Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 3 – Episode 6 – Pronunciation – Ignoring The Consonant in Speech

Yes! A lot of my students have asked this question, so here it is, along with some sentences for you to repeat out loud.  This exercise will enable you to take out the unnecessary, second-to-last consonant, which is impossible to say. Let’s go over it.

/kt + s/ = / ks/

Fact = facs – Not Facts

Facts of life = facs of life

Act = acs

Acts appropriately = acs appropriately

direct = direcs – Not Directs

Direcs this project

 

/pt = s/ = /ps/

Adapt = adaps – Not Adapts

Adaps to the changes

Concept = conceps – Not Concepts

Conceps in math

Accept/Acceps – Not Accepts

Acceps responsibility

 

/nd + z/ = /nz/

Sends = Sens – Not Sends

Sens a signal

Lend = Lens – Not Lends

Lens a hand

Friend = friens – Not Friends

Friens and family

 

Podcast

 

Acknowledge Your Positive Past: Part II – Thank Your Family, Job, & Circumstances

My mother, who took four children in all by herself, did a magnificent job at parenting.

My mother, who hasn’t spoken or communicated with me via voice in 5 years, doesn’t really care about me.

Can you see the difference?

We often times point out the negatives of our past, but it’s really time to start looking at the positives.

I’m going to give you some techniques on how to achieve, but first, this is how you can rewire your brain.

Last Job

So, I was taken in by a job and was given work for 3.5 years.  I had the opportunity to work at about 4 different companies, worked at one of the biggest companies in Thailand, worked at a university (tracing back my roots to this country and close that part of my life off) and saw one of my students’ parents (who speaks excellent English now).  I had the opportunity to teach some brilliant students from one of the best universities in Thailand.  I had projects because a lady believed in my ability and I realized my ability while living there, pushing myself to greater heights by resigning and moving onto the biggest projects of my life.

See, that’s called acknowledging your positive past. 

Sure, I could’ve pointed out all the negative, but all of the negatives were character building moments that set me up for this monumental moment right now.

My Brother

in 2003, there was a bone-head taunting the marching band of Rancho High School.  I sat behind these two thug-spewing neanderthals as they berated the band and threw things at us.  I said, “enough” as I was looking at my friend Carlos.  I removed my hat, walked over to the stairs and made my way up before losing it.  There were a cluster of adjectives coming out of my mouth.

My brother, who had gotten injured playing basketball, was in a cast.  He then said, “ughhh you ain’t gon be talking to my brotha like dat!”  He stood up and people started running over — instigators — is what I call them.

At that very moment, it was a family moment.  It was an older brother protecting his younger brother against the wrestling team of Rancho High School.   How about that?!

Thailand

Nakhon Si Thammarat, I’m going to be grateful for this place.  I went to this province in the south of Thailand in hopes to find my alchemy.  I failed, but I met some wonderful people along the way.  So many of my students from a particular school loved me because I was so charismatic.  I went to a wedding and this lady asked me, “hey, you’re always in a good mood, come fishing with me.” I was approached my two sisters who spoke fluent English.  They recently lived in my Native Las Vegas and worked at a hotel that I would routinely pass by when going to work.  They had also lived in Hawaii, a place I visited just 6 months prior.  The women at the gym loved me.  Both had a boyfriend/husband, respectively, but you can see it in their eyes (LOL!).

Guys, I’ve just gone over the simplest way to acknowledge your positive past, and here are some additional ways.

Begin With Nine Major Successes: Based On Your Age

If you’re 21, break it down in three increments (birth – 7; 8 – 14; 15 – 21).  

Whatever age you are, divide it by three.

Mirror Exercise

just before you go to bed, stand in front of a mirror and appreciate yourself for what you accomplished during the day.  Start with a few seconds of looking directly into your eyes.

Any achievements –  business, financial, educational, personal, physical, emotional.

Disciplines: exercise, reading, meditation

Temptations you never gave into: Ex: my eating gummy bears habit.

When you start doing this exercise, you’ll realize that all that junk, negative internal self-talk will totally vanish.

Reward Your Inner Child & Children

Make key deposits into your relationships, friendships, parents everyday.  Fill those bank accounts with positivity and rewards.  If you succeed at something, whatever you craved as a child, take yourself (and even your children) with you to get that craving.

