Busy people are often the most lazy. We have all heard stories of a
businessman who works hard to earn money. He works hard to be a
good provider for his wife and children. He spends long hours at the
office and brings work home on weekends. One day he comes home
to an empty house. His wife has left with the kids. He knew he and
his wife had problems, but rather than work to make the relationship
strong, he stayed busy at work. Dismayed, his performance at work
slips and he loses his job.
Today, I often meet people who are too busy to take care of their
wealth. And there are people too busy to take care of their health. The
cause is the same. They’re busy, and they stay busy as a way of avoiding
something they do not want to face. Nobody has to tell them. Deep
down they know. In fact, if you remind them, they often respond with
anger or irritation.
If they aren’t busy at work or with the kids, they’re often busy watching TV, fishing, playing golf, or shopping. Yet deep down they know they are avoiding something important. That’s the most common form of laziness: laziness by staying busy.
Rich dad forbade the words, “I can’t afford it.” In my real home, that’s all I heard. Instead, rich dad required his children to say, “How can I afford it?” He believed that the words “I can’t afford it” shut down your brain. It didn’t have to think anymore. “How can I afford it?” opened up the brain and forced it to think and search for answers.
But most importantly, he felt the words, “I can’t afford it,” were
a lie. And the human spirit knows it. “The human spirit is very, very powerful,” he would say. “It knows it can do anything.” By having a lazy mind that says, “I can’t afford it,” a war breaks out inside you. Your spirit is angry, and your lazy mind must defend its lie. The spirit is screaming, “Come on. Let’s go to the gym and work out.” And the lazy mind says, “But I’m tired. I worked really hard today.” Or the human spirit says, “I’m sick and tired of being poor. Let’s get out there and get rich.” To which the lazy mind says, “Rich people are greedy. Besides it’s too much bother. It’s not safe. I might lose money. I’m working hard enough as it is. I’ve got too much to do at work anyway. Look at what I have to do tonight. My boss wants it finished by morning.”
“I can’t afford it” also causes sadness, a helplessness that leads
to despondency and often depression. “How can I afford it?” opens
up possibilities, excitement, and dreams. So rich dad was not so concerned about what we wanted to buy as long as we understood that “How can I afford it?” creates a stronger mind and a dynamic spirit.