Questions & Answers with Celina Celeste: You Get What You Focus On

I’ve got Celina back onboard for today’s podcast, which is a great one!  As promised, Celina will be coming on twice a month during the weekend and we’ll cover a topic for you guys, so be sure to tune in!

 

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Things we discussed:

  • Discussion topic: “You get what you focus on!”
  • Understanding the term ‘you get what you focus on’.
  • Talking about the reticular activating system.
  • Flipping the talisman.
  • Talking about unconsciousness and contradicting – direct reflections of your mind and emotions.
  • Focusing on your thoughts.
  • How to change your focus.
  • The power of negativity and discontentment.
  • How does the guest snap away negativity? Getting motivations from well-known coaches.
  • Talked about well – known lifestyles entrepreneurs on personal growth.
  • Reconditioning the mind with affirmations.
  • Talking about stress management and auditing your circle of friends.
  • Influences,
  • Talk about self-awareness and how to keep yourself aware.
  • Finding the triggers and how you can cut them out.

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Controlling Inner Feelings + Different Types of Negative Thoughts

One of my students asked me yesterday about how to destroy these destructive thoughts, and of course, it all comes down to habit.

Research has shown that people talk to themselves about 50,000 times a day.  Yes, this includes you – who are reading this.  Unfortunately, 80% of that comes from negative self-talk such as they don’t like me, I’m never going to finish this, they’re going to beat us, I can’t run this time, I can’t do the last push-up, I can’t finish on time, he’s going to fire me.

We know that these thoughts have the most powerful effect on us.  For instance, this happened to me yesterday evening whereas I literally switched vibrations for gratitude into something of malice.  It was dark, gloomy, and it felt like there was no way out.  I felt like a spec in the universe and then I had to hurry and ask myself, “whoa! What’s wrong? What am I feeling at the moment? What made me feel this way?”

These negative thoughts actually control our behavior.  It makes us stutter, spill things, forget our lines on stage, feel anxious, scared – and to the most extreme….can kill us, such as what depressive thoughts have done to the most famous people in the years.

If we can take another example from the lie-detector test….yes, the polygraph that was virtually on every 90’s American show, humiliating individuals if they had lied about the simplest things, to cheating.  How does this this machine detect a lie?

  • Heart rate
  • Blood pressure
  • Breathing rate
  • Muscle tension
  • Sweating hands

With these detections, it shows the physiological changes that occur when you’re lying.  Every cell in your body is affected by every thought you have.

Different Types of Negative Thoughts

Focusing on the negative.

People who simply always focus on the minute bad when there’s so much good.  Jack Canfield conducted a training session for high school teachers and most of the teachers just focused on the negative.  If 30 kids understood an answer but 4 didn’t, they would focus on the 4 who didn’t get it and would feel bad, rather than focusing on the other 30 who did get it and feel good.

Catastrophic Predicting

“I’m scared to fly because I think the plane is going to crash!”

Kind of like the stupidity of Murphy’s Law? Thinking of the worst possible scenario in your mind and then act as if it were a certainty?  This is happening to me currently because I’m scared to fly Malaysia Airlines from Bangkok to Kuala Lumpur because of what happened 3 years ago.

Mind-Reading?

Seriously, can you read minds? Are you a psychic? I’m not.  So, this kills me overtime because just by someone’s facial expression, I automatically assume that they’re a racist.  DOH! You know when you’re mind-reading when you’re thinking thoughts such as He’s mad at me, she doesn’t like me, he’s going to say no, he’s going to fire me.

Remember, unless you’re a psychic, you can’t read anyone else’s mind.  You don’t even know what they’re really thinking at less you check it out.

Guilt-Tripping

Should, must, ought to, or have to.  All modal verbs that create an internal resistant to actually doing it.  Don’t SHOULD yourself.

Transforming Your Inner Critic Into Your Inner Coach

Instead, let me teach you an extremely powerful exercise for retraining that inner critic to teach you to tell you the truth.

