Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: IELTS Speaking – Part 1 – Future

We’re back with some more IELTS! And because my other IELTS blogs have been viewed a dozen times a day, I decided to create some more. In addition, if you guys are interested in the Part II & III, it’s available on my IELTS Patreon!


What job would you like to have ten years from now? [Why]]

How useful will English be for your future? [Why/why not]

How much traveling do you hope to do in the future? [Why/why not]

How do you think your life will change in the future? [Why/why not]


Listen closely to the question. What job would…..that’s an imaginary situation, right? So your goal is to think outside the box and think of a job in the future. Now, of course you can add additional information in terms of having a portfolio and passive income, but the main goal is to understand the question. I’ve had a number of students go completely off topic, but they still achieved a 6.5 score. Imagine if they can stay on TOPIC.

How useful will English be for YOUR FUTURE

Very important to understand “your” future and not the general public’s future. Students get confused with “the” future and “your” future, so be sure to listen closely to the topic. .

How much traveling do you hope to do in the future.

Pick a common ground. You can even say, “well, not that much because…..”//or “lots because my goal is to give presentations and have an international business.” There’s no wrong answer, but it’s all about picking the tense that you will use.

How do you think you life will change in the future.

Your life can change for a number of reasons, so it’s about explaining why you think it would change. Remember, use your prior explanations about English and it being important for your future to help guide you.


Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 129 – Vocabulary – Communication – Communication Breakdown

We’re on the last stretch of episodes! It’s been a long time coming and this season is going to be coming to an end very soon! Nonetheless, we got some really interesting lessons coming up for the last segment and then we’ll be kicking off the Advanced Season 5, which will be very difficult. Get ready!

Match these expressions with six definitions. what do the other expressions mean?

  • Find something puzzling
  • get the wrong end of the stick
  • imply something
  • make a gaffe
  • make a witty remark
  • Misinterpret something/someone
  • offend someone unintentionally
  • take something literally
  • talk at cross purposes
  • understand nuances
  1. Misunder something
  2. when two people think they’re talking about the same thing but in fact they aren’t
  3. make someone upset and angry without meaning to
  4. make an embarrassing mistake in public, especially one that upsets someone
  5. say something (clever or funny)
  6. understand slight differences that may be difficult to notice but are important.


Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 128 – Developing Writing – Writing a Cover Letter

We’re back with some developing writing today and this is going to be a good one for a lot of you applying for jobs. Here’s a sample letter of someone who’s interested in a job ad for a cruise line.

I am writing in response to your advertisement which appeared in the New York Times last week. I am particularly interested in the position as a waitress.

I am a 24-year-old and I have just finished working for Carnival Cruise Lines. I am planning on studying languages overseas in 12 months’ time but feel that it would be beneficial to me to experience the world of work before resuming my full-time studies. I would welcome the opportunity to work and travel on a cruise ship.

I believe that I’m well-suited for this job. Last summer I had experience of working as a waitress at an Italian restaurant in which I worked part-time for two months. In addition to this, I can speak French and Spanish fluently and believe that knowledge of three languages would be highly useful on a cruise ship with international passengers, some of whom will speak no English.

As for my personal qualities, I consider myself to be very dynamic, being keen on all types of sports. I also believe I am highly social as I love meeting new people. I feel sure that these two qualities will help me to give prompt, friendly service.

I would be delighted to attend an interview at your earlier convenience. As requested, I enclose my curriculum vitae and the contact details of my reference, Mr. Jacoby Harrison, for whom I worked at the italian restaurant.

How to Understand a Job Ad and Answer all Questions — In the podcast

Your Turn!

Summer on the farm!

Working with acres of organic gardens, teaching children about the environment, enjoying beautiful swimming in the river. Sound appealing?

Edalan Farm is looking for seasonal staff form June to September. Duties include light work on the farm, meal preparation, organizing and leading activities for children.

Reasonable pay and accommodation provided. Good level of English is essential. Driving licence preferred.

A great opportunity to spend the summer in England.

Write your letter and make sure you post it below!

Also, if you want the template on how to write a cover letter, it’s on all badges on my patreon


Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 126 – Grammar – Prepositions in Relative Clauses

When we need a preposition with the relative pronouns which, whom, or whose, the preposition can come before the relative pronoun. This is generally more formal.

I studied with an American professor from whom I learned many fascinating things. = more formal.

I studied with an American professor who I learned many fascinating things from. = less formal.

This is the office in which I worked. = more formal

This is the office which I worked in. = less formal

We cannot use that after prepositions.

After a preposition, who become whom.

Prepositions appear in several noun phrases which contain relative pronouns, e.g.

some of which/whom, many which/whom, most of which/whom, the first/last of which/whom.

They also appear in several adverbial phrases which contain relative pronouns, e.g.

In which case, at which point, for which reason.

Rewrite these sentences to make them more formal.

  1. The recruitment officer is the person who I spoke to.
  2. She is the teacher whose class I studied in.
  3. They are the colleagues that I worked with.
  4. The director was a person I had great respect for.
  5. There are some things that we have no control over.


Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Free 10 Days of Patreon is Now Available!

Speaker 1: (00:00)
Back to another ESL podcast, everyone and I am so excited, excited, excited, excited. Because what I’m doing right now for all of you, yes this is a trailer, but a lot of you do not understand the things that I’m actually putting out there. You don’t know about a lot of it. So again, if you’re living in America, this probably doesn’t relate to you so much in terms of the test preparation, but the other things do. So when what this is about is my patrion and all my patron. I finally toggled everything and now I’m beginning to get a lot of inquiries about it. So what I want to tell you guys is if you are learning TOEIC or [inaudible], if you actually go onto my Patrion, which I’ll provide in the link down below, you will be able to get 10 days for free. 

Speaker 1: (00:50)
So you’re going to be able to test everything out for 10 days. And the most beautiful part about this is guess what? At the first of the month, that’s when you would be charged. And if you do not like it, all you have to do is of course cancel before the first of the month. So you have 10 days to say, Hey, oh, you know what? This is very useful. I’m going to go through with it. And on the first of the month I’m going to begin being a paid member of our, you know, our Cineos Patrion and I’m going to support this. Not only that, but actually enable myself to grow in whatever area of English that you’re trying to grow in. So I’m very, very excited about this because a lot of students from Vietnam have approached me with a lot of different inquiry’s. 

Speaker 1: (01:35)
There are other people saying, how can I learn English? What can I do? What can I do here and there? So now I’m following up with everything, telling them, hey, I think you should test this out for a little bit. You’re going to get all of these things here. And then you know what? If you want the silver badge, the gold badge. So what I’m going to do, I’m going to break these down very quickly. So with TOEIC, if you are learning to wick, the TOEIC badge provides obviously lessons in all areas of parts one through seven. So of course you have the photographs part one, part two question and response. I think part three is short conversations in fours, just like that. Two part five grammar, part six is additional grammar ones, incomplete sentences, which I believe is part five and then part six grammar, multiple choice. 

