Helping a suicidal student

I wrote this on my 101 goals list about 5 years ago: “help someone NOT commit suicide and get them out of a dark place.” I don’t know why it felt good at the time, but the opportunity had presented itself.

Years ago I met a student who was on fire. She was insecure at the age of 15, but with her level of speaking capabilities, I told her she couldn’t stay here in Thailand because ALL universities don’t know what to do with her level passion. She ended up moving to Singapore to go to school and ended up building an online business at the age of 17. The last time I had seen her in 2018, she was so excited and driven. She carried herself like a 30-year-old business professional.

Well, we lost touch and finally spoke again through video a couple weeks ago — to my shock, she completely changed: tone, facial expressions, discontent, and now suffering from severe depression. She went from Singapore back to Bangkok and now she’s around people who AREN’T driven.

While she was telling me these horrifying thoughts she was having, I was glancing to my left and thought of one person that could absolutely help her….and so the introduction was given and now the ball is on her side of the course — but I’m asking everyone out there that you should NEVER be AFRAID to ASK for help.

Full podcast down below!

Interviewee #023 – Natalie Shaul on Stress, Mental Clarity & Physical Wellness

A super compelling podcast on how one’s mind can affect the body. On today’s show, Natalie Shaul joined me to talk about some great ways to deal with bloating, gut health in general, adding in different foods, and how she overcame a relentless amount of symptoms that were hovering over her for a decade and a half. 

Get in touch with Natalie Shaul

Links:

Things we discussed:

Her journey to where she is currently.

Good environment and a good childhood.

Believing she couldn’t complain because of how she was brought up. 

Health issues that lingered over time. 

What the causes are of  autoimmune and hyper-thyroid?

Causes of mercury poisoning.

What was the step-by-step recovery process to mitigate the symptoms?

Her meeting with Lewis.

More steps to combat her health issues.

 

Three things and actionable steps for the listeners.

Sleep deprivation.

Inflammatory foods.

Bloating and gut health.

Apple cider and how to make them. 

Sugary foods.

Probiotics.

Food and beverages that are good for your overall gut health. 

Her diet for breakfast.

Myths of overeating. 

Olive oil and omega fats.

Advantages of avocados.

Echinacea and its advantages

Turmeric and other spices that could be implemented in your diet. 

Physical fitness.

Yoga, detoxification and using a sauna. 

Three ultimate things for self-case.

Listen to “Interviewee #024 – Natalie Shaul on Stress, Mental Clarity & Physical Wellness” on Spreaker.

 

Thank you for listening!

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Coaching Session: Episode 004 – Toxic Family & Not Sure What To Do?

You know, I’ve talked about this on a number of occasions. How to veer and steer clear of negative human beings, even if they’re your family.  This is one of the toughest decisions any human being can make.  Did I think I would ever have to make a decision like this? Not in a million of years.  However, after an almost-fight with my brother in the living room of my home back in 2007 about the “Law of Attraction,” I realized that there was no way I can talk about these types of things with him anymore.  On one occasion, my mother asked if something was true and I said, “how do you think I got to Australia?”

No pun intended, but if I had consulted my family before my trip, I wouldn’t have gone to Australia to begin with.  My brother said angrily, “what the hell you going to Australia for?”

In brief, when I came back from actually LIVING in Australia, my older sister’s face had localized swelling. My mother was complaining about work mates, and my brother had three balls in his back, resulting in surgery.  My family was in a dark abyss and I couldn’t be rescue 911 this time.  I told myself, “it’s either my life, or I will fall into misery for the rest of my life.” That was the action.

I threw my bose headphones over my ears and cancelled out the noise, which brings me to number 1.

Make Positivity In Your Head Loud

It’s easier said than done, and people are often held back on life because memories that they are attached to — memories that are bad and continue recreating a life in the future — also known as having a predictable future.  How can you make it loud? Throw your headphones on, don’t take things seriously and read/listen to Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. 

