Wheel of Life: October 2018 Edition – Closing Out The Year

Another month, another close.  Yes, it’s been a year with far more ups than downs, but the closing is coming to an end.

How will you leave your mark?

For those of you tuning in for the first time, this is a podcast that’s for people who are willing to identify what areas of life are their strengths and which ones they’ve been neglecting.  Here are the categories.

  • Personal development
  • Physical environment
  • Romantic relationships
  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Career
  • Fun & Hobbies
  • Family & Friends

Rate yourself from 1-10 in each category and be brutally honest about yourself.  Once you understand what areas are suffering, now you’re consciously aware and can make a change.  Here are not only my categories, but what I need to improve in.

Improvement Stages Launch

Normally I’ve talked about my main scores followed by explanation, but I want to see where I can improve.  It’s not about becoming a perfectionist, but improving.

Physical Environment – *3

So, in terms of my physical environment, I believe that it can increase significantly.  First and foremost, my separate projects outside my main place of work are great.  A turning point happened at my job where someone “bitched” at me over something that isn’t even worth repeating (ok, it was about writing on a back of a sheet of paper), but it made me realize “maybe this place doesn’t deserve a teacher like me?”  When she did this, I scratched my head and said, “I’m not going to get my visa until early next year…and that’s if I’m still here.”

That’s called a yellow flag, folks.  Never fully commit when you have nastiness happening.

I’m now cancelling a lot of my availability with the job — because I CAN.  I’m also focusing on my main projects, but that and a couple of blackouts at my condo has hampered the everlasting 10 you would see on a continuous basis.

Physical Environment – *2

I could’ve increased my personal development by a large margin if I just know how to end my day.

I’ve been scuffling and trying to figure out an evening routine that’s suitable for m Because I finish work so ridiculously late, it’s very hard for me to end my day effectively (no excuses.  It all deals with my phone.  If I’m able to listen to affirmations or listen to my “calm” application, which has some nice story-telling to put me in a good state of mind, I win.  However, I haven’t been able to do that.

So, there are several things that I will implement. Tune into my podcast down below for that!

Career – *1.5

Honestly, I’m on the right track.  The comments, the love, the support, the things I’m attracting…but my actions are still not showing that I’m hungry for my ebook and webinar launch.

Wealth – *5

This was the category that made me upset.  I should be making a solid figure per month at my day job, but I’m not — STILL.  So, what can I do to buck the trend? In the podcast!

Because I don’t want to make this long extra long, I decided put everything into my podcast down below to here how I’m able to cope with things that aren’t working.

Podcast

Motivation Mentors: Episode 004 Featuring Celina Celeste!

Hello, everyone! This is a special project I’ve been working on with another mentor and coach from Shroud, England by the name of Luke Burrows.  The focus of this is since we’re both mentors and coaches, we encourage people to send questions in throughout the week for them to be featured on our show.  On this week’s episode, we brought along another wonderful entrepreneur and podcaster by the name of Celina Celeste.  The links to each of our worlds are down below along with the show notes which were written up by content writer Jiun Ting Yong.  Be sure to tune into the FB page!

 

Things being discussed in this week’s episode…

 

  • Introductions and talking about the power of technology.
  • Talking about which comes first: passion or business ideas.
  • Passion and business are terms in a grey area.
  • Passion and business are two different things that people never realize.
  • Referring to GaryVee’s latest book ‘Crushing it’.
  • Learn to how to play the rules, learn what is their strategy and learn to do personal branding with social media.
  • Read a lot of books and understanding the economy from different regions from a non – entrepreneurial perspective, especially for people who are fresh out of college or universities.
  • Traditional colleges and universities aren’t working anymore and schools were built for workers.
  • Getting a business apprenticeship and learning the craft of being a business ownership as well as being self-educated, is important.
  • Many jobs will be obsolete like white collar and pink colour jobs, doctors (debatable until AI officially comes), nurses and other professional jobs. How the economy will look like in the next 20 years because of cryptocurrency, machine learning, artificial intelligences and blockchain? Currencies have a possibility of being wipe out.
  • Mainstream universities don’t teach life skills and personal development.
  • Being smart in the choices that you make.
  • Skills that are important in the next 20 years like entrepreneurial skills such as creative thinking, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, being resourceful and having entrepreneurial mindsets.
  • Being self-aware on how you fit into this world and being smart about jobs where the future of the specific industries are bleak.
  • Being creative to bring in something that can make people feel good and being true to yourself.
  • Being true to yourself, stop complaining about yourself, stop giving excuses and stop feeling discontent.
  • Reprogramme your subconscious mind.
  • Be responsible for people who are in your life and stop complaining.
  • Don’t forget yourself, being yourself and stop getting caught up externally with what is happening– build yourself up and invest in yourself.
  • Don’t fall into the trap or trap yourself with fake people around you.

