What’s your Why?

“No one had to eat out of Trash Cans!” – Eric Thomas

Everytime I hear that, it gives me goosebumps. Could you imagine eating out of trash cans, homeless (because you ran away because of endless lies) and other things that a homeless child would go through? Yes, bullying, depression, and suicidal thoughts…Eric Thomas experienced this, and his goal now is to help people overcome just about anything and everything.

His why? He felt the pain.

Being who I am today didn’t happen because I saw the light, it was because my back was against the wall and I hated myself because people taught me to hate myself. 2015 I said ENOUGH! I’m not going through this anymore! I’m going to create a platform to help others overcome themselves!

And score!

Not only that, but even creating a number of platforms that will help get my story out there and change lives in regards to not only personal development, but English language communication.

I now have my WHY. I now have my purpose.

And even thinking about The Arsenio Buck Foundation? The ultimate life-assignment of them all….boy, I can’t be grateful enough.

But this isn’t about me. It’s about you. I’m scared for a lot of people out there because they don’t know their why. They don’t know what makes them tick. They don’t know what wakes them up in the morning, and this is why I’m here to spread such a profound message and represent an idea for people to finally go after what is theirs in the universe.

What’s your why?

Interviewee #34 – Jazz Pitt on Overcoming Depression, Exile, & Fulfilling Her Purpose

Jazz, who was the third of the three to really “jack me up,” helped me so much. It was a three day process when I went through the depths of hell to figure out what was actually wrong with me. After Richard came Isabel, followed by Jazz — and boy — did she have a story! This is going to hit home for a lot of people dealing with anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts. Here it is!

Get in touch with Jazz Pitt on overcoming depression, exile and fulfilling purpose

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Things we discussed:

  • Introduction given by Jazz Pitt and how she started it all?
  • Relationships and family exile.
  • Feeling of abandonment.
  • Mental breakdown and depression.
  • Situation after all feelings had subsided.
  • Unhappy childhood and how memories continued creeping into her present life.
  • Zombie state of depression.
  • Keys to overcome depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts.
  • How she feels looking back on her past.
  • The importance of lifelong learning.
  • The power of love.
  • Sharing about the power of perceptions by other people and the importance of choosing.

Thank you for listening!

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Day-tight Compartments: Anxiety & “What Am I Supposed To Do” Happened

Touch a button and hear, at every level of your life, the iron doors shutting out the Past – the dead yesterdays.  Touch another and shut off, with a metal curtain, the Future – the unborn tomorrows.  Then you are safe – safe for today!  . . . Shut off the past! Let the dead past bury its dead . . . Shut out the yesterdays which have lighted fools the way to dust death . . . The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried, makes the strongest falter.  Shut off the future as tightly as the past . . . The future is today . . . . There is no tomorrow.  The day man’s salvation is now.  Waste of energy, mental distress, nervous worries dog the steps of a man who is anxious about the future . . . Shut close, then, the great fore and aft bulkheads, and prepare to cultivate the habit of a life of ‘day-tight-compartments.’ ” – Dale Carnegie

When I read this a few days ago, I had weight lift off my shoulders.  It was a vortex of melancholy.  I was sitting on my bed, hunched over, and these thoughts started bearing down on me.  I get worked up when jobs send me jobs, stay quiet for about a week, then I have to ask them, “what happened?”  and when I do, they say “sorry, they chose another teacher.”

This is very infuriating, as what I’ve said a many times before, so I took charge.  I decided to email them back and I went on a clean, concise rant before blocking the email.

I won’t sit around and weight for people to choose me at the end of the stick because of obvious reasons.

I woke up the next morning and said, “what have I done?!”  But, in the end, did I want to work for a place like that anyways? Absolutely not.

So what did I do? I was succumbed by worry – worry that didn’t make any sense.  I look at my bank accounts and say, “I’m actually pretty good right now.”  I look at my income for this month, and I’m actually in a pretty good surplus.  So what the hell is it that I’m worried about?

The Future

I had to revert to the manual.  The future, and thinking about all the what ifs, will drive us insane.  It drives a lot of people to insanity, depression, and death.  As all of you have heard a many of times, we can only control the things that are happening at that moment – nothing else.  We get so caught up in the “what’s going to happen next month? I don’t have anything coming up? Omg. I’m in trouble!” However, this has happened so much in terms of my life even back in Australia.

I was a dental temp and boy, during the Christmas holidays, I was completely out of money.  I had all my money in an account I had no access to and banks were closed for like 2 weeks.  Not only that, but being a dental temp, a lot of offices are on vacation.  It picked back-up (obviously after Christmas), but my life was never in real danger, nor is it here (given the fact that expenses are much cheaper).  I know what I’m doing and I know where I’m going in life right now, so the goal is to stay focused.

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How To Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind – Part II

I talked about this in a podcast a long time ago, but I want to speak how I use this particular technique in a real-life situation.