If you actually look at your life from your outerself, you will realize that life isn’t too bad.  That’s number one.  Number two, unless someone is physically abusing you, you are in control of how you react to situations.  You’re either positive or negative; reactive or proactive; on offense or defense.  Leading up to my departure (to come here to Thailand), my family and I were LIGHT YEARS apart.  I would stay away from them as much as possible because I would feel the jealousy, animosity, hate, bigotry, you name it.  It was a tenacious force that I couldn’t overcome, but I made a promise to myself that when I leave this native Las Vegas today, I will NEVER return to see them.

On the day of leaving, my mother cried.  I thought they were fabricated because she sure as hell didn’t show any of that the entire year I was there.  When I first went to university, my mother cried from her heart at the airport with my uncle.  When I left this time, it felt as if she was forced to cry to show her feelings.  Everything I experienced over the year, especially with the amount of anger coming out of my brother, had to be banished forever — and so it was.

Are They Helping You, or Killing You?

Simple question.  Are you growing or dying? If you were to stay around them any longer, would the situations escalate even more? What kind of small steps can you take? Yes, you can try having a heart talk, but if has been perpetuated for years, the conditioning is imbedded into the DNA…..they believe.

Don’t Jump In, Ease In

When I had the ordeal happen with my family, it was a long period of time.  It wasn’t just a huge BANG and everything ended. That could be very daunting for a lot, emotional, and neither party wins.  If you just ease out of the toxicity on a nightly basis and talk to friends who encourage you to become better, this can go a long way.

Listen to “Coaching Session: Episode 004 – Toxic Family & Not Sure What To Do?” on Spreaker.

Coaching Session 002: The Follow-up With My Colleague — Changes Are Happening!

So, if you guys haven’t already read the blog or heard the podcast about my colleague who is/was depressed, I suggest you do that, first.

Now, just recently I had my colleague make some significant changes in her life.  I had her write down the list of everything she likes to do, passions, what are her strengths, and other things.  I’ve struck gold with it.

Over the next week, she seemed a lot happier.  She paid $500 bucks for dance lessons, and this was awesome because she’s always dancing at work.  She committed to fitness by making videos on Instagram, showing herself doing squats and other exercises.

Shortly following that, she sent me her list in regards to the positive things about her and this is what she wrote.

  1. What are my natural gifts? Making people laugh.
  2. What are my skills? Organizing and acting.
  3. What do I enjoy? Dancing, singing, taking photos.
  4. When do I feel most alive? When I’m with friends.
  5. What am I passionate about? (still undecided)
  6. What brings the greatest joy in my life? Good work, taking care of my mom, good family (all conditionals though — nothing in the present)
  7. When do I feel best about myself? Helping others.

 

Strengths

Listening

Challenges

Commitment

 

Now, her natural gifts, skills and enjoyment interlink with each other, but there are still some areas that she’s not exactly sure about and that we need to tap into.  Also, living in a country like Thailand, most people aren’t good at giving positive reinforcement and feedback with peers.  In the spot where it says “what have people always said I’m really good at,” there wasn’t anything.  This isn’t an issue, but culturally speaking, this isn’t good.

Nonetheless, she did message me and tell me that she feels much better and she claims that it’s fromt he medication at the psychiatrist.  However, that’s actually the problem. With Fish Oil, Vitamin D tablets and 20 minutes of exercise a day, she can wick away those “depressive thoughts.”

That’s the next big step in my coaching with her.

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Special Blog: Arsenio’s Entrepreneurial Journey from 2016-Now

Ok, you guys wanted it, and here it is.

At the beginning of 2016, I started a podcast.  Keep in mind that my followers on Twitter were LOSER sex tourists and my online persona, up to that point, was not very good.  I constantly focused on the negative and the victimization of being a “black” teacher in Thailand.

Then came the man — also known as Napoleon Hill.  Who’s Napoleon Hill? Well, you’ll have to google him, but this man ended up teaching me everything that I either had lost, or was completely unaware of.  Those books became my podcasts in the beginning and that ended up pushing away the majority of those “losers” who followed me online.

Then came the Jack Canfield book, most notably — Principle #5: Believe In Yourself.  While reading this just before my trip to Vietnam, I was reduced to tears.  At that moment, there was a shift in my entire biochemistry, indicating that this victimhood no longer serves you.  Getting rid of it didn’t happen overnight, but this was the beginning.

