Stephen Covey: The 7 Low-Trust Organizational Taxes – Politics & Disengagement

In an organization, “politics” is defined as the use of tactics and strategy to gain power. Office politics divide a culture against itself by creating conflict with what author Lawrence MacGregor Serven calls the “enemy within” instead of the enemy without.

Office politics generate behaviors such as withholding information, infighting, trying to “read the tea leaves,” operating with hidden agendas, behaviors result in all kinds of wasted time, talent, energy, and money. In addition, they poison company cultures, derail strategies, and sabotage initiatives, relationships, and careers. The indirect costs related to office politics are estimated at 100 billion per year; some observers put them substantially higher.

Stephen Covey

Remember the story I had told you guys about a colleague by the name of Hubert? Yeah, met him for the first time, worked alongside him, and then I was bit by him, the venomous snake. Why would I call him a snake? Simply because he was the one who stopped taking a taxi with me to a company (lightyears away) so he can cut costs for himself. This was infuriating beyond belief, and I told my boss about his insidious agenda and to never allow him to come inside “this” language center. Of course, I was ignored, he came in and wreaked havoc for several months, creating division and gossip around the office. He finally had quit after trying to get me fired because I had podcasts that called out teachers that “fit the profile,” but this type of malice should’ve never stepped foot inside. Give a man one foot, he’ll soon push the door open and let himself in.

Disengagement

Disengagement is what happens when people continue to work at a company, but have effectively quit (commonly referred to as “quit and stay”). They put in what effort they must to get their paycheck and not get fired, but they’re not giving their talent, creativity, energy, or passion. Their bodies are there, but not their hearts or their minds. There are many reasons for disengagement, but one of the biggest reasons is that people simply don’t feel trusted.

Following the end of my teaching career at a particular place that I had been working at for 3.5 years, I lost my energy, passion, and everything for the job. I would say things to my students that would get me in trouble in the long term. I would shrug my shoulders and not do the mundane tasks. It’s almost as if I put a bullseye on my back everyday and wanted them to take me out, and they did. I had been disengaged from teaching at that place for months (since the dawn of the New Years) and I shouldn’t have stayed past 2016 (always leave when you’re at the peak — which sounds crazy). However, I did….and when one of our best salespeople left, along with a forcible firing of a great head teacher, cancer began spreading rapidly throughout the office and forced the best teachers out….to the most amazing journeys of life.

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Last Trip of The Year: Vientiane, Laos — AGAIN! End of The Month!

Ok, so that’s Malaysia twice, Singapore twice, Laos twice, and Hong Kong.

DAMN!

Now, I won’t go so far to say that I’ve traveled to these places for all the reasons, but out of the exception of my Malaysian trips (awesome holiday and Spartan Race), these have been for visa runs.

However, this one coming up right now will be for a better visa run, requiring me to stay for two nights and finally make a mash-up of YouTube videos to show you what the capital of this gorgeous country looks like.  Soooooooo…elated about that.

Let us just take a moment right now and appreciate the madness I’ve been through this year.  The jobs, which were a bunch of dead end promises, have made me go outside these borders seven times this year — a record.  Now, I’m unbelievably grateful for traveling to these wonderful countries, but they weren’t legitimate holidays which are absolutely looming large in the New Year.

Nonetheless, from the scattered forests of Seminyih, Malaysia, a place I could’ve potentially died because there was zero transportation; to stepping outside singapore for the first time and seeing just a snippet of what I saw (compared to my last trip there); and also going to Hong Kong — a very questionable trip (this was the trip I’ve scratched my head about a lot….ha!).  What a magnificent and fulfilling year I’ve had, and I’m going to top it off by finally enjoying a place I can eat my wonderful banana pancakes at.

Traveling Goals for the New Years?

Yikes, after being challenged by my best friend (COME ON! DO A BEAST WITH ME AT TRI STATE!) to do a Spartan race in New York, to a toss up between Japan/Egypt (I really need a change of scenery and need to get out of Asian culture).  When I finally do these trips, they’ll be legitimate because I will no longer have to leave the country and come back on a short notice, just to get a refreshed 30-day visa (complications of requirements in this country is ______________<—-fill in the blank).  I won’t jinx anything yet, but with what’s happening in my personal development career and ESL life, we’ve got historical trips looming large!

