Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 6 – Speaking & Reading – Using The Idioms

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This is a very interesting and long blog for you guys. I decided to implement someone speaking AND READING into this blog. The speaking obviously will be in the podcast, but the reading is an additional task for you down below. Let’s see how you guys respond to this!

Speaking Questions

From the previous day, you had idioms. Here they are.

  • Be under someone’s thumb
  • Do something behind someone’s back
  • Get something off your chest
  • Give someone the cold shoulder
  • Lend someone a hand
  • Pull someone’s leg
  • See eye-to-eye with someone
  • Stick your neck out for someone

Put them in the sentences down below.

  1. When was the last time you lent someone a _________? What did you do to help them?
  2. What would you do if your friend said something mean about you behind your __________?
  3. When was the last time you pulled someone’s ___________? What did you say or do?
  4. Is there anything that you and a friend don’t see __________to__________ about? What is it?
  5. Do you think you are under anyone’s ______________, or that anyone is under yours? Who?
  6. Who would be most likely to stick their ___________ out for you if you were in trouble?
  7. Who do you talk to when you need to get something off your __________? why?
  8. What would you do if a friend gave you the cold ____________?

Reading

Read the texts. For questions 1-12, choose the four texts (A-D). The texts may be chosen more than once.

Which text best describes a test that….

  • Involved listening to what people say? ______
  • Required people to change their normal behavior? _____
  • Gives a biological explanation for human relationships? _____
  • Required participants to do two separate activities? ______
  • Showed human relationships haven’t changed? ______
  • Took different personality types into account? ______
  • Proves our assumptions about human behavior are incorrect? ______
  • Suggests group activities make people kinder? ______
  • Confirmed what psychologists expected? _____
  • Required people to record what they did everyday? ______

Social interaction

 
A. ___ While most people agree that social interaction is important, we’re told to keep distance from strangers. But what if the advice is wrong?
The behavioural scientists, Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder approached commuters in Chicago who were about to get on a train. They asked one group of commuters to talk to the person next train. They asked one group of commuters to talk to the person next to them while they were travelling to work. Other people behaved as normal and kept to themselves. At the end of the train ride, the commuters who had talked to a stranger reported having a more positive experience than those who had been sitting alone. In another study, psychologist Gillian Sandstorm asked people to carry two clickers, one red and one black, in their pockets all day.
The people clicked the red one when they interacted with someone close to them, and the black one when they interacted with someone they didn’t know well. She found that both introverts and extroverts felt happier on days when they had more social interactions. More surprisingly, interactions with strangers contributed as much to their happiness as those with family and friends.
It seems that all social interactions are important, not just with people we know well.
 
B. ____ Social media has revolutionised the way we relate to one another. It has allowed us to amass thousands of ‘friends’ online, but according to the evolutionary psychologist Robin Dunbar, certain things haven’t changed.
Just over ten years ago, Dunbar began a study of the English habit of sending Christmas cards. He discovered that the average household sent about 150 cards a year. This number came as no surprise. Dunbar claims that our mind are not designed to accommodate more than a certain number of relationships – around 150, to be precise.
Over the past two decades, he and like – minded researchers have discovered groupings of 150 everywhere they looked. the average size of communities from hunter – gatherer societies up to the present day is around 150. Once a group grows larger, its members begin to lose their sense of connection.
Most of us can follow the lives and interests of about 150 friends on social media. Meanwhile, our circle of actual friends remains small. Further interviews and analysis carried out by Dunbar showed that the number of real – life friends a person can handle is 50. Our closest support group is likely to be around three.
 
C. ___ Researchers have long observed that humans tend to synchronise their body movements. When we talk with a friend, we often find our footsteps are in sync. The applause of a large audience tends to fall into a rhythm. What is the reason for this phenomenon in human behaviour?
Stanford psychologists Scott Wiltermuth and Chip Heath carried out a pair of tests on synchronised movements. they asked two groups of volunteers to walk around the Stanford campus. The first group was asked to walk normally, the second to walk in step.
Later, both groups were given collaborative games to play. The games were devised so that the more the participants cooperated, the more they collectively won. As Wiltermuth and Heath anticipated, the group that had walked in step cooperated better in the games. Those who had moved at their own speed and tempo were more likely to look out only for themselves.
The psychologists concluded that when people move in harmony, it helps them to feel a stronger connection to their group. It may even encourage people to act in a way that is beneficial for the community as a whole.
 