Lisa Nichols’ Abundance now came next, along with a few others, including Tim Ferriss’ 4-Hour Work Week and a couple of others.  This was the beginning of the new me.

In 2017, I began to rebel.  Hell, it started a couple months before.  My work, which wasn’t suitable for me anymore, wasn’t fair in terms of work allocation.  Some teachers got more work based on pre-conceived notions that they were better than other teachers.  So, I told myself, even in early 2016, that I would start working outside to gain more notoriety and build a brand that I didn’t know I was building at the time.  One after another, projects after projects, and “NO! I DON’T WANT YOUR CLASS IN THE MORNING!” — after another.  This probably was my downfall at the company because I constantly denied work from them, leading to my ultimate plunge and being the “last in line” and the “dark little brother,” however, this was the beginning of my new life.

In October of 2017, I got removed from teaching at Toshiba in Pathumthani, citing me for the most outrageous comments imaginable that were completely untrue and irrelevant to my moving.  Somebody had a bone to pick, and with two other white teachers, one having an insane amount of complaints, I was the odd one out (in a very unprofessional way).  That following weekend, it was the comment “if you want to continue working here we need to have a meeting” that sent shivers of disgust, threats, and “Arsenio, it’s time to get the hell out of here” down my back.  That moment, I made up in my mind that I was too good for these folks.

No one knew, but after learning that I had moved to the other side of town, they knew what was happening.  I cancelled, didn’t want class, and want to be away from that place as much as possible because it gave me chest pains — literally.

At the same time, I was grinding and trying to find work.  There were people saying “oh, this company decided this teacher over you because you’re white” and other deplorable comments. I knew I would scrape the bottom-of-the-barrel in regards to finding suitable language centers, but i kept at it.

Then March came.  Job offers came over the next two months along with entrepreneurs, a content writer, and hundreds of other things.

At the beginning of the year, I made goals list.  I made goals list for each category of my wheel of life, pin-pointing things that I wanted to do and how I wanted to grow.  To this date, I’ve not only achieved those marks, but I think in some categories, like the social circle and personal development, I’m two years ahead.

I have a content writer, social circle consisting of graphic designers, mentors, marketing execs and coaches, double podcasts website that’s sky-rocketing, YouTube that’s climbing, messages and comments saying thank you.

In all of that, do you think this could’ve happened if I didn’t leave that old place of work? No way.  I needed to leave there to create flow of goodness and change in my life.

See, the majority of the time, you guys get stuffed up in the now and personal wants.  You’re control by the mainstream media, dying relationships, loser friends, terrible jobs.  However, if you can just come to the awareness that if you let these things go, you will attract to you everything in life that you need to take you to the next level.

That’s a promise.

Upon the magnificent New Years, I’m literally positioning myself as the top ESL podcaster on the planet.  I’m owning hashtags on Instagram.  I’m teaching people all over the world and people want my services.  See how that works? And this all came because I dumped an employer in F.E.A.R of not getting a new job.

Face FEAR.

Stephen Covey: Work Centered – The Story of My Student

When I met her at the base of the elevator, her energy was off.  I’ve seen this wonderfully, stern-faced doctor a plenty of times.  She’s kin to me….like a sister.  However, I just felt like there was a ball of negative energy around her that I couldn’t quite understand.  So, I asked her, “what’s on your mind?”

“Nothing,” she replied.

As the lesson went on and I tried asking her about different stories: funny, scary, adventurous, inspirational…..she was at a loss of words.

I asked, “have you been living?” — jokingly.

“No, I have a sad life,” she retorted.

The opening up came in and that’s when I realized something was up.  I went through the wheel of life exercise with her and her categories were suffering.

Personal Development – 0

Career – 4

Fun & Hobbies – 4

Friends – 8 (although the friends she’s around kind of live the same dismal lifestyle)

Health – 4

 

Awareness

“Look what’s happening.  You’re now aware though.  A lot of people don’t develop this type awareness and go through life seemingly discontent which ultimately breeds depression.  Best part about this session is you’re not aware of what’s happening.”

