Life Is Seriously A Game of Inches (Short Blog)

I was on the BTS and suddenly I got a message on a chatting app from someone.  Her first message was, “hey, are you in Costa Rica? Are you looking for a job?”

I replied, “hey! Yeah! I’m not in Costa Rica yet, but would love to make the transition there very soon!”

She went on to give me an email, the email of her school, so I can apply for the job.

What’s more is we went on to chat just a bit until she ended up disappearing.

Well, yesterday morning I got a golden opportunity to teach corporations in Costa Rica.

How is this? Who was this girl? She literally came into my life, gave me and email, then left.  That email transpired into one of the greatest opportunities of my life that will lead into the Central and South Americas?

This is LIFE.  And if you use technology to your advantage, you can enjoy the amazing riches.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/life-is-a-game-of-inches

Cooperate With The Inevitable

It is astonishing how quickly we can accept almost any situation – if we have to – and adjust ourselves to it and forget about it.

There was a story of a woman who had lost her son in a WWII.  Prostrated with grief,  she had fallen apart.  She became bitter, resentful, reflected her work, friends – her entire world was collapsing around her.  She asked her self constantly, “why did you take my boy? This good boy? Why did he have to be killed?” It was so overwhelming to the point that she quit her job and was going to head for isolation and possibly suicide shortly after.

However, one day, the day she was officially resigning, clearing out her desk…she came across a letter that she had forgotten.  A letter from the nephew who had been killed, a letter he had written to her when her mother died just a few years prior.

“Ofcourse, we will all miss her, and especially you.  But I know you’ll carry on.  Your own personal philosophy will make you do that.  I shall never forget the beautiful truths you taught me.  Wherever I am, or how far apart we may be, I shall always remember that you taught me to smile, and to take what comes, like a man.” – The Deceased Son

After she read it, she reread the letter repeatedly and it seemed as if he was sitting right there beside her, speaking to her.

“Why don’t you do what you taught me to do? Carry on, no matter what happens.  Hide your private sorrows under a smile and carry on.

This lady did what we all have to do sooner or later.  Accept inevitability.

Being through so many transgressions, animosity, bigotry, and all other adjectives that are synonymous, I can relate.  We all can relate.  I’ve accepted the fact that I will never see or talk to my brother again for as long as I live.  I’ve accepted the fact that my family doesn’t like me because I’m “different.”  I’ve accepted it all….and now I can move on with my life.

Podcast 1: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12221489

Podcast 2: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12255248

The Realization of Growth

Ahhhh….I stood before a class, the same class I haven’t seen in four years, with the biggest smile on my face.  The energy that was beaming out of me was utter elation.  The smiles on their faces seeing me speaking like a completely transformed being compared to what I was just two years prior.

More than 700 days of not seeing them, how was I able to change my language, the way I speak, and my life in general?  Well, the beginning of 2016 was the difference maker when I picked up a Napoleon Hill book and realized everything about myself was wrong and toxic.  Just this past week, as I’m still learning, I dumped one of the worst habits which revolves around labelling myself as a “black man” while playing the victimization role.  I’ve never felt this great before in my life after waking up the hero and believing in myself.  The negative language and the pity parties are gone.  The people who seemingly cry about everything…..gone.  Everything has changed and I’m utterly grateful for it.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11938921

Life Begins At The End of Your Comfort Zone

Track & Field in high school

Those 200m, 300m, and 400m intervals that made me feel faint, dizzy, legs burning, and wanting to throw up after practice everyday were grueling.  As an athlete, these days, including heels and bleachers, are the days we dread.  The days I used to dread.  However, little did I know it was preparing me for getting out of my comfort zone.  This type of maniacal training after school on weekdays prepared us for the track meets, which we performed at such a high level.  If you look at any of the greatest athletes around the world, their working out regimen would make you hurt while watching it.  Usain Bolt’s regimen was unbelievable and often had him regurgitating practically everyday.  This is called “stepping out of that comfortability zone.”

Moved to Australia

I wish I can get back the lost time I had in Australia.  This was the most discomforting I’ve ever been because I was trying to be someone I wasn’t.  Because I have such a wonderful personality (haha), it was hard for me to acclimate in a society where not many people smile.  Is it because I was living in the CBD of Melbourne? Possibly, a blend of Chinese, Mauritian and French cultures is extremely difficult, which brings a mixture of personalities together that are completely different, but it also revolved around my physical environments.  My work places (dental offices) were tragically terrible (longest story ever) and my living situation was appalling to say the LEAST.  When I hauled over to Sydney for the remainder of the 9 months on my visa, it got probably a tad better, but I have to say I was uncomfortable the entire time.  On the other hand, this prepared me for Thailand.  Wonderful ol’ Thailand whereas if I didn’t live in a foreign country before Thailand, I would’ve given up quickly because of the animosity dished out towards me.  I’m glad Australia prepared me for the madness within these borders.