Speaker 1: (02:25)
Then the crazy reading comprehension, which is part seven. Basically what I would do is do reading on one day. I would do listening on another day and then I would cover grammar on another day. Then I would actually do a live Q and a for you guys probably on a Saturday and Sunday. So you can answer so you can ask me questions and I’ll also, these come with the audio and the video and the worksheets and the pdf and the audio. You basically get everything in there and all of it’s exclusive because you won’t see any of that on this podcast going forward. Right? So on this podcast you would get different stuff, different material. But again, if you want additional material on top of that, that goes deeper, you could go onto my page here on TOEIC. Same thing with ILT aisles. When I kicked that off, that’s going to be obviously at a higher premium, but I have to cover a lot of different things. 

Speaker 1: (03:18)
The reading is extremely difficult to cover. Then you have the variety and the building up of writing an essays. People be able to submit their essays and submitted by word doc and Google doc so I can correct it. So yes, that’s going to be at a much higher premium. Um, and I’m thinking about bringing on a second person to check the essays and stuff like that too. But nonetheless, all of this is going to be, you guys can ask me more questions about each tier and whatnot. So you have the TOEIC badge, which is, you know, one of the tiers, the ILDs badge, that’s another tier. And then you have the bronze, silver, and gold badge. So for everyone else who isn’t learning the specific test preparation courses, you have a $10 here, $25 here, and a $50 here. The Fi, the $10 here is basically the worksheets, the vocabulary, the building up of writing and reading material. 

Speaker 1: (04:11)
Okay. As well as probably a podcast here and there, you know, as a pop up from what might be featured in the silver tier. So the silver, I’m sorry, the silver badge, it has everything from the bronze badge and then it has free coaching hours. It has audios of each of the things on that specific in this specific bronze badge. So whatever you get in there, it’s an audio and video form over there. Plus you get additional webinars, additional Q and A’s. And we will do interviews and podcasts and coaching of course. Uh, and then the videos on top of that. And on top of a few other things and other people who I would probably bring into the gold badge as well as advanced teplin templates and different life skill, uh, uh, things like in terms of like succeeding in interviews and you know, doing videos on Q and A’s instead of just asking questions. 

Speaker 1: (05:10)
There are a lot of things that are being offered within these three specific tiers. So again, I am so, so excited about this. I want it to hurry up and just give everyone a nice for. Um, what does it just give you guys a rundown of what’s being offered and you have 10 days to act, 11 days to act again. If you act now, you’ll be able to get all, you know, the access of everything. And then after that, hey, guess what? You’re going to be able to have everything at your disposal, which is so, so exciting because then, hey, all those little things, people who are committed to them, and this is what I love about Vietnamese students, they come up to me, they said, I can’t remember vocab. I need to do this. I need to practice this, I need to do this. 

Speaker 1: (05:54)
And I’m like, okay, I got you. I said, is what we’re gonna do? We’re gonna do this, this, this, this, this. And I said, once you start doing this, we’re going to do this. And they’re like, absolutely, I’m excited. And so there is no, Oh, well, I’m not really sure. Kind of like with Thai students, they never really know. And they’re always indecisive with things in terms of learning English because again, they don’t love it. They’re forced to learn it, therefore they hate it. But in Vietnam and other places around the world is completely different. Again, this might be based on individualism. Okay. It might be that all the individuals who I’ve taught out here in Thailand have this, has this type of mentality or maybe not. So nonetheless. And with that being said, I’m so excited. Make sure you check the link. Make sure you email me. I’ll be waiting for all your responses. So as always, I’m your host Arsenio, over and out.

Patreon Badge Details

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This is the first badge of the three.  This badge is $10 and it will feature the following things. 

– Personalize lessons that cater to Patrons

– Writing

– Vocabulary

– Reading

– Worksheets

– PDF’s

– Academic Writing (once a week)

Silver Badge

This is the second badge of the three, and it will feature the same things from the Bronze badge +

– Personalize lessons that cater to Patrons

– Writing

– Vocabulary

– Reading

– Worksheets

– PDF’s

– Academic Writing (once a week)

– Audios for each lesson

– Additional audiocasts on a weekly basis

– Speaking Task

– A video a week.

Gold Badge

This is the biggest badge of them all! The Bronze Badge and Silver Badge will be in this one including the following. 

– Personalize lessons that cater to Patrons

– Writing

– Vocabulary

– Reading

– Worksheets

– PDF’s

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– Audios for each lesson

– Additional audiocasts on a weekly basis

– Speaking Task

– A video a week.

– One free hour coaching a month (additional session can be added on).

– Live exclusive video

– Q & A

– Videos along with the audiocasts.


This tier is for those who are budget-tight. TOEIC, which is a test preparation course, is featured not only on my blogs and YouTube videos, but now I will begin putting exclusive material here. 

– Weekly Lessons on Reading, Listening & Grammar

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– Worksheets

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For students who are wanting to learn IELTS around the world, this tier is for serious learners who want exclusive IELTS content. 

– Listening techniques

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In addition, there will be a range of videos, Q & A’s, and even live coaching (and 1:2:1 coaching twice a month for two hours total). 

There will also be free-writing and free speaking prompts, as well as videos and audio casts (three times a week) for students to study.  Lots of writing samples and you will also have the ability to get 2 writing tasks 1’s and 2 writing tasks 2’s graded.  Any additional writing tasks can be purchased in a bundle. 

Topic requests and videos based on the questions will also be made, so be sure to communicate within the group with me and the other Patrons!



Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 125 – Advantages & Disadvantages of Interning

Speaker 1: (00:00)
Guys, welcome back to another, ESL podcast and man, I’m your crazy ass host as always of the one and only the latte and only Arsenio and today. Oh yeah, we’re talking about possible advantages and disadvantages of the good oh internship. So I got some good, good, good vocabulary terms for you guys. Okay. These are things that you could do in your writing assessments, your writing task or any writing in general. Even if you’re writing blogs, it’s all good to differentiate your wording. Now if you guys have read my blogs before, you have probably have already seen that. Hey. Okay. So, um, with with some of your blogs you use very, very basic language, but then you use very descriptive language when you write your travel blogs yet because there are times that I’m lazy and I don’t want to use language and there are times that I use my language and I showcase my sentences.

Speaker 1: (00:54)
But anyways, with that being said, let’s get into this heavy workload. Okay. Now decide if these are possible advantages or disadvantages. Now, a heavy workload, you can stop the podcast, you can decide advantage, disadvantage. I’ll let you do that for one second. It is a disadvantage. Now, a heavy workload. That means guys, you are given a lot of work. If you’ve seen in any of the movies on Netflix, the series, whatever it may be, the interns, they’re always rudely, they’re always treated so poorly. If you look at Jimmy Fallen, if you look at CNN, Fox News, if you look at any of that, it’s just so disrespectful. So I would tell you, you know, all these late night show hosts, it’s just, I don’t, I don’t appreciate that. I just feel that empathy and happiness and you know, compassion and being grateful for every individual. I don’t care if you’re sitting on your high horse, meaning you think you’re a god because you’re on top of this and you’re a Kosho hose, whatever it may be, you need to show respect on all cylinders.