 

Stephen Covey’s Four Dimensions of Renewal – Physical Dimension – Stop Being Lazy (Physically)

How can you preserve and enhance the great asset you have?

Physical: Exercise, Nutrition, Stress Management

Social/Emotional: Service, Empathy, Synergy, Intrinsic Security

Mental: Reading, Visualizing, Planning, Writing

Spiritual: Value Clarification & Commitment, Study & Meditation

George Sheehan, the running guru, describes four roles: being a good animal (physical), a good craftsman (mental), a good friend (social), and a saint (spiritual). Sound motivation and organization theory embrace these four dimensions or motivations – the economic (physical); how people are treated (social); how people are developed and used (mental); and the service, the job, the contribution the organization gives (spiritual).

“Sharpen The Saw” means exercises all of these regularly and consistently.

Physical Dimension

Eating the right food, carrying our body, getting sufficient rest and relaxation, and exercising on a regular basis.

  • I’m doing exactly this and without a doubt.  I’m VERY serious about my sleep for the most part.  Some of my friends call me after 10pm, but I’ve already meditated into sleep.  Others asked me why I sleep early, and it’s because I know, sometimes, that I’m at the end of the road at night and know that I can’t get anything else done because of mental fatigue.  So, I hit the sack.

“Most of us think we don’t have time to exercise.  What a distorted paradigm!”

Let me give you an example of this.  Last week I had to work a 9-5pm teaching test prep courses and work a mere 2 hours at night for a minimal rate.  However, I still exercised, did my podcast, ate well, slept well, and posted two blogs.  Could I have been more efficient with more time? Sure…but I didn’t make excuses to why I didn’t exercise.

You don’t need special equipment to exercise.  A good exercise program is building your body in three areas: endurance, flexibility, and strength.

To be honest, you’re considered minimally fit if you can increase your heart rate to at least one hundred beats per minute and keep at it for 30 minutes.

Flexibility obviously comes from basic stretching (warming up and cooling down especially), which loosens the muscles up.

Strength comes from resistance exercises such as calisthenics, push-ups, pull-ups, and sit-ups.  I’ve raved so much about the gym I go to because I’m on a course.  Lab Leaner, which is designed to shred body fat in a rigorous, 45-minute round of hell.  Then you have Lab Strong, a course designed to build strength.  Of course I can add in kettlebell strength and another class during the week, but I throw in lots of cardio because that’s by far the most important for the Spartan Race.

One of Stephen Covey’s trainers had Stephen almost collapse a barbell full with weights onto his thoracic region.  His trainer helped him at the very end and said, “well, why did you wait so long?

He replied, “almost all the benefit of exercise comes at the very end, Stephen.  I’m trying to build strength and that doesn’t happen until the muscle fiber ruptures and the nerve fiber registers the pain.  Then nature overcompensates and within 48 hours, the fiber is made stronger.”

All in all, the essence for renewing the physical dimension is to sharpen the saw.  If you haven’t been exercises, your body is going to protest this change in its comfortable downhill direction.  You will hate it, but be proactive.  Do it anyway.  Get soaked under the rain.  Feel the burn in your legs in that last one hundred.  Scream when you’re going up the steps.  Put your favorite song on and sing it while sprinting down the street.  This is no quick fix.  This is going to bring phenomenal, long-term results.

Happy New Years + Goal-Setting Time + YouTube Video/Podcast

HAPPY NEW YEARS!

Being on top of my balcony and seeing the amount of fireworks I did last night was just resounding.  I felt the love in the air and now I’m onto the biggest year of my life (as I said last year and it exceeded my expectations).

On the other hand, the majority of people this  morning have resolutions, but they don’t have the proper techniques, skills, and things in place to make their “goals” manifest.

For one, resolutions base-word is “resolve,” meaning you’re looking to resolve something in your life.  You can handle that just by dumping the girlfriend/boyfriends, quitting the s***ty job, and learning how to say ‘no’ more often.

So, let me let you in on some techniques + some of the goals I set for myself in the past and what’s happening this 2018.

Habits

What’s a habit? Something that has turned into a daily party of our routine.  We wake up, brush out teeth, take a shower, get ready — that’s all habitual.  It’s on auto-pilot.  However, we’re oblivious to the bad habits that are happening: eating junk food, engaging in heated online debates, watching television, being around the wrong who bitch all the time.  These are also habits.  So what did I do?

