How To Spur People On To Success

There was a man by the name of JoJo, who was my next door neighbour years ago back in Las Vegas.  He was an interesting guy to say the least, but before he set off to church one Sunday morning, he stood in my living room giving me and my mother a lecture.  It went something like this.

“Look what’s happening around America.  The African American community, which is our community, is the worst community of all America because instead of being happy about one’s success, they find ways to tear their own people down to join misery again.  However, if you look at Mexicans, they encourage the hell out of each other because they want to see their own people succeed.” – JoJo

Now that I think about it – my brother, who’s always been the antagonist, is one of those people who would LOVE to see me fail.

This doesn’t revolve around just the African American community, but African communities are completely ravaged with extreme hate that leads, and have lead, to genocides.  This really makes me sit down and scratch my head, because countries like Maldives are unbelievably fascinating to me – given the fact that the government is so “pro” people and everyone gets along.  There’s no violence on the streets or even muggings…..but why?

While I was in Vietnam, two people would collide while riding mopeds, get up, put each others’ arms on one another and ask if they’re ok before going on about their day.

But this is probably just the way they’re programmed.

Let’s get back to success, where LeBron James, who’s a prolific basketball player, is hated immensely in the African American community.

How can we begin to program ourselves and wish someone success, regardless or religion, creed, or color?

“Pete Barlow was an old friend of mine. He had a dog-and-pony act and spent his life traveling with circuses and vaudeville shows. I loved to watch Pete train new dogs for his act. I noticed that the moment a dog showed the slightest improvement, Pete patted and praised him and gave him meat and made a great to-do about it.
That’s nothing new. Animal trainers have been using that same technique for centuries.
Why, I wonder, don’t we use the same common sense when trying to change people that we use when trying to change dogs? Why don’t we use meat instead of a whip? Why don’t we use praise instead of condemnation? Let us praise even the slightest improvement. That inspires the other person to keep on improving.” – Dale Carnegie

Praise!

Yes, that simple little compliment can change one’s life! I’ve seen teachers steer students away from suicide by telling them that they “are” enough.

One afternoon class had finished at the Dental Faculty Practice at the College of Southern Nevada.  My teacher, by the name of Mrs. Mulcahy, pulled me aside and said, “Arsenio, can I talk to you?”  I stood over the table where she was standing, just in front of the projector and she told me, “Arsenio, you can’t teach personality.  What you have right now is a gift and it’s going to take you a long way.”  Because of the praise by professor Mulcahy, I went on to be one of the finest dental assisting temps in all of Sydney, Australia.  That personality has flourished into something so magnificent and so wonderful that people in almost 100 different countries tune into my show.  That praise I never got from any of my direct or indirect family, or friends.

“Praise is like sunlight to the warm human spirit; we cannot flower and grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellow the warm sunshine of praise.” – Psychologist Jess Lair

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I’m Not BLACK & You’re Not WHITE.

Let that phrase sink in it bit.  We have been conditioned and categorized our entire lives like a damn canned food item at our local food market.  Labels – such as disabled, black, white, muslim, buddhist, liberal, conservative….all of which has divided this world completely over the last…150 years? Maybe?

Let’s say you came out the womb today, what would you be? What name would you have? Everything has been given to us from our baby years, to our adult years.

In Thailand, I’m just a “black man.” Therefore, the stereotypes that come with “black men” are: pimp, drug-dealer, thief, convict, hooligan, among so many other names.  However, if I was white, I would be deemed as a holy being that is rich and lovely.

I love what Muhammad Ali said during an interview four decades ago back in England.

“Momma, how come Jesus is white? Blonde hair and blue eyes? Angels are white? How come everyone in the last supper is white?”

“Momma, when we die, we will go to heaven, right?”

Mother answers, “naturally we will.”

Muhammad Ali, “well are there any black angels up there?”

“Oh, I know.  The white angels are up in heaven, too.  So, the black angels are in the kitchen preparing the milk and honey.”

-Tarzan was the king of the jungle in Africa – he was white.

-Miss America was always white.

-The angel fruitcake was the white cake and the devil fruitcake was the chocolate cake.

-The president lives in the white house.

-Snow White was white.

On The Other Hand

-The ugly duckling was a black duck.

-The black cat was bad luck.

-If I’m going to threaten you I’m going to blackmail you.

At the end of the conversation, he told his story about winning an olympic gold medal and went back home standing tall – hoping to get something to eat in a restaurant in Louisville, Kentucky where things weren’t integrated back then.  He sat down, ordered….and the woman said, “we don’t serve negroes.”

He replied, “well I don’t eat them either! Go back there and fix me my food!”