Speaker 1: (02:01)
And if you don’t do that, just like what Steve Jobs didn’t do, guess what? It’s going to come back and bite you in some of the most egregious ways, meaning horrible ways. So guys, please, if you have a heavy workload and people are giving you so much in, you’re being mistreated. It’s a good opera. It’s a good way to for you to actually just go about your, you know, just find another internship. Remember what I told you about the externship? Right. When I did an externship at the CSN dental faculty practice in Las Vegas, Nevada. I was working with the doctor by the name. He’s not a doctor, a dentist by the name of Dr. Pierce, and he mistreated me. Okay, now is this because of color? Well, him being an old generation Junky, him being a dentist for over 34 years and being from Utah, the chances of that being, you know, being, you know true, are probably true, but he ended up realizing that I was very good.

Speaker 1: (02:59)
Then he ended up treating me with some respects and he shared some of his stories about, I just didn’t send to Reni, Greece, l sorry, I have my British accent. I don’t know how to do American accents. Anyway, he said he was in Santa Rita, this and that. Guys, I had heavy workloads. Who cares. I’m done with that story. So let’s let Bob that story. Anyway, so here we go. Career advancement. So is this a specific company where you can advance your career based on what you do? This is very important now. Okay. This is something to consider because being a teacher, yes, career advancement, but you have to think way outside the box. You have to drop the discipline like Katrina Glassberg setting. You need to add the mindfulness. You need to become someone of value. Now, being a teacher, there is career advancement. If you stop teaching in a school, right?

Speaker 1: (03:51)
And stop calling yourself just to teach teacher. See, I’m a coach, I’m a trainer. I’m many other things. A lot of people say, are you a teacher? For people who I want them to look at me just as a teacher. Okay, yes, I’m a teacher. That’s all I do. Oh, that’s so sad. Yeah. And I’d tell me about it. They don’t really know what I do. Right. But career advancement is everything. If you enter a company just as you know, a janitor, just like what Les Brown did and he ultimately ended up becoming a dish Dachille and a radio host that’s called career advancement. Although he went in an entry level job where he was just sweeping and mopping floors, he ended up becoming the Jack of all trades in his respective field. Pretty cool. Huh? So insight into how a company works that is very, very, very good.

Speaker 1: (04:38)
Okay. Because that’s very important. Remember I told you work for someone for free or free volunteer for free if you’re young, if you’re 40, Nah, not really. If you can, you can. Okay. But if you cannot and you need that money, all by all means. I used to have a content writer with me by the name of Juwann. She used to get all these different, uh, little internships and whatnot. I’m like, okay, is the internship, but they’re not paying you? No. I’m like, ah, yeah, you are more than capable of doing work outside and you know, get him paid for it. She’s like, I know. I was like, Nah, I think you should turn this down if they’re not going to pay you. You know what I mean? So insight on how a company works, very, very important. But at the same aspect, you need to be paid a what you’re worth.

Speaker 1: (05:28)
Always remember that now long antisocial hours. I’ve never heard of antisocial hours before, but long hours again, that’s not fun. I have a student currently, um, who I’m going to be teaching this morning as a matter of fact, and she has very, she, I told her, I said, if you work for the real estate job, what time do you work? Oh, I work at nine. What time do you finish? Maybe eight. I said, that’s bull. So that’s, that’s terrible hours. Now me, a lot of you would ask me, don’t you do that? Well, I used to do that on the weekends, but now I’m in control of my weekends, which is the best, right? So when I talk about working long hours, um, it’s very, very important to understand that if I’m working long hours, I have breaks in between. So if I work from eight 30 to 1:00 PM okay, finish and then I will work from like one to 3:00 PM five 30.

Speaker 1: (06:22)
Uh, this time I’m, I mean it would just be too much. I remember one time I worked from eight 30 to eight 30 at night. And to be honest with you, was it even worth the money? Absolutely not because that’s when my health deteriorated. So be careful with your health. Be careful with working long hours, especially if you’re just an intern. Mundane tasks. What does mundane tasks mean? This is a disadvantage. Okay. Just as long as antisocial hours are disadvantaged to mundane task or doing the boring things, some people would consider them not to be born. So this, this is what I do. Let me give you an example. And not in terms of internship, but in terms of my clothes, right? I washed my clothes, but I do not iron them. I take them down the street, which I’m going to take them today, uh, right down the street so they can iron them for me.

Speaker 1: (07:11)
Some people would say, how come you don’t hire them? I am not going to waste an entire evening when I can be creating so many different things and establishing relationships, ironing clothes that other people enjoy to do. That’s all. It’s kind of like my friend and I, Luke, Luke, motivational mentors. That’s another podcast I have. By the way, you guys will hear a lot of craziness with me on there. We interview entrepreneurs and amazing mindset coaches around the world, and when it comes to Luke and I, we realize, hey, we’re going to need a VA, a virtual assistant. We found one by the name of Reais sent all the details and whatnot. He said, okay, listen, we’re going to have to delegate these tasks, but we’re going to have to pay for it. And I’m like, okay. I completely understand that. But at the same token, we need to understand that we need to be covering overhead of at least $200 a month to be able to delegate all these tasks to a VA.

Speaker 1: (08:07)
So let’s under it, let’s, that. This shouldn’t be coming out of our pocket. It should be coming out of this, you know, out of our stipend that we’re actually making online. So he’s like, yeah, I was thinking about launching in October and then you know, in October we’re going to bring the VA on. I’m like, yeah, but the thing is when we launch it, what exactly, you know, who do we have that’s actually doing all the research and this and that. Hey, I think we should lay off on the VA until November just because I think we’ll be able to have some, we need to be able to make $200 minimum to cover the VA and unless we have a ridiculous amount of work and people are buying big packages, that is it. Does that make sense guys? So mundane task, let me focus on the Monday task again.

Speaker 1: (08:52)
What it is is a boring task that we do not want to do, right? So what I would do is like send my show notes to a content writer who would like writing up the show notes. Although that was kind of like a task that really didn’t work at all. Um, Monday task and be like, Yah, let’s say, ah, here we go. Creating the test. Okay. Creating beautiful templates, creating, uh, teaching profiles and coaching profiles. One, I don’t know how to do any of that too. I know someone that knows how to do that. She’s a fantastic, amazing individual, beautiful soul from mosquito university. And these people do not realize the potential that they have within their mind in terms of creations. I noticed it when I was doing a big a workshop at a manufacturing company here in Thailand and I realized, I looked at these little cars, that things that she made.

