repeated this specific word so many times! You need to vary your words!”

“HOW!” I replied.

“Right click and look at the synonyms you can use!”

From that point going forward, I began memorizing synonyms for words I often used.  Example, if I used “beautiful” all the time, I could easily type the word in on Microsoft Office and look at some of the synonyms.  Now, be careful because some of the words  would be “over-the-top” (example: striking), but you get the drift.

After heading back to Vegas at semester’s break, my friends and family realize that my language had completely changed and I didn’t “fit in” with the crowd anymore.

As soon as my language changed, the people I began to attract into my life weren’t the typical, negative slander using teenagers.  My social circle expanded; therefore, opportunities began to expand, too.

I had a particular individual comment on my YouTube video and said, “how could I develop new language and new words.” This was an incredible question coming from a native speaker in its own.

Well, it’s kind of like how I tell my Thai students.  Listen to your language everyday.  Listen to what you say and how often you repeat specific words.  You don’t want to open a page to the dictionary, pick a 13 letter word then fire off.  That’s not “sounding” smart, but it’s how descriptive you could be.

Learn synonyms of some of the words you’re already using…for starters.

In terms of positive vs. negative language (as I’ve talked about in today’s podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11007704), being around the idle gossipers and the doom and glooms will ultimately derail your life.  Instead, surround yourself with people who want just as much as you do in life.

Eric Weinstein once said, “The limits of my language mean the limits of my world.”

Become an expressionist.  Someone who can describe a mountain in vivid detail and make the reader visualize, through words, their surroundings.  It’s a beautiful thing.

 

Lisa Nichols – The Process of Asking Giving & Receiving

Step 1: Asking

I’ve talked in the past about your life purpose statement, visualization, meditation, making affirmations among so many other things so you can figure out what exactly you want.  Be very clear about what you want.

When you do your affirmations, add color, sound, emotions, and other sensory impressions to the pictures you see in your mind. What would you be seeing, hearing, doing, and feeling as you are living your desired outcome?

For instance, I saw in Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ book about visualizing doing a tedx.  If you follow some of the guided meditations as I’ve recommended in my past blogs, they (Glen Harold in particular) has downloadable podcasts for meditation which could help you relieve the fear of public speaking, to even visualizing being at an even.t

“If your dream is to inspire millions via mass media, for example, see yourself walking onstage amid the bright lights of the studio. Hear your audience welcoming you. Visualize yourself wearing the latest fashions, interviewing intriguing guests, then working with your production team afterward, preparing for the next show. Focus frequently on these images throughout the day so you repeatedly transmit your desires to the Universe.
But don’t focus on how your goal will show up. Let the Universe do the heavy lifting and align the necessary people, resources, and circumstances for you. Remember I said in Chapter 1 to have 100% intention, but 0% concern about the mechanism? That rule allows The Law of Attraction to do its work. Also remember that as the how shows up, you then must get in action.”

Excerpt From: Lisa Nichols & Janet Switzer. “Abundance Now.”

Step 2: Believe

This is where the non-believers get stuck almost all the time.  People expect things to show up instantly, but that’s not how it works.  If you keep putting the emotional feelings out there that you have it, and visualizing every night before you go to bed and when you wake up, it will eventually show up.  It has for me.

I’m visualizing a lot of things or I have been for that matter.  Walking on the beach in Bali (achieved), going to Hawaii (achieved twice), Japan (achieved), Mongolia, snowfields in Hokkaido, Fiji + Samoa (what I’m visualizing now).  You have to mimic exactly how you would feel when you’re there.

Step 3: Receive

Lisa Nichols – “Of course, the quickest and most effective way to receive what you want is to maintain a state of gratitude for what you have already received. When you are grateful—and actively transmit that gratitude to Source Energy—it recognizes that you’ll be grateful for the next gift, and the next. But more important, it keeps you focused on the gratitude you will be feeling when your stated desire enters your life—which is just one more way of attracting it in the first place.”

And last, but not least, how to activate future abundance now.  Those micro winds and macro winds I’ve talked about in the past? Let’s go over them and see how we can be grateful today.