Let’s look at it this way, we always respond to situations in anger, right? But what about the steps leading afterwards? We often forget about that.  Let me show you some examples.

Imagine your child or someone who you care about who’s young…runs in the street and almost gets hit by a car.

Initial Reaction – Anger: I am mad at you for running in the street without looking to see if any cars were coming!

What about the fear? Requests? Love? Let’s go through this again.

Anger: I am mad at you for running in the street without looking to see if any cars were coming!

Fear: I am afraid you’ll get badly hurt or killed.

Requests: I want you to pay more attention when you are playing near the street.  Stop and look both ways before you walk or run out into the street.

Love: I love you so much.  I don’t know what I would do without you.  You are so precious to me.  I want you to be safe and healthy.  You deserve to have lots of fun and stay safe so you can continue to enjoy life to its fullest.  Do you understand?

That’s more like it.  What a different message!  You also need to train that inner critic to talk the same way.

Write down a list of things which you would talk to yourself out loud.  Just imagine their being a clone in front of you. Here are some things that a typical list might look like.

  • You don’t exercise enough.
  • You’re getting fatter.
  • You’re drinking too much.
  • You’re lazy.  Why don’t you finish the things you start?
  • You need to watch less television and go to bed earlier.

Write a list and after completing it, practice communicating the same information using the four-step process.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11814036

 

 

Jack Canfield – You Get What You Focus On

“If you don’t put a value on money and seek wealth, you most probably won’t receive it.  You must seek wealth for it to seek you.  If no burning desire for wealth arises within you, no wealth will arise around you.  Having definiteness of purpose for acquiring wealth is essential for its acquisition.” – Dr. John Demartini

Like Tim Ferris wrote in his book, “a lot of us don’t want to be millionaires or have a million dollars in the bank, but we would love to have the million dollar lifestyle.”

To be honest, as a teacher teaching here in Thailand, it’s so easy for me to travel everywhere.  With two trips to Arizona and Hawaii looming large, and a couple others such as Bali, Singapore, and Kuala Lumpur, I’m already living in the wealthy mindset.

I can easily say, “oh, I don’t have enough money to buy a plane ticket to go to America twice.” I could’ve easily said that and not go.  However, that’s a limiting belief.  I know that’s a life.  I want to be able to do whatever I want, whenever I want, wherever I want, for as long as I want.

Decide what wealthy means to you.

  • I will have a net worth of _____________ by the year __________.
  • I will earn at least ____________ by December 31st of this year.
  • I will save and invest ____________ every month.
  • A new financial habit I will develop starting now is __________.
  • To become debt free, I will ______________________.
  • I will be debt free by _______________________.

How much is it going to cost to finance your dream life?  Life right now is the result of the thoughts you have thought, the choices you have made, and the actions you have taken in the past.

So, what we can do is research how much it would cost you to do and buy everything you want over the course of the next year.  This could include food, clothes, plane tickets, hotels, education, recreation, insurance, philanthropy…you name it. See how much it’s going to cost you.

For each category, visualize those items or activities in your life, then write down what you would need to spend to get them.  Imagine eating in fine restaurants, driving your dream car, going on your dream vacation – even refurbishing your home or moving into a new one….

More in my podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9443056

Jack Canfield – Redefine Time

redefine-time

The world is entering a new time zone, and one of the most difficult adjustments people must make is in their fundamental concepts and beliefs about the management of time. – Dan Sullivan

I love this picture in Jack Canfield’s book because this just about paints the picture of what happened to me last year.  After  making a podcast, I was pulled aside for saying things that “probably” provoked other people and some people weren’t happy.  I was told to stop doing the podcast and I retorted, “absolutely not.  If so, I want everyone to stop having a life.”

See what I did there?

I’m a teacher and an occasional entrepreneur (soon to be full-time this year), so time for me amongst work, meeting friends, and recreation could be very thin at times. I talked about this on my last blog in terms of coming up with a unique planning system that structures our time and drop the “new years resolution” parody. So, lets talk about how to structure.

