Wheel of Life: May 2019 Edition – Weathering the STORM

Perhaps the storm of the century? After being stopped, for whatever reason it may have been (of course — it’s Thailand) at immigration, it threw my life into a whirlwind. I was scrambling to set up what should’ve been done last year. If it had fallen through, my time in Thailand would’ve been up. With determination and the willingness to get things done, I’m on the verge of finally solidifying myself on a visa needed to stay in the country and now I’m onto the next juncture in my life.

Nonetheless, this was the most emotionally exhausting few weeks since living here in Thailand (and certainly since 2014-2015). Take some steps back, reassess the situation, and execute if possible.

For those of you tuning in for the first time, the wheel of life cycle is a way of assessing my life over the last month in eight categories: personal development, physical environment, health, wealth, career, fun and hobbies, family and friends, and romantic relationships.

Wealth – 3

I’m going to cover just the ones that might be of importance for a lot of you. Some of you might be going through the same problems as me, yet you don’t know the solutions for getting over it. So, thi sone is especially for you all.

When everything began falling apart about a week ago, I had to take a step back and ask myself, “how can I make more money?” Robert Kiyosaki says if you say a statement, there’s nothing else you can do. It’s like quicksand that turn into cement.

Following that was a series of different occurrences. A lady, who I hadn’t spoken to in almost a year, called me out-of-the-blue. A few days later, I met with her an she offered me permanent, part-time work that enables me to get a decent, fall-back salary every month in case I don’t get work from my main job.

Ahhh, yes, the main job! On the verge of getting a visa and every salary this year has been head-scratching, to abhorrent. I cannot wait around and believe that people are going to fill my pockets. I had to go out and take, and that’s exactly what I did.

Family & Friends – 3

So, friends are gone. Yes, I met a friend while out there in Singapore, but after I came back, it’s been downhill. I must say that it’s quite funny when people try getting in touch with me again after x amount of weeks. A girl, who I had blocked because she was basically idolizing white men, sent me a message to my Facebook group. My content writer showed me the photo and I laughed. “Why come back now?” Unless it’s pure desperation, I won’t even think about messaging her back because there’s nothing to that friendship. It’s dead, history, archived.

Then, there was the weird situation where I met a samaritan from America at the base of my condo. After a few days, there was a message sent by him that was very…..peculiar. It was odd beyond belief. I didn’t quite understand it….to the point that I blocked him. That was so odd to the point that I was like, “whoa, how am I supposed to respond to a weird rant like that?”

Guys, dump those losers. Honestly, if they’re not feeding your roots or watering your plant, they’re looking for takeaway. When they get it, they’re going to leave anyway, so you might as well drop them from the beginning.

All in All

Let’s just say hypothetically speaking that everything goes the way it should. Now, living here in Thailand, nothing is perfect….but if all goes well today, and then all goes well next Thursday; 99% of my nervousness, anxiousness, and degree of worry will be expunged and done away with. When this happens, I’ll be able to refocus and reaffirm what’s really important in life.

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Fun & Hobbies Goals For 2018

An implementation of “fun time” during the week is absolutely vital at this point.  I believe living in a slummy area (what I seriously deemed as a slummy area) in north Bangkok where the mindsets were extremely low…it took away from me meeting a lot of amazing people.  The monolithic perception of “blacks” being labeled as “bad” and the “wife tourists” being labels as “wonderful human beings” took so much of a toll on me.  The funny part about all of it was I was the one who decided to stay in this area from October 2014 – December 2017.

I took the “great leap” last September when I decided to join a gym — the Lab BKK.  What’s so special about this gym (and of course the price dug well into my pockets) the business-minded entrepreneurs who work out there.  The majority of everyone speaks solid English and it made me realize that Thai women are accepting of African American men.  However, if you trek about 10 minutes north of DMK Airport in north Bangkok, you can find yourself in an extremely racist society.

I’ve neglected my own self from being around these ultra-successful people.  I finally had reality slap me real hard in the face around the same time (September) when I decided to teach millionaires – all of which were over the age of 30, accepting of my color, and SO HAPPY with life!

This also stemmed from me telling my primary job that I wanted time by myself on a Sunday morning.  The rebellion began at the beginning of last year, and it ultimately lead to somewhat of a demise at a present job — followed by a rapid emergence all around Bangkok.

I traveled to America, Malaysia, and the Maldives, but it felt like I was doing more escaping rather than going on a holiday.  The last trip westward to Kanchanaburi (3 hours drive from Bangkok) was an epitome of ‘when things go wrong, go travel.’  However, when I was on this trip I just kept thinking about my well-being.  How one angry individual now possessed the power to do whatever he wanted or wants with me.

NEVER — and I’m saying NEVER — go on trips when you have baggage on the table in your physical environment at home, work, or anywhere else.  If you go on holiday and all you think about is what’s happening back home, you’ve spoiled the entire trip.  I believe that it happened a couple of times (in Arizona and Kanchanaburi) and I wasn’t able to be fully immersed in what was happening.

Being able to put “fun” in your schedule is vital.  My motto this year is “make the same amount of money but in a fraction of the time.”  Well, it’s soon going to start working! If I can somehow teach for two hours on a Saturday morning, it can total nine hours of teaching that I currently do on a Saturday and Sunday; dealing with the ignorance in the racially infested province, teachers gossiping about how wonderful I am (lol), and so many other factors.

Fun and hobbies can be anything ranging from working out with awesome people, going running, going for a movie by yourself, walking the dog, having a drink by yourself and chatting with passerbys, or anything.  I haven’t been able to enjoy that because there was NO WHERE in the area I can do that….but now, times have changed.

Ok, we have travels.

For Sures 

  1. Indonesia
  2. Malaysia (possibly this month
  3. Kazakhstan + Kyrgyzstan

Potentials

  1. Australia (high chance)
  2. Hong Kong
  3. Taiwan
  4. Morocco (Tedx)

On-The-Ropes

  1. American Samoa
  2. Japan

So these are the trips.  Some revolve around the Spartan Race; others are real vacation.  But what about in Thailand?

  • Fit in relaxation (this could be with great people over amazing food)
  • Enjoy the scenery (don’t always be tugged away in my condo and go to the rooftop)
  • Meet new people (and especially not on Craigslist – LOL!!)
  • Ask for feedback (have more people listen to my podcast around Thailand and become well-known)

Swimming, playing basketball, running the streets, going to a park to do random pull-ups.  These things will come a long way.

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