*Laughter*

He was thrown out…but the point I’m trying to make is this has been imbedded in our subconscious minds since the picture was invented.  How come every love story revolves around a white character?  Honestly, sit down and think about it.  The Jetsons, the Flintstones, the Rugrats, Doug Funny, Salute Your Shorts, Are You Afraid of The Dark, Nickelodeon was an extremely white network.  However, the only somewhat “black” cartoon I saw while I was young was Bebe’s Kids.  A bunch of bad a$$ African Americans.

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I wish I was making this up, but unfortunately….it’s true.

This labelling has to be abolished in humanity wants to move forward.  Is it going to be overnight – NO! It’s going to take an individual sticking up for other individuals.  If you see someone being mistreated anywhere for their gender, creed, color, it’s up to you to butt in and do what’s right.  When these things start to happen, the influences that are left behind on passerbys will stick with them forever.

One person at a time.

Do the right thing.

Initiative & Leadership Creed

Copy the following formula and place it conspicuously in your room where you will see it as you retire at night and as you arise in the morning.

First: You must master the habit of procrastination and eliminate it from your make=up.  This habit of putting off until tomorrow that which you should have done last week or last year or a score of years ago is gnawing at the very vitals of your being, and you can accomplish nothing until you throw it off.

The method through which you eliminate procrastination is based upon a well known and scientifically tested principle of psychology which has been referred to in the two preceding lessons of this course as Auto-Suggestion.

Having chosen a definite chief aim as my life-work I now understand it to be my duty to transform this purpose into reality.

Therefore, I will form the habit of taking some definite action each day that will carry me one step nearer the attainment of my definite chief aim.

I know that procrastination is a deadly enemy of all who would become leaders in any undertaking, and I will eliminate this habit from my make-up by:

a. Doing some one definite thing each day, that ought to be done, without anyone telling me to do it.

b. Looking around until I find at least one thing that I can do each day, that i have not been in the habit of doing, and that will be of value to others, without expectation of pay.

c. Telling at least one other person, each day, of the value of practicing this habit of doing something that ought to be done without being told to do it.

I can see that the muscles of the body become strong in proportion to the extent to which they are used, therefore I understand that the habit of initiative also becomes fixed in proportion to the extent that it is practiced.

I realized that the place to begin developing the habit of initiative is in the small, common-place things connected with my daily work, therefore I will go at my work each day as if I were doing it solely for the purpose of developing this necessary habit of initiative.

I understand that by practicing this habit of taking the initiative in connection with my daily work I will be not only developing that habit, but i will also be attraction the attention of those who will place greater value on my services as a result of this practice.

Signed………………………………………………………..

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11902735

 

Napoleon Hill – Wife’s Creed

In relation to my Napoleon Hill podcast (below the creed), this is what the woman, who’s remarks carried her husband’s ambitions for becoming one of the most successful dentists in the state of Virginia, wrote down and made a copy of over her man’s desk.

” I believe in myself.  I believe in those who work with me.  I believe in my employer.  I believe in my friends.  I believe in my family.  I believe that God will lend me everything I need with which to succeed if I do my best to earn it through faithful and honest service.  I believe in prayer and I will never close my eyes in sleep without praying for divine guidance to the end that I will be patient with other people and tolerant with those who do not believe as I do.  I believe that success is the result of intelligent effort and does not depend upon luck or sharp practices or double-crossing friends, fellow men, or my employer.  I believe I will get out of life exactly what I put into it, therefore, I will be careful to conduct myself toward others as i would want them to act toward me.  I will not slander those whom I do not like.  I will not slight my work no matter what I may see others doing.  I will render the best service of which I am capable because i have pledged myself to succeed in life and I know that success is always the result of conscientious and efficient effort.  Finally, I will forgive those who offend me because I realize that I shall sometimes offend others and I will need their forgiveness.

Signed ……………………………………………………………………

Copy this creed.  Format the creed.  This is the basis and a lot of this surely pertains to you and what happens in your life daily.  Once you start abiding by a creed, that negative self-talk will subside and with these positive, self affirming sentences, you will enable the principle of auto-suggestion and start attracting to you what this creed states.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11691338

Stephen Covey – Begin With The End In Mind: Personal Mission Statement

People, we need to come up with a personal mission statement, as what Stephen Covey has posted in his book that’s based around a philosophy or creed in which you will abide by.

Stephen Covey – Because each individual is unique, a personal mission statement will reflect that uniqueness, both in content and form.

Here’s an example of one….

  • Succeed at home first.
  • Seek and merit divine help.
  • Never compromise with honesty.
  • Remember the people involved.
  • Hear both sides before judging.
  • Obtain counsel of others.
  • Defend those who are absent.
  • Be sincere yet decisive.
  • Develop one new proficiency a year.
  • Plan tomorrow’s work today.
  • Hustle while you wait.
  • Maintain a positive attitude.

This is like what I’ve seen in Napoleon Hill’s book in terms of signing each law at the end of his chapter, saying you will abide by the rules that you would have read.

So, what’s your creed? If you want to understand this blog more, I suggest listening to my podcast down below.

 

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10279775