Darren Hardy: Chapter 5 – Influences

There are three influences: input (what you feed your mind), associations (the people you spend time with),  and your environment.

If you’re one of those Facebook scrollers, you’re feeding your mind with a good amount of head-trash.  This means that you’re going to end up reading, posting, or sharing something which you have no control over.  Look at the President of the United States, for instance.  How many people post and rant their heads off at them? What do you accomplish by doing it? You really have to take a step back and look at it from that perspective.

I had a wonderful student a year or two ago.  She was a marvelous dental student, but she was quieter than ever.  Sure, “that fits the profile and persona of a dentist,” but she asked me “how can I bring out my personality?”

I asked, “are your friends quiet?”

…….”yes.”

Of course they are.  I can bet you right now if she had funny friends around her for a month, her personality would change.

A funny story about this would be Thai women try looking “black.”

That’s right.  They get hair extensions and tan their skin as much as possible to come off as an “African American.”  When you speak to them, they have a good amount of slang.  Guess who their friends are? You guessed it! Wait, no you didn’t.  Their friends are all from Africa.

I thought it was a funny story to tell. HA!

Environment has to be the biggest.  Honestly, biggest slum in Bangkok by the name of Khlong Toei is infested with poor people.

Rose Garden Townhomes, a place that my mother has been living for almost two decades, is full of a bunch of generational welfare pumping hood rats (hey, just calling it how I see you).

Are rich people hanging out with poor people?  Is someone from Beverly Hills going to a gym in Watts? Do the people in Manhattan live in the Bronx?

NOPE!

I. Input: Garbage in, garbage out.

“If you want your body to run at peak performance, you’ve got to be vigilant about consuming the highest-quality nutrients and avoiding tempting junk food. If you want your brain to perform at its peak, you’ve got to be even more vigilant about what you feed it. Are you feeding it news summaries or mind-numbing sitcoms? Are you reading the tabloids, or SUCCESS? Controlling the input has a direct and measurable impact on your productivity and outcomes.”

Excerpt From: Darren Hardy. “The Compound Effect.” iBooks.

This tackles it from two different angles.

On the super-busy days at my job, if I don’t eat protein and a handful of vegetables, I suffer from a mid-afternoon crash.  I can give you straightforward why I do, too – RICE!

Doesn’t make sense to eat rice when your body is not burning anything, right? However, I do!

Now is rice junk food? Absolutely not.  Brown rice is amazing.  But if I eat it at wrong times of the day, my body falls apart.

From an intake of information standpoint, people watch the news, sitcoms, reality TV (A.K.A – sitcoms!) and a handful of other things that serve them no purpose.  Controlling what our brains consume is very difficult. Also, our brain is not designed to make us happy.  It’s got one agenda: survival.

Robberies, fires, terrorist attacks, economy, Trump, internet trolls, nagging co-workers, angry individuals on public transportation – AVOID! If not, your brain is going to dissect the information and spend hours chewing on the fearful information, which will then bring more fear, which could lead to a heart attack.  I mean, pretty excessive, but it most certainly happens when people are driving to work in America every Monday morning.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-chapter-5-influences

Lewis Howes: The Material Mask & Tai Lopez Excerpt

YIKES! I mean, I can write probably a book on what Americans deem to be happiness – just go to Beverly Hills and see yourself! Yes, I took shot at Beverly Hills, although I stay there with an ex-boss of mine and his wife for a day this past April.  The Material Mask – the most highly sought after mask on the face of the planet.

From Instagrammer influencers posing with six-figure cars, to people flaunting their riches on yachts.  I find it very laughable because deep down inside those individuals are insecurities far beyond what “normal” people have.

For example, the YouTube guru who took the world by storm over a two-year period, Tai Lopez, is deemed as a “scam” artist.  Some people say that he packaged his own course from Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles.”  Others dissected his videos to the molecular level when they realized that some of the people he would be in the video with, at the time, weren’t even listening to him.  Collection of books in the garage; house “rented” out, women wearing 2-piece bikinis and so much more.  Nonetheless, this man amassed a fortune behind a very ambiguous past and everyone to this date is still unaware of his age.