Thank you for listening!

 

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Links:

 

The Arsenio Buck Show

 

 

Luke Burrow

 

 

Motivational Mentors

 

 

Celina Celeste

 

How To Use Affirmations

Tony Robbins said the late Jim Rohn told him, “you have very poor psychology.  Makes some statements about the life you want to live.  Restate it over and over and over again.”

There was a homeless man asking Tony for some change one evening and all he asked for was 25 cents.  Tony then pulled out a wad of cash with a lot of 100$ bills on top of it….the man looked at the money, the quarter, and then Tony.  He took the quarter and told Tony, “you’re weird!”

You get in life what you ask for.  Sure, entrepreneurs will talk about “hustle, hustle, hustle….affirmations and meditations mean nothing,” but I can go so far to tell you that many of the entrepreneurs out there lack empathy and have rotten personalities.  They’re in fight-or-flight mode 24/7 and they always think the “worse case” scenarios.  Everyone has bluerprints; whether they’re social, geographical, financial, etc.  To get over that negative conditioning, I don’t care how much you hustle, you’re going to have to reprogram your mind.

How to use your affirmations.

  1. Repeat your affirmations at least three times a day.  The best times are the first thing in the morning, the middle of the day, and around bedtime.
  2. Work in depth with a few affirmations.  This is much more effective than working less frequently with a greater number of them.
  3. Say your affirmations out loud, if possible.  If not, read them silently to yourself.
  4. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes.  See the scene through your eyes, as if it were happening around you, just the way you would be seeing it in real life.
  5. Hear the sounds; see the images that would be present when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes.  Include any other people who would be there, and hear their words of encouragement and congratulations.
  6. Feel the emotions that you would experience when you achieve this goal.  The stronger your feelings are, the more powerful the impact.

My most powerful affirmation…..

I’m more handsome than ever!

The drop back of this story has to be the fact that I would constantly say, “Thai women hate black men!” So what ended up happening? I attracted to me the most disgusting specimen imaginable three years ago.  So, how could I reverse the negative self-talk? By using reaffirming positive self-talk.

Pick a solid three affirmations.  I’m talking about affirmations that negative the most common negative self-talk phrases you spew everyday.  Example, I asked my students what happened during there tenure while learning English and they constantly said, “I’m stupid” — although they go to the best university in Thailand? That’s absurd. It’s ridiculous.  You can’t be STUPID in learning a language, so instead say “I’m brilliant with learning English as I learn 30 minutes in both the morning and evening.”

I’m fat, I’m stupid, I’m black, I’m not handsome enough, I’m not beautiful enough, I’m not tall enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not experienced enough.  Enough with the bullshit opinions of others.  Reprogram your mind NOW!

Teemaree Interview on Affirmations 

How To Make Affirmations

How To Create A Band of Friends That Will Help Up-Level You

Set aside some time and make a list of people you would like to ask to mentor you.

  • Tony Robbins
  • Lisa Nichols
  • Gary Vee
  • Vishen Lakhiani
  • Tom Bilyeau
  • Les Brown
  • Michael Bernard Beckwith
  • Jim Kwik

It will probably seem daunting at first to contact people and ask for assistance, but it’s easier than you think.  Just recently I messaged Michael Bernard Beckwith to be on my podcast.  Was I scared? No, but it’s a win-win situation for me.  If he replies and we set something up, this will be ASTOUNDING for me; if he doesn’t reply, I still leave without anything.  See, win-win.

You know, when Les Brown started his speaking career in the early 1980’s, he approached Dr. Norman Vincent Peale (who was a world-renowned speaker and publisher).  Not only did Peale talk to Les, but he took him underneath his wings, too, teaching him everything he knew.

Les said, “he spoke more to my heart than to my mind.” Les Brown referred to this because there was a particular individual who said he would never be anything because he got held back + D’s and F’s in school.  However, Peale saw the greatness within Les.