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New Book Series! Gary Vee’s ‘Crushing It’ + Chapter 1: The Path Is Yours

First time I saw Gary Vee was in a Tony Robbins video.  Like a lot of other people; you either love him or hate him (well, hate it too strong of a word – so maybe dislike).  The next time I saw one of his videos was when his opening intro went something like, “the man holding the camera said it was a rough day…..I don’t give a _________.”

From then on…I was sold.  The marketing strategies, expertise in terms of social media, and how to build a brand catapulted me to great heights.  When my podcast got quiet, I realized that patience and constant content creating would overcome the woes.

The Path Is Yours

While I was downloading a sample of this book, I was listening to a very-angry-45-year-old-male on a news channel rant at Gary about “why” social media has destroyed the world.  I laughed.  The comments in support of Gary were wonderful: “this guy is completely lost and out of touch with reality.”  Yes, the Gen B’s and even what I’m dealing with at my current place of work, are lacking adaptability.  For example, English conversation, which is something most non-native English speaking countries don’t give, is lacking in Thailand.  I developed a curriculum that would amass millions upon millions of baht.  However, there was a change in administration, and here came a out-of-touch-with-the-world Brit who criticized the curriculum, stating that it’s not “academic.”  Oh, right…the academics that universities are spewing out to B.A. business students who are ineffective in the world of business – but they have made more money in six months listening to Gary Vee compared to the 4 years in school and 6 years after.  Hmmmm…

So then with two shops closing and a huge decrease in work, I’m smiling, knowing the emergence of the Chinese market will land me a job that will never go away while this business will be “out-of-business.”

News outlets, and the people not willing to acclimate around the world, know that if you don’t….the world will continue moving on – whether you like it or not.  Social media and the wondrous internet is here to stay.  If these Gen B babies knew what was to come in the next ten years, they would put tin foil on their desks and jars of urine would be scattered all around them (Hassan joke).

Building a personal brand is an important aspect….and more importantly, if you’re going to become an influencer (or what to), this is imperative.  Gary Vee has some insane stats in his book….

  • YouTube’s daily viewership is closing in on TV’s 1.25 billion hours per day, as television viewership falls every year.

  • One in every five minutes spent on mobile is spent on Facebook’s apps and services.

  • Every minute, 65,900 videos and photos are posted on Instagram.

  • Over 3 billion snaps are created each day on Snapchat, where over 60 percent of ads are watched with the audio on.

If you look at the likes of Logan Paul and Lilly Singh, they’re on the top of the grossing list, making tons by of course monetization.  Look at Instagram.  Look how many women are on there posing half-naked.  Take a good count and just imagine how much they’re making by wearing or branding other people’s companies?

Although YouTube is a crazy market to break into, look how many views the channel by the name of “Top 5’s” is getting.  He’s literally creating videos about top 5 everything around the world, and regardless of the dislikes that pour in, he’s making loads of money.  I’m kind of kicking myself in the ass because back in 2012, I created a blog about my travels to Thailand (here), Japan, and Hawaii.  Unfortunately I stopped….little did I know that could’ve expanded into a massive money-maker.  Know that the opportunity is everywhere around you.

I’m an entrepreneur who built a $150 million media company in part because of my personal brand, which I developed by first creating valuable content that grew my influence.  That’s one way to crush it.  By all means, though, go ahead and make money over time by running ads, for example by selling ad space to a candy bar company.  As your star rises, you could get paid $10k for placing a candy bar on your table while you work.  But for God’s sake, don’t stop there.  That’s where you start.  Don’t leave money on the table because you don’t realize how much bigger you can get.  How big? The internet is an entrepreneur’s oyster, and you can use its pearly platforms to build a personal brand so powerful that the world is not only willing to pay you for your products or services or to promote other people’s products and services, but also it might even be willing to pay you to just be you.  To me, that is when you’ve become a true influencer.  At its heigh, influencer marketing is reality TV 2.0. I want you to think of yourself as tomorrow’s newest star.