D ____ Professor of psychology and neuroscience Robert Provine has been studying the roots of laughter for 20 years and has come to some surprising conclusions.
Over a ten – year period, Provine and his students recorded conversations in shopping centres and city pavements in order to discover what was happening just before people laughed. They studied 2,000 cases, and found that less than 20% of laughter followed jokes or humorous remarks. Most of the time people laughed after everyone comments such as ‘Here comes Mary’ or ‘How did you do on the test?’ Proving also found that the average speaker laughed 46% more often than the person they were speaking to.
In another experiment, 72 of Provine’s students kept a record of their laughter for one week. They noted if they laughed when they were in company, or in response to the radio, TV or a book. The results showed that the students laughed about 30 times more when they were with other people than when they were alone.
Contrary to popular belief, it seems that most laughter is not about humour. It’s mainly a way for people to bond with one another.
 

Gateway Upper Intermediate B2+

Podcast

Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust: Season 4 – Episode 6 – The Four Cores

Guys welcome back to another Stephen Covey blog/podcast, and today is a follow up from what we’ve already done with the questionnaire (last week). 

So, each part in the questionnaire corresponds to one of the “4 Cores of Credibility.”  These are the foundational elements that make you believable, both ot yourself and to others. 

So, when it comes to integrity, it basically means honesty.  It’s walking your talk.  Do you live up to your values and beliefs? Or do you do opposite of what you say. 

Core 2: Intent

The second core deals with issues of intent.  This has to do with our motives, our agendas, and our resulting behavior.  Trust grows when our motives are straightforward and based on mutual benefit — in other words, when we genuinely care not only for ourselves, but also for the people we interact with, lead, or serve.  When we suspect a hidden agenda from someone or we don’t believe they are acting in our best interests, we are suspicious about everything they say and do. 

Both integrity and intent are matters of character.

Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust

This happens a lot in my life because I have a tendency of always saying to myself, “is this real?”  Came across a lady on the street last night and she was super friendly.  It didn’t make any sense, and I truly believed that she had a hidden agenda. She was trying to exploit me somehow, someway, and I was right. 

Core 3: Capabilities

The third core deals with issues of capabilities.  These are the abilities that have inspire confidence — our talens, attitudes, skills, knowledge, and style.  They are the means we use to produce results.  A family doctor might have integrity and his motives might be good, but unless he’s trained and skilled to perform the task at hand (brain surgery, for example) he’ll be lacking in credibility in that area.  Capabilities also deal with our ability to establish, grow, extend, and restore trust. 

Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust

Core 4: Results

The fourth core deals with issues around results.  This refers to our track record, our performance, our getting the right things done.  If we don’t accomplish what we are expected to do, it diminishes our credibility.  On the other hand, when we achieve the results we promised, we establish a positive reputation of performing, of being a produce, and our reputation precedes us. 

Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust

And these are the cores.  Remember, everyone, each area is of equal importance.  Example, someone who has great integrity, good intent and a great track record my lack capabilities.  Another person who has great integrity, capable and produces excellent results may have selfishness and doesn’t care about you.  

In any case, you won’t fully trust that person in any situation. So, in order to visualize the importance of all cores is by through the metaphor of a tree.  Integrity is the root of the tree which everything else grows.  Intent becomes more visible after you establish the character, which is just below the soil.  It’s essentially the big trunk the pokes its head out.  The capabilities are the branches and the capacities that enable us to produce.  Results are the fruits.  

So, with the being said, we’re going to have to start going through the cores

Podcast

Podcasts or Audio Books? Which Are better?

Welcome back to another blog, people! Today I’m tackling a controversial topic. 

When it comes to podcasts, you want to listen to podcasts that bring you the most value.  Was just listening to Pat Flynn about hosting guests on podcasts, and I believe that 98% of podcasts out there in the world don’t value the listeners time. 

If I look at my podcast, that’s why it hasn’t grown in three years.  I kept scratching my head saying, “how come it’s not getting more popular?” This happened shortly after launching my ESL podcast, which toppled charts and insane amounts of attention within the first few months — still growing as I write today.  

It’s because each podcast has a theme and teaches a specific facet of the English language.  I give an eternal preview, give target vocab/grammar, and sum it up at the end with a blog.  My personal development podcasts, however, doesn’t have that.  Often times I talked about my problems in all of 2016 with very little value.  

Now, I’ve been bringing different podcasts on that have themes, interviewees that speak about specific subjects, and I have actionable steps that I put in at the end, as well as assessments.

And what happened? Well, I’ve made more money on my podcasts the last two months than the previous 18 months (when I first turned on monitization). 

Now that we’ve cleared that up, what about audio books? Well, you heard me recommend scribd, but how am I able to juggle both of them?  Well, if you look at the majority of podcasts, a lot of them are recycled.  Gary Vee, who I very seldom listen to anymore, recycles a lot of his videos that I already know about.  I’ve graduated from that. 

Tom Bilyeu, who I believed peaked at the beginning of Impact Theory, has ridiculous ads smack down in the middle of his podcast.  I think that’s the absolute worst marketing strategy.  On top of that, Lewis Howes’ pre-roll agitates me, just as Jim Kwik’s does, so I find myself speeding through the first five minutes to avoid it.  

