ESL Worldwide Conversations Update

I’m so excited to be writing about this today. This has always been a dream of mine — to work for myself. Not only that, but to influence and help people achieve goals around the world under my OWN UMBRELLA.

For years, I had ALWAYS WORKED for someone, and it never got the job done. I was always ridiculed, taken advantage of, disrespected, and told what to do.

Because of my student pitching to me a brilliant idea, and rather than having individual students, I’m now kicking off something so unbelievably magnificent that NO OTHER ENTREPRENEUR is doing! Teaching English conversation, online, and worldwide.

Imagine being in a room with someone from Brazil, Japan, Portugal, Zambia and Iraq. Could you imagine the amount of barriers, cultural codes and social beliefs that would be broken? Not to mention, the wide range of chats and things that we can discuss?

Today marks my first day (introduction) where I’m going to host a soon-to-be teacher from Iran and another student from another country. There’s going to be a conversation, and then a podcast that they’ll be able to share with all of their friends around the world. After that, they’ll be able to purchase teaching hours and book teaching times, indicating that they actually liked the discussion and they want to go through with it.

For anyone who is interested, get in touch with me as soon as possible! Slots are feeling up rather quickly and I don’t want you to miss out on an opportunity such as this one.

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Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 21 – Pronunciation Log – Rhythms

Welcome back to another ESL podcast! It’s time to log your enunciations of the following recordings that I have down below in the podcast. Make sure to keep these and here yourself maybe quarterly and compare yourself. This is a great way to track your progress.

So, you’re going to create and record a voicemail message. If you want, choose all the situations down below.

  • You will be about two hours late to work/school today. Leave a message for your supervisor/friend explaining why.
  • Olga, a new friend from your English class, left you a message inviting you to a dinner party on Friday night. Leave her a message about why you can’t attend.
  • The director of your son’s preschool just left you a message because your son bit another child. The director wants to discuss an appropriate response. Ask the director to call you back and confirm a meeting time.
  1. Practice saying your message. Then record it.
  2. Listen to your recording and review your patterns.
  3. Then write down some phrases and patterns you liked/didn’t like.

Re-record the message, if you wish, and send it to my Instagram so I can grade you.

How to Become a Good Conversationalist: Part III – The Brazilian Model

So, this is an episode on how to increase your conversation capabilities.  Most of you don’t know how to converse, initiate, or to just be someone’s friend.  I’ve become a master at it, and this is how I’m going to show you how you can get better.

Again, this is with no pun intended.  This is simply just showing how far I’ve come in terms of being an excellent listener, as Dale Carnegie would coin the phrase.

So, currently I’m sitting at a place where there are loads of people waiting to collect their passports/visas to head back over the Thai border.  Just a day before, I was standing in a long line, waiting anxiously for the doors to this place called the Thai Consular to open.  Smoke filled the air of burning cigarettes and people, of all nationalities, flooded the grounds of the embassy.

In the specific area where I was standing, there was a girl that was getting a ridiculous amount of attention from men in the area.  Glances, small-talk under their breath, and their eagerness to want to initiate a conversation with her.  A conversation between her and another guy from Israel was first initiated.  He asked her, “where are you from?” She said “Brazil.”

My ESL podcast, which has been doing an amazing job, has a “top chart” list — Brazil being the top 5, consistently, on a monthly basis.  Cities such as Belo Horizonte, Salvador Bahia, and others were memorized without any intention.

NICHE!

Because she’s from Brazil, I can instantly make her talk about these two places.  Remember, being a great conversationalist revolves around you shutting up and hearing the other individual speak.

To kill my boredom, I initiated.

“Excuse me, I have plans on going to Brazil next year.  I overheard that you’re from Sao Paolo and I was wondering where I can go to see beautiful nature?”

Her eyes glistened with intrigue.  She told me a few places (the initiation and making her talk) and then she asked me “how did I know all of these places?”

“Well, I have an ESL podcast and I’ve had it since April.  These two places have always been the top charts, so I was compelled to ask.”

Showing Interest

Because I’m interested in her country, anyone and everyone would love to open up and talk about their native country, right? It’s all about you asking the follow-up questions and digging deeper into one’s culture.

After talking about favorite places, occupations and other things, she asked for my details.  Just before that, she told me and the other guy, who has just come over to sit next to me while we wait for our passports, that she’s a model.

Things That You Shouldn’t Do

I’m living proof that regardless of how someone looks, things can be done and initiated very easily.  Regardless if the friendship never blossoms, it doesn’t matter what anyone looks like.  It’s all about showing general interest, without any sexual intent, towards the other individual and establish the close listening needed to carry a conversation and develop what could be a lifelong companionship.