Self

If you’re focused on your health and fitness these days, why not set the intention to create micro wins in that area? For instance, could you do 30 minutes of stretching, breathing, or Pilates? Similarly, if your goal is to upgrade your physical environment, could you clear out the clutter in your closet and organize your shoes? If your macro win is to lead a jet-setter lifestyle, could you plan an amazing, breathtaking trip a year from now, then deposit your first $100 in a new savings account for that goal. Could you work on your vision board one hour a day until complete—including creating focused boards for specific categories such as your career or business, your love life, or your lifestyle? Could you nourish yourself through a really great book on spirituality or leadership? Could you take 30 minutes for a “spa moment” such as a facial mask, manicure, or sitting with your feet in your foot massager? How could you honor, celebrate, and love yourself?

Relationships

With the time that you have, why not make a list of five people who you haven’t reached out to for a while—then text random love notes to them or make random phone calls to catch up? Could you write love notes (I write these to my mom)? Could you spend 30 minutes finding like-minded groups to join in order to expand your social circle? Could you write a love letter filled with just love and gratitude to your children, partner, sibling, or parent?

Work

What micro wins could you create in your career or your business? One I recommend is creating a work environment that inspires you, so why not spend an hour each day creating organization, putting systems in place, or framing and hanging photos of you in successful situations? If you’re a business owner, you could take time to invest in relationships with your team. Or you could set goals that drive you—even if no one else will ever know about them (they’re your goals, after all!).”

Money

Why not write a budget, organize your bills, file your documents, or take an hour to identify additional revenue streams? An hour spent three days a week creating a bigger income for yourself would go a long way toward the macro win of an upgraded lifestyle, if that is your goal.

Excerpt From: Lisa Nichols & Janet Switzer. “Abundance Now.

Here is how to get started today.  I talk about this a lot in the Tim Ferris blog + podcast so be sure to stay tuned for that and if you want to listen to my podcast on this particular blog, the link is directly below this!

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11007704

Paulo Coelho’s Advice For First Time Novelists

Whether you’re a part-time blogger, writer for a newspaper, or novelist – Tim Ferris had an interview with Paulo in his book ‘Tools of Titans’ that could prove very useful for a lot of people.

Right now, I’m writing my book called “Overcoming The Odds,” which will be about being a colored teacher in a very anti-color society such as Thailand.  But, to be honest, I’ve hit a lot of road blocks with even getting the introduction down.  Then I realized, “how about I write about the freshest memories in mind first and put it all together in the end?”

BINGO!

Bob’s your uncle!

See, what this does is create a lot of momentum.  If you see yourself getting stuck relentlessly in just the beginning, write in the others areas before coming back.  At that time it will be much less difficult.

Here’s a nice excerpt from the book that Paulo talked about in terms of helping the writers out there.

* What are the most common mistakes or weaknesses of first-time novelists?
“Keep it simple. Trust your reader. He or she has a lot of imagination. Don’t try to describe things. Give a hint, and they will fulfill this hint with their own imagination. That’s why I am so reluctant to sell the rights of my books for movies because there, you have everything. The [viewer] does not need to think. However, if I say like in Aleph, at the very beginning, ‘I am in my house in the Pyrenees, and there is an oak there.’ I don’t need to explain my house in the Pyrenees. I only needed to put in the elements that are important: the oak, myself, and the person that I’m talking to. That’s all. . . . Trust your reader. Understand that he or she can fill the empty spaces. Don’t over-explain.”

* How do you capture ideas that might help your writing?
“I strongly encourage writers not to think about writing every time they do something. Forget notebooks. Forget taking notes. Let what is important remain. What’s not important goes away. When you sit down to write, there is this process of purging, this process of cleansing, where only the important things remain. It’s much easier than taking notes and overloading yourself with information.”

* What do you find helpful when you are stuck or stagnated?
“There is only one thing. When I feel stagnated, I promise myself that [even] if I don’t feel inspired, I need to move forward. I need to have discipline. . . . In the middle of a book, there I am: I don’t know how to continue the story, even if it’s a nonfiction story. But then, I say, ‘You, book, are fighting with me. Okay. I’m going to sit here, and I’m not going to leave you alone until I find my way out of this crossroads.’ It may take 10 minutes. It may take 10 hours. But if you don’t have enough discipline, you don’t move forward. . . .”

Excerpt From: Timothy Ferriss & Arnold Schwarzenegger. “Tools of Titans.”

By the way, in the Alchemist, I remember the little boy saying to the alchemist, “look, I have a lot of livestock, I have love among many other things.”

The alchemist said, “but those aren’t the pyramids.”

Keep your eye on the grand prize!