“What am I supposed to do, AJ (nickname is AJ in Thailand because they can’t pronounce Arsenio)?”

I pulled out my little Jack Canfield book that has an exercise to “find your purpose.”

I went down a series of questions.  “What brings you joy? What’s your defining moment?”…..and so many others.  She didn’t know.

See, schools (especially those “academic” schools) don’t knock on the core genius of young individuals…so then they grow up being “work centered” and end up being miserable.  A study showed these results of American doctors.

A GRIM PICTURE OF PHYSICIANS’ MENTAL HEALTH

The study polled more than 15,000 doctors in 29 specialties. In the survey, 42% of physicians reported burnout. Physicians in critical care, neurology, and family medicine had the highest rates of burnout. The specialties with the lowest rates were plastic surgery, dermatology, and pathology. The specialists with the lowest rates were also more likely to seek professional help for their mental health.

Fourteen percent of physicians reported being both burned out and depressed. The specialties with the highest rates of co-occurring depression and burnout were:

  • Obstetrics and gynecology (20%)

  • Public health and preventive medicine (18%)

  • Urology (17%)

  • Neurology (17%)

Of course she’s a Thai doctor, but you guys get my point.

I was sitting there with my hands on my chin wondering what the hell to do next, and then suddenly I realized a very good exercise I saw in Stephen Covey’s book in regards to finding your “center.”  She read through it and she began reciting something so identical to what her present situation was — she was work centered.

Someone who puts everything into work to whereas they forget about everything else, especially life.

What did I do next as a coach?

Ok, we need to find your passion.  You’re uninspired for so many different reasons. Do this exercise in terms of answering the questions about yourself that’s been untapped forEVER.  After that, you need to figure out your true alchemy.  Sure, you have the money, but you’ve neglected every other area (as pointed out above).  So, time to read about your alchemy (Paulo Coehlo’s The Alchemist).  After that, read the ensuing 10 pages of Stephen Covey’s book to completely unlock what’s happening in your life (I almost know the chapters verbatim).

What I’m expecting?

She’s going to come back with renewed passion.

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Lewis Howes: Joker Mask – Part II

“Like many people, I want to avoid being the dark cloud in other people’s lives, so I pretend things are sunny, even when they are obviously not. So I keep things light, or at surface level. I want to talk about other people. I want to focus on other people’s challenges because focusing on my own feels more vulnerable.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

But when you’re able to spew your problems out and talk to people about them, like Dale Carnegie once said, you’re able to lift all of that off your chest.

If I can look back at the most “depressed” moments of my life, one coming for only 5-minutes back in 2014, it all had to do with my personal feelings and vendetta.  In 2014, I was denied jobs, face-to-face, because of being African American.  I was in the back of a taxi circling around an area of Bangkok (invasive technique taxi drivers do in Bangkok to rake up the meter), and at the given moment I felt like I was just a spec in the world.  I snapped out of it within minutes.

Also, being dismissed in a relationship in 2009 left me in absolute shambles.  It was the darkest cloud hanging over me, simply because it was my first love.  It took two-months to shake it off, but I did and later went to Australia for the first time in my life that summer.

In 2003, I was surely depressed in the latter portion of the year, but this revolved around my mother not having a job, no food in the house, and two girls not wanting anything to do with me.  This developed anger, which I talked about in an earlier podcast/blog, but I ended up getting over it by joining Track & Field – the best sport to join because you can only place blame on yourself.

I really need to tell this story that I read in Dale Carnegie’s ‘How To Stop Worrying And Start Living.’