2017 Was The Change

I needed to compile a morning routine that would ultimately help me win the day.  You have what Jim Quik said in terms of brushing your teeth with the opposite hand, making your bed, etc.  These are all wonderfully great things, but I’m still not able to win it.  I’ll give you a nice glimpse at my morning.

Normally at 5:30am I wake up (I sleep the night before at about 9:30), and I go straight into a meditation.  If I have a busy morning, which I normally do, I do the meditation “overcoming procrastination,” which is a guided meditation with one of the apps I use (let me know if you want the name in the comment section).  After that, I would take my vitamins and possibly even a pre-workout, depending on if I workout in the morning.  After that, I post on an inspirational message on my instagram, and sometimes even my podcast (which could’ve been pre-recorded).  I then record or pre-record a live podcast.  Now, depending on if I’m working out in the morning or not, for the bulk of this year, I would workout around 8am.

  • Meditation
  • Posts on Instagram
  • Inspirational message on twitter
  • Podcast
  • Blog
  • Workout
  • Work
  • Grateful List

This was the bulk of my year, but things have changed.  So, if I workout (and now I do) at 6:45am, my podcast has to be pre-recorded and blog done the day before.  During the commute, I would post everything on social media and then hit it hard.  After I workout and before I go to work, I would have my protein shake, rice & pork, and respond to emails, messages and other things for 30 minutes before my students arrive.

This is how I ultimately had such an effective morning for a good portion of the year.

Sure, it’s not always going to work, but a behavior compounded over time becomes a habit.  That’s what you will need to succeed.

Night Routine

Same as the morning routine. Now, night routines are extremely difficult at times because once I get home, I want to get on the news.  This is why I’ve been media fasting on and off.  Reading something that doesn’t pertain to me, my goals, and just revolves around the ‘circle of concern’ is disastrous.  However, on the nights everything did work, this is how it went.

During my commute home I turn off all notifications.  I say what I need to say, respond to emails, then that’s it.  When I get home I make sure I set everything up for the next day.  Clothes are packed, bottles for working out, belts, socks — YOU NAME IT!  This is how it happened.  If I can read before I sleep, it would be a success.  Normally, I always do my meditation.  Now, depending on how the day went, there’s a lot of head trash that gets thrown at me throughout the day at work.  Opinions and ignorance of colleagues, management, and just being in a very “slummy” area where people look down on me.  Those tides have changed though.  But when these things happened, I would do the “detox my mind” podcast so I can wake up fresh.

Goal-Setting

Here’s a list of things to add into your morning routine.

  • Make your bed
  • Grateful list
  • Meditation (20 minutes)
  • Exercise (20 minutes)
  • Read (20 minutes)
  • Inspirational podcast or YouTube video (I listen to Gary Vee)
  • News Feed on all social media MUST have inspirational messages on there.  Follow the people that make you feel better.

Now, onto Goal-Setting.

Now, first thing is first…get rid of these phrases: I wish, if only, I don’t, I can’t, but I don’t have….

These are all doomers.  They’re either in the future or completely denying your ability and mindset of obtaining a goal.

When you figure out your vision, life-purpose, desire, objectives and everything for this year, then you can unleash the power.  Thinking about goals gives you a 43% chance of obtaining them.  Writing them down gives you a 56% chance.  Sharing them with a friend bumps it up to a 64% chance.  And then there’s the weekly progress report to a friend – 76%.  This gives you an idea of how it works.

To make sure the goal is imbedded into your subconscious mind, you must meet two criteria: how much (measurable quantity), and by when (specific time).

Example: I want to travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan.  – Wrong

The conditional “I want” is a killer.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan this year. 

  • Better, but there isn’t a specific time frame.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan on April 13th by Astana Airlines and come back April 20th. 

  • Now this is sexy.  I have the time, month, and even specific airline.

The universe loves action!

Go online and start looking for the airlines, hotels and everything that relates to your travel.  This is something that my mother was never able to overcome because she always said, “I don’t have any money. I wish I can go, but my finances aren’t straightened out.”  They never will be! There’s never a right time for anything! When you get that intuitive nudge, act!

This is the power of goal-setting.  Visualize yourself being on the snowboarding fields in Hokkaido, Japan by listening to a blizzard and fire crackling.  Look up how much the tickets are, where to stay, and everything that relates to the trip.  That’s where the magic happens.

