Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 22 – Quotient Analysis – Part C

Here we go! This is the last part of the quotient analysis!  If you haven’t already done Part A or Part B, I suggest you hit the links on the left and do them before the last part.

13. Learning from defeat
(a) Does defeat cause you to stop trying?

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(b) If you fail in a given effort, do you keep trying?

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(c) Is temporary defeat the same as failure?

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(d) Have you learned any lessons from defeat?

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(e) Do you know how defeat can be converted into an asset that will lead to success?

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14. Creative vision
(a) Do you use your imagination constructively?

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(b) Do you make your own decisions?

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(c) Is the man who only follows instructions always worth more than the man who also creates new ideas?”

(d) Are you inventive?

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(e) Do you create practical ideas in connection with your work?

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(f) When desirable, do you seek sound advice?”

 

15. Budgeting time and money
(a) Do you save a fixed percentage of your income?

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(b) Do you spend money without regard to your future source of income?

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(c) Do you get sufficient sleep each night?

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(d) Is it your habit to employ spare time studying self-improvement books?”

 

16. Maintenance of sound health
(a) Do you know five essential factors of sound health?

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(b) Do you know where sound health begins?

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(c) Are you aware of the relation of relaxation to sound health?

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(d) Do you know the four important factors necessary for the proper balancing of sound health?

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(e) Do you know the meaning of “hypochondria” and “psychosomatic illness”?

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17. Using cosmic habit force as it pertains to your personal habits
(a) Do you have habits which you feel you cannot control?

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(b) Have you recently eliminated undesirable habits?

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(c) Have you recently developed any new, desirable habits?”

Rating System

Here’s how to rate your answers. All the following questions should have been answered NO: 3c – 3d – 4b – 5b – 5c – 5e – 6b – 6c – 8a – 8d – 9b – 9d- 10c – 11b – 11c – 12c – 13a – 13c – 14c – 15b – 17a. All other questions should have been answered YES. Your score would have been 300 if all the questions had been answered “No” or “Yes” as shown above. This is a perfect score and very few people have ever made such a score. Now let’s see what your score was.”

Number of “Yes” answers instead of “No”:
——x 4 =——
If you answered “No” to any of the meaning questions that should have been answered “Yes,” deduct four points for each one:
Number of “No” answers instead of “Yes”:
——x 4 =——
Add the subtotals together, and subtract from 300. This will be your score.
Illustration:
Number of “Yes” answers instead of “No”: 3 x 4 = 12
Number of “No” answers instead of “Yes”: 2 x 4 = 8
Total Number of Wrong Answers __________ 20
Perfect Score ____________________ 300
Minus Total Number of Wrong Answers __________ 20
Your Score ____________________ 280

 

300 points _____ Perfect (Very Rare)
275 to 299 points _____ Good (Above Average)
200 to 274 points _____ Fair (Average)
100 to 199 points _____ Poor (Below Average)
Below 100 points _____ Unsatisfactory

You have now taken an important step to success and happiness.”

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Building Stronger Job Esteem

There’s nothing like getting the “thank you for applying” email, right?

Heck, just recently I went into a second-stage of an interview, only for them to tell me, “oh, well we think there are more qualified teachers.”  Ha! The qualified teachers who just open a book and teach number by number, right?

I began putting some figures together and things just weren’t adding up to be honest.  Honduras was offering 400$ USD a month – mind boggling.  Costa Rica, and it’s big companies, was offering just over $1K.  The job that denied me, located in Providencia, Chile, was offering just over 1k, too.

Well, after long though, why would I take gigantic steps back, right? I mean my first job (and I say this out of all honesty) was a measly $600 dollars a month: “sorry, we can’t give you the same price as the white teachers because they’re white and you’re black,” I was told.

Second job was an 80% increase.  However, I started making waves at my present job about two years ago, propelling myself to the $3k on pure hustle.  Since then there has been a change of management, and of course, lots of jealousy.  Lots of finger-pointing and “don’t give Arsenio work because he talked about why I came here to buy a wife” angry-at-my-dad syndrome.  LOL! Good times.

See, you never want to fall or take a gigantic step back.  Take your monthly average, for instance, and make that your starting mark.

I applied for an online teaching job, which will ultimately fall into my laps, recently.  What I like is I can make 2.5k easy and teaching at my own pace and rate.  Not only that, but breaking into the Chinese market is HUGE at this point.  I’ve been preaching about the emergence of online teaching and how China will ultimately burn out all language centers around the world because of face-to-face English conversation.  Well, I have an interview, which I should’ve had with another company about two years ago, coming up in a few days.  Once I land this, I’ll be able to teach from home, make a consistent wage, and push all my projects and MSI’s (multiple sources of income).  However, I don’t have a place I can call home…..which is being sorted out now.

