How to Friendship Detox

We got the ultimate DETOX A FRIEND and FRIENDSHIP guide here. This was inspired by my main man Trent Shelton — a podcast that pumps golden gems in the world of social. So, I have some rules, stories, and lots more stories. So let’s get into it.

Be the friend that you want them to be to you. – Rule #1

See, when you’re giving 100% and they’re giving you 50% or even less, that means you’re pouring more than they are. Look at it as planting soil. You have a bag of about 10kg and your friend shows up to the planting session with 2kg and no seeds to plant, although they know both are essential. You have a problem, right? If you tell them to go out and come back, they still don’t have anything. When you commit to a friendship it has to be mutual.

If someone is continuously giving and another is continuously taking…it will come to an end. Rule #2

This is in all relationships. These are called leeches. They’re literally waiting for your paycheck, your upcoming, your explosion, and they’re just inching to make that call to leech off you (money or other things). This could be in terms of energy, too. One day I had gone to the gym and I had breakfast with this girl afterwards. When I went to the gym, I was like a 9. After working out with her, I was about a 5 because I felt a ton of bad energy. After 45 minutes of sitting in front of her, I fell to a 2. I never spoke to her on a personal level again because that’s an energy-draining human being. Be careful.

Don’t be there friend if they’re not your friend. — You can’t build something that’s not real. – Rule #3

Honestly, this happened to me recently. I’m literally trying to speak and build a friendship with a tomboyish girl and she was giving me nothing back. I would send her 10 minutes worth a voice messages, she would send me a paragraph. I would send her two paragraphs, she would send me a message. She then said “I don’t have feelings for you,” and I should’ve cut it right there, but a friend of mind told me to pursue and I was like “ummm, why? She doesn’t even give a damn about me as a friend.” Sure enough, I wanted to go silent to see if I would even cross her mind — and what do you think happened? Three weeks, I asked myself for forgiveness and that was the end of that. A true blocking on Instagram after watching an extremely bizarre story and seeing her have a blast with her friends. Ok, you can’t force friendship, Arsenio. This is what has happened with an old-friend-now-acquaintance who lives in America. I saw myself constantly supporting and helping her emotionally and she just never gave a damn. So, now I just keep my distance and let her watch my success. YOU CAN’T FORCE ANYTHING. It must come naturally.

Honorable Quotes

Associates with friends. You were just talking bad about that person 5 minutes ago and now you’re on social media being buddy buddy with that person. You’re giving friendship expectations to associates. – Trent Shelton

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You’ll never be good friends to someone that you don’t want to be friends with. You don’t have to force it. They don’t want to have the hard conversation with someone to tell how it really is. – Trent Shelton

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Real friends hold their friends accountable. They would check you, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable. – Trent Shelton

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If you’re a person who always brings gossip to a friend but you don’t say anything, you’re not really a friend. – Trent Shelton

You got their back. – Rule #4

If someone is talking about your friend behind their back and you hear it, you won’t go back to your friend and tell them what they said without having a conversation about it. You must be real. If you don’t stand up for your friend, your integrity is lost.

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5 Steps On How To Avoid Fatigue

I found a FANTASTIC excerpt in Dale Carnegie’s ‘How To Stop Worrying & Start Living’ book that I promised my podcast listeners I would deliver in writing.  So, here are 5 steps on how to avoid fatigue and continue looking young!

Keep a notebook or scrapbook for “inspirational” reading.  Into this book you can paste all the poems, quotations and other things that appeal to you personally and give you a lift.

When a raining day comes, and it will, you’ll be able to pull this out and use it as a “spiritual shot” in the arm.  Even having that video, like when Wyclef Jean or Preston Smiles spoke on Tom Bilyeau’s Impact theory, would help me.  Have that video, that book, that “something” which will help you snap out of “it.”

Don’t dwell too long on the shortcomings of others! One woman at the class who found herself developing into a scolding, nagging, and haggard-faced wife, was brought up short with the question: “What would you do if you husband die?”  She was so shocked by the idea that she immediately drew up a list of all her husband’s good points.

Things happen in life, and because they do, we’re either too hard on ourselves, or we just sit in a puddle of sorrow, complaining about why THAT person did you wrong.  Snap out of it and write down on a piece of paper why you’re so grateful for it taking place to begin with.

Get interested in people! Develop a friendly, healthy interest in the people who share your life.

Remember I had a recent podcast (I’ll post it below this entry) about how to get over depression in fourteen days?  The biggest key with depressed souls is that they’re too focused on their personal wants; rather than the wants of other people.

Make up a schedule for tomorrow’s work before you go to bed tonight.  The class found that many people feel driven and harassed by the unending round of work and things they must do.

I wake up every morning banging out to-do-lists, but this is a list of things that I absolutely love to do.  If we move forward to let’s say a disgruntled colleague, the best thing to do is to email whoever you have to an hour before you go to sleep and detox your mind immediately following that.  It’s best doing that than losing a full night of sleep.

Avoid tension and fatigue by RELAXING!