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Lewis Howes: The Athlete Mask Ending + What Can You Do Now?

Remember my Dale Carnegie podcast on “not winning an argument?” Here’s the link…..Dale Carnegie’s ‘You Can’t Win An Argument’.

“You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. Then what? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

My brother, who I’ve talked about so many times, always felt the need to win.  He would have this overbearing voice while yelling at the top of his voice to shoot a point across.  I would sit back, relaxed, and just retort before he does it again. He was one of the people who thought winning arguments were critical and it made him feel more superior, especially over his younger brother.

Steve Weatherford’s Story In The Podcast

“As athletes we’re obsessed with how we look, with how we perform, and with winning. We’re consumed by competition as the measuring stick for our manhood. But our self-worth has nothing to do with those things. It has to do with our values and principles.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

So, what’s available when you drop this mask?

  • Creativity
    Culture
    New experiences
    Connections with other humans
    Self-worth
    A healthy relationship with your image
    Balance
    Time to do other things you enjoy

Men, what have you been avoiding to focus on your physical appearance? I’m asking this because most body builders are very ego-maniacal, self-centered and anti-social.  These are the factors you can work on to rip this athlete mask off.

1.Health: mental, physical, emotional
2.Relationships: intimate, family, friends
3.Wealth: finances, career, education, business
4.Contribution: making an impact in the world and other people’s lives, being of service
5.Spiritual: connecting to a higher power or your spiritual beliefs.

Rate yourself in each area.  What would you look like in each area? Write these down in a notebook of some sort.

Also, what are your values and principles that you can lean on so that you can figure out how to contribute to the world, and to your own happiness, in each of these areas?”

More In My Podcast Down Below!

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/lewis-howes-the-athlete-mask-what-to-do-

 

Jack Canfield – Release The Brakes

Have you ever been driving your car and suddenly realized you left the emergency brake on?  Did you push down harder on the gas to overcome the drag of the brake? No, of course not.  You simply released the brake, and with no extra effort, you started to go faster.

A lot of people go through life with a psychological emergency brake on.  They hold negative images of themselves and suffer from all the effects and powerful experiences.  Everyone, especially Asians, have a tendency of living in their own comfort zone.  Their social groups because their culture restricts them to speaking to people outside their nationality.

In addition to individuals, we have a lot of inaccurate beliefs about reality or harbour guilt and self doubt.

I want you to think of it this way, your comfort zone is a prison you live in.  A confined area that you just can’t break free from…..they included the collection of can’t, musts, must nots, and other unfounded beliefs.

I like the story Jack Canfield talked about that pertained to a baby elephant.  This baby elephant is tied down to a wooden post.  The elephant’s area is determined by the length of the rope….the elephant’s comfort zone.  So, years later, when the elephant turns into a massive 5-ton beast, it doesn’t even try to cut loose from the rope because it was conditioned as a baby not to.

Perhaps this also describes you.  You’re trapped, or you feel you are.  You harbour all the limiting beliefs about yourself and images that you took in while you were young.  If this describes you, the good news is that you can change your comfort zone.  How? There are four different ways:

  1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
  2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
  3. You can use the revolutionary technique called Tapping Therapy.
  4. You can simply change your behavior.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/8560762

Bali, Indonesia + Tough Mudder + Singapore Airlines = Trip of a Lifetime!

I was on a treadmill with one of my colleagues thinking about the Bali bombings and trying to conjure up an excuse NOT TO GO to Bali.  Given the events that took place a decade and a half ago –  a person, such as myself, would be terrified of heading to a resort island because of extremist groups.

“What? Are you seriously afraid of something that hasn’t happened in 15 years? Are you just making excuses? Stop it.  You sound ridiculous. Just go!” he said.

The next couple of weeks of pondering lead to me finally booking a ticket of course on Singapore Airlines (the fear of flying disintegrates when you fly with 5 star airlines).

I’m going to Bali!

