So unbelievably grateful to be launching a new series (mini-series) on my podcast over the next five weeks that talks about self-sabotage.
What is self-sabotage? That’s you making a poor decision which ultimately jeopardizes you from achieving success. We make decisions all the time that are detrimental to all parties that are involved, so I wanted to inject five different accents, along with their perceptions of life, into my podcast. I’m very excited about this and I hope you guys are, too!
Because my English language podcast is so diverse, I love bringing on amazing people to use the platform to spread knowledge to you guys (which probably isn’t available in your language)….so I’ll have England, Germany, Ireland, America and Russia coming on in a five-part series over the next five weeks (podcasts debuting on Saturday and video debuting on Friday).
A phone call a year later had me left shaking my head: “ummm, why now? Why call me a year later after I had already spurned you the first time?”
I was pretty confused, but at a time that money was absolutely essential, I said “fuck it. Let me shove the things that happened aside and go forward.”
So, I did. For four days I worked at this place, developing relationships, implementing new things, having amazing conversations and seeing university students battle high schoolers in an English Tournament (funnest game ever because it’s filled with passion and emotion).
All while that was taking place, the lady, who had originally called me to begin with, had a sudden change.
She promised a visa (not needed). She promised full, part-time work (which I stressed about heavily during our sitdown), and was so upbeat. Within 24 hours, all of those positive emotions and vibes flipped upside down. The guy, who’s the director, was showering me with praise: “oh, you’re so handsome today.” And living in a country where I’m labeled as the bad guy, I immediately asked myself, “wth is this guy talking about?”
Her demeanor, hellos, and just being the way I THOUGHT she was changed. By the time it was the end of the week, there wasn’t even eye-contact. She had completely gone cocoon on me. She was only a shade of what she used to be.
Meanwhile, one of the my students told me, “her intention was to only keep you on for four days.” When she said that at the beginning, I said “ummm no. I’m here permanent on weekdays. “
JOKE ON ME!
Change in vibe
I knew she was hiding something since LAST YEAR!
Talk Not Straight
As I’ve said in my Stephen Covey podcasts, talking straight is absolutely essential in any form of business. If she had told me that she was keeping me on for only a week, I would have been completely fine with that. However, she pushed me into a narrative as if I was there full-time.
Odd Shopping Center
Honestly, I just hated going to this place. From the moment I walked in, going up the escalators, and seeing how empty it was, it really freaked me out. On the floor I taught, just about every shop area was vacant because people would much rather go to a bigger, more formidable shopping center 100m away, not a completely dried out, vacant ghosttown. So, this was a true blessing in disguise because this place gave me some crazy negative vibes.
At the end of the night, I glanced into the “boss'” room, and I saw an envelope and a signature sheet on his desk. I then knew, “perfect!” Because just several hours earlier, I had received a phone call from my job (different branch) and they offered me 5 classes during the week). When I got that call, I said “oh wow! This was just a four-day gig!” I knew the universe was talking to me. So, I received a payslip, shook his hand, and the front-desk secretary gave me “next week’s lesson.” I looked at it and looked at the lady that originally hired me and she said “tomorrow we will have a meeting about your feedback.”
I laughed. YOu can’t have a meeting about things you didn’t see, nor am I a child. I won’t wait. You know if I’m the shit or I’m shit. So I then approached my students and OMG. If you wanna hear that story, click on my podcast down below, but i called my place of work and boom — just like that — I got five additional classes.
Three of my students had gone in to take an interview at the United States Embassy in Bangkok. Two of them passed and one of them failed. How did she fail? Well, the common excuse is “he spoke to fast.” However, that’s exactly what happened. She wasn’t able to pick up the -wh question’; therefore, it lead to her answering the question wrong and by the second question came, it was over. She lost. So, this podcast will feature me saying the questions at 1.0 speed (natural English speed), and the questions are just for extra practice.
What are your hobbies?
Why do you want to be a ____________?
Who is your inspiration?
What’s your name?
Why do you want to go to America?
What is an internship?
How do your parents/family feel about you working abroad?
What do you think about American culture?
What do you usually do in your free time?
Have you ever been to America? When? Where? What did you do?
Do you have any friends, families or relatives in the US?
Welcome back to another episode, everyone! You know, teaching British English, as an American teacher, is unbelievably confusing. Blocks of flats would mean “projects” in America. Cottages are regular homes but they come from fairy tales (the ones we see in the books). It’s a lot of weird things, so here are some pictures and vocabulary.
So, because my blog, podcasts, Instagram and other means of social media is gaining a lot of momentum, I think it’s time to finally introduce myself on a scale no one ever has.
Mother/Father broke up in 97.