Thailand boosted my uncomfortability to unspeakable heights. 

If you want to become successful, you’re going to have to put yourself in a very uncomfortable situation.  Am I talking moving to Asia as an African American or moving to South America as a Caucasian? No.  Do the thing you’re afraid to do. Period.

Living here in Thailand is basically living in a ball of hate for me.  The ignorance I receive on a daily basis is jaw dropping and that’s me being honest.  The rewards on the other side, however, is blissful.  It’s freedom.  The story I’ve created being here has inspired the masses around the world.  I’m saying to you today that life doesn’t begin until you test yourself in deep waters.  It’s like jumping into the deep-end, which I did when I was young, and almost drowned.  Yes, my pseudo-cousin said I wouldn’t die, but I got really close to dying; thus why peer pressure was never a problem for me.  When you’re way in over your head, the light will be above you.  You may not notice it, but through all the thick-and-thin, problems, transgressions, and a variety of other things that will come forth….just know that those are questions that will be answered by you.  Only you can go through this.  No one else can.

I’m grateful for everything I’ve experienced in my life because it prepared me for where I am today.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11822230

Questions & Answer: When Did I Start Reading

Ahhhh, questions and answers day.  One of my proud listeners asked me about when I started reading and about how I have so much knowledge in the personal development realm….so let me tell you step-by-step the unfolding of my soul.

First book….Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Magic

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This was one of the very first books I bought in Bangkok.  Being on the outskirts of Thailand, most book stores don’t have anything in English, nor was I buying anything on iBooks.  However, when I finally got my hand on this, these gratitude exercises began helping me with my incredibly negative mindset, especially during one of the most difficult months of my life.  With 30 days of gratitude exercises, this was great…but it didn’t necessarily help me in developing habits.

Jack Canfield – The Key To Living The Law of Attraction

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This book came about 5 months after (April 2015) and made me start writing down a bunch of things in terms of goals.  One of the most notable exercises is the 101 goals list.  Write down the 101 goals you want to achieve before leaving the body and domain.  I wrote down 99 and I’ve achieved 37 already, which is quite remarkable.  Studies have shown that if you write your goals down, it increases the chances of obtaining that specific goal by 40%.  If you’re even more specific with the dates, up the ante even more.  This book was a good starting point for me.

Paul Coelho and Napoleon Hill

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Paulo was read before Napoleon, and it indeed was a good book because it showed the perseverance of man.  The little boy going after his alchemy in the pyramids.  It’s a really good short-read and I would highly recommend it for a lot of non-native English speakers to get you in the game.

On the other hand, Napoleon Hill’s ‘Law of Success’ was the game changer.  This was the one that started changing my paradigms and everything in my mind.  Going through 15 lessons and doing podcasts on them, it has also changed a bunch of my listeners’ lives, too.  This is a “Highly Difficult” read and I wouldn’t recommend it for anyone who can’t speak English fluently.  However, you could always tune into my podcasts on YouTube or iTunes to listen to me go over key points. 😉

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This is the one whereas not only I’ve made podcasts for all episodes, but most notably, Principle Number 5, was the principle that restored my self-esteem and confidence in myself after it had been taken away from society.  Believing in myself again and the number of unbelievable exercises for not just business people, but the “ordinary,” makes it an absolute get.  I will recommend this book for all levels of learners.

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The geographical, social, and a number of other blueprints that have been controlling our mindsets of money seriously made me realize that I changed mine unconsciously 10 years ago.  This book is one of my absolute favorites, and especially for all the women out there – MUST GET! This is such an easy read and it makes you write down a lot of things.

The thing is, I’m not one of those people who read fictional novels because I did buy Paulo’s ‘Adultery’ at the same time I bought the ‘Alchemist’ and with the storyline, it began making me angry and relating to the things in my personal life.  So, I ended up giving it up.  I want reads that are life-changing and enthralling, not things that can dictate my frequency and vibrational levels in a negative way.

With that being said, I also have a podcast about why I chose these books and go into more detail so you can also have a listen if you’d like.  Other notable mentions are Tim Ferris’ 4-hour work week and Tony Robbins.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11762254

African American Victimization & Anger – When Will It Stop?

“Oh, another African American coon! I bet white people love you!” – Podcast Listener

“You’re so ignorant to say that America isn’t the most racist country on the planet.  Comment somewhere else.”