The Lead Up

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Booking a hotel at the famous Baiyoke Sky in Bangkok was essential in terms of traveling to the airport  in the morning.  Is the area around the hotel legitimate? Not necessarily.  A bit dodgy once you step downstairs to be honest, but it was quiet and good enough for traveling instead of hauling from the outer suburbs while trying to beat the traffic.  Not worth it.

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Bangkok Airport, which is still technically new to the area, has it’s own nice perks.  Over the last four years, massive renovations have taken place to whereas you can charge your phone at stand-alone-kiosks! Yeah, Americans….I know.  Delta Airlines provides passengers at Sky Harbour International Airport in Arizona this for free, but Thailand is a completely different place.  When I saw some of the flight attendants and airport personnel setting up shop for the flight from Bangkok to Singapore, I bursted into excitement before the gorgeous Singapore Airlines A320 (smaller version) came roaring into the gate.  Ahhhh…alas! Here’s the beginning of my crazed trip!

Changi International Airport – Singapore

I was extremely critical of Changi the last time around because at the wee hours of the morning, there isn’t anything open.  Given the fact that skytrax and other award giving websites deemed this to be the #1 airline in the world, I expect there to be currency exchange counters open and at least trains running through the terminals. NOPE!

However, during the day…it’s wonderful.  I still believe that the signage is just too much at times.  Too overwhelming and very hard to figure out what to do.  For those traveling to Changi, be sure to figure out exactly what you’re going to do upon arrival or you’ll just be running in circles.

Bali, Indonesia

Gorgeously amazing flight attendants with caramel skin (Balinese I’m guessing) doing a last run of assisting passengers before the descent.  Unfortunately, it was nearing 9pm at night, which takes away the gorgeous daytime view of the island, Mt. bromo, and a few other places. I recall seeing some lights in the distance outside my window, but the terrifying part about it was the glare coming from the ocean. We were literally 100m from the water with no airport in sight.  FINALLY (which seemed like forever) the landing came and I took a huge breather.  Wow, as an African American, being from the neighborhood I’m from…..I’ve arrived to Indonesia, which is my first time arrival and 11th country. CHECK!

From immigration officers telling Chinese people to go away, from them not even checking my bags or suspecting anything suspicious of me.  Thank you, Bali.  First time here and there isn’t any racial profile going on.  Once I walk outside the terminal, my hotel (Sintesa Jimbaran) and private driver greeted me.  He took my luggage, went to the car, and then spoke about Bali in FLUENT ENGLISH about the language on the island, people, religion, and just about everything else.  The most important part of the trip…..why? I felt there was a connection.  He was talking from the soul, unlike most Thai taxi drivers who sound overly friendly and make the wrong left turn to make more money on the meter.  This gentleman spoke with genuinty and such truthfulness that’s even indescribable.  When this happened, I then knew that these were going to be some amazing people.

Sintesa Jimbaran Hotel

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This hotel was the definition of sheer beauty.  I arrived and was greeted by smiles; men who were wearing these large, gown like robes and accommodating everything about me.  They already knew who I was and greeted me by name, too.  After getting to the hotel around 10:00pm, the concierge opened my door and I walked into an ice cold room (just the way I like it) and saw just how massive it was.  Spa in the tub? Rain shower? Enormous bed and jazz music playing?

I sat down.  I cried.  “Arsenio, I’m so proud of you.  What you’ve done these last several years overcoming immense obstacles in Thailand – look where you are now.  Look around! If you would’ve asked yourself back in the summer of 2012, hearing your family complain about not having 10$…..do you think you would be here four years later.”  I held my hands up to my face and let out a “YESSSSSSS! I’m so happy and grateful for everything I’ve achieved!”

Is this happiness?

The Morning After – and I’m not talking about remorse, either.

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Sunrise, greenery, cloud formations, wonderful breakfast, 5 star concierge greeting me and talking to me as if I’m part of their family, running beachside, impeccable breakfast.  Should I say more?  I recall staring with a large grin at my face at the water coming onto the beach.  The sounds of the waves crashing.  Surfers from Spain laughing while trying to catch some low-tide waves, wife sitting in awe with her chin to the sky – breathing deeply.

My goodness.

This is what happiness is.