Podcast

 

YouTube Video

Who You Have To Become & Behaving Yourself + Exercise

It’s been a couple days since my last blog, and my goodness, I’ve never felt so out of place and out-of-touch with my fellow readers from all over the world! It’s time to get back into the compound effect.

All right, let’s map out the goals that you’ve decided upon.  Just remember that the only thing that stands between you and your goal is your behavior.

Example, the universe loves ACTION!

If I had put off moving into my new condominium, the dream job, which fell into my lap just yesterday, would’ve never happened! I knew I needed to act and it was all predicated on my behavior.  That morning I emailed four different condominiums probably decided this entire process.  My mind and everything is already set in Bangkok.  If I didn’t start by taking the first necessary step, the opportunity would’ve never come.

What do you need to start doing to change your trajectory so that it’s headed in the most beneficial direction? In other words, what habits and behaviors do you need to subtract from and add to your life?

Your life comes down to this formula:

Choice + Behavior + Habit + Compounded = Goals

decision +  action +  repeated action + time

Which behaviors are blocking your life right now?

How many hours of T.V. do you watch everyday? Seriously, I can bet good money you don’t know.  Do you sit in front of the television and watch 2-3 hours of sports (minimal) per weekend when you can be planning out your entire next week and even meals?

How many cans of soda do you drink a day? How many ridiculous YouTube videos do you watch that’s nonessential to the work you’re in? How about drama? Human beings LOVE drama and gossip.  Americans love the reality TV and Thailand/Korea love drama.  Become aware of how you’re behaving is the most important part of this process.  That’s step #1.

Okay, now it’s your turn. Get out your little notebook and write out your top three goals. Now make a list of the bad habits that might be sabotaging your progress in each area. Write down every one.

Habits and behaviors never lie. If there’s a discrepancy between what you say and what you do, I’m going to believe what you do every time. If you tell me you want to be healthy, but you’ve got Doritos dust on your fingers, I’m believing the Doritos. If you say self-improvement is a priority, but you spend more time with your Xbox than at the library, I’m believing the Xbox. If you say you’re a dedicated professional, but you show up late and unprepared, your behavior rats you out every time. You say your family is your top priority, but if they don’t appear on your busy calendar, they aren’t, really. Look at the list of bad habits you just made. That’s the truth about who you are. Now you get to decide whether that’s okay, or if you want to change.

Next, add to that list all the habits you need to adopt that, practiced and compounded over time, will result in you gloriously achieving your goals.

Making this list isn’t about wasting energy by getting judgmental and regretful. It’s about taking a clear-headed look at what you want to improve. I’m not going to leave you there, however. Let’s uproot those sabotaging bad habits and plant new, positive, and healthy ones in their place.”

Podcast

Just For Today…..

  1. Just for today I will be happy.  this assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.
  2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.  I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.
  3. Just for today I will take care of my body.  I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.
  4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my min.  I will learn something useful.  I will not be a mental loafer.  I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
  5. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways; I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out.  I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise.
  6. Just for today I will be agreeable.  I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regular nor improve anyone.
  7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once.  I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.
  8. Just for today I will have a program.  I will write down what I expect to do every hours.  I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it.  It will eliminate two pests, hurrying and indecision.
  9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself to relax.
  10. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.

 

The Evening Review

This is a powerful exercise to help everyone implement a better positive behavior, habit, or quality.  You’ll be amazed how fast this technique can lead to permanent change.

Now, you can do this as a guided meditation, or in a quiet room.  Sit with your eyes closed, breathe deeply, ask yourself these questions.

  • Show me where I could have been more effective today.
  • Show me where I could have been more conscious today.
  • Show me where I could have been a better (profession: teacher, coach, sales, etc) today.
  • Show me where I could have been more loving today.
  • Show me where I could have been more assertive today.
  • Show me where I could have been more (charismatic, benevolent, kind, considerate) today.

When you sit in calmness and become receptive, the events that had happened throughout the day will come to mind.  Observe them without making any judgement or self-criticism . When the events stop coming to mind, take each incident and replay them in your mind the way you would have preferred to have done it had you been more conscious and intentional at the time.  This creates a subconscious image that will help evoke the desired behavior the next time a similar situation occurs.