 

Listen to “How to Become a Good Conversationalist: Part III – The Brazilian Model” on Spreaker.

Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 3: The ‘How To’ Guide – How To Start Conversations

So, a very interesting conversation came up last Sunday morning with a student in my Sunday class and she said, “teacher, how do I speak with foreigners?”

It’s one of the most difficult questions to answer, but in becoming a good conversationalist over the past decade, I know what people want to talk about: themselves!

That’s right.  The first thing someone wants to talk about is their personal life, where they’re from, or their passions.

The situation went like this. One of my students approached a man in line at a coffee shop and she told him where to stand.  After that, she kindly asked him where he was from.  Now, men can have preconceived notions, so the first thing she was afraid of was “what if he thinks I’m hitting on him?” Well, you would tell rather quickly.  If he’s interested, his body language can change.  There are so many different things that can be said and learned in conversing with foreigners, and it calls comes down to the learning experiences.

So, the guy, who she was talking to, said that he came to Thailand with his girlfriend.  My student should’ve immediately said, “oh, nice! Well enjoy your stay!” Just to avoid any friction.  Don’t pursue the conversation because in some cultures, that could be extremely offensive.

My conversation technique? Oh, it’s the best! And it’s ONLY in the podcast.

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As A Mentor/Coach…..This Will Happen

Imagine trying to have a conversation with a boy/girl you took under your wings for 3 years.  The first day you met him/her, you knew she were oozing with great potential.  Since you were heading down this career path from the beginning, you quickly turned him/her into a student/client and spurred her on to the greatest heights of his/her’s life.

Somewhere along the way things change.  The persona of the individual started to set in.  The EGOISM, which you were terrified of the person absorbing somewhere down the line, is now definitive.  The conversations, cold-shoulders and other things start to happen.  Money begins to play a significant factor in the mind of this very young entrepreneur and now he/she is no longer in your circle.  They no longer speak to you and apparently now you’re on the back-burner, getting completely roasted while he/she looks over his/her shoulder and says, “ha, I’m too good for you.”

THIS IS GOING TO HAPPEN.

It’s a difficult process seeing someone, or anyone, of any age, being spurred onto success and forgetting about the specific individual who was there from the beginning.  What’s even worse is if these individuals do come back around, it’s for their own personal success and needs.  There’s never a genuine, “hey! How are things going?”  NEVER.

Now, you can go so far to say it’s a generational thing, but regardless of the other person’s actions, you still should be so grateful for that individual.

This is what coaching is.  Sometimes it could be a grind, but I’m so grateful seeing students, of all walks of life, go onto bigger ambitions.

 

How To Become A Good Conversationalist: Part II – Conversation Gambits

Things being discussed:

  • How to become a conversationalist? What is a gambit?
  • How to strike up a conversation?
  • Different ways of identifying a gambit.
  • You need to be profound.
  • Looking for ways to strike an initiative.
  • You need to be observant of people’s actions.
  • Living in a different country is a way to become a conversationalist.
  • Don’t lie and exploit the gambit.
  • Some gambits can’t be a topic of conversation.
  • What are bad gambits?
  • Don’t talk about personal life.
  • There are a lot of situations and interesting gambits for you to dig into.
  • Cut the conversation if people don’t feel comfortable.
  • Be an excellent listener.

 

Thank you for listening!

 

Thank you so much for joining me for this podcast. Please do write down some feedbacks and comments. Please do share this podcast to your social media.

 

Links:

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/how-to-become-a-good-conversationalist-p

Napoleon Hill: Lesson Eight – The Habit of Doing More Than Paid For

A man is most efficient and will more quickly and easily succeed when engaged in work that he loves, or work that he performs in behalf of some person whom he loves.

Here’s the introduction to one of the most important, life-long lessons that so many of you probably lack in life.  Here’s one of the best stories of my life.

In late 2015, I was approached by my boss at my respective job.  She had already set up some conversation/presentation workshops, which I ran accordingly.  Because it was a massive success, students began to ask about developing a conversation course.

A lot of teachers, especially those historical British teachers, don’t believe in conversation as a tool of success; nor do they approve it as a course.  I had to constantly battle and take a lot of slack from people saying, “this isn’t an academic course,” but confidence is the ultimate success tool for communication, right?

After shrugging off a lot of meaningless comments and naysayers, my boss gave me the green light to create a course using some books and materials.  So, I did.

Step Number 1: You Will Take Losses In The Beginning, But The Returns Are Unbelievable

Because the conversation course had a 2$ less payout, 95% of the teachers refused it at the beginning.  I was adamant and infuriated because  some teachers, who would’ve done a good job teaching conversation, didn’t want to teach it because they didn’t get the full amount in the beginning.