Perhaps like the story above, you just need someone to open doors for you.  It could be someone from the social media platform called LinkedIn, or a friend who knows a friend, or just being around people who are high-energy.

I have mentors everywhere, and I don’t pay for them, either.  Let me tell you how I do it.

There’s a CEO of a crossfit-kinda-gym out here in Bangkok that I’m close to.  Not only am I close to him, but some of the other trainers.  I’ve always said before that “like attracts like,” and this is exactly what he has attracted to his business, which is extraordinary.  The array of personalities and position beings working for him and training is captivating.

So how do I learn from him? Just being around him and all the other trainers makes me incredibly enthusiastic about learning what they know.  He’s also a self-made millionaire, which is extremely rewarding because I’m literally within an arms length from an ultra-successful being.  And what’s more interesting is because he’s so happy and content with life, everyone else around him has that same persona.  Now, there are some people who workout in the gym that are bad energy.  I stay away from them.  However, in my little area right down the street from where I am, it’s team-oriented and so much fun going through absolute HELL.

What I’m trying to say is you don’t have to pay loads of dollars to get a mentor.  You can just pay a bit of a premium membership to get around people who are where you want to be.  If that’s moving to a particular area (while not busting the bank), or walking down the street of where some big shots walk down (like Napoleon Hill did) — that’s the gateway!

You’ll have to do some homework.  Look for mentors who have the kind of well-rounded experience you need to tackle your goal.  When you start seeing a pattern of the same few people being recommended, you know you’ve found that short list.

Also, asking someone who has already done it (because success leaves clues) is the best way to get to the next level.  Media agents, who talk to Gary Vee all the time, ask him “how can I build my own media agency?” It’s funny because Gary Vee always says that he wants his opponents to fail miserably, but that’s not the point.  The point is that he wants to dissect the mind of Gary Vee, just like I wanted to dissect the mind of one of my colleagues that knew so much about everything.

Network Your Way To Success

This could be in terms of mentorship or even just collaborating with others.  My first ever podcast interview was with a stylist and marketing executive from Dallas, Texas.  It took me 18 months to do my first interview.  Since that interview I’ve done 9 others (5 of them this year) alone because I know that could possibly expand my audience.

In terms of other forms of social media, I’ve come up in a lot of different search terms as of late.  There was a speaking agency that searched for me recently on LinkedIn, which raised my eye brows.  Shortly following that, I got a job interview and praise from a school in Indonesia.

The foundation of business and careers are built on relationships, and relationships form when people meet and interact with each other in an authentic way.  Also, I know you’re also aware of the fact that people prefer to do business with people they know, like, and trust.

Just like I recently stated, when you get together with other motivated business owners, there is an opportunity for things like joint ventures, clients leads, partnerships, speaking and writing opportunities, business or asset sales, investment opportunities and much more to emerge.

Creating connections and keeping them in your network is imperative.  Having a personal assistant, graphic designer, sound technician, and even a transcription person on board is critical.  You might not be able to pay for each person, but start small by giving them some important projects (at a one-time fee), and then work your way up to more significant projects.

Getting advice from the likes of Gary Vee and other entrepreneurs WHO HAVE BEEN THER is free.  Everything you’ve heard and read about will be retorted in a different way to you, so don’t be afraid.

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/how-to-create-a-band-of-friends-that-wil

 

Darren Hardy’s Compound Effect – Hands-On Assessments (LONG-READ)

Gratitude Assessment

Three amazing people in my life are……..

This was very difficult for me to think about.  I mean last year was an exodus.  One of my “best” friends unwittingly booted herself out of my life.  Two of the three people I praised back in October/November ended up disappearing.  So, I had to go back to my roots and really just see who’s always been there for me. 

  1. Andre.  I was teaching at night and I got an odd call while teaching.  My best friend Andre, who lives in New York, called me to inform me about a tsunami warning.  There’s no one else who would do that for me in my life.  Although the tsunami was way out of Thailand’s reach, he knew that I probably knew friends in Japan who could’ve been affected by it.
  2. Joy.  If there’s someone I can FaceTime at anytime, even her being an 8-hour flight away, it’s her.  From meeting her in a bar-that-I-Won’t-Mention-In-Honolulu, to being my best friend.  Joy is a remarkable human being with even more remarkable kidlets (sorry, Joy).
  3. I’m going to put my colleague Nelson here.  Nelson, who is from Uganda, is a man that helps me de-shroud the black smoke that surrounds me some days.  Him and I went through a ridiculous fallout last year, but him being the bigger man — approached me in the restroom and we talked it out over drinks a week later, eyeing some gorgeous women (lol).  He’s the one that is currently giving me guidance in terms of where to teach next and what to do.