Mrs. Moon’s Story

In December, a number of years ago, I was engulfed in a feeling of sorrow and self-pity.  After several years of happy married life, I had lost my husband.  As the Christmas holidays approached, my sadness deepened. I had never spent a Christmas alone in all my life; and I dreaded to see this Christmas come.  Friends had invited me to spend Christmas with them.  But I did not feel up to any gaiety.  I knew I would be a wet blanket at any party.  So, I refused their kind invitations.  As Christmas eve approached, I was more and more overwhelmed with self-pity.  True, I should have been thankful for many things, as all of us have many things for which to be thankful.  The day before christmas, I left my office at 3pm in the afternoon and started walking aimlessly on a street, hoping that I might banish my self-pity and melancholy the avenue was jammed with happy crowds — scenes that brought back memories of happy years that were gone.  I just couldn’t bear the thought of going home to a lonely and empty apartment.  I was bewildered.  I didn’t know what to do.  I couldn’t keep the tears back.  After walking aimlessly for an hour or so, I found myself in front of a bus terminal.  I remember that my husband and I had often boarded an unknown bus for adventure, so I boarded the first bus I found at the station.  After cross the Hudson River and riding for some time, I heard the bus conductor say, ‘Last stop, lady.’  I got off.  I didn’t even know the name of the town.  It was a quiet and peaceful little place.  While waiting for the next bus home, I started walking up a residential street.  As I passed a church, I heard the beautiful strains of “Silent Night.” I went in.  The church was empty except for the organist.  I sat down unnoticed in one of the pews.  The lights from the gaily decorated Christmas tree made the decorations seem like myriads of stars dancing in the moonbeams.  The long-drawn cadences of the music — and the fact that I had forget to eat since morning — made me drowsy.  I went to sleep.

When I awoke, there were two small children who had apparently come in to see the Christmas tree.  One said, “I wonder if Santa Claus brought her.”

The children were terrified when I woke up, but I told them I wouldn’t hurt them.  They were poorly dressed.  I asked them where their mother and daddy were.  “We ain’t got no mother and daddy,” they said. They were orphans.  They made me feel ashamed of my sorrow and self-pity.  I went on to buy them food and refreshments, and I banished my depression instantaneously.

See, in the book they would call this “masking a problem,” but I would disagree completely.  This is basically realizing that you have it well.  There has to be a deeper story to why people, of all statuses, commit suicide.  Robin Williams had all the money, a wife, oscars, and everything – but he ultimately killed himself.  So I will ask again: “what is depression?”

“Beneath the jokes is often a sadness or some problem. Behind the mask—no matter how funny or entertaining—is a real person. Psychologist Edward Dreyfus puts it even more directly: “Perhaps we should listen more attentively to those who hide behind the mask of humor. Perhaps we should be asking them to whom do they turn to make them laugh? Perhaps we should spend a little more effort in seeing the person behind the mask.” If we had listened to what Robin Williams was saying behind his mask, I wonder what we would have heard.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

Maybe people, who are comedians, just love making people laugh for the sake of bringing joy to the world?

“So many comedians/funny people will tell you they grew up feeling hopelessly inadequate, hideously ugly, impossibly fat, meekly small, and direly insignificant. These deep-rooted insecurities are what provided them with a die-hard desire and unrelenting ambition to be seen, respected, and accepted by their peers. Society will accept you for your flaws, so long as you’re funny. Taking on the role as the class clown at school is the ultimate way for the incessantly bullied kid to gain popularity. – Author Zara

Humor becomes the ultimate mask—one that gets you what you’ve always wanted (acceptance) for being the opposite of who you’ve always been (different). Not surprisingly, this detachment from the emotions and the identity hidden behind the mask can have profound effects on relationships, on professional life, and on overall happiness.” – Lewis Howes

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

I read this and I just couldn’t relate.  This part of the book is focusing on how bad “comedy” may be.  So someone, like myself, who loves to make someone laugh, is hiding something? Is that it? Absolutely not.  I know that the more we laugh and have those feelings of joy, the more we attract to us more of those feelings that will keep pushing us to a spiritual and joy “high.”

What Robin Williams had was something much more deep-rooted in his childhood.  Kevin Hart, who’s a comedian, had very little when he was growing up.  He used all of the transgressions in the past as comedy today.  He’s not hiding a thing….or so I believe.

