Coaching Session: Episode 008 – Do You Lack Tactfulness?

Lack of tactfulness

  1. Carelessness in the tone of voice often speaking in antagonistic tones that often offend.
  2. Speaking out of turn when silence would be more appropriate.
  3. Interrupting others who are speaking.
  4. Overworking the personal pronoun.
  5. Asking impertinent questions generally to impress others.
  6. Injecting intimately personal subjects into conversation where such actions are embarrassing to others.
  7. Going where one has not been invited.
  8. Boastfulness.
  9. Making personal calls at inconvenient hours.
  10. Holding people on the telephone with needless conversation.
  11. Volunteering opinions when not requested especially on subjects where they’re not familiar.
  12. Openly questions the soundness of opinions of others.
  13. Declining requests from others in an arrogant manner.
  14. Speaking disparagingly of people in front of their friends.
  15. Rebuking people who disagree with one on any subject.
  16. Speaking of people’s physical inflictions in their presence.
  17. Correcting subordinates and associates in the presence of others.
  18. Complaining when requests for favors are refused.
  19. Presuming upon friendship and asking favors.
  20. Using profane or offensive language.
  21. Expressing dislikes too freely.
  22. Speaking of ills and misfortunes.
  23. Criticizing forms of religion.
  24. Over-familiarity of all occasions.

Boy, I heard this in one of the most inspiring chapters in Napoleon Hill’s book recently and I just had to share it with everyone. It’s almost certain that some of you who have read the 24 questions are suffering from at least one. This brings you awareness though.

See what’s happening, send in your questions and let’s follow up in a months time.

The Rant of 2017

If you’re pointing fingers at the past, Donald Trump, Republicans, North Korea, Thai people (lol) or anyone else for that matter to why you’re not successful, you suck.  Well, I don’t want to say you suck, because you technically don’t, but if you post implicit comments targeting groups of minorities or majorities in terms of dropping their defenses….YOU REALLY SUCK.

I’ll give you the cold-hard truth.  We’re one day away from 2018 and with the exception of developing countries, the world has exceedingly evolved into something magnificent.  We’re living in one of the most opportunistic ages in human kind.  The device in your pocket can make you create vlogs, written, and audio forms of content.  If you’re living in an exotic country like Kazakhstan, Morocco, American Samoa, Tuvalu, Brunei, Luxembourg and you’re not documenting your life, you’re missing out.

If you’re reading my blogs from Bulgaria, Romania, France; and listening to my podcasts from Singapore, Japan, Indonesia and other places….why not take what I’m giving and put it into your language? I know audio hasn’t taken over in these countries such as what’s happening right now in America….but it will.  We’re going to be multi-tasking beings.  While brushing our teeth, we’re going to be listening to podcasts to help us with self-improvement and different areas of our life.  Video is slowly declining because no one wants to sit in front of a screen anymore when they can be doing 3 things at once.

What I’m telling you and imploring you to do is to (1), stop bitching.  Stop trying to slander your fellow samaritans.  Yes, I blew up a week ago at a convenient store because I won’t be made a mockery of, and the blowup was super funny because they went from laughing to mad as hell (hahahahaha)….but what I’m trying to say is if you go on Twitter, follow Donald Trump (and you hate him), talk about taxes and things you can’t control….2018 is in repeat form.  Form better habits and stop complaining!

This is the era of opportunity.  If you’re reading this, start making a difference.  Develop habits that suit you in your definite chief-aim and develop the burning desire to go after it with all your might! Not tomorrow….but today is the beginning.

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Ignore The Noise – The Arsenio Buck Show’s Motivational Tuesday

Trump; Kim Jong Un; Nuclear Weapons; Famine; Poverty; Politics; Conservatives vs. Liberals; Global Warming; Bickering – should I name more?

Better yet, what are any of the above topics going to help you with in achieving your goals?

What’s amazing about human beings, especially in America, is instead of doing a visualization exercise or meditation in the morning; they turn on the TV to engage in a pity party/war of words with what’s on there.  They go to work and talk about topics they have no control over. Why do people do this? Is it because we’re used to gossiping about things so much that it has become a daily ritual; formulating within the paradigm of the mind?

These things will always be there.  There will always be billions of people talking about their billions of problems with billions of other people….but your job is to stay away from it.

Stay tuned for my Circle of Concern vs. Circle of Influence blog and enjoy my 8 minute podcast down below!

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Shrugging Off Negativity: Round 1 – Social Media Purge

How often do you find yourself in arguments with fake accounts on social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube? Will those type of engagements help you or hurt you in your run for whatever you’re trying to achieve? Social media is bone-crushing – and engaging in quarrels with people who don’t have faces is going to hurt you more than them.

Just recently I posted a very educated post on Nikkei Asia’s Facebook page and I attracted to me wife/sex tourists here in Thailand trying to defend Thai people and the culture, although I’ve been a victim of extreme racial hatred.  What happens? I could ultimately lose face because just like 3 years ago, they could snapshot a photo of what I said and use it against me or my business in the future.

Also, I got another comment, around the same time, of an acquaintance I met on a plane about 8 years ago saying, “why did you unfollow me on Instagram?”  Both of these messages, which I read very early in the morning, dictated about the next 15 minutes of my morning.  I needed to make a quick decision and say, “ok, media purge time.  Delete the comment, block the people, and lets move forward.”

Rule #1 – Social Media Can Destroy You – If You Engage In Pity Parties

Anytime you’re vying for superior status on ESPN forums, CNN/FoxNews comment sections or anything else, you’re going to attract to you others who are out to ruin your day; let alone your life.  Just know that every comment can dictate the way people view you.  As Tim Ferris said, “stay the hell away from the news.”  Sure, if you want to create a fake account and troll everyone, you can….but what satisfaction are you getting out of calling someone 10k miles a way a bunch of adjectives? Commenting, especially on sports forums and news forums, is useless.

Rule #2 – Notice It Early & Steer Clear

After receiving sensationalistic comments in the morning, I told myself, “ok, I’m done with social media for the day.”  Instagram is much better in terms of real people and surrounding yourself with people who will boost your persona; on the other hand, Facebook is troll city.  Commenting on Twitter, also, is not what you want to do.  I knew because I read those comments early in the morning that I could be in for a lot of trouble…consciously.  So, I immediately made my grateful list and I snapped out of it by listening to Micheal Bernard Beckwith.  If you don’t snap out of the funk, your day is funk.

Rule #3 – Is The News Helping You?

Honestly, what “feel-good” stories are in the news?

Go ahead.

I’m waiting.

Exactly.  The news is all about clicks and it attracts what it puts out.  The world is on FIRE at the moment with opinions, so the best thing to do is again….”circle of influence” vs “circle of concern.”  Talk about only the things you can control and leave the trolls for the trolls.  Go on a media fast.  Stay away from all news and have a partner at work or home where you can rely on him/her for information.  Unless there’s a nuclear bomb coming or a flash flood (Thailand – lol), you don’t need to know a damn thing!

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