I’m telling you not from a complaining standpoint, but a listening standpoint. 

HOWEVER, when it comes to audio books, all you have are the respective table of contents at the beginning and that’s IT.  This puts a huge smile on my face, because I know what I’m listening to.  For instance, there’s a book featuring Napoleon Hill interviewing Andrew Carnegie and I’ve gotten more from the first 5 chapters of that audio book than I’ve gotten from any Grant Cardone, Gary Vee or Tom Bilyeu podcast all year!

Books have an insane amount of knowledge, and without them — the majority of these entrepreneurs wouldn’t exist. 

  1. Find an audiobook that you need help with.  

Example, there are specific blogs that are viewed relentlessly on my blog.  Why? The unbelievable amount of value it has.  It was out of Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits book.  So, from a marketing standpoint, I wanted to review another Stephen Covey book, not only that, but I needed to learn more about myself and trusting people. 

So, I got the Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust, and now those blogs are skyrocketing.  

Find an area of your life that you need help with and focus on that area through audio books. 

     2. Podcasts will become a saturated market, so keywording things you want to learn about online and seeing the figures you like might ultimately help you. 

With Gary Vee suggesting to 10 million of his followers to make a podcast, if you’re not branding the hell out of yourself with hashtags at the moment, you’re in trouble.  But if you’re looking for one, I suggest going for audio books first because again, you will learn a hell of a lot more in books.

     3. Don’t research top podcasts; research top books. 

Think and Grow Rich, Laws of Success, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, How to Win and Influence People, these are just a few.  Find the audio form of these, grab a notepad and start writing.  This is exactly what my sidekick does, Luke Burrows. 

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Coaching Session 003: Being Creative

So, I was asked this fascinating question just recently by one of my content writers.  She asked me how to be creative and how we can continue being creative.  Well, we’re living in a world that’s changing literally every year, month, week, day.  The YouTube’s and Apple’s of the world can ultimately fall apart just as Toys R Us and other massive chains in different countries plummeted.  Well, if we take a look at my ESL podcast and how I’ve been teaching in Thailand, this is probably the only way I can relate to this post.

The Initiation

When I first moved to Thailand, I was making a sloppy $600 USD a month.  Now, the teacher told me I would get paid $66 dollars less because I was black, too.  What was I doing at this school? Teaching younger kids — which required a lot of creativity.  That’s basically it. For five months I didn’t have any personal development and didn’t try learning useful skills that will make me a hot commodity.

Second Job

I moved up to $1000 dollars a month, which is an 80% increase, teaching technical college students.  Did I learn anything while I was there? Absolutely not…but with 5 months experience, this gave me a significant pay raise that I never thought I would get.

The Reality

When I finally moved outside of Bangkok, not only did I make 2k USD a month, but I first taught TOEIC (a test preparation course to enable the student to apply for higher paying jobs based on their English language literacy).  I learned to teach 4-skills (reading, writing, speaking, listening), academic writing, IELTS, business English and other facets.  When they saw I was an excellent speaker, they wanted me to create a new course that catered to conversation, which was a success beyond a success.  I got gigs teaching at the top-5 companies within these borders (email writing, business English and other areas), and when this happened, jealousy began growing.

Then I knew I was on the right path. The more I learned, the more I earn.

In 2015, I created a YouTube video that now has over 9k views…..never did I think that would happen.  It wasn’t until earlier this year that I had the idea, “hey, if there are lots of people viewing my videos YouTube, how about I make a podcast and see where it goes? Bingo! From there, my podcast soared over the last couple of months.  I began creating 1-minute videos on Instagram and my Facebook page — resulting in BIG HITS.  I turned that into online coaching, which I do live on the weekends and set up the refreshment course via YouTube.

And Then

A coach for Toyota, who has traveled the world and who I’ve been teaching the past three weeks (TOEFL) spoke to me for twenty minutes at the end of class saying, “you have e-test, e-learning, coaching, and refreshing).  While he was talking to me, I realized that I was unconsciously doing two of them already (coaching and refreshing) and it has been STELLAR since beginning two weeks ago.

The Creative

If I can create an e-test for my students and provide specialized courses in the different sectors of English, this could be the new-age part of learning.  If you haven’t already heard, universities are 1 trillion in debt and now people are realizing that university, is indeed, a scam.  In ten years time, we could be learning in virtual reality.  The language centers here in Thailand and all over the world, which are my competitors, can no longer provide a book and a “teacher” to teach from a book (super easy to do). They’ll have to become more creative.

So, how do I stay relevant? Integration of sophisticated lessons that will capture the imaginations of my students, making them better members of society while focusing on their core genius.  Professors around the world teach what’s only in books, and that will all be gone once AI is implemented and we no longer need to memorize information that’s useless.

