Choice

Everyone has a choice.  In the beginning, we all come into this world naked, scare, and ignorant to everything.  We have no color, no nationality, no nothing – just a name.

When it comes to our choices, they can be our best friend or worst enemy.  Sit back and think about it.  Everything in our life exists and is the way it is because of our choices. The choices we make are the roots of all our results.

My mother, unfortunately, has made a choice to live in the same neighborhood where gunshots are heard on a nightly basis.  Could she leave? Yes.  Why doesn’t she? Because she’s comfortable living uncomfortably.

African Americans in low-socio economic states in the likes of Gary, Indiana, to Flint, Michigan…..they make a choice everyday to go left, or do what’s right.  Everyone has it.

“For instance, have you ever been going about your business, enjoying your life, when all of sudden you made a stupid choice or series of small choices that ultimately sabotaged your hard work and momentum, all for no apparent reason? You didn’t intend to sabotage yourself, but by not thinking about your decisions—weighing the risks and potential outcomes—you found yourself facing unintended consequences. Nobody intends to become obese, go through bankruptcy, or get a divorce, but often (if not always) those consequences are the result of a series of small, poor choices.” – Darren Hardy

I recall having siblings and even friends coming home saying, “I ate a sandwich for lunch” – only to find them eat frozen food, packed with sodium and trans fat.  That small, mindless, thoughtless decision they made literally sabotage that “one good meal” they had previously.  A lot of people around the world don’t have intentions on becoming fat.  They don’t wake up one day and say to themselves, “fat is the new thing! I’m going to become obese so my organs can work double/triple and hammer my gut flora.”  Of course not.  However, unconsciously they make a series of poor A$$ decisions that lead them to the demise of…..them.

Podcast

Stephen Covey – At The Center: Who Are You?

In order to write a personal mission statement, we have to begin at the Circle of Influence, that center that’s compiled of our most basic paradigms.

Whatever is at the centre of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom, and power.

Remember, security represents our self worth, self-esteem, and our basic personal strength or lack of it.

Guidance represents the source of direction and decision-making in our lives.

Wisdom is our perspective on life and sense of balance.

Last but not least, power is the faculty or capacity to act.

When these four factors are present together, they create a noble personality, a balanced character, and a beautifully integrated individual.

You’re probably asking yourself, “where do I stand?” Well, that’s what this next chart will indicate for you to find out your influence.  You can trace it back to the centre, the genesis and figure out if it’s actually holding you back.

For example, if you’re friend centered, you are highly dependent on the opinions of others.   You’re also easily embarrassed by other people and you see the world through a social lens.

The best way I can describe Thai society is definitely self-centred.  Everything revolves around, “if it feels good, what I want, what I need, what’s in it for me.”  The view of 80% of the lives of people living within these borders revolves around how decisions, events and circumstances affect you.

Most foreigners who visit Thailand is pleasure centered.  You feel secure only when you’re on a pleasure “high.”  You make decisions based on what will give you the most pleasure.  You only see the world for what’s in it for you.  Security is also short lived.

If you want to know about every category, tune into my podcast down below.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10321998