Three great things about my physical body are….

Running for a long-time without any physical exhaustion.  What my body has turned into through hard-work in a wonderful gym in the heart of Bangkok (The Lab), to doing competitions all over the world, is a spectacle. LOL! I’m so grateful for looking at myself in the mirror, up and down, saying “god DAMN! Now that IS a spectacle indeed!”  If I look at myself from when I first came to Thailand, to now….it’s been an amazing transformation.

Three great things about my home and where I live are….

Now just a months earlier, there’s not a thing I would say that would be positive about where I lived. I got sick often, dirty looks lunged towards me because of ____________, no courtesy, ignorant teenagers with spoilers, zooming in the night and waking me up constantly, loud music – pretty much the worst situation imaginable.

Now? Ultra-gorgeous condominium in a wonderful neighborhood where middle-upper class people live….people who have lots of courtesy, smiles, and don’t give me any dirty looks.

Three great things about where I work and what I do for a living are…..

HA! That’s a hilarious joke on my part.  Well, where I work now,I don’t work there anymore. I mean my body is there, but my spirit isn’t.  That place is finished.  A conclusions on top of a conclusion.  HOWEVER, where I’m soon to work has me more excited than ever, all thanks to Linkedin.  YES! Not only that, but the brand and online presence I’m building is exciting beyond anything I could’ve ever imagined.  Outside the primary job, which accustoms for only 5% of my life, is staggering.  The podcast, which is booming more than ever, is on fire.  My YouTube channel, which is hitting the highest marks ever, will soon be converted to an online classroom.  There are a handful of other things, and I’m grateful for all of them.

Three great gifts of unique talent or skills I’ve been given, or that have been created are…….

My personality, which was developed by being around my best friends in high school.  My discipline, which I continue to develop by listening to the likes of Gary Vee, Lisa Nichols and MindValley.  And lastly, my ability to make people laugh.  Yeah, I can point out the confidence, too.  However, I seriously have such a strong personality to the point that you either love me or hate me.

Three great gifts of knowledge and experience I’ve been given are….

I’m not black.

PERIOD.

I’m a being that has the opportunity to change the lives of millions around the world.  I have a core genius — something that I can focus on, develop, and improve — ultimately leading to unfathomable success.  (3) This country, known as Thailand, is the best place I could’ve developed my intra/interpersonal skills in the wake of some much racism.  BOOM!

Three ways in which my life is wealthy, abundance, and prosperous are……

Having a stacked savings that can protect me in times of turmoil.  Having unbelievably wonderful friends in my life who can help me at any given time.  Lastly, seeing my life without blinders are and seeing the true meaning of life – from the animals, to the people smiling everywhere around me.

Core Values Assessment

Who is the person I respect most in life? What are their core values?

Les Brown, Lisa Nichols, Tony Robbins, Bob Proctor, Alan Watts, Vishen Lakhiani and a few others got me into the game.  However, a person who has become a huge part of my life that doesn’t even know it – is Gary Vee.

Patience, keep creating and hard-work.  Now, his motto revolves a lot around “hustle,” which I’m not particularly fond of (because of the nature of the word in the streets of African American neighborhoods), but him telling other podcasters about being patient has helped me tremendously.

Who is my best friend and what is his top three qualities.

Andre – perseverance, never gave up, and persistence.

This guy has been through hell and back.  I won’t put his business all out there, but he lost a wonderful sister to Leukemia back in the last quarter of 2004.  He was accused of the most outlandish happenings from 2005-2008 and blamed by his family members.  He finally left in 2010 to New York and never returned.  Since then, that man has had a kid –with another on the way — and found a wonderful girlfriend (soon-to-be-fiancé-and-probably-wife-maybe).  He persevered through HELL…and I mean HELL…to become an owner of a warehouse.  He’s my inspiration.

If I can have an quality instantly, what would it be?

I have no regrets about who I am and what I “need,” but if I can have a quality instantly, it would be everything Gary knows.  That quality.  Whatever quality that is…I want it.