Speaker 1: (09:41)
I was like, how’d you do that? And I’m like, oh, I need her on my tape. I need her on my team. So one time I needed a PowerPoint done, but me, man, my powerpoints are ugly, very, very ugly. So I told her, I say, hey man, I got this big Bangkok international digital conference coming up. Could you please, um, create, um, you know, a, a PowerPoint that looks appealing. She did in the matter of five minutes and it was gorgeous. She made a test, a pretest, same thing. Absolutely gorgeous. She made a post test, absolutely gorgeous. She made these profiles. Unbelievable. You see, these are mundane tasks to me that would take hours for me to do, but for her it will be great. So as an intern you would get these mundane tasks because a lot of people would just throw a lot of different things on you, so be very, very careful if you’re interning, to learn, not to just get things thrown at you.

Speaker 1: (10:35)
All right. Networking opportunities. Yes. As an intern, you can develop your personality, you can develop your capabilities, you can develop your integrity. There’s a lot of different things that you can develop within your core values that can permeate meanings spread throughout the department. Whereas people are like, do we need you on our team? You are fantastic and you can actually begin shaking hands of other people have different departments and that can lead to other opportunities. That’s very, very important as an intern on the job training. Yes. Learn everything as an intern. Become the most valuable member. Learn skillsets. The more you learn, the more you earn. A right? Because if there’s one day where the boss wakes up and says, oh, we got to get rid of some people and they look at you, they’d be like, oh, he knows too much. We can’t get rid of him becoming an asset of the company.

Speaker 1: (11:25)
And of course perks, perks, our advantages, right? Little things that you would be given. Now as an intern, you won’t be given anything but working for a company like Google, you would be given everything. There are lots of amazing perks that you would get for working at a place such as Google, such as having your own car, having this, having that, oh my God, it’s just amazing, right? You have sleeping pods within the office. Go check it out, go on youtube and go watch that video. So guys, advantages, disadvantages. I just went over them and hopefully you’ll be able to consider yourself and figure out what you would like to do in terms of an internship and whatnot. So, Huh guys, so much more coming up. As always, we have a listening. We are going to listen to a podcast on my podcast about internships and have conversations about it.

Speaker 1: (12:16)
I’m hoping to bring someone on for my developing a speaking task along with a really good episode. We’re going to write a cover letter, which is going to be very, very fascinating along with prepositions in relative clauses. Some more grammar, Huh? So would that be, and say, guys, thank you for to today, do another ESL podcast. Man, I’m your crazy ass host. As usual, if you have any questions, fire them away and make sure you share my podcast, review it and tell everyone about it. I would be greatly appreciative of it, if that makes sense.


Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 116 – Vocabulary + Speaking – Metaphors – Happiness and Sadness

This is a super interesting podcast and one that’s very highly sought after because people loved it. Nonetheless, tune into ways you can use metaphors of happiness and sadness, as well as the speaking task in my podcast down below.

Complete the metaphors with these words: air, cloud, lift, moon, seventh, up, world

  1. Things are looking _________.
  2. This will __________ your spirits.
  3. I’ve been walking/floating on__________ since I got the news.
  4. She’s over the __________.
  5. They’re on top of the ________/on__________nine/in__________heaven.

These expressions describe sadness.

  1. She’s feeling blue.
  2. Things are looking gloomy/bleak.
  3. I’ve been feeling a bit down/low recently.
  4. My heart sank when I found out.
  5. It cast a shadow over the meal.
  6. She’s in low spirits.
  7. I’m feeling down in the dumps today.


Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 115 – Grammar – Making & Modifying Comparisons

We’re back! It’s been a while since I’ve posted some blogs, but here are the rules, as promised!

We use less with uncountable nouns and fewer with countable nouns.

We have less money than before. We have fewer chances of success.

We use as…as to say two things are the same. We use not as….as or not so….as to say that the second person or thing is more….than the first one.

Playing tennis isn’t so expensive as paragliding.

We use (not) the same… to compare nouns.

This sport doesn’t offer the same excitement as motor racing.

We use double comparatives (more and more, bigger and bigger, more and more important) to talk about continuing changes.

She’s getting more and more tired.

She’s getting taller and taller.

we use The + comparative, the + comparative to talk about two things that happen together.

The faster I run, the more tired I feel.

The harder you study, the better your results.

Modifying Comparisons

We can use these words and expressions to modify basic comparatives: slightly, a bit, a lot, a great deal, much, far, twice/three times…

He’s far better at tennis than me.

We can use these words and expressions to modify superlatives: by far, easily, by a long way.

She’s by far the best athlete in the world right now.

We can use these words and expressions to modify (not) as….as: quite, nearly, almost, just, twice/three times, nowhere near, nothing like

She’s not nearly as careful as me.


Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 117 – Vocabulary – Life and Career Developments

In a vastly changing world, careers of the past are just that — the past. With the emerging world of technology, people are quickly trying to adapt to learning a skill set instead of a simple “job,” or else….they’ll be left on a burner. Here are some expressions about life and career developments.

When Andy left school, he decided to follow in his older sister’s footsteps and enroll on a course to become a chef. The course he chose involved serving an apprenticeship in a well-known restaurant. Working in the restaurant gave him valuable insight into how a professional kitchen works. It took a while for him to settle in and find his feet. He also had to overcome some important setbacks in his personal life during the course, but he didn’t put his career on hold for them. Andy has lots of aspirations and drive. He wants to get on in life and isn’t afraid to try his hand at anything. He has already accomplished so much in a short time. Since he started the course, he’s never looked back and now he’s at the top of his game. One day he could even end up running his own restaurant.

Gateway B2+
  1. Succeeded in doing something
  2. Learn about a job by actually doing it
  3. Do an activity for the first time, to see if you like it
  4. Put your name on an official list of students
  5. Get a chance to understand something or learn more about it
  6. Become familiar with something new
  7. Succeed in dealing with problems
  8. Stop something from happening now, but it may happen later.


Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: International Speaker (Self-Sabotage Series) – Veronika of Russia

Speaker 1: (00:01)
Guys. Well, welcome back to another Arsenio’s ESL podcast and today is the Self-Sabotage Series Finale!

Oh my goodness. I got my Russian stallion. Oh my gosh, she’s a wonderful soul. You know what? I brought her on here to talk about the crazy things she saw in Colombo, the things she saw in Thailand and New Zealand. So many things she has overcome in general. You know what, we’re going to top this off with a bang today. So for Radhika, thank you so much for coming back. Thanks so much. I love you energy. It’s always, um, and through that it fires me out. Pusher guys, nice to meet you as I think you said. My name is Veronica. I’ve been in two pockets podcast. So He’s the [inaudible] and uh, a little bit of story about me. I grew up in Russia. I’m two 15 years old. I’ve loved to come through trying to pursue something else. 