Long ago, there was a man that lost two children under the age of find.  Him being in a vice/guillotine that seemed to get tighter and tighter, he found himself in a decision whereas he was going to either turn down his boy, who hadn’t died and needed his support, or play with him and create something out of some toys.

So, he decided to play with him.  He didn’t want to be bothered at the time because he was emotionally distraught, as one would be.  However, in those three hours that he played with his boy, there was a sudden mental relaxation that came over him.  How? He crowded his mind by being busy.

So over the past couple days, you guys probably didn’t know, but I’ve been a rut of worry.  If you’ve ever seen a person with rolled-over shoulders, walking with their head down…that’d be me.  I’ve been very disconcert over the past few weeks because of not knowing my future in finding new work.  Last night I hit a new low in teaching one of my students.  I remember looking at the worst-case-scenario “opportunity” go away right before my eyes.  I then said, “oh, man! No friends; no family; no options…..Arsenio, what’s next?”  I kept scanning job boards and none of them were showing anything, although I was applying for virtually all of them out of pure desperation.  So, I decided to apply for this particular job and I was a bit amazed at the response time – 5 minutes.  That’s right, I applied with a student sitting in front of me and almost in an instant, the response came back — in voice form.  I answered, remained composed (even though I wanted to jump out of my skin), was told a story (the opening up of a human being to another human being) and landed an interview, which will prove to be a monumental success.

In an instant, that worry was gone.  Not because of a call, but also because the comments of one of the parents.  He said, “there are plenty of jobs in Bangkok.  Just be patient.”

I was more worried about my personal wants than giving.  This is why so much of humanity fail.

In the following morning (this morning), I was listening to Tony Robbins say, “if you’re unhappy with your workplace, change it.  If you say there aren’t any jobs out there, that’s bull.”

This is something I always tell myself because of victimization.  I know damn well there are jobs out there, but the fact is I keep telling myself there aren’t because of everything that has happened in my life here.

With an interview looming large and opportunities and views coming in from all cylinders, I must keep myself busy.  Sometimes and especially at home, I get caught up in my own thoughts about “money.”  On the other hand, I just checked my bank account for the first time in forever and realized, “omg, wtfffffff am I even worried about?”

The future.

But the future is uncertain for everyone.  Everything can be taken away at the blink of an eye.

Your job today is to keep yourself busy.  Not with survival busyness, but constantly creating and deploying patience.  You will prevail.

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How To Criticize — And Not Be Hated For It

Is it possible? Perhaps!

“Charles Schwab was passing though one of his steel mills one day at noon when he came across some of his employees smoking. Immediately above their heads was a sign that said “No Smoking.” Did Schwab point to the sign and say, “Can’t you read?” Oh, no not Schwab. He walked over to the men, handed each one a cigar, and said, “I’ll appreciate it, boys, if you will smoke these on the outside.” They knew that he knew that they had broken a rule—and they admired him because he said nothing about it and gave them a little present and made them feel important. Couldn’t keep from loving a man like that, could you?”

Excerpt From: Dale Carnegie. “How to Win Friends & Influence People.”

Pretty smart, right? How often do we find ourselves in shouting matches with people at our local convenience stories? Working up a sweat and raising your blood pressure only to see that “enemy” smiling while waving ‘goodbye.’  They win, you lose.

As human beings, we’re quick to criticize.  I was recently killing my brain cells while watching useless MMA YouTube videos. While I was watching some of these videos, I would see the MMA fighters not only lacking confidence, but blaming reporters for the “stirring” up of everything.  I like the Marshawn Lynch and Richard Sherman approach of everything.

The lady tries to criticize him and he asks her follow-up questions to question her credibility.  This is an excellent way with dealing with critics in general.

Marshawn just completely ignores them by saying, “yes.” I find it amusing.

“Many people begin their criticism with sincere praise followed by the word “but” and ending with a critical statement. For example, in trying to change a child’s careless attitude toward studies, we might say, “We’re really proud of you, Johnnie, for raising your grades this term. But if you had worked harder on your algebra, the results would have been better.”
In this case, Johnnie might feel encouraged until he heard the word “but.” He might then question the sincerity of the original praise. To him, the praise seemed only to be a contrived lead-in to a critical inference of failure. Credibility would be strained, and we probably would not achieve our objectives of changing Johnnie’s attitude toward his studies.
This could be easily overcome by changing the word “but” to “and.” “We’re really proud of you, Johnnie, for raising your grades this term, and by continuing the same conscientious efforts next term, your algebra grade can be up with all the others.”
Now, Johnnie would accept the praise because there was no follow-up of an inference of failure. We have called his attention to the behavior we wished to change indirectly, and the chances are he will try to live up to our expectations.”

Dale Carnegie wrote this in his book and it couldn’t have been more true.