Which personality traits, attribute or quality do people most compliment me on?

This is my favorite.  I was speaking about this recently with one of my students.  I recall being in my college dorm and having Shayla, Alissa, DJ and Angie sitting in the room.  We had to take terms singing songs, and I had to sing “I swear” by  All For One (or what I thought was Soul 4 Real).  I sang it under my breath, but it seemed like she was trying ridiculously hard to hear my voice, and she succeeded.  I can’t remember when, but probably within a few months, people started raving about my voice.

One thing I didn’t have but developed — were dance moved.  I was made fun of by the entire softball team because I kept “snapping” my fingers and had the same move.  LOL! Good times.

But then there was my professor in dental assisting who said, “Arsenio, what you have is a gift.  You can’t teach personality and what you have is going to take you a long way in life.

She was absolutely right.

Also, my body.  That’s right.  What I’m not good at is accepting the compliment about my body.  Lol.  When I get compliments from South Americans, I find it super sexy.  Women from Costa Rica, Chile and other places say “muy guapo,” and I feel what they actually say.  However, I think when people call me handsome in Thailand it’s either with condition (they want to solicit sex for money – hahahah), or they’re just being nice but what they really wanna say is, “you’re a black man.”  Nonetheless, I know I’m becoming a freak, and that’s exciting.

Life/Habit Assessments, along with influences, are in the podcast down below.

Darren Hardy’s Compound Effect: Full Book Review

It’s been a hell of a journey in terms of the Compound Effect.  I went through this book and inherited a wide-range of actionable tools, and hopefully you did, too.

Here are my best parts about the book and some podcasts to follow.

Microwave Mentality

As I’ve told you so many times, there’s the smallest percentage ever who become an “instant success,” but you’re going to have to do-away with that mentality. The “insta-results” and lottery-winning expectations are a no-go because that same person endured hundreds of failures.

In the sports world, there’s no chance at you becoming a genetically gifted monster like Terrel Owens and a few other NFL players were.  The countless hours of reps, sweating, running bleachers, conditioning and hauling ass on the field is all behind the scenes.  The “lose weight fast; get abs in 6-weeks” blogs are bogus.  Fact is everyone has abs, but most people have them covered by fat.

In Thailand you have a beauty pill.  This beauty pill, which would be unbelievably illegal on top of illegal in America, can be bought in shops here.  The pill that causes diarrhea, vomiting and a range of other ailments, is used to make women “beautiful.”  No, you need to put in the world, and there’s no other way around it.

Choice

Look, everyone has a choice.  I really hate to put it in blunt terms, especially for people who are possibly living in impoverished countries, but you had the choice to join that gang.  You had the choice to smoke that “blunt.”  You made the choice of slandering someone online, only to hurt yourself more.

“Think about it. Everything in your life exists because you first made a choice about something. Choices are at the root of every one of your results. Each choice starts a behavior that over time becomes a habit. Choose poorly, and you just might find yourself back at the drawing board, forced to make new, often harder choices. Don’t choose at all, and you’ve made the choice to be the passive receiver of whatever comes your way.”

Excerpt From: Darren Hardy. “The Compound Effect.” iBooks.

“Have you ever been bitten by an elephant? How about a mosquito? It’s the little things in life that will bite you. Occasionally, we see big mistakes threaten to destroy a career or reputation in an instant—the famous comedian who rants racial slurs during a stand-up routine, the drunken anti-Semitic antics of a once-celebrated humanitarian, the anti-gay-rights senator caught soliciting gay sex in a restroom, the admired female tennis player who uncharacteristically threatens an official with a tirade of expletives. Clearly, these types of poor choices have major repercussions. But even if you’ve pulled such a whopper in your past, it’s not extraordinary massive steps backward or the tragic single moments that we’re concerned with here.”

I’m calling out all Americans: “it was you that bought the frozen food at the store, not the food companies profiting from you.”  I recently saw a photo of my not-so-immediate family at a party, and with the six women in the photo, I would have to make a guestimate that the total weight of all of them put together had to be around 2000 lbs.  This has become the norm.  So normal in fact that my Aunt, who i love so dearly, claimed that I was too skinny and that I needed to gain weight – even though I’m an extremely healthy weight.  Bizarre.