Being creative is doing exactly what the big companies, which have failed, didn’t do.  Continue evolving and providing your customers with more things and innovate your technology to make life easier.  Jack Ma says “find a need and fill it.”

If you had known about Buzzsprout in the beginning of the year, you would know how garbage it was.  This platform, which podcasters can use to host, was completely useless compared to SoundCloud (a now “pay for plays” platform).  I didn’t know the metrics, who was listening, the last x amount of plays, or ANYTHING.  It was generic as hell compared to sites like Spreaker — a site I can see all the sources on.  However, I’m able to schedule my ESL podcasts now, transcript for little to no money (compared to hosting sites which charge 10x more), and I can put chapter markers in my podcast — a feature that has been invented on any other platform.

Buzzsprout knows in order for it to stay afloat, it has to continue evolving. The moment it began to grow complacent (at the beginning of the year), that was beginning of its downfall.

Always continue making life easier for your customers. Period.

Podcast

 

The Pat Flynn Podcast that Changed My Business

Be Small!

Wow, here I am commuting from one side of town to the other, and in the back of the taxi, on a dreary day in Bangkok, Thailand, I said to myself: “it’s time to listen to Pat Flynn.”

Pat Flynn, an entrepreneur most of you probably don’t know about, has an unbelievable and fiery podcast.  The last couple times I’ve listened to his podcast I couldn’t believe the gold he was spewing.  Here’s the one that could perhaps change your business FOREVER.

The reason why I’m making this blog and podcast is because examples are needed when deviating and going through a forest, which could have a lot of problems. Let’s break this down.

Go Niche/Find Your Specialty

He talked about going into a shoe store that had a variety of different shoes.  Let’s take this an example.  You go into a store that doesn’t specialize in what you’re looking for, “running shoes.”  You want to go to a store that has specialists that know a lot about running shoes, right? Not a specialist that knows about basketball shoes only.

It’s like a dentist.  If there’s a problem with your molars and you have horizontal impaction (basically your third molar being completely under your gums and heading in a perpendicular direction), you’re going to want to have an oral surgeon extract that tooth, rather than a general dentist, right?

This is what he’s talking about.

Become The Go-To Person in Your Space

Can you become the next go-to person in personal development? Probably not.  That’s what Pat Flynn says.  However, I beg to differ.  Tony Robbins is a guy that only associates himself with upper/rich people.  He doesn’t spend his days going through social media and talking to the average Joe.  This is how YOU WIN!  I’m telling you this because every YouTube, Instagram, Facebook and Twitter comment is for you to respond to and create a personal bond with that individual.  Also, to talk to Tony Robbins, you would have to pay hundreds of thousands of dollars.

There are other ways of going smaller.  It’s like being a “definite purpose” coach.  A coach that defines and help people with going after their definite-chief aim.

Being a meditation coach.  Yes, Marisa Peer and others are probably up there, but do they talk to the average person? Do they have personal relationships with their followers online? How about MindValley Academy? Does Vishen respond to comments and stuff? Absolutely not. This is YOUR ADVANTAGE!

1st Advantage – Coming in Late

That’s right.  Sure, Rachel English, who’s technically my competitor, came in years ago.  Most literal thinkers would say, “it’s too late!”  Actually, no.  It’s not.

If we look at Vantanika, for example.  She’s been in the fashion industry here in Thailand for 6 years and she’s a Thai billionaire because she graduated from university in London.  Please, get it out of your head….IT’S NEVER TOO LATE.

I can create a map of things that exist.  

Create an excel sheet: Four columns: places

Places – Where your target market exists.

In personal development, it’s sporadic.  However, by looking at the majority of my students on YouTube, Instagram, podcast and Facebook, it comes down to Vietnam, Indonesia, Brazil, Mexico, Chile, France, Israel, Japan, Taiwan, Ireland and Turkey.

Pretty broad, I know.  But this is where my attention is at the moment.

People – influencers and trust of audience.

I went on Instagram and checked Rachel English and a few others.  There’s one influencer, who lives in California, but she’s not consistent with pumping out contact.  Moreover, she talks about slang, which is fine, but that’s a very sub-sub-sub niche market.

There was another girl that included gender and human rights in her posts, which isn’t really good because that could ultimately take out some of her business.

Rachel doesn’t have an Instagram, which is unbelievably SHOCKING, considering that she has 1 million YouTubers.  This is where I can “own a hashtag” because the amount of tags I put on Instagram everyday.

Products – What are you competitors putting out?

IELTS, a test given to non-NES speakers, has the British Council.  Yes, it’s super famous.  Yeah, there are IELTS examiners all around BKK and even on all social media platforms, but is it personal? The problem with big corporations is just that…they’re big corporations.  They don’t have ANY personal bonds or relationships with commenters and students in general.  If someone ask about a tip for the IELTS exam, no one would respond.