Get this, regardless of what you might or might not like about him, he was one of those people who didn’t have that type of money when he was younger.  So, when he got the money, he lavished himself in it and had to show everyone.  His Tedx, called the ‘Good Life,’ was a bit laughed, in my opinion.  This coming from a public speaker – but this human being by the name of Tai Lopez has still been able to make millions of dollars.  Dollars that he must show to the rest of the world to make them feel inferior.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/lewis-howes-material-mask-tai-lopez-intr

Travel Is Finished – My Review of Singapore Airlines, LA, Mesa & Sedona, Arizona.

Ahhhh, this American trip has come to an end.  The great thing about this is it’s not like my past life where I had to force myself to go from Australia….back to America and feel miserable.  No.  Times have changed.  I’m literally going back with two big projects on my hand and loads of other opportunities.  This is one of the biggest stepping stones for me because I don’t feel a bit of sadness whatsoever.  What I took away the most from this trip was just being around Americans.  Hearing the “hello” and “thank you” was literally music to my ears.  Time to cover some of the highlights of this trip.

Singapore Airlines Regressing?

Other than my last flight from Tokyo to Los Angeles, it seems like service on Singapore Airlines is slowly regressing….or maybe they’re just getting on the level of every other airline in the world.  From the crazy angry flight attendants on my first flight from BKK-SIN, to the disappearing act and “male nodders” (asked him a question and he kept shaking his head up and down without saying a word) on the second flight.  Going forward, I might still take Singapore to the neighboring countries of ASEAN, but I’d much rather check out Qantas, Fiji Airways and a couple of others.  I will say that I don’t have problems with the passengers, though.  That seems to be the biggest problem with flying on particular airlines.

No Japanese Food On Flights

My first day on American soil was the worst. EVER.  Having got the worst food poisoning of my life, I was literally by the toilet for the first 8 hours of the day at my friend’s home in Beverly Hills.  What a disaster! The next day I was beyond weak trying to make my way through LAX, but upon landing at Sky Harbour International Airport and devouring some Chipotle, I was ready.  Not necessarily ready for Tough Mudder, but ready.

Get Out & Life = Movies of the Year!

Get Out was just simply amazing and never, from a vantage point, has there been a character in a movie who’s actually an “audience response” character.  Just remarkable all around.  Ending could’ve been better.

Life makes you think just how dangerous it could be to find life.  Here I am thrilled knowing NASA finds habitual planets throughout the universe yearly (which almost seems like monthly); however, now I’m very apprehensive.  Stunning movie and depressing as hell to say the very least.

Tough Mudder

I didn’t work out for the last four days, no pre-workout….just oatmeal and motivational videos on YouTube before my Tough Mudder.  The first mile was all jitters, but when you meet another samaritan on the course….boy! Does it go FAST! Especially if they’re gorgeous German women.  That was an awesome experience that left me sore as hell….in a good way.

Sedona, Arizona = Not The Same

Sure, a lot of you would much rather travel to Sedona in wintry weather (as I did the first time), but this time was different.  The vibe was off.  I wasn’t that excited and it probably revolves around not making prior arrangements.  DOH!

On top of that, we almost got extorted for a half a grand, but we did manage to climb a wondrous mountain and meet wholehearted people along the way.  Massive shout out to the Italian (family owned) pizza parlour heading outside the town.  Best pizza I’ve ever had in my life.

The Takeaway

The people.  Man, oh man….I’ve missed Americans.  I’ve missed strangers smiling, talking, and the use of basic social etiquette.  Yeah, you might think I’m crazy, but now you have a thorough idea of life in Thailand.  Also, there weren’t any dirty looks (except Globe, which is my friend’s hometown) which are very apparent in Thailand. I think this trip in general has made me become a much more grateful being in general.  Knowing that there are lots of people, including in my native country, who don’t care about skin color.  That’s one of the most wonderful feelings ever.  Going back to Thailand now….I’m just going to completely ignore the nonsense.  The white is better than black endless conversations and playing victimhood.  No more chemical reactions.  I now know my true self-worth, and man, is it amazing!

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11616909