I’m imploring all of you to just say to yourself, “everything that is happening in my life is the result of my past thoughts and actions.  For me to change what’s happening in my life, I need to change my thoughts and actions.”

Super impose that and stick it above the bathroom mirror in big red lettering.  Make it a “pocket map” and read it every time you unload your pockets in the evening – kind of like a gratitude rock.  Be responsible for it all.

I’m declaring ownership to why all those egregiously krass and vice behaving Thai women approached me on different social media platforms – saying I was “black.  Yuck. Disgusting. I hate black men. Go back to Africa!”

Yeah, some of you are saying, “but you didn’t deserve that.”  It’s not what I deserve, it’s what I unconsciously called into existence.

University of Hard Knocks – My Favorite Part

Oh, yes! Thank you, Mr. _______ for telling me I wasn’t good enough in wake of one of the most racially influenced situations I’ve ever endured in my life.  Thanks to the company ____________, which I’ll be giving a firm shout out to, for showing me that I can do so so much more.  Yes, it was rough in the beginning.  What I thought was a sure-job heading into the last week of the year — turned — hiatus.  This was wrenching, simply because I almost severed my own head at my job by flipping birds and talking bad about wife-tourists.  I almost slipped up viciously, but luckily I didn’t; or else,  I’d be out of a job right now.  In the unfolding of the first quarter of this year are the dimensions of the “transitional period” for me.  Yeah, there’s a lot “if” and “omg, what’s going to happen next?”  However, I feel like I’m on the verge of getting my Master’s Degree at the University of Hard Knocks!

Success Is A (Half-) Marathon

Let’s put it this way: Sprint, Super, Beast.

The Spartan Spring is 7km long; Super is 13km long; and the beastly Beast is 20km long.

If this is your first time doing the competition, or if you’ve fat and overweight, would it be smart to do the Beast? No.

Super? No.

Sprint? NO!

None of them.  What’s smart is to walk for 100m-400m every morning and get in the groove.  The micro winds.  Some people want to take leaps.  I remember a man by the name of Mike, who was Persian, said to me “Arsenio, can you train me for the olympics?”  Mike had never ran the 100m or 200m sprint before in his life, let alone he was clocking in an 11.5 in the 100m.  In the olympics, you have to be sub-10 seconds.

Mike, no.  However, if you train everyday, get the proper nutrition, see a masseuse on a routine basis and search for a how-to guide, you’ll ultimately make waves – but not in America.

I’m not trying to discourage Mike, but it’s a bit insane to just jump in with the wolves without knowing what their diet is – if that makes any sense.

The other podcasts and recommendations are in the podcast down below!

Darren Hardy: Do The Unexpected & Do Better Than Expected

Have you guys seen  the “do what the 99 percent aren’t doing?”

Yeah, I’ve seen those as thumbnails on YouTube videos and at least on a weekly basis on Instagram.

If you look at Christmas and how everyone sends Christmas cards; in addition, the family members who want to be handed materialistic things.  Those things we already expect, right? So it kind of just loses its value.  Take a look at the trends that are happening right now.  I just read something online that said, “think about what’s going to happen in five years then do that.”

Elon Musk just launched one of the heaviest rockets into orbit, sending a roadster into space and landing two booster rockets.  NASA thought he was crazy and Jeff Bezos, who’s his competitor, has tried rebuking everything he’s ever done.  All of that was completely ignored when Falcon Heavy used 4-5 million pounds of TNT to launch itself off the platform, beaming what looked like the thickest lightsabres in the world from the tail and soaring into the sky — followed by endless cheers.

He got a ridiculous amount of praise online for it….because he did what so many people wouldn’t do.  He did what NASA is terrified of doing, and that’s doing the unthinkable – the impossible.

More often than not, the extra effort doesn’t come with dollar signs or energy.

After posting a few days on LinkedIn, I realized that maybe this could be very reputable and beneficial to what I’m doing with expanding my brand.  Just two days ago, after going over a part of an ESL Business book with some executives, I realized that LinkedIn proved to be extremely beneficial with recruiters checking my profile.

I later talked to my graphic designer and even before the banner was made for my social media platforms, she agreed to make one specifically for LinkedIn, which is the most important platform for my business and the growth.

That came with very little effort.

“If I set my sights on something, I’m going to ensure success by going all in and all out. I launch what I call “shock and awe” campaigns. During this same job hunt I suggested Alex pull out all the stops—attack from every possible front and do it relentlessly.”