Two step mothers and three elementary schools in a one year period.
Father dropped my siblings and I off at a doorstep in 1999.
Moved in with my mother in June of 1999 — and the rest is history.
This was the shambolic childhood. However, it sounds all bad, and I completely understand from your point of view, but this turned out to best the greatest blessing ever in my life. Those Christmas morning of 93, 94, and 95 were some of the best of my life. My grade school was amazing, wonderful friends, and I was introduced to one of the greatest eras of music in humankind (1990’s), along with Sega Genesis and Super Nintendo. Let’s not forget that.
From 2000-2006, my mother did an amazing job. We had our transgressions when power got cut off in late 2003, but my mom did everything in her power to restore it (just a day later). I’m super grateful for that. After choosing to go to college, then demoting my “choice of major” even more (going from Orthodontics, to Dental Hygiene, to Dental Assisting), it was another great blessing.
The Change from a Promise
Satomi Nakagawa, who visited me in 2008, fell to her knees one evening and cried: “I’m never going to see you again.”
She was distressed because the potential of not seeing me again. In that moment came a promise, “don’t worry, I’ll come to see you.” I’m not exactly sure if I said next year, but it ended up happening next year when I had the idea of traveling abroad. BOOM!
Two months after booking a trip, I saw Satomi again and Kingsford International Airport. The importance of this trip, seeing Darling Harbour, Blue Mountains, and going to Bondi Beach…..was when a seed had blossomed within my mind. When this happened, I was never the same again. Living in America was no longer exciting to me (Las Vegas, but let’s be honest, it’s all boring — sorry). I visited again in 2010 (Melbourne) and met some Mauritians and Indonesians. One morning I walked along St. Kilda beach and then I decided “I’m moving here next year.” I told my mother after coming back, and she got teary-eyed. It was the sign of change, but at the same time, she knew i had to go after what was mine in the universe. Sure enough, 2011 came rolling around and the last time I felt like I saw my mother was when she gave me a hug, cried, and drove off in a car.
Battles in Australia
Psychological battles galore. I questioned myself about having a personality that wasn’t suitable for Aussies. I was too personable; too charismatic; too funny. Just too out there in general. I remember running down to a harbour area in Lane Cove (north of Sydney) and saying to myself, “they don’t like me here. Why don’t I have a girlfriend?”
Fast-forwarding that particular situation to my present situation, I’m single — 7 years later.
Rewinding back to that moment….I told a Colombian friend and she said, “Arsenio, you have one of the most beautiful personalities. Don’t worry about these people.”
That was that moment.
I would need that 5 years later when I got into the biggest psychological battle of my life.
Thailand in the YouTube video (coming soon) & Podcast
A few days ago I was jumping in JOY and ECSTASY. Never have I ever been so elated because of a machine. When I saw BMI (Body Mass Index) the other day, I saw the Physique ratings at standard. Six weeks prior to this, my physique was apparently obese, although I look relatively thin. My metabolism before was at 35 (and I’m 30) and now it’s at 30. Let’s go over some of the categories that are on this piece of paper.
Weight – 76.6KG (2.3kg drop from last week)
Fat % – 21.4%
Fat Mass – 16.4kg
Muscle Mass – 57.1kg
Metabolic Age – 30
BMI – 23.4
Fat % – 11.0 – 21.9
Fat Mass 7.4 – 16.9kg
Here’s about what 50% of the paper says, but my fat percentage and fat mass is 0.5 kg off after being about 2.0kg ver.
Now, does this change anything? No. Does this change the fact that I feel my absolute healthiest that I’ve ever felt? Nope. I’m super grateful that I’ve kept myself committed to going to a gym. Everything is starting to unfold as it should and I’m super excited about it.
Also, I just signed up for the monstrous Beast in Hua Hin which will take place at the dawn of November. Upon completion, I will be able to claim my Spartan Trifecta shirt and medal — what I’ve been chasing after for two years.
There are going to be videos coming to you guys at a grand scale, but in my podcast down below, I talk about what my dieting was during the past 6 weeks..
First time I met this man, I was in awe. The size of him was unlike anything I had ever seen in my life. If I can compare him to Evander Holyfield, one of America’s famous boxers, he’s a bit close. Nonetheless, after chatting it up with him and hearing/seeing his charisma + his story, I decided to bring him on the show.
AJ is an NSCA Certified Personal Trainer and Strength and Conditioning coach.
AJ’s athletic background and his ongoing curiosity to the latest nutrition and exercise research fuels his passion to assist and educate individuals in fulfilling any fitness and wellness goals. AJ strongly believes in taking a multi-dimensional approach towards optimal health and works with his clients to find ways to incorporate it in their lifestyles.
