Stephen Covey: The 7 Low-Trust Organizational Taxes – Politics & Disengagement

In an organization, “politics” is defined as the use of tactics and strategy to gain power. Office politics divide a culture against itself by creating conflict with what author Lawrence MacGregor Serven calls the “enemy within” instead of the enemy without.

Office politics generate behaviors such as withholding information, infighting, trying to “read the tea leaves,” operating with hidden agendas, behaviors result in all kinds of wasted time, talent, energy, and money. In addition, they poison company cultures, derail strategies, and sabotage initiatives, relationships, and careers. The indirect costs related to office politics are estimated at 100 billion per year; some observers put them substantially higher.

Stephen Covey

Remember the story I had told you guys about a colleague by the name of Hubert? Yeah, met him for the first time, worked alongside him, and then I was bit by him, the venomous snake. Why would I call him a snake? Simply because he was the one who stopped taking a taxi with me to a company (lightyears away) so he can cut costs for himself. This was infuriating beyond belief, and I told my boss about his insidious agenda and to never allow him to come inside “this” language center. Of course, I was ignored, he came in and wreaked havoc for several months, creating division and gossip around the office. He finally had quit after trying to get me fired because I had podcasts that called out teachers that “fit the profile,” but this type of malice should’ve never stepped foot inside. Give a man one foot, he’ll soon push the door open and let himself in.

Disengagement

Disengagement is what happens when people continue to work at a company, but have effectively quit (commonly referred to as “quit and stay”). They put in what effort they must to get their paycheck and not get fired, but they’re not giving their talent, creativity, energy, or passion. Their bodies are there, but not their hearts or their minds. There are many reasons for disengagement, but one of the biggest reasons is that people simply don’t feel trusted.

Following the end of my teaching career at a particular place that I had been working at for 3.5 years, I lost my energy, passion, and everything for the job. I would say things to my students that would get me in trouble in the long term. I would shrug my shoulders and not do the mundane tasks. It’s almost as if I put a bullseye on my back everyday and wanted them to take me out, and they did. I had been disengaged from teaching at that place for months (since the dawn of the New Years) and I shouldn’t have stayed past 2016 (always leave when you’re at the peak — which sounds crazy). However, I did….and when one of our best salespeople left, along with a forcible firing of a great head teacher, cancer began spreading rapidly throughout the office and forced the best teachers out….to the most amazing journeys of life.

Podcast

Rhythms of Life + Power of Consistency

“I don’t want you thinking of the rhythms you can do for this week, month, or even the next ninety days; I want you to think about what you can do for the rest of your life. The Compound Effect—the positive results you want to experience in your life—will be the result of smart choices (and actions) repeated consistently over time. You win when you take the right steps day in and day out. But you set yourself up for failure by doing too much too soon.”

This is in regards to the last blog/podcast.  When you’re in marriage, you’re going to have to do things way outside the box.  Do things that you would have never done before.  Surprise him/her.  Buy those plane tickets to a utopia.  If you don’t do these things, relationships become stagnant.  The two individuals begin dying rather than growing together.

Story of Richard In The Podcast

The Power of Consistency

I looked back on my blogs from last year, and I noticed that were was a stray of days that I didn’t do a blog.  My numbers suffered; viewers disengaged; and the Big Mo was gone.  Not only that, but when you fall out of that consistency “frequency,” it’s even harder to get back in as you’ve heard in Richard’s story.

People, at the beginning of the year, hire a personal trainer to bust their ass, and they ultimately fall into that same bad habit.

Another example would be students here in Thailand.  I’ve seen students who have an insane amount of discipline, and I’ve seen others who study English for the sake of learning the language.  That’s the wrong way to do it.

For example, let’s say I had a student by the name of Note.  Note was very good at conversation and I asked him, “how did you learn conversation?” He said, “I repeated everything I heard in movies and I talk to myself in the mirror.”

About 99% of the human population wouldn’t do that because they’re scared of what “others” might think of them.

Example number 2 — Kim Kim.  Kim Kim, at the age of 15, spoke better than most Asians all across Asia.  Her accent is sound and she has very few grammatical errors while speaking.  How did she learn? Just like my companion 11-years-ago by the name of Ezra Goings did — surround yourself with the language.