Excerpt From: Darren Hardy. “The Compound Effect.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/the-compound-effect/id1212219081?mt=11

Do better than expected

“Find the line of expectation and then exceed it. Even when it comes to the small stuff—or maybe especially then. Whatever I think the dress standard is going to be for any event, for example, I always choose to go at least one step above it. When I am unsure of the attire, I always err on the side of dressing better than I suppose the occasion calls for. Simple, I know, but it’s just one way I try to meet my standard to always do and be better than expected.” – Darren Hardy

The last note….

“I challenge you to adopt these philosophies in your own life—in your daily habits, disciplines and routines. Giving a little more time, energy, or thought to your efforts won’t just improve your results; it will multiply them. It takes very little extra to be EXTRAordinary. In all areas of your life, look for the multiplier opportunities where you can go a little further, push yourself a little harder, last a little longer, prepare a little better, and deliver a little bit more. Where can you do better and more than expected? When can you do the totally unexpected? Find as many opportunities for “WOW,” and the level and speed of your accomplishments will astonish you… and everyone else around you.” – Darren Hardy

Podcast

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Darren Hardy: Exceeding Expectations – Oprah’s Ultimate Viewers Win A Trip

During this particular Oprah video, she was going to surprise her audience with a trip to Australia.  However, the anticipation had some of the audience members in tears.  She mentioned Philadelphia, then mentioned New York and said, “well I was think this place, but I told myself that I wanted to do something…..bigger.”  The build-up was incredible, and then when she said the other side of the world, the audience erupted without even knowing where they were going until she rolled the airplane and confetti — expectations exceeded.

The gorgeous part about this is not only how warmhearted Oprah is, but the expectations that each individual was feeling at the time.  I mean the build-up was unlike anything I’ve ever seen before in my life.  This is especially something I want to do with my staff one day.

When I was first introduced the idea of developing a conversation curriculum, I had no idea that it would turn into a multi-million baht course and the most sought after one in the entire school.  In the beginning, they asked me “how much would you want for creating this course?”  I got paid maybe 200$ and the course has made between 50k-100k since then.  Was that fair? Obviously not….but we weren’t sure how well it was going to get.

Going forward, I’m getting insane ideas about uploading and delivering so many test preparation videos, courses and other things to beat all the other language centers.  Is this centered around me “getting back” at a language center? Of course not, because then I would never be happy, even if I did achieve the goal.  This is me building an empire.  I’m literally uploading a video per day and since then (over the last four days), the viewership and clicks on my website and YouTube page has sky-rocketed.

I asked myself at the time, “what can I do? What can I do to build more of an audience?” I was depleted and discouraged over the Christmas holiday because all forms of communication had hit a new low, but that was mainly because I stopped creating.  I had no idea that being consistent would allow me to take over all of YouTube and beat out every other “test prep” video.

That extra-mile means everything.

While I was working out this morning, I had Darren Hardy’s words in the back of my mind. “When that pain kicks in, you push more because that’s when the growth takes place.”

“Where in life can you do more than expected when you hit the wall?  Or where can you go for “WOW?” It doesn’t take a lot more effort, but the little extra multiplies your results many times over.  Whether you’re making calls, serving customers, reorganizing your team, acknowledging your spouse, going for a run, bench pressing, planning a date night, sharing time with your kids, whatever…..what’s the little extra you can do that exceeds expectations and accelerates your results?” – Darren Hardy

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Darren Hardy: Multiplying Your Results

What if you can speed up the process and multiply your results?

Well, I just realized this recently.  With my test preparation videos, I wasn’t as consistent as I should’ve been last year.  I mean, even going back to the beginning stages of me uploading.  I launched two videos back in 2015 and stopping making videos all the way until last year.  Not good enough.

So, I asked myself how I can bring in more traffic? Staying consistent! DUH!

So over the last few days I decided that I would make one grammar preparation video, an incomplete sentence video, and one other specifically catering to TOEIC.  I also decided to throw at least one IELTS video in every week and possibly a TOEFL video.  That’s literally 5-6 videos a week.  In doing that, and just doing that the last few days, I’ve saw one of the biggest influxes in views, revenue, sharing and all other analytics in a three-day period EVER!

How did this happen? Consistency = multiplying results.