Get in touch with AJ of Bangkok, Thailand
– About fitness training, personal training and coaching.
Hello, everyone! This is a special project I’ve been working on with another mentor and coach from Shroud, England by the name of Luke Burrows. The focus of this is since we’re both mentors and coaches, we encourage people to send questions in throughout the week for them to be featured on our show. On this week’s episode, we brought along another wonderful entrepreneur and podcaster by the name of Celina Celeste. The links to each of our worlds are down below along with the show notes which were written up by content writer Jiun Ting Yong. Be sure to tune into the FB page!
Things being discussed in this week’s episode…
Introductions and talking about the power of technology.
Talking about which comes first: passion or business ideas.
Passion and business are terms in a grey area.
Passion and business are two different things that people never realize.
Referring to GaryVee’s latest book ‘Crushing it’.
Learn to how to play the rules, learn what is their strategy and learn to do personal branding with social media.
Read a lot of books and understanding the economy from different regions from a non – entrepreneurial perspective, especially for people who are fresh out of college or universities.
Traditional colleges and universities aren’t working anymore and schools were built for workers.
Getting a business apprenticeship and learning the craft of being a business ownership as well as being self-educated, is important.
Many jobs will be obsolete like white collar and pink colour jobs, doctors (debatable until AI officially comes), nurses and other professional jobs. How the economy will look like in the next 20 years because of cryptocurrency, machine learning, artificial intelligences and blockchain? Currencies have a possibility of being wipe out.
Mainstream universities don’t teach life skills and personal development.
Being smart in the choices that you make.
Skills that are important in the next 20 years like entrepreneurial skills such as creative thinking, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, being resourceful and having entrepreneurial mindsets.
Being self-aware on how you fit into this world and being smart about jobs where the future of the specific industries are bleak.
Being creative to bring in something that can make people feel good and being true to yourself.
Being true to yourself, stop complaining about yourself, stop giving excuses and stop feeling discontent.
Reprogramme your subconscious mind.
Be responsible for people who are in your life and stop complaining.
Don’t forget yourself, being yourself and stop getting caught up externally with what is happening– build yourself up and invest in yourself.
Don’t fall into the trap or trap yourself with fake people around you.
Thank you for listening!
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Wow. What a journey. I can’t be grateful enough for everything that has happened in my life. Honestly, going back to where I was 10 years ago?! In a dying relationship, moving into a new apartment, but three months later, a girl by the name of Satomi Nakagawa came into my life — urging me to travel. Life was never the same after that.
I’m here in Singapore International, taking in the sights and just so grateful for everything and everyone around me. Fast train ride here led me to some funny conversations at immigration and a super cool check-in. This is the fourth country I’ve woken up in on my birthday morning, so I just can’t be grateful enough for the process!
If I look at all areas of my life in terms of personal development, physical environment, health, wealth, romantic relationships, friends and family, fun and hobbies and career….they’ve all sustained themselves. Sure, I’ve had my pitfalls with physical environment, and that’s why I left the garbage job I was at because I knew I was too good to be there. So, cheers to my birthday!
While I was sitting on my couch, stuffing my face with pepperoni pizza (yes, I cheat sometimes, but blame my trainer that put me through a 1-hour gauntlet), I realized at that given moment what could’ve been.
Back in Las Vegas, my colleagues and I from the College of Southern Nevada’s Dental Faculty Practice would leave at 12pm, once a week, and head to a rundown food court. When you walk into this food court, you have a series of different eateries. You have Korean BBQ to the right, Hoagies from Philly on the left, and a few other (like the Mexican shop that opened for a month before closing). It’s difficult to stay afloat in a place like that for a long time, just because it’s in such a head-scratching and isolated location.
Nonetheless, there was a wing shop. Honestly, best wings ever….and it’s not even close. He had flavors from Garlic Pepper, to more than two dozen other kinds. He would constantly peer-pressure us into doing his crazy ass, super-duper-hot ass wing challenge — a challenge that often times had college students go into oblivion, puking all over the damn place (hate to be graphic).
Before I left, he was obtaining his liquor license. Today, I’m not exactly sure what’s happening, but now that I think of it, there’s a show called Hot Wings on YouTube that features some of the biggest stars in America.
Do you guys now know where I’m going with this?
In 2013, the man who had this shop never had the idea to put those wing challenges on YouTube.
Three years later, someone else did….and now he has 1-15 million views per video with stars all over America coming to chow down.
There’s opportunity everywhere….but remember, they come as crumbs most times. This is your warning. Whatever it is you can develop and monetize, take that leap of faith.
FYI – I just looked it up on google and luckily it’s still in business. However, that idea was never put to good use.