Another IELTS website sells a lot of courses, but there aren’t any faces there? You don’t see a face ANYWHERE in terms of learning and who created the courses.  Massive disadvantage, but now I understand what they’re selling and how they’re selling it.

Position in the space – under-serving?

When I first created my ESL podcast, I realized that with Gary Vee’s book Crushing it, I’ll be able create seasons on my podcast and make content that keeps bringing my students back.  There isn’t a soul in the podcast realm who are teaching season by season at the moment.  Also, English learning on podcasts wasn’t famous 5 years ago, or even three years ago.  Asia and South America are being introduced to podcasts today, and because that’s happening, it’s a massive advantage.  Why? Well, would you listen to a podcast that was uploaded yesterday or 5 years ago?  Would you ask someone a question about a podcast 5 years ago, or one that was uploaded one week ago? Grammar, Pronunciation, Speaking Skills, Developing Confidence, Critical Thinking, Freewriting….no one is this dynamic in my field.

2nd Advantage – Better Connection

Connect with a higher percentage.  Reply to tweets, Instagram messages, emails, etc.

Pat Flynn’s Study Guide in the podcast down below.

This is when you can get the upper-hand on your competitors pretty quickly.

 

 

The Disruption of Industries Are Coming (longread) Part I

By Content Writer Jiun Ting Yong

We are living in the 21st century and it is the post-Internet and Information Age. Now we are living in an age of exponential growth where disruptions are the normal thing to happen. It is hard to predict how many disruptions can happen in the next 5 years! We are living in an age of uncertainty due to exponential growth and technological advancement that can bring us so much.  So prepare yourself for the next decade of disruption where your job can be eliminated  by automation and artificial intelligence. An Oxford University research showed that about 47% of jobs will disappear for the next 25 years!

According to my research on the internet where you can easily dig into a handful of information at your own discretion, the next decades will be tough times for mankind as many people will be put out of jobs as long as your job is a high one with operational cost and higher salary cost.  However, all these disruptions are nothing new as if you look back into the history of technology that goes back to the 1st, 2nd and 3rd Industrial Revolutions; disruptions happened, especially in the 3rd Industrial Revolution since the desktop publishing that started the personal computing mania after the 1st Macintosh was put on the market in 1984! It had disrupted the traditional job market that was once dominated by men! Furthermore, since the internet boomed back in the 1990s, it allowed giant firms to outsource firms to the developing world like Apple Inc to China for assembling their iPhones and iPads; as well as IBM outsourced their IT work to India with just the clicks of a mouse!

Since the recession in 2008, Silicon Valley started a technological boom, it allowed startup companies to be very innovative like Airbnb and Uber, which allowed their services to be productised which then led them to start a revolution known as the sharing economy that has been a frenzy till now. This is the beginning of the age of exponential where it disrupted the hotel industry and the traditional taxi drivers by Airbnb and Uber.

Now these disruptions are only the beginning and it happened at a fast pace due to technological innovation  and advancement. Here is a list of industries that are about to face disruption sooner than you might think.

Travel websites such as Expedia and Kayak have eliminated the need for human travel agents to book travel packages.

Tax software such as mobile applications like Wave Business where it allows users to automate their tax filing, can eliminate tens of thousands of jobs for tax accountants.

Newspapers, magazines and books have seen their circulative numbers decline steadily and traditional bookstores already shrank in size, having been replaced by online media or digital publishing companies. Blogs and digital subscriptions like Amazon Prime and Zinio Magazines also allow customers to subscribe with an affordable price. Self – publishing like Wattpads, Google Playbooks and Amazon Kindle allow indie bloggers and writers to publish and sell their materials. In addition to that, computer software and the latest technology like machine learning and AI are writing news stories, especially local news and sporting event results.

Just within the last couple of years, Borders bookstore in America (or barnes and Noble) had gone out of business and shut their doors (not sure if it’s all).  Magazine subscriptions have plummeted significantly; meanwhile, websites like LasVegasSun.com are charging users to a monthly subscription to read news that’s actually given FREE. – Arsenio Buck

Language translation is becoming more and more accurate, with simple software which the same thing it goes for dictation and proof-reading. It has allowed the automation of translators and interpreters by installing software.

Financial professionals such as stock brokers, wealth planners and advisors will lose their business to online trading websites like eTrade and M4 Traders. Also, robo-advisors like Smartly and Robinhood. Robinhood is a free online brokerage service that was eating the market share of traditional human stockbrokers and wealth planners by automating tasks like selling and buying. Many banks are offering customers mobile apps or ATMs to make it more convenient for customers to make payments, bank transfers or deposit checks. Also, the boom of cryptocurrency and blockchain technology has allowed some financial technology to adopt and expand the technology which would disrupt the traditional banking industry because the world populations aren’t still unbanked and relying on a higher cost of money transfer. Moreover, the financial technology companies like Transferwise, which offered cheaper transfer fees, would disrupt the market share of banks.