Night Safari

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Since living in Thailand and reading up on famous authors, I’ve grown to love animals much more than before, and cherish everything about these gentle giants.  Having a tiger, sniffing away on top of a caged truck, was pretty terrifying to say the absolute least.  The brown cows that have horns whereas if you cut their horns off, they would bleed to death.  The infamously famous komodos that lay as if they’re dead in pure darkness and a stand-alone elephant (very ominous) just waving his trunk in pure darkness. HA! Damn, I love animals!

Met one of the most lovely Australian families EVER during the trip.  The little boy, who was five, felt like a son.  He asked me so many questions and I felt as if I was his teacher.  The daughter was like, “omg my name is shanequa and I want to go to New York!” A 12 year old utterly infatuated with America and parents telling me, “hey, you’re young! Don’t worry about getting married right now!” HAHA! What an incredible night safari.  Oh, and temple run? The game that took the world by storm a little over 5 years ago? Yeah…I found out where that tradition comes from. RIGHT HERE! The girls…..phew, lets just leave it at that.  I proposed. THERE! I SAID IT!

Tough Mudder – The Monster From Hell

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And the reason I came to Bali to begin with.  To push myself not only mentally and psychologically, but physically.  The hellish course (what it was suppose to be) turned into one of the funnest events I’ve ever done in my life.  The variety of cultures from the Singaporeans who flew in from Singapore, to some of the people in the picture above who work for a newspaper in Jakarta, Indonesia, to some of the finest women I’ve seen in my life from other parts of Indonesia.  Oh, man….WHAT A DAY!

Yeah….Bali was another mental barrier that was crushed.  The mental barrier thinking I was going to get blown to pieces because of events that took place at the dawn of the new century.  See, these things that we see on TV can drive us to insanity.  I met some of the most wonderfully wonderful muslims on top of that, too.  The banjo playing band at the airport whom was singing, “la bamba” almost brought me to tears because their symphonic rhythm while playing in such a harmonious way…..these people were….happy.  Very happy.  I felt something on this island that I’ve never felt anywhere else on this planet, including Hawaii.

I felt serenity.

I felt bliss.

And getting aboard an absolutely gorgeous A777-300ER, I set off back to Singapore-Bangkok with a completely different mindset about my Balinese.

Thank you so much.

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Mount Bromo says HI!

Bali Podcasts 

Arrival –  https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9519588

Day 2 – excursion https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9529788

Day 3 – Tough Mudder https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9538900

Day 4 – Tough Mudder Conquered 

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9541901

The end of Bali – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9545169

Lisa Nichols – Diagnose The Problems, Resolve It, & Move Onto Your Abundant Life

I talked about having money blueprints and how they have been such a powerful influence on virtually everyone’s life.  Geographical, Cultural, Spiritual, Gender, Economical, Spiritual…..one of these played a huge part in how we view money.

For instance, when I was young, I remember my mom cooking flower tortillas in vegetable oil just to put some food in our stomach.  I remember wearing water shoes to school everyday and had my “friends” spew hateful rhetoric at me because I was widely known as the “poor boy.”  The days where we couldn’t even afford to have water at my house so my dad had to fill water jugs in the restrooms at his job.

See, you can see how this could’ve ultimately doomed me.  Look at the southside of Chicago, Camden, Gary, Flint, Detroit and so many other places around America where African Americans have generationally lived and continue to live in ravaged cities just narrowly surviving.

So, how come I’m the only person in my family who had the ability to escape that blueprint and create my own?  Moving forward, how come I’ve been shunned from my family because I don’t “act like” them and I’m hated by my brother?

Simple.

I choose NOT to live in the past influences of my life.

There are some techniques and behaviors that you can engage in so you can begin diagnosing and resolving the problems in your life that’s currently happening because of past actions and blueprints.

Here are several podcasts to get you started.

 

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10255673 – #1: Create A New Relationship With Money
https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10273024 – #2: Your Economic Background Helps Draw Your Money Blueprint, Too.
https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10287697 – #3: Gender & Geographic
https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10314021 – #4: Your Spiritual Upbringing Can Be A Help Or Hindrance