I laughed about this because I had already read about “doing more than what you’re paid for,” and I knew it would come back and bite them.  Went work got scarce, they came crawling back trying to accept any class that was thrown at them and I said NO. You denied it in the beginning; however, now that work is slow, you want to cover your ass? Ugh, not today.

I, being the lead person of this course, had to formulate a group of teachers, a couple of which failed to deliver the expectations because of their lackadaisical teaching.  You don’t necessarily have to have the gift of the gab, but you have to love teaching.  A lot of teachers in Thailand don’t give a damn about teaching.

After weeding out the foolishness and the incompetence, I created a course, through persistence and little pay, that generated millions of baht over the course of the year.  I made shy, timid students – absolute stars in this respective area.

Get this, creating a course that has generated millions….I only received 0.00005% of that.  However, now I have a podcast, which was created at the same time, that’s listened to over 70 countries.  I did far more than what I was paid to do, but the law of increasing returns returned in the grandest of fashions.  This is how life works.

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Chief Factors Which Enter Into The Development of An Attractive Personality

First: Form the habit of interesting yourself in other people; and make it your business to find their good qualities and speak of them in terms of praise.

Second: Develop the ability to speak with force and conviction, both in your ordinary conversational tones and before public gatherings, where you must use more volume.

Third: Clothes yourself in a style that is becoming to your physical build and the work in which you are engaged.

Fourth: Develop a positive character, through the aid of the formula outlined in this lesson.

Fifth: Learn how to shake hands so that you express warmth of feeling and enthusiasm through this form of greeting.

Sixth: Attract the people to you by first :attracting yourself” to them.

Seventh: Remember that your only limitation, within reason, is the one which YOU set up in YOUR OWN mind.

  • If you will cultivate those finer thoughts, and feelings, and actions, out of which a positive character is built, and then learn to express yourself with force and conviction, you will have developed an attractive personality.
  • There is a great power of attraction back of the person who has a positive character, and this power expresses itself through unseen as well as visible sources.
  • Every “shady” transaction in which you engage, every negative thought that you think, and every destructive act in which you indulge, destroys just so much of that “subtle something” within you that is known as character.

For example, I do my banking here in Thailand with KTB, not because it’s the closest, but because the tellers, cashiers, and even people working the door are unbelievably charismatic.

I always eat pizza at a restaurant called wine connection, not only because the pizza is delicious, but because the waiters and waitresses are amazing with service.

The people who I engage with throughout my daily life I’m attracted to because their personalities, character, and charisma is rare.

An Easy Way To Become A Good Conversationalist

Have you ever sat down with somebody and allowed them to talk for hours and hours? Ok, maybe not hours, but up to an hour at best.  They would probably label you as an active listener.  They would probably say that you’re one of the best conversationalists they have ever come across.  But did you speak?

Maybe a bit.  Maybe not at all.

However, listening with intent and genuine interest wins people.

A story one of my Australian sidekicks gave me resonated with me and probably with everyone else whom I will tell.  At the time, back in the early 1990’s, she was applying for jobs in Tokyo, Japan.  Without a degree, it’s virtually impossible to land a job….and heading into a particular interview, she knew she would have to win the potential employer before he asked her about her credentials.

In saying that, when the day came, she sat down in his office and realized that he had pictures on the wall, which all pertained to one another.  Visualize these pictures at motels.  She immediately got an idea and said, “so, you want to own your own motel?”  He retorted, “absolutely.  How did you know?” For the next hour, this man talked about himself and only himself….because people are more interested in themselves when another listener is around.  Because of her solid follow-up question technique, he hired her on the spot without even asking about the obvious – the credentials.

Some of my executive auditing students recently asked me intriguing and compelling questions that had me talking about myself and my life; and at that time in the morning, I went from feeling sleepy, to fully alert.  Granted….these particular students are at a low-level in terms of spoken English, but how are they able to ask such in-depth follow-up questions about topics?  That’s my goal as a life teacher.  Get yourself thinking about other individuals and have that genuine interest in their life.

So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other people will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12398939

 

Free writing & Free Speaking Topics: Part II (For ESL Students) *Downloadable PDF*

Freewriting & Freespeaking – Part II

The downloadable link above is another array of miscellaneous topics to get your mind flowing with things you’ve probably never thought of.

I’ve written on the last blog that this is especially crucial for countries which don’t ask these type of questions.  Lots of students around the world have problems with conversing and even writing because no one in their lives have ever asked them questions such as the ones on the PDF.

Well, now that I know how to put documents onto my wordpress blogs, it’s time to start getting better in your writing and speaking – even if it’s not in preparation for systematic tests.