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Feelings of Sadness – Identified The Problem & Set Myself Up To Win

I, just like everyone else, have the same problems just like any other human being on this planet.  There are times that I get sucked into a state of mind that I can’t escape for several hours.  A feeling of discontent; probably stemming from a mishap, miscommunication, and depreciation of another human being.  Yes, someone who I thought was awesome turned into a needy, materialistic princess.  This past Tuesday was Day 1.  I knew that it wasn’t going to work, so I distanced myself immediately and she vanished.  However, that void needs to be filled.  Because the void isn’t filled yet, there was a feeling of emptiness throughout the day that put me into a melancholic state of mind.

So, what did I do?

Step 1: Look Back At The Wheel of Life

So, because the Romantic Relationship aspect of my wheel plummeted significantly, this explains why I’m experiencing such feelings.  Someone just walked right out of my life.  Understandable.  The feelings I had going on explained my current state of mind.  Anytime a category falls very fast, very quickly, you’re going to experience ‘negative’ feelings.  Not talking to her anymore means that void is open.  The void is open and it has to be filled.

I went on to ask myself ‘what areas of my life am I neglecting currently? Friends and Hobbies. 

Sure, I went on a trip to Kanchanaburi recently, but then it was overshadowed by constant nagging and resulted in a fallout.  I need to also look back and ask myself, “what am I doing on a routine basis that brings me joy?” Sure, running and working out, but I’m talking about in the friendship realm.  My best friend, who I’ve known for the longest, is a goner.  Someone who I spent a great amount of time talking to on a routine basis is now gone. A couple others’ communications are decreasing significantly….so what should I do? MAKE NEW FRIENDS!

There’s an app I use on a routine basis that landed me three purposeful relationships as of late; most notably, a teacher in Costa Rica that gave me an email that changed my life (later podcast). These people can come and go, though.  In retrospect, history has shown that I can create some lifelong relationships with some individuals.  I decided to sign up for some activities with the gym I go to.  There’s a massive park activity happening on the 16th of December where a lot of people will compete in a competition.  This is where I can meet likeminded people who are on the same wavelengths as me.  BOOM! I never used to do this because of work obligations, but now it’s time to become selfish and put “me” first.

This will fulfill the void soon and I’ll be able to meet people.

Practice What I Preached: Keep Myself Busy

Depression, which I don’t have, happens because you’re focusing too much on yourself rather than other people.  On days I have a lot of free-time, I schedule blogs, podcasts, videos, do writing, research, set up ads and other things.  I keep myself as busy as possible and this works because I take my mind off things I cannot control (circle of concern) and focus primarily on things I can control (circle of influence).

Anytime you’re in the gutter, look at the eight categories: personal development, physical environment, romantic relationships, fun & hobbies, family and friends, career, wealth, health.  When you do this, you can identify the problem and solve it rather than letting it seep into your next workday, week, month, or even year.

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Final Book Review: Dale Carnegie’s How To Stop Worrying & Start Living + Podcasts

Ladies & gents, we have reached our last podcast and full review of one of the most awe-inspiring and life-transforming books in the market.  The best kept secret.  A book that was written over 70 years ago has changed the way I approach situations now.  For those of you who have followed me podcast-by-podcast on this extraordinarily long journey, special thanks to all of you! This is the end, and for those of you who are just tuning in, here are my favorite fundamentals + podcasts!

Principle #1 – Live In “Day-Tight Compartments”

“Our main business is not to se what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.” – Thomas Carlyle

It’s funny I put that quote because at the time, I was in a relationship.  A relationship whereas we weren’t very sure about the future.  Writing this now that relationship ended, but the both of us did so in an agreement since she’s moving abroad to study piano pedagogy and my future is here in Asia.  She listened to this particular podcast down below and asked me at the gym, “I think we should live in day-tight compartments and stop worrying about the what if.” That what if did become reality, but we’re venturing out on magnificent journeys now.

Principle #3 – What Worry May Do To You 

There was a study done years ago on 15,000 patients which were treated for stomach disorders at the Mayo Clinic.  Four out of five patients had no physical basis whatever for their stomach illnesses.  Fear, worry, hate, selfishness, and the inability to adjust themselves to the world of reality were largely the causes of their stomach illnesses.