“I love English.  English is life.  I breathe it. I love it so much.  I hate Thai.”

That’s what she said. She hates her own language.  She actually even speaks to children and others in the community in English, which is funny because she says “excuse me” with a stern voice.  What are the reactions? Looks of awe.

I hope you understand what point I’m trying to make here.  Through consistency, riding the Big Mo, and unrelenting determination can come some of the greatest lessons and learning experiences in life.  It’s not always about taking a massive jump and pushing down on the pump as quick as possible.  Look at rowers — you know — the people who pedal like hell in lakes while sitting in canoes.  Could you imagine if they went as fast as possible at the beginning of the race? They would die down.

Other examples could be like the “beauty pill,” which is sold here in Thailand.  Women, of all walks of life, take this pill (which is extremely dangerous) so they can lose weight.  They don’t want to put in the work in the gym…they just want to “become” slim.  Discipline is the lesson.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/rhythms-of-life-power-of-consistency

 

Happy New Years + Goal-Setting Time + YouTube Video/Podcast

HAPPY NEW YEARS!

Being on top of my balcony and seeing the amount of fireworks I did last night was just resounding.  I felt the love in the air and now I’m onto the biggest year of my life (as I said last year and it exceeded my expectations).

On the other hand, the majority of people this  morning have resolutions, but they don’t have the proper techniques, skills, and things in place to make their “goals” manifest.

For one, resolutions base-word is “resolve,” meaning you’re looking to resolve something in your life.  You can handle that just by dumping the girlfriend/boyfriends, quitting the s***ty job, and learning how to say ‘no’ more often.

So, let me let you in on some techniques + some of the goals I set for myself in the past and what’s happening this 2018.

Habits

What’s a habit? Something that has turned into a daily party of our routine.  We wake up, brush out teeth, take a shower, get ready — that’s all habitual.  It’s on auto-pilot.  However, we’re oblivious to the bad habits that are happening: eating junk food, engaging in heated online debates, watching television, being around the wrong who bitch all the time.  These are also habits.  So what did I do?

2017 Was The Change

I needed to compile a morning routine that would ultimately help me win the day.  You have what Jim Quik said in terms of brushing your teeth with the opposite hand, making your bed, etc.  These are all wonderfully great things, but I’m still not able to win it.  I’ll give you a nice glimpse at my morning.

Normally at 5:30am I wake up (I sleep the night before at about 9:30), and I go straight into a meditation.  If I have a busy morning, which I normally do, I do the meditation “overcoming procrastination,” which is a guided meditation with one of the apps I use (let me know if you want the name in the comment section).  After that, I would take my vitamins and possibly even a pre-workout, depending on if I workout in the morning.  After that, I post on an inspirational message on my instagram, and sometimes even my podcast (which could’ve been pre-recorded).  I then record or pre-record a live podcast.  Now, depending on if I’m working out in the morning or not, for the bulk of this year, I would workout around 8am.

  • Meditation
  • Posts on Instagram
  • Inspirational message on twitter
  • Podcast
  • Blog
  • Workout
  • Work
  • Grateful List

This was the bulk of my year, but things have changed.  So, if I workout (and now I do) at 6:45am, my podcast has to be pre-recorded and blog done the day before.  During the commute, I would post everything on social media and then hit it hard.  After I workout and before I go to work, I would have my protein shake, rice & pork, and respond to emails, messages and other things for 30 minutes before my students arrive.

This is how I ultimately had such an effective morning for a good portion of the year.

Sure, it’s not always going to work, but a behavior compounded over time becomes a habit.  That’s what you will need to succeed.

Night Routine

Same as the morning routine. Now, night routines are extremely difficult at times because once I get home, I want to get on the news.  This is why I’ve been media fasting on and off.  Reading something that doesn’t pertain to me, my goals, and just revolves around the ‘circle of concern’ is disastrous.  However, on the nights everything did work, this is how it went.