Nonetheless, if you look at denial and failure by face-value, you will always give-up pretty quickly.  I just told you guys about the dream job – pulled disappearing act – that bailed.  Then, Providencia, which is located on the other side of the planet, later followed suit.  Are these blessings in disguise? ABSOLUTELY! How about you just have your own projects, Arsenio (what I ask myself)?

If you find yourself feeling like a failure such as what happened to me just a couple days ago, and in the last few months, create a list of “bragging rights.”  Create a list of all your accomplishments, contributions, and three key stories about times when you overcame an obstacle in the past.

By recognising your strengths and ability to succeed in the face of challenge, you can totally shift that bummed out state-of-mind that you’re in.

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Questions & Answers: Friendship Woes

Ahhh, thank you for asking the question and hopefully I have the answer!  A listener from Iraq asked me, “my friend and I have been friends for years, but after a miscommunication, we stopped talking for several months.  I tried reaching out to her and she never responds; however, she posts daily on social media.”

Well, I’ll try putting myself into your shoes, but at this very moment I’m going through the same problem.

If you haven’t heard the story already, I’m suppose to currently be in America.  As a matter of fact, today is suppose to be the day that I stay at the snowboarding fields in Flagstaff, Arizona.  However, because I had a gut-feeling about having a bad trip, I bailed.  This was the friendship “detonator.”

See, if I had gone out there and the trip was sour, I would’ve never seen her again.  If I cancelled, I might’ve been able to salvage the friendship.

Instead, the plan backfired on me.  2 months – not a word.  I was the big man yesterday and messaged my friend a beautiful, long message, wishing her a Merry Christmas.  Response? Absolutely not.

So, what do we have here? We have someone who doesn’t give a damn (your friend and my friend) and you’re wanting to know what to do next.

Waiting Game But In Your Mind You Move On

Honestly, other than wasting your time trying to get in touch with her, act as if she’s already gone.  That there is no more of her.  When you come into acceptance of that, you’re not longer using your available attention units, waiting on her to respond.  That will just clog everything that’s trying to come in your life and your life, will come to a grinding halt.  Friendships have to go two-ways.  If you have a friend that develops the “I’m 16-years-old and I’m angry at my dad” syndrome, you’re better off just cutting your losses and moving on.  I’ve had this happen SO many times on so many different occasions.  Friends just go completely silent for two weeks and I just say, “ahhh f*** it.”  I go silent, too.

For instance, a few recent friends I’ve befriended went silent so I uninstalled an app (since it was the only app I used to talk to them), and just went cold.  Later, I got an email probably two days ago from them, shockingly.  I was upfront and said, “well, you didn’t speak, so I didn’t talk to you.” I then reinstalled the app and I realized that not only her, but the other friend tried contacting me.  Not only that, she cared much more than the other who messaged me about 4 days ago.  But if we talk through a different pair of lens, I was ‘ok’ if they never came back into my life ever again.  Why? I made it up in my mind. What’s the worse that can happen? You can’t change people and force them to go back to their historical self.  People change for what we perceive to be the ‘good’ or ‘bad.’

So, in your case, and the case of my best friend, it’s time to move on.  You’ve done all the messaging.  Put your friend on a restricted profile, make sure they’re not in your Newsfeed on any form of social media (but don’t block them just yet), and just move on with your life.

Meet New Friends

I went through this phase in October/November when I met the Indonesia, Indian and Thai.  Two of them are not in my life anymore and the Indonesia caught onto my hook that I threw into the deep-sea.  I meant to do that to see if she really cared, and she does.  My best friend, on the other hand, doesn’t give a damn.  So, that’s the end of that.  All the best!  At the same time, there are plenty worthier “friends” that are much more deserving.

And as I was typing the above paragraph, guess who messaged me? The Indian.  This is the universe we live in.  What you speak about and talk about — you bring about.  Always remember that!

Use an app.  I mean you’re a woman, so it’s incredibly difficult to meet nice men in the world who aren’t after you for the sacred nectar.  On the other hand, I don’t meet women in Thailand because it’s always a one-way street and dead-end most of the time.  I use different apps and go to exotic countries to get new perspectives.  On top of that, start writing down the goals and things you’re trying to achieve in the New Year!

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