Speaker 2: (01:08)
I had a huge ambition that I wanted to fulfill and I’ll, I left to explore the Asia, China, Thailand, [inaudible] it would be the of Indonesia. Well one, they’ll end it too. New Zealand. And then in New Zealand. Um, I’ve lived for one year and a half until I landed to Canada, but I am right now, candidly, amends abroad says all, um, my immigrational journey, um, uh, get into my a integration of process and as well as in the broad sense, oh, um, working on my coaching practice, um, that conveys people helping, um, empowering them to be the best version they can be. Um, I have [inaudible] big vision that I would do love to hopefully in a few years to come. And uh, one of the things that actually brought me to, um, coaching is self sabotage because a, lots of stories that happened in my life, that deed evolve out of itself. Sabotage cities. [inaudible] so 

Speaker 1: (02:25)
self sabotage. You know, you talked about medical school, we talked about a lot of things that you went through and 

Speaker 2: (02:34)
how much of that played a role 

Speaker 1: (02:37)
in your life. You know, you live in Russia at the age of 15, and you discovering yourself at such a young age. When did you become aware of it? 

Speaker 2: (02:50)
You mean when did they become aware of salts of others? Right, 

Speaker 1: (02:53)
right. So where did it play? A very, very, uh, you know, did it have a really big role in life? 

Speaker 2: (03:01)
Um, but the funny thing, I did not understand that while I was teenager. Um, if you go all the way back when the young was, the most influenced we have is comments from the social environment official, our parents, especially friends, school teammates, um, how I started noticing self-sabotage having need if like indict now and what that was before, um, was expressed in the few things closed. I was quite fat, I was close to Honda with key gs. Um, and now I’m 60 for comparison, so it’s almost minus 40 kgs. And I believe it’s more than, um, I use, uh, I think comes with cages is like more than 200 something pounds. So more than that. Um, so yeah. Um, and the way how I came to be like that is I over ate because my grandmother’s made me feel guilty for not eating the foods they cook for me with love. 

Speaker 2: (04:08)
Because, you know, when you come to grandma, she wants you to eat everything she wants you to be buys. She wants to deep needs, she wants you to thrice and you’re like, oh my God, I’m so stuffed in you making me eat that I had and I was lucky to have st grandma’s at the time. And that was lucky to have that. So you can’t imagine how much food I was stuffing in and the more food that was stuck in, in, um, because of the making me eat that, the more I disliked myself for doing that. I was feeling guilty for doing that, but they didn’t say anything or express myself because I thought by doing that I will be getting their love. You know what I mean? It’s a triangle. So I’ve sabotaged my hell to get the love through food, which became a pattern later on in life. 

Speaker 2: (05:05)
It became a pattern, right? So once I moved from younger age to teenage, the way how I will get love for myself, because I used to spend a lot of time alone between eight years old and 15 I was quite independent. My parents worked a lot. Um, I used to be quite mature and independent of age. I was using food as a way to have fun. So I would, uh, see the, the bed was orange juice, which is super awful combination and which cartoons, because there was no pattern for me to be next to me at the moment. So I was sharing my joy with food and eating food. And then again, teenage age. When you become fat, you started being bullied, you start being bullied and you feel sad, you feel depression. Where would you find joy? You learn the pattern that you will get love from food as a child. 

Speaker 2: (06:09)
So what you do, because you only know that pattern in that moment, you’re still small. He’s on this time that you go back to the food and you start stocking into your mom again. That was like probably as this is the most, uh, is the first and the most fundamental one for me that I, um, I discovered. But I discovered this sort of journey of losing weight as soon as the journey of, um, uh, actually learning to enjoy the results of that. Um, funny how it happened. The one day I stopped, um, I was not able to eat at all on the, um, I wasn’t a summer camp and I just, I eat food and just comes out with me. And a second event that triggered my, um, desire to lose weight for instance, is, um, me protecting a younger girl. There was a group of bullies in the summer camp that wanted to attack a young girl. The four of them, I didn’t like group. So I stood up for her and I got a duo in the forest at two o’clock in the afternoon as a whole Camp Julie Duel. 

Speaker 2: (07:35)
Um, you know, I loved Pushkin Pushkin died in a duo and I listen to all of that. Okay, fine. I’ll go to do a duel in the course. I went because I w I felt I’m a big girl, I can handle that. I was 10. Um, I wonder, cause fasting and then spending that and nine pretty can gills against one knee and then like, oh, math is not good. So can see there. Me Not being able to eat for a few days, um, me going there, I, even though I hit five of them, I wasn’t able to hit the rest for. So the heat maybe really bad. I felt really, and those two things made me question the way I look because it just, it, it’s just is the way I look, stopped leaking into the picture of me being strong because those girls broke my pattern. Thank you. 

Speaker 2: (08:45)
Wow. And that action triggered me into coming home and starting [inaudible] proper knowledge, staffing 18 different foods. Seeing how I feel, trying to understand, oh actually like how it looks like, oh I lost 10 kg is I like how it looks, what will happen? A, I lose extra 10. So I started in allowing myself to have alternative views, asking myself alternative questions and if you might know as the quality of questions and you find the quality of your own going life, you know, ongoing decisions. And that’s what I studied doing from the age of 11 and yeah, I, I know that sounds ridiculous. So that was the first moment of me subitizing myself big time. Wow. 

Speaker 1: (09:48)
At the age of 11, 11. I just, I think it’s amazing, you know, you say, you know what, I’m going to have a dual, you know, and you go out there and holding your ground against five others and the, they ended up ended up beating you real bad. But then everything tied in together, you don’t have to get in a bad beating. It made you just reconsider your entire thinking process of who you are yourself image. 

Speaker 3: (10:16)
And so, 

Speaker 1: (10:18)
wow. Um, okay. So after that, that, you know, when we talk about like self image and going forward at the age of 11, what did you do? 

Speaker 2: (10:28)
Okay, I been analyzed it again, when you being in chat, you can look, move fast, which means you cannot react fast to any in any incoming, uh, heating points. So, which means these applies to everything as a situation, logically speaking, right in your life, for instance. Um, how will they 

Speaker 2: (10:50)
Brooks from that, later on I started doing basketball and it has been basketball for quite some time and the, I lost weight, right? I grabbed this energy, I grabbed the space in my body to move around, but I wasn’t so yesterday, so I still was kind of like bulky. My first year in mosquito was a second moment of sabotaging that happened is pushing myself to the extreme of getting myself physical it because my body wasn’t just that that I did for it. So in basketball, any moments a pattern. Oh mean the beginning, you know, need to get love externally. 

