Darren Hardy: Daily Rhythms & Registering Them + Relationships

Preston Smiles fits “fun-time” into his clients’ schedules.

What’s fun-time?

It’s simply when an alarm goes off, that particular individual drops everything he or she is doing and they dance their tail off.  I know, odd as hell, but the incorporation of that, or any other behavior, forms a discipline.

Remember I talked to you about Romanic Relationships and how spontaneity would go a long way in any relationship? Look at it this way…

Darren Hardy, at 6pm, has something called “date night” with his wife.  So when the time arrives, the alarms go off on his spouse and his phone, they drop everything, and they commit to being with each other from sundown — all the way to sunup.  This is from Friday night to Sunday morning, too.  Not just one day.

He also used an idea from Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ book, which he asks his wife, “how would you rate the relationship for this past week?” Of course the wife would give him a number, and he would then ask, “how can I get better?”  The wife will then come up with a list of things that will help him become better.

No one is perfect.  Just remember that.  It would be so overwhelming hearing nagging (which it shouldn’t be – but totally can be) all the time.  For example, when I was recently dating a girl, she wouldn’t ask me something like this; nor would I ask her the question.  Instead, on a two-hour trip back from Kanchanaburi to Bangkok, she was complaining her head off because I didn’t ask her if she wanted anything from 7-11, and because I didn’t carry all four pieces of luggage.

This should be a feeling of validation for both parties.

“Every month, Georgia and I also schedule something unique and memorable. Jim Rohn taught me that life is simply a collection of experiences; our goal should be to increase the frequency and the intensity of the good experiences. Once a month we try to do something that creates an experience that has some memorable intensity. It could be driving up to the mountains, going on an adventurous hike, driving up to Los Angeles to try a new fancy restaurant, going sailing in the bay—whatever. Something out of the ordinary that has a heightened experience and creates an indelible memory.”

“Once a quarter we plan a two- to three-day getaway. I like to do a quarterly review of all my goals and life patterns, and this is a great time to do a deeper check-in on how things are going in our relationship. Then we have our special travel vacation, plus our holiday traditions and our New Year’s hike and goal-setting ritual. You can see that once all this is scheduled, you no longer have to think about what you need to be doing. Everything happens naturally. We’ve created a rhythm that gives us momentum.” – Darren Hardy

Weekly Rhythm Registration In Podcast + PDF

Registering Rhythms Example

The Rant of 2017

If you’re pointing fingers at the past, Donald Trump, Republicans, North Korea, Thai people (lol) or anyone else for that matter to why you’re not successful, you suck.  Well, I don’t want to say you suck, because you technically don’t, but if you post implicit comments targeting groups of minorities or majorities in terms of dropping their defenses….YOU REALLY SUCK.

I’ll give you the cold-hard truth.  We’re one day away from 2018 and with the exception of developing countries, the world has exceedingly evolved into something magnificent.  We’re living in one of the most opportunistic ages in human kind.  The device in your pocket can make you create vlogs, written, and audio forms of content.  If you’re living in an exotic country like Kazakhstan, Morocco, American Samoa, Tuvalu, Brunei, Luxembourg and you’re not documenting your life, you’re missing out.

If you’re reading my blogs from Bulgaria, Romania, France; and listening to my podcasts from Singapore, Japan, Indonesia and other places….why not take what I’m giving and put it into your language? I know audio hasn’t taken over in these countries such as what’s happening right now in America….but it will.  We’re going to be multi-tasking beings.  While brushing our teeth, we’re going to be listening to podcasts to help us with self-improvement and different areas of our life.  Video is slowly declining because no one wants to sit in front of a screen anymore when they can be doing 3 things at once.

What I’m telling you and imploring you to do is to (1), stop bitching.  Stop trying to slander your fellow samaritans.  Yes, I blew up a week ago at a convenient store because I won’t be made a mockery of, and the blowup was super funny because they went from laughing to mad as hell (hahahahaha)….but what I’m trying to say is if you go on Twitter, follow Donald Trump (and you hate him), talk about taxes and things you can’t control….2018 is in repeat form.  Form better habits and stop complaining!

This is the era of opportunity.  If you’re reading this, start making a difference.  Develop habits that suit you in your definite chief-aim and develop the burning desire to go after it with all your might! Not tomorrow….but today is the beginning.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/the-2017-rant

Darren Hardy: Find Your Fight + Goals

So, my first podcast (which will be below the first part of this in terms of finding your fight) was uploaded yesterday.  I didn’t have time to attach the blog with it, and I also got a real time text message about a job denying me work and see how I reacted to it.  Great experience. Lol

And into “finding your fight.”