This coming from a man in Georgia and another faceless YouTuber – both whom are African American.

This coming from people who have never traveled to Asia before.

Regardless of racism or not, this shows the severity of the situation amongst African Americans in not accepting others opinions while using hateful rhetoric to somehow demean an opinion.

I recall watching a random video of Jerry Tarknanian’s 1990-91 Runnin Rebels (University of Nevada Las Vegas) of UNLV and at BYU (Brigham Young University), there was a fan in the student section holding up a poster that said, “hey Jerry! Nice coon squad!”

I was called a ‘coon’ today (for the first time) by another African American.

We went from the great Jesse Owens, who had to overcome the most sickening conditions both in America and in Germany (him conquering and getting gold medals in front of the Nazi Regime), to Rosa Parks who just said “no,” to Martin Luther King giving his ‘I Have A Dream Speech’ to Mohammad Ali standing for all our rights…….now we’re killing each other on the streets of L.A. because one wears red and another wears blue.  The harsh reality behind Moonlight and how African American societies revolve around other African Americans hating and beating one another in the likes of Liberty City, Gary, Compton, Flint, Camden, Detroit, Louisville and dozens of other towns/cities in America.

Not only in America, but Africans also burning each other alive in Nigeria, Kenya, bombs going off everywhere, looting, homicides….going back to the Rwanda genocide.

I want to know how can we gain respect from the rest of the world if we don’t respect ourselves?  Hateful rhetoric and foolishness just shows the insecurity of another being, but there’s a blueprint within the mind which has built up sorrow and anger within.  If you look at Lebron James, Kobe Bryant and co…..more African Americans hate them than anyone else!

I can sit here and write forever about the problems in the community of African Americans, but what about the solutions?

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11661252

Q & A: When, Why, & How Did I Start Traveling?

From being an interested boy in the mid-90’s, to meeting my first every Japanese friend on Myspace 10 years later, to traveling to Australia where an idea was born. Here it is!

The Backstory 

I woke up in the morning to see that an earthquake had taken place in Japan – a country which I described as a “red dot in the middle of a white piece of paper.”  Coming from a predominantly Caucasian and African American neighborhood, I was unaware of the way they looked.  I only recall seeing seeing the flag in another occasion such as Street Fighter on Super Nintendo.

I asked my mom, “mom, where is this?”

She replied, “Japan, boy!”

I said, “what dat mean?”

She retorted abruptly, “boy, don’t make me smack you in the mouth.”

And there that goes.

Myspace – 2006

At the conclusion of high school, my mom bought desktop computer for our household and once the internet got hooked up, I immediately got on myspace as any captivated teenager would; and shortly after, I found myself in the Japanese forums trying to meet people in Japan.

That moment back in the 90’s rescinded within me to the point I was so enthused about meeting people there – thousands of miles across the pond. And, so I did.

Satomi Nakagawa.  She was my first ever foreign friend; however, her English was very limited at the time.  Over the course of a year or so, and me being at college in Arizona, we kept in touch (since she was attending university in Miami) leading up to 2008.  After a massive argument with my brother that resulted in the police coming to my house and me making the decision to move out of my mom’s house, I moved into a bachelor’s pad apartment with my best friend.  It all culminated into a text message from Satomi saying she bought a RT ticket from Kyoto-Las Vegas and she ended up coming to Vegas that August.

When this happened, my life changed forever – it wasn’t necessarily the wondrous Satomi, but the idea was born. The idea whereas satomi dropped on her knees a day before leaving and sobbed before saying, “I’m never going to see you again, am I?

I replied, “I’ll come to see you.  I promise.”

And when this happened, I literally made an oath to myself that I would see her again, even if it was the last time.

Early May Morning – 2009

Email to Satomi: “Satomi, you’re in Australia going to school, right? I’m thinking of traveling this summer and would love to come see you, only if I could stay at your duplex with you friend for the two days and not pay hotel. HA!”

I went from being at a moped shop the day before and almost giving up 1500$ for one of them, to going to Australia on July 22nd, 2009.

Life is a game of inches, as Al Pacino once said. Why? If I had bought that shiny blue moped, I would’ve never gone to Australia – resulting in a cubicle job for the next ten years.

Yes, I met a girl named Satomi, and I did fall in love with her.  Well, that’s what I originally thought, but it wasn’t her…..it was the idea of going abroad for the first time and seeing how much of a magnificent world I lived in.

8 countries, lots of experience, and a compelling story later….HERE I AM!

Thank you, Satomi.  Regardless of the fallout, it was the idea in our short-story that got me to where I am today.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10919199