Focus Day

A Focus Day, in Jack Canfield’s book, is a day in which you spend at least 80% of your time operating in your core genius, or primary area of expertise – that goes with interacting with people or processes that give you the highest payoffs for the time you invest.

Example, my focus day would be creating podcasts, editing my blog, focus on my website, creating templates for my website, or coaching someone to achieve a greater level of success.

Buffer Day 

A Buffer Day is a day when you prepare and plan for a Focus or Free Day – either by learning a new skill, locating a new resource, training a support team, delegating tasks and projects to others, or traveling to a work site.  Buffer Days ensures that Focus Days are productive as possible, as Jack Canfield puts it.

Free Days

  • No work-related activity of any kind
  • Free of business meetings, emails, conferences, documents
  • Not available to your staff, clients, students
  • Emergencies ONLY!!

Also, use your vacation time! The Travel Industry Association of america says the average vacation time taken in 2012 was 4.3 days.  What’s even more alarming is that most Americans didn’t even USE their vacation time. Why are the afraid? In the past, my employer even told me if I took a vacation, my job might not be available when I get back. 

OUCH!

Time To Start Scheduling

  1. List three best Focus Days you have ever had.  Write down any common elements. This will give you valuable clues as to how to create more perfect Focus Days. Plan for them.
  2. Meet with your boss, staff, and coworkers on how to create more Focus Days.
  3. Meet with your friends and family to discuss how to create more true Free Days in your life.

HOP TO IT!!

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9200506

Jack Canfield – Stay Focused On Your Core Genius

Success follows doing what you want to do.  There is no other way to be successful. – Malcolm S. Forbes

You know when we use to run around in the front lawn of our homes back in the early stages of grade school in euphoric jubilance? The smiles from eye-to-eye on our faces and not a worry in the world? Or maybe it was playing music, sports, drawing, painting, or a number other of activities.

That ultimately ended up being that one thing that I’ve always loved to do whereas I love it so much that I won’t charge people for it.

Compare that with the other people in the world who are waking up going to jobs that they absolutely hate, mundane tasks they do, although they can delegate them for much cheaper….these things take up the downtime of us actually focusing on that core genius within us.

Why are we scared of relinquishing those unwanted projects or to-do tasks to other people? Maybe we’re afraid to give up control or pay money to get extra help.

Example, since I’m a teacher, I have about 7 suits, 4 vests, more than 20 dress shirts and slacks to go along with the shirts.  Do you think I spend an entire evening washing and ironing my wardrobe? Absolutely not. I’ve delegated that task completely to a wonderful lady to whereas 10 shirts and 10 pants total out to $5 USD.

This task was delegated once and it has saved me at least 3-6 hours a week in terms of doing it myself.

Become a con artist at what you do. Example, Anthony Robbins is a speaker and a trainer.  He loves speaking and training. He has arranged his life so that people are constantly paying him large sums of money to do what he loves to do.

Get the picture?

Do What You love – The Money Will Follow

I began teaching primary school students at my first job here in Thailand.  Did I enjoy it? It was a huge change for me, but the environment was too tense.

I went further south and began teaching technical students. Were they serious about learning English? Absolutely not.

When I finally moved to Bangkok and I started teaching people who were eager about learning the English language, everything changed. My love and passion for what I did grew more and more to the point my students started referring there friends to learn with me privately, I started to get huge speaking engagements and jobs at some of the top companies in and around Bangkok, and now I have a podcast, soon-to-be website, YouTube channel and I’m creating so many things in terms of education.

Did I get great compensation at my first job? No.

Second job? Barely.

Bangkok? $$$

Now add in the podcast, website, book, etc….

I’m doing what I love to do and I’m getting compensated heavily for my wonderful services.

What tasks do you have throughout the course of the week that you could possibly delegate to someone else so you can focus more on the core aspect of your life?

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9198385