Speaker 3: (11:34)

Speaker 2: (11:35)
Sort of the foot, that’s pattern. I thought I broke if I imagined that I’m thinking about this from my standpoint right now, but there’s good transferred into a different foam in basketball. I became so 

Speaker 2: (11:55)
good in terms of performance, peak performers speed. I’m jumping in but a thing. But because my one body was still knowing all the physical stuff, it wasn’t that adjusting like one year wasn’t enough for it to grow quite stolen. In terms of the corps, I ended up hurting myself quite a lot. Like fooling a lot. Like he gets me, keep them to my head a lot. Um, like getting like scratches and Bilodeau or no of that. And the way how I got attention is external. So the teammates supported me, coach supported me, so that became a form of love. So for food I moved to form of love in terms of team support and coaching, the term I did, the sense of love feeling, community feeling family. 

Speaker 2: (12:54)
So that’s the path that the second son, the self sabotage paths and that’s h and from that it through it can evolve into multiple that actions. It’s happened for different people. For me with the waltz to into getting titles and achievements I wanted to get, I have golden, I wanted it for our team to get golden medals because I knew that the whole CT would be proud to ask to have golden medals in the prongs. I was looking for the cognition, but being a teenager, I didn’t know where that recognition was coming with. Was that sense audit completion was coming from because I did not know that was [inaudible] pattern. Oh behavior sabotaging, doing everything yourself to get to that point. 

Speaker 1: (13:52)
Wow, man. I just 

Speaker 2: (13:56)
so you, 

Speaker 1: (13:58)
I love it how you went from being in that specific state at the age of 11 in the fours and then go into team support. So that’s one actionable item that someone could take away from this is to have a supportive group of people around you. Now when you consider yourself to have a backbone or did you develop that backbone when you ended up, you know, having a team 

Speaker 2: (14:23)
around you? Backbone? That’s a good question. Um, I think if we’re talking about takeaways from these two little stories, right? I think the key takeaways are, 

Speaker 4: (14:40)

Speaker 2: (14:41)
Awareness first is awareness being because in every action, no matter how simple it is, even the brushing the teeth with your right hand, um, is there is always a sense of repetitiveness because our board is just in the kinks, right? Muscles is all mechanical. So what are you doing over and over again? Once you experience a certain particular emotion, if that pattern is that repetitive, see, imagine yourself from the, um, from the perspective on the, um, over in the audience, you in the cinema. Imagine you’re looking at yourself and your day and you’re looking at what you’re doing and then see whether you like this pattern or you don’t like this. If you don’t like this Bethany in plastic, because this means it doesn’t pizzas you is what you want to do or where you want to go. Right? It means you can change. Once the level of awareness changes your brain expense, your brain expense, it means it expense for more possibilities from alternative someone knowledge and then what you do. 

Speaker 2: (15:49)
Um, once you recognize it, understand where you want to go. So understand the n and then feel it, the music knowledge to expand to here and then you go easily. That’s how it is. So that’s one key takeaway. The second key takeaway backbone, as you said, if a person doesn’t have a strong backbone, um, I call it, um, I don’t call it the backbone. I call it the core because irrational language and English, our intervention was on the defense. Um, so core and the sense of, uh, certainty, it has to be internal. If that doesn’t exist, unfortunately naturally a person that is gonna look for approval from everybody and trying to get approval from everybody here and let me get that put a little by himself. So it’s important to understand what odds at the Sun City top core values, even if he doesn’t feel confident enough. 

Speaker 2: (16:56)
Once he knows those three core values, it’s becomes much easier to build that sense of certainty. And as you said, backbone, you know how by analyzing each of them to buy the environment, like uncle’s gun laws become a friend’s, got downs and see which one or two people out of those have the values. That’s feet your values. They can be up to reno view or they can be not approved interview. But the whole point, it has to be that your core values coincide is that w have them as one backbone. I’m going to give you example, um, example. I’m going to give you from a, you know, [inaudible] can I pick up? Um, 

Speaker 3: (17:54)

Speaker 2: (17:56)
will do. 

Speaker 1: (17:59)
Yeah. Which book did you pick up? 

Speaker 2: (18:01)
Uh, um, I wish I could pick up a book. I’m trying to pick up an example from my life, so this May, it makes more sense. Um, okay. Let’s do ideal life example. Um, so, 

Speaker 3: (18:16)

Speaker 2: (18:17)
In my life I have a few mentors and it happens so that when I experience certain set, 

Speaker 3: (18:30)

Speaker 2: (18:33)
emotions or I’m liking support for instance, from people who are important to me, I go to people who share my knowledge or who would make me feel that I am enough in the form that I am a, so one of the mentors of mine, for instance, the most empathetic person I’ve ever met in my life. 

Speaker 3: (18:59)

Speaker 2: (19:01)
he is able to showcase me the 

Speaker 3: (19:08)

Speaker 2: (19:09)
sense of love is all, ain’t like we have a mentor, mentee relationship, but he’s able to show me the sense of love, how he feels and understands me through the his presence by giving the attention to me that I feel that backbone that they can rely on human case or something if even the coldest one to me, I’m not gonna look towards my side in making the decision because he’s values coincide this morning and I know that and it adds to my sense of certainty. 

Speaker 3: (19:48)

Speaker 1: (19:49)
I see. Adding to the, okay. Alright, so the core values, I like that. I like it. You know, 

Speaker 1: (19:56)
and you were talking about what book and when you mentioned a book, I was like, okay, what core values do I stand by? Well, you know what, speaking with impeccability, that’s right out of Jack Canfield’s book. And some people have asked me, where do you learn to speak and this and that. And you know, there are teachers from Monterey, Mexico to people in Singapore say, where do you learn to speak? I said, I started to podcast in 2016. You know, some people say, do you speak like that all the time? I’m like, well, I speak the way I say, you know, I didn’t know, I don’t know how I used to speak before, but I think I would speak without a sense of purpose and people get you that very quickly. Kind of like what me and you were saying in terms of my friends saying, Oh, you know, just a, just that home, just chilling. You know what I mean? And I’m like, Dang, okay, that sounds like a guy that is a instead of a creator, you know, so a value. You, you know, find it out. The values. Now, unfortunately, I never had anyone in my family where, you know, they had strong values of whatnot. Not that I can actually pick out, uh, you know, although my mother did have that sense of, uh, just always fighting and getting through everything, 

Speaker 2: (21:09)

Speaker 1: (21:10)
you know, but on the other hand, you know, I created my own values from the things I’ve actually learned, and that’s what I abide by. So I created my own cores, you know, uh, my belief system and whatnot and this is what I believe and you know, so wow, that’s powerful. That’s really powerful stuff, Veronica. So, um, 

Speaker 3: (21:31)

Speaker 1: (21:31)
W when it comes to the value system and the people who you are around do whatnot, did you become more, you, you, you know, you didn’t become as, you weren’t as vulnerable as you were before in terms of self sabotage, when you had value systems and whatnot, or when you develop them. 