Payment systems like Samsung Pay, Apple Pay, Payonner and PayPal — physical cash will become obsolete. Other forms of payment like credit and debit cards as well as traveller cheques, although these channels are old school, have started the disruption of traditional payment systems.

I had my content writer write a blog in terms of this because I do believe that very interesting times are lying ahead of us.

Stay tuned for more disruptions in the next blog!

 

Darren Hardy: Daily Rhythms & Registering Them + Relationships

Preston Smiles fits “fun-time” into his clients’ schedules.

What’s fun-time?

It’s simply when an alarm goes off, that particular individual drops everything he or she is doing and they dance their tail off.  I know, odd as hell, but the incorporation of that, or any other behavior, forms a discipline.

Remember I talked to you about Romanic Relationships and how spontaneity would go a long way in any relationship? Look at it this way…

Darren Hardy, at 6pm, has something called “date night” with his wife.  So when the time arrives, the alarms go off on his spouse and his phone, they drop everything, and they commit to being with each other from sundown — all the way to sunup.  This is from Friday night to Sunday morning, too.  Not just one day.

He also used an idea from Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ book, which he asks his wife, “how would you rate the relationship for this past week?” Of course the wife would give him a number, and he would then ask, “how can I get better?”  The wife will then come up with a list of things that will help him become better.

No one is perfect.  Just remember that.  It would be so overwhelming hearing nagging (which it shouldn’t be – but totally can be) all the time.  For example, when I was recently dating a girl, she wouldn’t ask me something like this; nor would I ask her the question.  Instead, on a two-hour trip back from Kanchanaburi to Bangkok, she was complaining her head off because I didn’t ask her if she wanted anything from 7-11, and because I didn’t carry all four pieces of luggage.

This should be a feeling of validation for both parties.

“Every month, Georgia and I also schedule something unique and memorable. Jim Rohn taught me that life is simply a collection of experiences; our goal should be to increase the frequency and the intensity of the good experiences. Once a month we try to do something that creates an experience that has some memorable intensity. It could be driving up to the mountains, going on an adventurous hike, driving up to Los Angeles to try a new fancy restaurant, going sailing in the bay—whatever. Something out of the ordinary that has a heightened experience and creates an indelible memory.”

“Once a quarter we plan a two- to three-day getaway. I like to do a quarterly review of all my goals and life patterns, and this is a great time to do a deeper check-in on how things are going in our relationship. Then we have our special travel vacation, plus our holiday traditions and our New Year’s hike and goal-setting ritual. You can see that once all this is scheduled, you no longer have to think about what you need to be doing. Everything happens naturally. We’ve created a rhythm that gives us momentum.” – Darren Hardy

Weekly Rhythm Registration In Podcast + PDF

Registering Rhythms Example

Happy New Years + Goal-Setting Time + YouTube Video/Podcast

HAPPY NEW YEARS!

Being on top of my balcony and seeing the amount of fireworks I did last night was just resounding.  I felt the love in the air and now I’m onto the biggest year of my life (as I said last year and it exceeded my expectations).

On the other hand, the majority of people this  morning have resolutions, but they don’t have the proper techniques, skills, and things in place to make their “goals” manifest.

For one, resolutions base-word is “resolve,” meaning you’re looking to resolve something in your life.  You can handle that just by dumping the girlfriend/boyfriends, quitting the s***ty job, and learning how to say ‘no’ more often.

So, let me let you in on some techniques + some of the goals I set for myself in the past and what’s happening this 2018.

Habits

What’s a habit? Something that has turned into a daily party of our routine.  We wake up, brush out teeth, take a shower, get ready — that’s all habitual.  It’s on auto-pilot.  However, we’re oblivious to the bad habits that are happening: eating junk food, engaging in heated online debates, watching television, being around the wrong who bitch all the time.  These are also habits.  So what did I do?

2017 Was The Change

I needed to compile a morning routine that would ultimately help me win the day.  You have what Jim Quik said in terms of brushing your teeth with the opposite hand, making your bed, etc.  These are all wonderfully great things, but I’m still not able to win it.  I’ll give you a nice glimpse at my morning.

Normally at 5:30am I wake up (I sleep the night before at about 9:30), and I go straight into a meditation.  If I have a busy morning, which I normally do, I do the meditation “overcoming procrastination,” which is a guided meditation with one of the apps I use (let me know if you want the name in the comment section).  After that, I would take my vitamins and possibly even a pre-workout, depending on if I workout in the morning.  After that, I post on an inspirational message on my instagram, and sometimes even my podcast (which could’ve been pre-recorded).  I then record or pre-record a live podcast.  Now, depending on if I’m working out in the morning or not, for the bulk of this year, I would workout around 8am.