Principle #7 – Don’t Let The Beetles Get You Down

Back in 1945, under 276 feet of water, a Japanese mine layer began dropping depth charges on us.  Six depth charges exploded all around us and pushed us down to the ocean floor – a depth of 276 feet.  We were terrified.  To be attacked in less than a thousand feet of water is dangerous – less than five hundred is almost fatal.  And we were being attacked in more than half of five hundred feet of water.  For fifteen hours, bombs went off relentlessly until the mine layer exhausted its supply of charges.  My life was passed by me in review.  I remembered all of the bad things I’ve done as a child.  From my wife nagging at me, to my boss complaining at a job I absolutely hated.  I was worried when I got a scar on my forehead – a nasty cut from an auto accident.

Funny how big all those worries seemed years ago! I promised myself then and there if I ever saw the sun and the stars again, I would never, never worry again. NEVER!

Principle #8 – A Law That Will Outlaw Many of Your Worries

From Bangkok-Phuket, and from Honolulu-Maui, I’ve been apart of some of the scariest plane rides imaginable that literally “up the ante” on how scared I was of flying.

When I was a child, I saw the planes hit the towers.  5 years later, I got on my first ever plane ride from Las Vegas to Phoenix to check out a college and boy, I was in tears while my friend slept.  What am I trying to say, the averages of a plane going down, especially in America, is unbelievably minute.

Principle #10 – Put A “Stop-loss” Order On Your Worries

Two years ago, I had two friends: Mook and Ploy.  These two individuals were notorious for showing up hours late, and I would just sit there, looking like a clown, as if they were actually going to show up.

Two years later I came across this particular chapter and said, “man, if only I had known this at the time! I would’ve given them a 10 minute grace period before taking off instead of hanging around for an hour!”

Principle #16 – Find Yourself and Be Yourself: Remember, There Is No One Else On Earth Like You

Your hair, freckles, weight, color, height, gender, nationality….doesn’t matter.  These are all labels that society has given us.  However, there will never be another Arsenio Buck, and there will never be another YOU! Yes, the reader of this blog….so you have one life, and I dare you to go roaring in the dying of the light ‘Dylan Thomas Quote.”

Another notable podcasts to listen to

  • Don’t Try To Saw Sawdust
  • Eight Words That Can Transform Your Life
  • The High Cost of Getting Even
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How To Cure Depression In Fourteen Days

Psychiatrist Alfred Adler, “you can be cured in fourteen days if you follow this prescription.  Try to think every day how you can please someone.

There are a few things that I’ve talked about in my podcast, and there are some things that I told everyone that I would prefer writing down so you guys can have it at hand (for those who are reading around the world).  Here is what psychiatrist Alfred Adler said to his patients. *Long Story*

Melancholia is like a long-continued rage and reproach against others, though for the purpose of gaining care, sympathy and support, the patient seems only to be dejected about his own guilt. A melancholiac’s first memory is generally something like this: “I remember I wanted to lie on the couch, but my brother was lying there.  I cried so much that he had to leave.”

Melancholiacs are often inclined to revenge themselves by coming suicide, and the doctor’s first care is to avoid giving them an excuse for suicide.  I myself try to relieve the whole tension by proposing to them, as the first rule in treatment, “Never do anything you don’t like.”  This seems to be very modest, but I believe that it goes to the root of the whole trouble.  If a melancholiac is able to do anything he wants, whom can he cause? What has he got to revenge himself for? “If you want to go to the theater,” I tell him, “or to go on a holiday, do it.  If you find on the way that you don’t want to, stop it.”  It is the best situation any could be in.  It gives a satisfaction to his striving for superiority.”

That’s an interesting take.  It seems that everyone, including myself, who is or has been depressed…uses the personal pronoun “I” quite often.  I’ve been depressed three times (if I can recall) in my life, and it was all based on my personal wants and needs.  There was one time that I felt like a spec in the world and that I wasn’t wanted anymore, but I snapped out of that in a minute and a half.

In my podcast, I go over some stories and how you can rid yourself (possibly) from depression.  This is unlicensed, but it is professional.