Speaker 3: (21:58)

Speaker 1: (22:00)
Or did it still kind of just sneak up on you from time to time, you know, as it always does to the majority of us. 

Speaker 2: (22:06)
Oh, of course it does too. It does to everybody. Nobody’s perfect. It won’t happen. So Tony Robbins, right? If it things in most timeless example. Um, okay, so you see, I feel sort of two questions in your questions. If I will ask myself. Um, back in with teenage, 

Speaker 3: (22:27)

Speaker 2: (22:30)
I did not have the knowledge of values, but the thing is, while they’re brought up the have of the, uh, we have the value system in built into us on some level they don’t know about, again, environment, parents, uh, something that’s important to us and the value we do have it, we just get one to grow up. I got Ya. And it’s a method and there’s more knowledge expansion. Of course, we then figured out, oh, that’s what I value. And I played Lego is a string. I will lose, create teams. Right. Like that. Yeah. So if I’m looking at right now, of course right now there’s a little bit change, but this similar to what I would have picked up if I have taken metaphors from my child don’t want to have right now, I was quite well notable to external approval when I was in my teenage age because I said I was going up my myself mostly, um, growing up in Russia as you know, you have to be an ape lost. You know, you have to, uh, I don’t know. You have to be, um, that exists English retail and um, uh, Dota, she cleans the whole house and then she young into a bottle. [inaudible] carriage turns into a pumpkin and she needs to, 

Speaker 1: (23:59)
right, right. Yeah. Send it. Oh, there we go. Cinderella. Okay. Okay. That’s good. Okay. 

Speaker 2: (24:08)
You’ll have to be like literally a-plus do them Goodson did at home growing up your smaller siblings and you know, be the best of the best weed, the country and the age of [inaudible] 

Speaker 1: (24:22)
right. At the age. Yeah. 

Speaker 2: (24:26)
So it’s just the culture. Um, so it’s okay. It changes from age. Oh, sure. Uh, valleys I have right now z evolved into this. Thanks too. Everything that happened to me in my life. So if I like the first value for means self actualization, so self realization. Yes. It’s just a key driver. It’s internal. It was a second values that changed for me actually recently became connections and the relationships. Okay. It’s lunch just to the core of my brain and it has to be authentic. Okay. It’s like, it’s a huge thing for me. Yeah. Um, and the certain one would be, um, balance. Yeah. Because I’m does out mental and emotional balance. Um, Yoga, not Fiona, I the lack and one eight of your life and do good than in the NAZA all you’re going to continuous self sub without in yourself. Mm. If you don’t have balance and energy, how and all of those. Right. Wow. 

Speaker 1: (25:50)
Okay. So it’s a balance of all these things then. Okay. So, um, to reduce the amount of self sabotage, self sabotage, and that’s going on. I’m like God, I’m following all over my words. All in, all over my words. [inaudible] normally up dog, just excited cause I’m getting ready to go crazy. So crazy. But anyway, but um, what is it? 

Speaker 2: (26:16)

Speaker 1: (26:17)
so self actualization, realization, yourself, image, all of these things tie into, you develop in a sense of, you know, not savage, the sabotaging yourself in terms of academics, like you said, of course. Well academics or anything in general. But when it comes to academics, like you said, you know, Russia, you have to be an a plus student. If you’re not, that is on quote, the sabotage to what society believes is. And that’s what, of course, you know it’s pressed upon you the next know you end up being a failure. You create this image of failure, you know, a failing and that becomes your reality. I mean it’s that quick, right? So for people out there in these academically driven countries, whereas they are operating off a very dying paradigm and they still believe that getting good graces, we know that that’s all, that’s the whole guide yet you don’t [inaudible] okay. 

Speaker 1: (27:19)
It’s not the world anymore. Nobody gives a damn about grades anymore. It’s what you, what you give bring to the table and what skill set you have, you know? Huh. Now for these people who are in these academically driven countries, what are some things that you would share with them in terms of what their parents and society’s telling them to do? Like a bowl and what they’re trying to do in terms of a push. Like how, how do they stay true to themselves, their values and not sabotage or listen to what people believe is a sabotage. How can they ignore that noise? 

Speaker 2: (27:57)
Oh my God. 

Speaker 1: (28:01)

Speaker 2: (28:02)
[inaudible] and I am breathing in because answers. So them simple and just well different. As funny as it sounds for different people, it takes time to realize that it takes so than the England’s to trigger that realization. And that’s why I’m exhaling labor. Honestly. The simple super simple handsome is 

Speaker 2: (28:29)
do what you feel is right. No matter how weird and stupid and out on the line or what society consider strive to be. It’s a funny thing. You can change society. Find the society which will accept what you’re doing. Listen, my friend, his parents pushed him into being an engineer. He’d intentionally play on all the exams to show the less he wants to do music. And then he ran away to another country to study music production and he’s now doing music production for games like Overwatch and so on. Uh, doing that thing do not crazy, crazy stuff. Like even me, I ran away from my country, not so I don’t know if I can say from my country because I was a teenager. I cannot judge that, but I ran live from my am because I felt I did not. There was something on something off that like I felt uptight, traveled a bit. 

Speaker 2: (29:35)
I felt that I needed to move on. I used to find that something like people fascinating culture is fascinating for me. I knew that and then just I went to that and it’s good if your parents are supporting that, but just find a way to be expressive and passionate enough to, I don’t want to dissuade your parents too, if you want to give this support, but if you don’t, if your parents are gonna listen to you or your relatives, remember I told you you need to find one or two people who have the values, the whole one of the your backbone to call on 200% on average. Statistically every person on Facebook has about 400 connections. Wow. So I’m sure if out of those 400 we’re at 20 are really good people with no communicates with no cost basis, one or two you can ask to be your accountability partner. Yes. Or can the ability friends. Yeah. Or Can the ability backbone speaking your language. 

Speaker 1: (30:44)
Right, right, right. And how important is it to have an accountability partner 

Speaker 2: (30:48)
days? It is. It is fricking important. I thought that’s not important. I will be honest with you because I mean I pushed myself, doesn’t want much but well, when you push yourself to the limits and you two things happen, one is you either break physically or emotionally and to your acting only your acting only from your own perspective, which means you don’t have somebody to show you an alternative perspective. Somebody who’s going around. But now open your mindset and maybe open your eyes to something you don’t see, which means you’re always deacons the same terrain and you don’t want to do that because there are easier ways to get to things you’re looking to get. Right? 

Speaker 1: (31:37)
Oh, I love that accountability partner. People. Um, you know, and that’s just even having, it could be a friend, it could be someone in your household or someone that points out the sabotage and that’s probably happening. Or the things of the bad habits that you continually doing or you continue doing over and over, which in fact is a self sabotage, right? Because again, it’s like if you eat healthy for the morning, afternoon, the evening, you go crazy. You know, again, it’s all about balance. I don’t really, you know, here, you know, eating unhealthy unless you eat an exorbitant amount of food. Uh, and of course in America, you know, America, they got these factories that create this stuff called food and these people consume it at ridiculous rates. And that’s why America is the most obese country on the planet. And so again, I understand that, or if you look at things like how can you stop sabotaging yourself? 