“Let’s say you’re weight training and your program calls for you to do twelve repetitions of a certain weight. Now, if you do the twelve, you’re fulfilling the expectation of your program. Great job. Stay consistent, and ultimately, you will see this discipline compound into powerful results for you. Yet, if you get to twelve, even if you’ve hit your max, and you push out another three to five reps, your impact on that set will be multiplied several times. You won’t just add a few reps to the aggregate of your workout. No. Those reps done after you hit your max will multiply your results. You’ve just pushed through the wall of your max. The previous reps just got you there. The real growth happens with what you do after you’re at the wall.”

Excerpt From: Darren Hardy. “The Compound Effect.” iBooks.

I mentioned in a recent podcast about how Ali never started counting his ab reps until the pain came in….because that’s when the growth took place.

Runners can attest to this, too.  Anytime I run a 10km race, the first km is a drag trying to control my breathing.  Shortly following that, I hit the wall probably halfway through.  It never has to do with my breathing but always the lower-body.  This is the “growth” stage of the race.  Another instance was when I was doing a recent strength training class in the evening.  After a few side squats with the kettlebell, I felt not pain, but soreness in my hamstrings and glutes.  I continued fighting through the discomfort and after the workout and in the ensuing couple of days, I could barely even walk.  However, when my muscle soreness goes away, I’ll be a hell of a lot stronger than before.

“Viewing yourself as your toughest competitor is one of the best ways to multiply your results. Go above and beyond when you hit the wall. Another way to multiply your results is pushing past what other people expect of you—doing more than “enough.” – Darren Hardy

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Darren Hardy: Chapter 6 – Acceleration

First time I did a Tough Mudder in Melbourne, Australia, I was stoked.  I mean I remember the long drive there, the cool temperatures, the enthusiasts at a pit-stop along the way wearing leggings.  I mean the build up was insane.  My best friend, Joy, was just driving casually; meanwhile, the energy going through my body was unimaginable and I was just tapping my feet nervously while gazing away at the gorgeous green hills.  This was that moment of truth.  This was that moment that everything that had taken place in Thailand would be completely disrupted.  This was Arsenio versus Arsenio.  This was literally gathering up all this embattled pain and hammering it on this course.

Well the race had begun and in the first km, I was gassed. LOL! I built up some momentum with the Big Mo, and around the 6km-8km mark, the race got increasingly fun.  Music was on point, gorgeous Chinese-Australian women everywhere ( just saying – lol), and I was rapping and dancing during one obstacle.

However, when the half-way mark came, the wall came.  The mental barrier.  The wall that goes up in the mind of humanity when you just wanna give up.  .

I recall looking up the hill and seeing these ants sprawled everywhere.  Were they ants? Of course not….they were people straggling off in the distance, going up the goliath that towered over me.  I was terrified and said, “I think it’s time to give up.”

That’s when you hit the wall.  This could be in physical exertion, or just life in general.  That point when your mind says, “enough.”

Another instance was in the south of Thailand at a place called Lan Saka.  I thought it was going to be a mellow and cool bike ride with my neighbors from across the street, but without the proper biking shorts, it turned into a painful haul.  Halfway in it we were going up yet again…..hills.  Hills that didn’t make any sense.  Again, I recall looking up this particular hill and saying, “no, there’s no way I can go up.”

I told the other rider, “mai dai krap.”  Which is a proper way of saying “cannot.” He, with just one hand, began pushing me up this hill.  I was yelling in sheer anger, feeling the absolute burn running through my thighs and I was saying “I CAN’T DO IT!”  He kept saying, “pai! PAI!” Meaning “go! GO!”

I reached the “summit” and there it was….ecstasy showered with pain and laughter.

There is a point at which you “hit the wall” and come face to face with your true inner character. Suddenly, all the projections and ideas you had about yourself are stripped away and you’re left with the naked truth.

“When conditions are great, things are easy, there aren’t any distractions, no one is interrupting, temptations aren’t luring, and nothing is disturbing your stride; that too is when most everyone else does great. It’s not until situations are difficult, when problems come up and temptation is great, that you get to prove your worthiness for progress. As Jim Rohn would say, “Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.”
When you hit the wall in your disciplines, routines, rhythms, and consistency, realize that’s when you are separating yourself from your old self, scaling that wall, and finding your new powerful, triumphant, and victorious self.”

Excerpt From: Darren Hardy. “The Compound Effect.” iBooks.

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