  • Meditation
  • Posts on Instagram
  • Inspirational message on twitter
  • Podcast
  • Blog
  • Workout
  • Work
  • Grateful List

This was the bulk of my year, but things have changed.  So, if I workout (and now I do) at 6:45am, my podcast has to be pre-recorded and blog done the day before.  During the commute, I would post everything on social media and then hit it hard.  After I workout and before I go to work, I would have my protein shake, rice & pork, and respond to emails, messages and other things for 30 minutes before my students arrive.

This is how I ultimately had such an effective morning for a good portion of the year.

Sure, it’s not always going to work, but a behavior compounded over time becomes a habit.  That’s what you will need to succeed.

Night Routine

Same as the morning routine. Now, night routines are extremely difficult at times because once I get home, I want to get on the news.  This is why I’ve been media fasting on and off.  Reading something that doesn’t pertain to me, my goals, and just revolves around the ‘circle of concern’ is disastrous.  However, on the nights everything did work, this is how it went.

During my commute home I turn off all notifications.  I say what I need to say, respond to emails, then that’s it.  When I get home I make sure I set everything up for the next day.  Clothes are packed, bottles for working out, belts, socks — YOU NAME IT!  This is how it happened.  If I can read before I sleep, it would be a success.  Normally, I always do my meditation.  Now, depending on how the day went, there’s a lot of head trash that gets thrown at me throughout the day at work.  Opinions and ignorance of colleagues, management, and just being in a very “slummy” area where people look down on me.  Those tides have changed though.  But when these things happened, I would do the “detox my mind” podcast so I can wake up fresh.

Goal-Setting

Here’s a list of things to add into your morning routine.

  • Make your bed
  • Grateful list
  • Meditation (20 minutes)
  • Exercise (20 minutes)
  • Read (20 minutes)
  • Inspirational podcast or YouTube video (I listen to Gary Vee)
  • News Feed on all social media MUST have inspirational messages on there.  Follow the people that make you feel better.

Now, onto Goal-Setting.

Now, first thing is first…get rid of these phrases: I wish, if only, I don’t, I can’t, but I don’t have….

These are all doomers.  They’re either in the future or completely denying your ability and mindset of obtaining a goal.

When you figure out your vision, life-purpose, desire, objectives and everything for this year, then you can unleash the power.  Thinking about goals gives you a 43% chance of obtaining them.  Writing them down gives you a 56% chance.  Sharing them with a friend bumps it up to a 64% chance.  And then there’s the weekly progress report to a friend – 76%.  This gives you an idea of how it works.

To make sure the goal is imbedded into your subconscious mind, you must meet two criteria: how much (measurable quantity), and by when (specific time).

Example: I want to travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan.  – Wrong

The conditional “I want” is a killer.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan this year. 

  • Better, but there isn’t a specific time frame.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan on April 13th by Astana Airlines and come back April 20th. 

  • Now this is sexy.  I have the time, month, and even specific airline.

The universe loves action!

Go online and start looking for the airlines, hotels and everything that relates to your travel.  This is something that my mother was never able to overcome because she always said, “I don’t have any money. I wish I can go, but my finances aren’t straightened out.”  They never will be! There’s never a right time for anything! When you get that intuitive nudge, act!

This is the power of goal-setting.  Visualize yourself being on the snowboarding fields in Hokkaido, Japan by listening to a blizzard and fire crackling.  Look up how much the tickets are, where to stay, and everything that relates to the trip.  That’s where the magic happens.

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Books & Podcast Schedule for January 2018

January 1st – Goal-Setting 

Now that I have hired a graphic designer, I now get a second opinion about everything I’m doing an how I can run new traffic through my podcast.  There needs to be an easier way to access certain things in terms of self-confidence, habits, savings, etc.  I feel on my podcast right now is just a stream of information jumping from one side to the other.  However, having Lewis Howes book on weekends gives everyone an idea of when something is debuting.

Schedule

I think having a schedule and having an internal preview is vital.  That’s why I tell the majority of my followers to follow me on Instagram and Twitter because they’ll be able to figure out what books they want to follow.  So, here’s the schedule for January.

Monday – Idle (this day I will add in a “ramble of positivity,” or something outside the book.

Tuesday/Wednesday – Darren Hardy’s Compound Effect: A very actionable book that gives you things to put in place.  The Compound Effect, like the Law of Attraction, is a telling of doing the small things will compound over time.  People cannot gain 30 lbs (15kg) overnight; this happens because of a compounded habit over the course of x amount of months/years. I’ll post the link below with the introduction so you guys can follow suit.