During my commute home I turn off all notifications.  I say what I need to say, respond to emails, then that’s it.  When I get home I make sure I set everything up for the next day.  Clothes are packed, bottles for working out, belts, socks — YOU NAME IT!  This is how it happened.  If I can read before I sleep, it would be a success.  Normally, I always do my meditation.  Now, depending on how the day went, there’s a lot of head trash that gets thrown at me throughout the day at work.  Opinions and ignorance of colleagues, management, and just being in a very “slummy” area where people look down on me.  Those tides have changed though.  But when these things happened, I would do the “detox my mind” podcast so I can wake up fresh.

Goal-Setting

Here’s a list of things to add into your morning routine.

  • Make your bed
  • Grateful list
  • Meditation (20 minutes)
  • Exercise (20 minutes)
  • Read (20 minutes)
  • Inspirational podcast or YouTube video (I listen to Gary Vee)
  • News Feed on all social media MUST have inspirational messages on there.  Follow the people that make you feel better.

Now, onto Goal-Setting.

Now, first thing is first…get rid of these phrases: I wish, if only, I don’t, I can’t, but I don’t have….

These are all doomers.  They’re either in the future or completely denying your ability and mindset of obtaining a goal.

When you figure out your vision, life-purpose, desire, objectives and everything for this year, then you can unleash the power.  Thinking about goals gives you a 43% chance of obtaining them.  Writing them down gives you a 56% chance.  Sharing them with a friend bumps it up to a 64% chance.  And then there’s the weekly progress report to a friend – 76%.  This gives you an idea of how it works.

To make sure the goal is imbedded into your subconscious mind, you must meet two criteria: how much (measurable quantity), and by when (specific time).

Example: I want to travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan.  – Wrong

The conditional “I want” is a killer.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan this year. 

  • Better, but there isn’t a specific time frame.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan on April 13th by Astana Airlines and come back April 20th. 

  • Now this is sexy.  I have the time, month, and even specific airline.

The universe loves action!

Go online and start looking for the airlines, hotels and everything that relates to your travel.  This is something that my mother was never able to overcome because she always said, “I don’t have any money. I wish I can go, but my finances aren’t straightened out.”  They never will be! There’s never a right time for anything! When you get that intuitive nudge, act!

This is the power of goal-setting.  Visualize yourself being on the snowboarding fields in Hokkaido, Japan by listening to a blizzard and fire crackling.  Look up how much the tickets are, where to stay, and everything that relates to the trip.  That’s where the magic happens.

Podcast

 

YouTube Video

Who You Have To Become & Behaving Yourself + Exercise

It’s been a couple days since my last blog, and my goodness, I’ve never felt so out of place and out-of-touch with my fellow readers from all over the world! It’s time to get back into the compound effect.

All right, let’s map out the goals that you’ve decided upon.  Just remember that the only thing that stands between you and your goal is your behavior.

Example, the universe loves ACTION!

If I had put off moving into my new condominium, the dream job, which fell into my lap just yesterday, would’ve never happened! I knew I needed to act and it was all predicated on my behavior.  That morning I emailed four different condominiums probably decided this entire process.  My mind and everything is already set in Bangkok.  If I didn’t start by taking the first necessary step, the opportunity would’ve never come.

What do you need to start doing to change your trajectory so that it’s headed in the most beneficial direction? In other words, what habits and behaviors do you need to subtract from and add to your life?

Your life comes down to this formula:

Choice + Behavior + Habit + Compounded = Goals

decision +  action +  repeated action + time

Which behaviors are blocking your life right now?

How many hours of T.V. do you watch everyday? Seriously, I can bet good money you don’t know.  Do you sit in front of the television and watch 2-3 hours of sports (minimal) per weekend when you can be planning out your entire next week and even meals?

How many cans of soda do you drink a day? How many ridiculous YouTube videos do you watch that’s nonessential to the work you’re in? How about drama? Human beings LOVE drama and gossip.  Americans love the reality TV and Thailand/Korea love drama.  Become aware of how you’re behaving is the most important part of this process.  That’s step #1.

Okay, now it’s your turn. Get out your little notebook and write out your top three goals. Now make a list of the bad habits that might be sabotaging your progress in each area. Write down every one.