Speaker 1: (32:34)
Let’s say you’re a drinker and you have alcohol in your cabinets and it’s in your refrigerator, you know what? You’re probably going to open it up in the morning, you’re going to see it, and guess what? It’s going to be right there in front of you all the time. So of course, taking all those glasses bottles out and pouring them off because guess what? Then you would have to go all the way to the store to buy something and this and that. If there’s different hours that you buy, you know, things that aren’t very good or do things that continue to sabotage you from achieving your goals. You know, that’s uh, you know, um, try villain and activity during that time. So then when the activities finish and it’s like 9:00 PM, you’re like, the shit, I’m going home, forget it. You know what I be these little things, you know, it’s kind of like the compound effect. So, um, yeah. 

Speaker 2: (33:23)
Is alcohol is different in case though alcohol is quiet? Um, um, if there’s a self sabotage button, use alcohol to cover pain, some sort of pain because people avoid pain or they want to experience a science close to death. Um, so what does it like what I call mine? So alcohol is quiet. Um, if there’s a sound sabotage in a form, but is, um, because [inaudible] right, right. It’s not as you’re thinking, but it’s, um, I think it, it’s a harsh upon like it has to be either treatments or people or a person really wanted to change to get the rest from alcoholism, alcoholism, usually a non desire to accept the reality. Some desire to live life joyfully and um, and maybe there is no accountability partner already with this found. I can just say it right into your face. Hey, do the hummed in women’s life and you’re just not yourself out. So alcohol is a big question, 

Speaker 1: (34:33)
right? Right. It’s a huge question mark. It is because people do not want to face what is it working, you know what I mean? Hey, your life sucks. That’s up. Graduated from the University of heart docs. Here it is. Okay, your relationship sucks. What are you going to do this your money, your finances sucks. Okay? Don’t say I don’t have money. Say how can I make more money? As Robert Kiyosaki has said, you know, so, oh man, awesome. Damn Veronica. And to sum all of this up, you’ve already given them great key steps from, of course, doing going after for what is yours in the universe. But give then just one more big key takeaway. Let’s just say if they, they, they’re not good at keeping agreements or they’re not good at this, so they’re not good at that. Anything that we are engaged in throughout our daily lives, what’s one simple step that they could just ease and take that first step? Write down today, 

Speaker 2: (35:31)
buy a pen and diary and instead of using your Google calendar, write down what September is the next month. September 1st. So September 30th and write down, give me a situation. 

Speaker 1: (35:54)
So let, let’s say you are, um, you made an appointment for 8:00 PM to meet up with the friend. Next Edo 7:00 PM comes around, your energy is low. You’re like, oh my God, I’m very draggy right now. You know what? But if I ended up canceling my friend, I may never see them again because I’ve canceled them three times already. 

Speaker 2: (36:19)
Okay? Yeah. So, um, okay. Okay. Not the perfect situation, but sure. Let’s do that is a [inaudible] days that works real well is manifestation. So the one thing that person can do is, um, manifesting well, writing by hand. September 1st. Yeah. 

Speaker 3: (36:39)

Speaker 2: (36:40)
I am a great friend. 

Speaker 3: (36:42)

Speaker 2: (36:43)
I am a great fan. As lame as that can sound. Yeah. I am a great fan or I am at responsible friend. I am responsible brand. And then ask yourself another question. What if, what if I don’t see this brand and he’s important to me? That’s true. What if I’m sick and I don’t have friends support me? Okay. What if I’m alone tomorrow? [inaudible] is question that what comes to mind? Well, they still questions and of course another thing, if your meeting is a week ahead every day, just for consistency, ask your friends if you can send him a message. Okay, today is six days away from a meeting. The next day, today is five days away from all meeting today is 

Speaker 3: (37:47)

Speaker 2: (37:48)
Four days away from Rac I think is the last day. Yeah. When you, when it’s, and I want to do like an hour away from the meeting and then certain minutes and then be 15 minutes [inaudible] yeah, it sounds ridiculous. It is. How easy. Ridiculous. Plus. I think that all down one week you had, well the how has time to do that, but if you really want to improve, even a few days is enough. Even seven days is over too much. But again, small, simple steps and just [inaudible] desire and accountability because the person whom you’re going to meet is going to be accountable. Oh cool. What’s you’re doing 

Speaker 1: (38:34)
and feelings that you feel, especially asking the what if that’s what should trigger you and should scare the hell out of you. Because again, saying I’m a, I’m a, I’m a great friend, I’m a responsible friend. I’m a friend that is very caring and willing to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. That after that, what if you know and you’re going to start feeling those negative feelings and that should be able to, you know, deviate you from making that self sabotage a decision to always cancel it. You can do this with any category in your life, right? So again, what if I go out tonight? Oh, well let’s just say I have an appointment tomorrow at 6:00 AM. What if I go out tonight? What if I go out for a drink? What if I engage in all these conversations that aren’t going to provide me with anything in my life? 

Speaker 1: (39:22)
What if I come home late? What’s going to happen tomorrow? What’s going to, you know, the truth. You see what I be eating? You’re going to be able to write all those things down and say, oh, that doesn’t look very good at all. You know, so that brings that awareness, you know, and then hell, hopefully you’ll be able to, you know, I guess have, you know, make a better decision. So, Veronica, beautiful. Thank you so much for coming on here. Oh My ESL class, like dad, it’s been a long time. Thank you so much. Thanks so much for saying it’s always a pleasure. 

Speaker 1: (39:58)
Absolutely bad guys. Would that being said, this is a five part series. Veronica has topped this off. I’m so happy that I’ve went through and I didn’t sabotage myself and stop making a series a, but she has come through and she has topped off this wonderful five part series, you know, from five different countries. And that’s what my goal was. So kick a Veronica. Oh my God. Thank you so much. Hopefully you’ll be out here. Thailand, Vietnam and my side of the world sometimes. So cause I’m not going to Canada. Wonderful. But, uh, yeah, but, uh, other than that, man, again, for everyone who was tuned in, if you guys liked it, share it. If you shoot it like it and guys, be sure to follow Veronica. I’ve already put her links and description in the last one. I’ll put it in this one. Also, Veronica, don’t worry. You don’t have to like say, yeah, B e. R. O. De. I gotcha, Gotcha. We got everything in the description people. So if you want to get to know Veronica, you make sure you get on over there and you get to know her. So Veronica, again, thank you so much. Thanks so much. I’ve seen your things guys. You’re welcome. And guys, would that be your time? Have a wonderful moment that afternoon and I have done, I’m your host — Arsenio as always — over and out.