Try planning your next day schedule going exactly the way you want it, too.  This is all part of the last 45 minutes of the day.   I visualize the buses being on time when I leave my condo; the minivan being half full so I can get to Bangkok on time; the BTS Sky Train having empty seats; having empty seats.

For others, maybe you’ll visualize having all your errands taking care of, making every sale, all your clients being called by a particular time, picking up the kids on time, preparing everything so that your day goes exactly how you want it to.  See yourself performing at your best in every situation you will encounter during the next day.  This will give your subconscious all night to work on creating ways to make it all happen just as you have visualised it.

Every thought you think is broadcasted out to the universe. Remember that.  So get into the habit now of visualizing your ideal next day the night before.  This will surely make a massive difference in your life.

Acknowledge Your Positive Past

The sad truth about how we look back on our past is that we all have a lot more victories than failures.  In present day, we count all our negatives rather than the blessings.  That’s a given.  However; if we refer back to the past, we count all the negatives, too.

Yes, my mother and father split up after endless arguing between 95-98.  Yes, I had two step mothers both whom were wonderful. Yes, I switched school four times over a one calendar year period and I never had the opportunity to acclimate.  However, at the age of 11 when my mother took full custody of me, I can seriously count my major successes. This is a good exercise to begin with to start acknowledging your positive past.

BEGIN WITH NINE MAJOR SUCCESSES

Here’s a good way to begin an inventory on all of your major successes.  Start by dividing your life into three equal time periods.

For example, I’m 28, so I’m looking at 3 increments of 9 (although massive success has came in the past year. HA!). If you’re 40 years old, you’re looking at “Birth to 13” and so on.

Here’s a list below of my major successes.

First Third: Birth to 9

  1. Learned how to ride a bike.
  2. Learned how to play basketball, football, and soccer.
  3. Was a Math magician in my 4th grade Math class whereas my teacher (Mr. Parven) said, “multiples of 4” to me and I went on an incredible rant – 4, 8, 12, 16, 20….amazing stares from my classmates followed and then I understood that I was gifted. (Not many people in the world know this story – consider yourself lucky).

Second Third: Age 10 to 19

  1. Got first place in a track & field meet and went to three consecutive Sunrise Regional Track & Field Championships in the Southern of Nevada.
  2. Graduated from High School.
  3. Went to college.

Final Third: Age 20 to 28

  1. Traveled to Australia (and lived there for a year), Taiwan, South Korea, Japan, Hawaii, New Zealand, Laos, Malaysia, Singapore, and Vietnam.
  2. Became a teacher in Thailand.
  3. Now have a worldwide viewed podcast, my own website, working for massive corporations, soon to be Tedx speaker, motivating the masses.

Create A Victory Log

How about this, another way to stack those poker chips even higher is to keep a written record of your daily successes.   It could be doing your morning meditation, making your grateful 10 list, following up on phone calls and so forth.  By recalling and writing down your successes each day, you log them into your long-term memory, which enhances  your self-esteem and builds your confidence.

If a lot of your victories are on the internet – for example, if you’re an athlete, artist, author, or businessperson – you can make a digital scrapbook on Pinterest.

The End of The Day Mirror Exercise

Here’s an example os what my exercise might sound like:

Arsenio, I want to appreciate you for the following things today: First, I was to appreciate you for waking up on time and knocking out that to-do list with grace.  Then, you meditated for twenty minutes before dropping your clothes off at the wash.  You created a couple of podcasts and inspiring instagram posts before going to work and preparing for the next two days.

One of the best things you accomplished was finally you created a website.  You have your own website now! WOW! Who would’ve ever though, ey? You’ve done some maintenance and connected with people who can help you start ironing out the gorgeous platform that will have tons of traffic.

Oh, you got home, prepared your gym bag for the next day, meal-prepped for the next day, and now you’re looking up flight details for upcoming trips.  Today was an absolute MARVELLOUS day, Arsenio.  Now, go get some sleep!

And one more thing, Arsenio  – I love you!

Yes, you might feel awkward, silly, might want to cry, or generally uncomfortable.  There are all natural and normal reactions.  We aren’t trained to acknowledge ourselves.  In fact, we are mostly trained to do the opposite.  Doing this can extinguish that negative internal self-talk

So, try it!  Go on!