Thursday/Friday – Napoleon Hill’s ‘Law of Success’ is soon to finish.  I have the co-operation lesson and a few more to go before it finished in its entirety.  So this should go on for the next month or so.  If you guys are interested in some of those lessons, check out the link below and start from the introduction.

Saturday/Sunday – Lewis Howes ‘Masks of Masculinity’ is probably some of the most important books for both men and women because a lot of people suffer from societal masks. This book debuts every Saturday and Sunday.

 

The Direction of The Podcast

Now, August-October were the most successful months in my podcast’s history.  However, November and December was an absolute nose-dive.  I’m not exactly sure what’s happening, but I’m looking back at some of the content and maybe it’s not – actionable.  Now Darren Hardy is one of my favorite books because it provides everyone with lots to do.  Those were big listeners.  However, I still believe it’s a small select group of listeners who listen to me from around the globe.  For instance, I would know the iPad and Android listeners because one was a student and the other was a friend.  If I check the sources now, both are gone because I stopped either talking and/or teaching both.  Having a podcast per day can’t be overwhelming, and the more content that I put out there, the better.  I absolutely love doing it, and regardless if anyone is listening to me or not, I will continue doing it at all costs.

More Interviews

The more interviews and exposure, the better.  The collaborations are critical with podcasts.  Gary Vee would say try paying influencers to put your podcast on their Instagram, but I do believe there’s a more organic way of doing it.  I started sending messages on Instagram to some people.  Half responded and were happy about doing it, until they disappeared.  One talked about an outrageous fee of 995$, but not sure if that was for her to be on my show or me to be on her show.  She was extremely charismatic, but there are plenty of other people out there who would do it for free.  Again, it’s just a podcast.

Facebook Advertising

I’ve hit rock bottom and hit a lot of empty holes with advertising on Facebook.  I would get maybe a click or two, but that’s in.  No comments or anything….so I’m still trying to figure out the Facebook area.

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Lewis Howes: Athlete Mask – Part II

As I’ve talked about in my previous blog posts and podcasts, we normally shred players who are often out of play due to injury.

One huge storyline came from Derek Rose.  Back in 2011, this man was an absolute menace.  To be honest, he was one of the greatest PG’s I’ve ever seen play the game because is unbelievable explosiveness.  Right before I went to Australia on my working holiday visa, I was in awe by his play.  Later that year, I remember laying on my bed one Saturday morning and seeing him go down in a playoff game.  From that point forward, Derek Rose was never the same because of ACL and MCL injuries.  Since then, and to this day, Americans berate him with insensitive comments – calling him a girl and a b**** because his knees are done.  Most recently, he just went down again and he’s out for an extended period of time.  The speculation is that he’ll never play again, and if he doesn’t, we will always say “what if.”  In America media, they will call him a fragile boy, but in reality, he was a freak of nature who’s knees gave up on him.

Psychologist Martin Phillips-Hing said in Lewis Howes book….

“I would suggest that most men watch soap operas too, except they call it sports. Think about when you most often publicly see men expressing strong emotions such as joy . . . fear . . . disappointment . . . sadness . . . anger. Sports, like novels and soap operas, allow men to identify and live vicariously through their team.

Lewis Howes went on to say that men bonding with other men on common grounds serves as a bedrock in relationships.  For instance, if it wasn’t for sports, my brother and I would’ve never had anything in common – therefore, our relationship would’ve fallen apart a long time ago.  Sports create a space where men are ‘ok’ to express their emotions.  However, crying is not part of that equation.

Often when men retire from the NFL, their lives take a turn for the absolute worse.  Ben Gordon, for example, was a furious SG for the Chicago Bulls about a decade ago.  Now, after a stint of legal charges, he’s now back in the news for literally robbing a manager at his apartment.  This is a man that made over 80 million dollars over his career and now he’s robbing people.  Players, of all colors and backgrounds, don’t have much of a life after sports and they go back to what they were brought up as.

Another “masking” would be when men go to the gym and try lifting as much as their peers, although their peers are +50 lbs on them. Most men don’t have the strength or cardio to compete with others who lift so much more.  What happens? Puts them in harms way.  Overexertion in the muscles and most notably, a man by the name of Rich Piana died.  People would say because of steroids, but there were 15 other ailments, including heart disease, fatty liver and discolored kidneys.  He did all of that because…..what? It begs the question, doesn’t it?

Some guys go to the gym, craving that six-pack because it will make them more attractive.  They want that feel.  They need that feel.  The perceptions and suggestions of other people now rule over them.

“When the team is gone and the playing days are over, however, a weird thing happens to many guys stuck behind the Athlete Mask. The value of selflessness and sacrifice starts to disappear, and all that’s left is competitiveness and the need to win. ”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

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