Habits and behaviors never lie. If there’s a discrepancy between what you say and what you do, I’m going to believe what you do every time. If you tell me you want to be healthy, but you’ve got Doritos dust on your fingers, I’m believing the Doritos. If you say self-improvement is a priority, but you spend more time with your Xbox than at the library, I’m believing the Xbox. If you say you’re a dedicated professional, but you show up late and unprepared, your behavior rats you out every time. You say your family is your top priority, but if they don’t appear on your busy calendar, they aren’t, really. Look at the list of bad habits you just made. That’s the truth about who you are. Now you get to decide whether that’s okay, or if you want to change.

Next, add to that list all the habits you need to adopt that, practiced and compounded over time, will result in you gloriously achieving your goals.

Making this list isn’t about wasting energy by getting judgmental and regretful. It’s about taking a clear-headed look at what you want to improve. I’m not going to leave you there, however. Let’s uproot those sabotaging bad habits and plant new, positive, and healthy ones in their place.”

Podcast

The Evening Review

This is a powerful exercise to help everyone implement a better positive behavior, habit, or quality.  You’ll be amazed how fast this technique can lead to permanent change.

Now, you can do this as a guided meditation, or in a quiet room.  Sit with your eyes closed, breathe deeply, ask yourself these questions.

  • Show me where I could have been more effective today.
  • Show me where I could have been more conscious today.
  • Show me where I could have been a better (profession: teacher, coach, sales, etc) today.
  • Show me where I could have been more loving today.
  • Show me where I could have been more assertive today.
  • Show me where I could have been more (charismatic, benevolent, kind, considerate) today.

When you sit in calmness and become receptive, the events that had happened throughout the day will come to mind.  Observe them without making any judgement or self-criticism . When the events stop coming to mind, take each incident and replay them in your mind the way you would have preferred to have done it had you been more conscious and intentional at the time.  This creates a subconscious image that will help evoke the desired behavior the next time a similar situation occurs.

Try planning your next day schedule going exactly the way you want it, too.  This is all part of the last 45 minutes of the day.   I visualize the buses being on time when I leave my condo; the minivan being half full so I can get to Bangkok on time; the BTS Sky Train having empty seats; having empty seats.

For others, maybe you’ll visualize having all your errands taking care of, making every sale, all your clients being called by a particular time, picking up the kids on time, preparing everything so that your day goes exactly how you want it to.  See yourself performing at your best in every situation you will encounter during the next day.  This will give your subconscious all night to work on creating ways to make it all happen just as you have visualised it.

Every thought you think is broadcasted out to the universe. Remember that.  So get into the habit now of visualizing your ideal next day the night before.  This will surely make a massive difference in your life.

Jack Canfield – Release The Brakes

Have you ever been driving your car and suddenly realized you left the emergency brake on?  Did you push down harder on the gas to overcome the drag of the brake? No, of course not.  You simply released the brake, and with no extra effort, you started to go faster.

A lot of people go through life with a psychological emergency brake on.  They hold negative images of themselves and suffer from all the effects and powerful experiences.  Everyone, especially Asians, have a tendency of living in their own comfort zone.  Their social groups because their culture restricts them to speaking to people outside their nationality.

In addition to individuals, we have a lot of inaccurate beliefs about reality or harbour guilt and self doubt.

I want you to think of it this way, your comfort zone is a prison you live in.  A confined area that you just can’t break free from…..they included the collection of can’t, musts, must nots, and other unfounded beliefs.

I like the story Jack Canfield talked about that pertained to a baby elephant.  This baby elephant is tied down to a wooden post.  The elephant’s area is determined by the length of the rope….the elephant’s comfort zone.  So, years later, when the elephant turns into a massive 5-ton beast, it doesn’t even try to cut loose from the rope because it was conditioned as a baby not to.

Perhaps this also describes you.  You’re trapped, or you feel you are.  You harbour all the limiting beliefs about yourself and images that you took in while you were young.  If this describes you, the good news is that you can change your comfort zone.  How? There are four different ways:

  1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
  2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
  3. You can use the revolutionary technique called Tapping Therapy.
  4. You can simply change your behavior.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/8560762