Now, Darren Hardy talked about using friction, anger and hate to press up against something you don’t like.  I strongly disagree, respectfully.  It’s like the people who asked Mother Teresa if she wanted to go to an Anti-_________ rally.  She never went, but when she said, “if you make a pro-peace rally, I’ll go.”

The more you press up against something you dislike or get back at someone, you’ll never feel accomplished and you’ll be bringing more of that.

Gary Vee mentioned that he does things to stick it back in other people’s faces.  Again, people have a way of doing it, but the antagonists, naysayers, and people that want to see you fail will continue dissecting every detail of you to find something else to complain about.  It will be a never-ending whirlwind of critcism you’re redirecting constantly over to yourself because you feel you have to do it to prove someone wrong.

I’m telling you now that they will continue to win.  Just remember, No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog.

Podcast From Yesterday

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-core-motivation-dont-use-it

 

Goals

The compound effect, just like the Law of Attraction, is always working – whether you believe it or not.  You can use it for you, or against you.  Most successful people in the world have quiet time for meditation, other people say that meditation isn’t for them.  It’s all based on preference. However, if you can get to a deeper level of your core, you will find the treasure.  I have a particular friend who works at a bank who says she doesn’t know what she loves.  Well, try new things! “Well, my mother said I can’t.”

Now’s not the time to be rescue 911.  If she doesn’t start now, she’ll look back to now at the age of 70 saying, “I wish I had…..”

Don’t be that person.

Ask yourself: “what goals, dreams and destinations do I desire?”

Honestly, ask yourself that question.  If you’re not making progress in life, and shooting aimlessly, it’s because your goals aren’t clearly defined and you just simply don’t have a definite chief-aim in life.  How can you learn to effectively to set and achieve goals?

Was Australia on my bucket list back in 2009? No.  However, in 2005, it gave me a glimpse of what was to come when I did a convention with a friend involving lots of managers from Australia at the Mandalay Bay Resort & Casino. That wasn’t a clearly defined goal, but rather an insight.

I always wanted to travel to Japan, Singapore, Bali and Maldives…when I put these onto my dreamboard, it happened.  It may not work for you, but it worked for me.

You only see, experience, and get what you look for. If you don’t know what to look for, you certainly won’t get it. By our very nature, we are goal-seeking creatures. Our brain is always trying to align our outer world with what we’re seeing and expecting in our inner world. So, when you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them. In fact, the object of your desire has probably always existed around you, but your mind and eyes weren’t open to “seeing” it.
In reality, this is how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not the mysterious, esoteric voodoo it sometimes sounds like. It’s far simpler and more practical than that. – Darren Hardy

We are bombarded with visual, audio and physical things everyday.  Have you ever been thinking about that person and later get a phone call from them? How about that car you want? You start seeing the car a heck of a lot more, right? Is it realistic? Perhaps.  Maybe the cars were there all along and you just weren’t paying attention to it.

When you define your goals, you give your brain something new to look into and focus on. This is why our subconscious mind and feeding your mind with what you want one hour before you retire at night is imperative.  If you watch bad news, what shows up in your dreams? If you do work on that project, shop for that house, look for flights to Kazakhstan, and look at YouTube videos of travel in Morocco….your subconscious mind will work on it overnight.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-part-ii-goal-setting

 

Future of Technology: Alexa Devices

Alexa cues…..

  • Alexa, what’s the agenda?
  • Alexa, how tall are you?
  • Alexa, what’s the weather like?
  • Alexa, volume seven.
  • Alexa, play rock, paper, scissors.
  • Alexa, how far away is Christmas?
  • Alexa, resume my audio book.
  • Alexa, open dominos and order a cheese pizza.
  • Alexa, how many calories are in one slice of cheese pizza?

These are just a handful of questions that you can say to a device.  Literally, a speaker that talks back to you.  You can ask it to order an uber and she’ll tell you the exact time the uber is coming.  I mean this is the age that we’re heading into.  Alexa devices and audio; such as podcasts, are going to be the gateway to the new world of technology.

It’s funny because I have never heard of Alexa Devices until Gary Vee brought it up not once, but a many of times.

I decided to do research and realized — WOW! How easy would it be to say, “hey Alexa, order three bottles of water from he 7-11 downstairs.”  Then to have her confirm the order and receive it almost immediately.  I would also like the, “Arsenio, your bottles of water have arrived.  Should I tell him/her that you’re heading down to pick it up?”

Within 10 years, time is going to be the biggest and most important commodity for a lot people (if it already isn’t) and people need to jump onboard because the world of technology is rapidly expanding.

Podcast